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writes:I've been in a relationship with my partner who I live with for 6 years however after working away for a while I find I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together. I met someone whilst I was away, nothing physical happened however have been keeping in touch on a daily basis which is making me question my relationship. I find when I am back home I'm left myself whilst a lot in the house and if I go out with friends he gets upset. I know I need to speak to him about I'm not 100% on my own feelings just now and scared of the outcome Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (6 September 2022):
 First off, CUT the contact with the other dude. Of course, the NEW dude seems a "better fit" because it's all new and shiny with him.
You can't figure out what it is you are not getting from your partner if you get it from someone else, nor can you at the very least TRY and fix the relationship. You already have one foot out the door. You are monkey-branching from partner to new dude. Not a smart thing to do.
I don't know what kind of conversations you are having with new dude but I will say this, IF you CAN NOT show your partner all the texts you have shared with new dude then you are CHEATING. Emotionally. And you know it,
Yes, you need to speak to your partner. And then you need to decide if you want to go or stay. If you stay you CUT 100% contact with new dude. If you don't want to stay you ALSO should cut the contact until you have sorted yourself out.
TBH you should like you are a greener grass chaser. You are fine with a relationship until it's no longer new and you meet someone shinier...
Think about it. Then shit or get off the pot.
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