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I have four children. I'm a single parent, of two children a boy (19) and a girl (10). My ex-wife has the two children we share living with her, 2 girls (16, and 14).
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6 July 2008: This is an article I received from local news. When reading this I think about how important it is to know who you know, and to notice changes in the behaviors of others. In cases like this, the agressor displays subtle signs prior to acting. He may ...
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How can I get over my spanish teacher?
Q. i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...
A. 15 February 2010: I haven't been on for a little while, had some medical issues to tend to.
Love doesn't disappear, why? It is what it is. To really, truly and fully experience love is an exhilarating feeling like no other, and one to be treasured, even when you ... (read in full...)
At 16 I'm Pregnant with my teacher's child
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster is in a vulnerable situation, aunts DO NOT give nasty or negative advice PLEASE!!! Oh my God!Even me myself don't know what to do. I'm 16 years old.For the past year,since I started high school(it's the way in Macedonia-from 15...
A. 30 October 2009: 1) Do your parents know your pregnant? How do you think they will take this situation? I'm not talking about being with a teacher, only the pregnancy.
This is your baby. How or who you got pregnant with isn't as important as your choice that's b... (read in full...)
My 17 year old daughter hasn't had her period. Any advice?
Q. I have a 17 year old daughter that has not started her period. I have taken her to several doctors. Does anyone have advice or information on this subject?...
A. 30 October 2009: Are you talking just this month, or at all? If not at all, could she be developing at a slower pace? There can also be nutritional reasons that can affect someone starting, which can also create and inconsistency month to month. I'd check with a ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my spanish teacher?
Q. i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...
A. 30 October 2009: I'm not going to pity your home life. When I question, I do so to get a clearer view of who I'm talking to and the underlying cause of the question that's asked. Since your picture is religious based, I'm going to touch on your home life from that ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my spanish teacher?
Q. i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...
A. 29 October 2009: The boundaries have been crossed. Why do you keep falling for your teachers? I can't recall, and not motivated to read through all the messages, but I believe I asked you what your home life is like. Your relationship with your parents and such. You ... (read in full...)
Overhead my boyfriend say he would have sex with some girl!
Q. I am 23 years old and am almost 6 months pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for about a year and a half. We love eachother very much. The pregnancy was planned, we both wanted and talked about it before it happened. I have a hard time tusting ...
A. 28 October 2009: I believe him, but what worries me is he's going to have a family with a child. He needs to get off of being the cool guy in front of his friends. But guys do that. "I'd do her" kinda talk when they all get together. It's innocent talk, but in your ... (read in full...)
How do I pass my algebra?
Q. I have been having trouble in collage level algebra, and i have posted on here about this before i struggle even when i really try thus i studied for 3-4 hours for our last test and still failed, you ask why, because my teacher counted off on many ...
A. 28 October 2009: It can be very irritating. Does your school offer tutoring? That may be an idea. People learn best in different ways, and sometimes a tutor or a study group can provide you with a different direction, and maybe one that is easier to comprehend. ... (read in full...)
How do I pass my algebra?
Q. I have been having trouble in collage level algebra, and i have posted on here about this before i struggle even when i really try thus i studied for 3-4 hours for our last test and still failed, you ask why, because my teacher counted off on many ...
A. 28 October 2009: First, I'd talk with your teacher, and have him explain what he feels your doing so wrong. If the general work is shown, additional should not matter. So, I'd set a meeting and see where it is you're going wrong, and why you're being marked off for ... (read in full...)
Why do I want this to happen to me?
Q. My boyfriend is very aggressive when we have sex and I'll admit that I am too, but I want it to go farther. It's almost like i want him to rape me... There must be something wrong with me for me to want something like that. He doesn't want to and I ...
A. 27 October 2009: There's a difference between a fetish of doing this with your boyfriend, and really being violated by someone you don't know, have no intentions of being with, that takes your will of what you want away. So from a fetish end, there's nothing wrong ... (read in full...)
How can we make anal sex better?
Q. Ok my boyfriend wonts anal sex and we tried but it hurt real bad. what can i do to make it feel better. we tried changing position but was the same....
A. 26 October 2009: That's enough to make any guy run from the idea. lol At the time, if you thought it was that gross, you wouldn't have tried. I know, I'd never attempt anal with a girl who's totally against the idea of it. If you do try at some point, remember that ... (read in full...)
How can we make anal sex better?
Q. Ok my boyfriend wonts anal sex and we tried but it hurt real bad. what can i do to make it feel better. we tried changing position but was the same....
A. 25 October 2009: Using lube or attempting dry? If dry, try lube. Also, that area needs 4 play too. Can't just expect it to be ready and willing. And entry be done slow. It's going to hurt at first, cause your body will react to something going in as being foreign, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants oral, but I have memories of being forced...
Q. I am 19 years old now, and have met a guy I really like. He wants me to move in with him, and I am really looking forward to it. But I am really troubled about it to. Since living with my Mom at home, I have had the excuse not to do to much sex ...
A. 24 October 2009: He had some things on you. Well, as soon as he said to suck him, guess who had what on who?
What happened to you has nothing to do with your boyfriend, who he is, and what you can do together. It has to do with the traumatic affect of what happ... (read in full...)
Why only 2 or 3 dates and then nothing?
Q. I am a lady in her mid fifties ,divorced and told that i am still attractive and look young for my age.I use dating sites a lot and get a lot of response , some good and some bad. I am pretty choosey who I date and usually the date goes well a...
A. 24 October 2009: Do other women hit it off easily, or give it up easily? Doing it right, by not just jumping into bed with someone, is going to take you longer to find those with patients.
I think you'll find that special someone, you'll just have to weed thro... (read in full...)
LDR: feeling neglected!
Q. Lately, I feel my boyfriend doesn't make an effort to talk to me. LDR. Even though he calls, but sometimes I feel he does it 'cause he thinks he has to since I complained about it before. Just recently, he slept over his friends house out of the ...
A. 24 October 2009: Why would you say "please don't say break up?" Unless you felt that's the direction this relationship is taking?
Long distance relationships are difficult. That's a given. I read a lot of questions that come on here, and often I believe the ques... (read in full...)
Husband angry because while seperated I slept with someone else
Q. My Husband and I were separated. While separated I slept with someone else. I now am trying to get him back. How do I keep my husband. He read some stuff on my computer and got very angry. Again we were separated. What do I do ?...
A. 24 October 2009: In this situation I think it's important for you to realize you can't always right a wrong, but you may be able to begin a new.
You're married, so lets take the term "slept with" and use "making love", since in a marriage that's the form sex ofte... (read in full...)
Why did he have to call his ex about my STD?
Q. I recently broke it off with a guy I was seeing LDR for 7 months. I got myself tested since I always want a clean break from everything before dating again, and found out I had Gonorrhea. I never had symptoms which was weird. I told my ex about it ...
A. 24 October 2009: I'd ask him. Now my view, just from reading what you wrote, is that he may be checking his bases. Such as, you were the only one he'd been with since his ex. So, if he were to have had it, you would have had to been with someone during the time you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am competing for attention with her online guy!
Q. I recently posted pertaining to my ex girlfriend who I have been hanging out once again after a 5 year hiatus. Here is a piece of it: "She communicates online daily with a guy she used to be CRAZY about back in college 6 years ago. I mean CRAZ...
A. 13 October 2009: is she your ex now? cause if so, I don't think you have as much of a reason to bring this to her attention. If you're dating, I could see this being inappropriate behavior on her part. It sounds as if physically they are not together, but mentally ... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this abusive situation?
Q. ok so ive been with my boyfriend for about 18 months. we have a 6 week old daughter together. he has: called me every name you could imagine - slut, whore, bitch, skank.. etc. has compared me to his ex girlfriend stating how she was so much more...
A. 13 October 2009: Where and the hell did you find this guy? So, you live with your mom now... anywhere else that may be a safe place to go? And does he live there too? I think he's mistaken in his words. Is the ex better than you or better off than you because she's ... (read in full...)
Husband angry because while seperated I slept with someone else
Q. My Husband and I were separated. While separated I slept with someone else. I now am trying to get him back. How do I keep my husband. He read some stuff on my computer and got very angry. Again we were separated. What do I do ?...
A. 12 October 2009: Do you feel being separated, and not divorced, gives you the green light to sleep with someone else? What about in the position you're in now, where you want to reconcile? While you're married, sleeping with this other person, you're husband look at ... (read in full...)
Why does everyone say sex is so good?
Q. Okay so I'll just come out and say that i am not a virgin anymore. There *phew* :) anyways I'm almost 20 and I've only every had sex 7 times in my life. This happened like 4 monthes ago with my no ex boyfriend. And I just want to know why does ...
A. 12 October 2009: I agree with the poster about 25% having orgasms during sex, but it my believe that's because 75% don't know what they're doing.
You did nothing wrong. Good sex, you don't have to tell your partner what to do or where to move. It's like you can ... (read in full...)
Why can't I meet a guy who likes small breasts?
Q. I have small breasts, and as it is known, *most* guys like big breasts better. Some like small, but I have yet to meet one of those! Most guys just settle for small chested women. Like Salma Hayek is hot because of her big boobs, but Kate Hudson is ...
A. 12 October 2009: stick with what you've got. you've been with some really shallow people. why do you need to change for them. it a relationship, the body should be second to the person. if you really love who you're with for who they are, their body is perfect ... (read in full...)
Should I dump the guy I am having an affair with?
Q. Dear Cupid, Been married for 24 years,but have had an affair for the past 3 years,very experienced lover,[also married},everything my husband is not,even though I love him in other ways... I feel frustrated with him,but can't say. Should I dump my ...
A. 12 October 2009: I think so, I also believe that in order to gain some normalcy it's important that you come clean to your husband. After being married this long, he's earned the truth from you. And getting back to peace, it's important for that starting over in a ... (read in full...)
I have been with this guy four years and he lies about talking to his ex! What should I do?
Q. please help. I have been with my guy for about 4 years now. the problem is he is still very much in contact with his ex who he was only with for a year! he has met up with her behind my back and they are always txting and calling eachother.. he l...
A. 12 October 2009: You've heard of intuition. That's what you have to rely on. If something doesn't feel right, it probably isn't. So, you have to read between the lines. Where someone kept their logs, now makes sure they are deleted, doesn't that too show a certain ... (read in full...)
I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?
Q. I awoke in the middle of the night last night wet and horny. I must have cum in my sleep, although i don't remember what I was dreaming about. But I'm female and I always thought only men had "wet dreams." Is this a normal thing or am I just weird?...
A. 11 October 2009: If you can have dreams that make you horny, you can have a wet dream. Lets clear up a man's wet dream, during the puberty time. It's not necessarily based on an actual dream. It's more an overproduction of sperm, where it overflows and where it ... (read in full...)
I have been with this guy four years and he lies about talking to his ex! What should I do?
Q. please help. I have been with my guy for about 4 years now. the problem is he is still very much in contact with his ex who he was only with for a year! he has met up with her behind my back and they are always txting and calling eachother.. he l...
A. 11 October 2009: The problem is not his talking to his ex, it's his lying about it. Although I have kids with my ex, so I have to remain in contact. I tell my fiance when I have and what our conversation was about, because I have nothing to hide from her. A big part ... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 10 October 2009: True love is a stronger bond than any other. Just had to say that for those who read this and still don't believe in "true love"
Now since your in the place you want to be. Let's talk about Kevin's place. While his marriage is dissolving furt... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my 'easy' label?
Q. When I was 13, I became sexually active with my brother's 18 yr old friend. He didn't force me but he did presure me and say things like if I loved him I would do it. Since then I have been sexually active with several guys. I always go out on ...
A. 4 October 2009: You love the feelings of orgasms. That's OK. There'd be something wrong if you felt guilty over feeling good. What you're not doing is seeking that satisfaction in a way that's in line with who you are. This is where you get these emotional ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 3 October 2009: I'm sure you know that everything we do in life will have a positive or negative consequence. You're going to do what you want, and the negative consequence is loosing your boyfriend. This is because your actions go directly against his beliefs, but ... (read in full...)
My husband slept with my sister! How do I forgive and forget?
Q. so i have a question can you ever get over and forgive your husband of 7 and a half years with 5 kids for cheating on you with your sister ? With u and his baby in the same room sleeping. and then not telling u all the story. Telling you bits and ...
A. 3 October 2009: I believe he's not accepting responsibility for his actions. Were you intoxicated as well, or a sound sleeper? What about your sister, was she sleeping in the same room as well, or did she come in later?
If you forgive, it's a choice you're g... (read in full...)
How can I get over my spanish teacher?
Q. i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...
A. 3 October 2009: Stop allowing yourself to get torn apart. You need to be grateful you have a teacher who really cares what you do, and if it's the best thing for you. She's made an impact on your life. That doesn't mean you two are meant to date.
During your lif... (read in full...)
How does a guy's mind work?
Q. When guys are hot and cold, say your speaking to a guy online and one day hes being flirty and giving you a few compliments about how you looked that day, the next day ..hes doesnt seem to fussed. Do they back off because they think they've be...
A. 2 October 2009: Which mind are you wanting to know about, the thought producing mind or the brain in his pants?
In order to get what you're looking for on here, if you're meeting people on line, that's quite often a horny persons sanctuary. You're going to have ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable that his decision doesn't show respect for me?
Q. My husband decided to be in the wedding of his "best friend" with out even discussing it with me. The issue is the best friend has a sister who has said horrible things about us. When I asked him about it he said he was going and that I can choose ...
A. 2 October 2009: This isn't the sister's wedding, so she shouldn't be the issue. Your wedding was your day, this day is his best friend's. Best friend's generally want to share this occasion with each other. If you had a best friend getting married, and asked you to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 2 October 2009: It takes two to create a baby. For whatever reason your birth control failed. Imagine for a second, he wants to keep the baby. You get the abortion. One thing I can guarantee, he will never look at you again like he has before the abortion. Although ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 1 October 2009: That's the point, you're not going to be able to. It's not just the fact of abortion vs. adoption, it's about your belief vs. that of your boyfriend. We're not talking about, eat at Mc Donalds or Burger King. Disagreeing there does not end up with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 1 October 2009: To add one thing in reading your latest follow up. I was a drunk when my son was born. That stopped fairly quick after his birth. You can only judge what you do, don't assume the way he is now would be the way he is later. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 1 October 2009: Do you understand there is a huge difference between not wanting to have children and abortion? You said he's accomplished at his age. That's good. So he must be fairly mature to have done what he has thus far. So, I'd have to believe his decision ... (read in full...)
He can't stand that I have a 'past' -- will every other guy be the same way?
Q. Are all men obsessed with their partner's past? My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. In the beginning everything was perfect, obviously. Until he asked about my past. It wasn't wild, I made out with some guys, had crushes on other...
A. 1 October 2009: First, what you did was in the past, before your boyfriend. What he's wanting to do by going out etc. is in the present, during this relationship. Therefore, his idea of just doing whatever is absolutely inappropriate behavior.
He says you'll b... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 30 September 2009: He's taking care of these bills for you???? What were the terms of the "mistress" agreement? Let's see, when you're with a married man, you're with someone who is already lying to his family by being with you. So, taking this as truth when he says ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has threatened to break up with me if I have an abortion! How do I get him to understand it is my choice?
Q. Yesterday morning I did a pregnancy test and it came up positive but I don't know how many weeks yet. I have no desire to be a mum or ever have a baby I just don't like them so I knew straight away that abortion is the only option. Howev...
A. 30 September 2009: I'm not pro choice, nor am I pro life, although I believe adoption is a better choice because it gives a family who can't have children the opportunity to raise, care for and love a child. I'm glad my biological mom chose adoption, giving birth to ... (read in full...)
After the accident, he won't be intimate with me anymore. Why?
Q. Hi my name is Nicole and I am 25 years old. I have been dating Justin for almost 2 years. We have a great relationship and he has never had a problem showing me affection. 7 months ago we went to a party and we got into an arguement and he stormed ...
A. 30 September 2009: I understand where you're coming from. This had been a hard trial for both of you. You want to move forward from this, he's still living in the trauma of what happened. I hope neither one of you drink and drive anymore. It's sad when lessons are ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with girlfriend's past
Q. My girlfriends past bothers me alot. I know so much about her past and I always get these images that pop into my head of her doing things with other guys and its all I think about. Just looking at her kills me sometimes. The one time that has ...
A. 29 September 2009: As I said, focus on love and not the other. Jealousy can be a destroyer of relationships. When knowing about someone's past, you feel as if you would have wanted to be the one those experiences were shared with. Most of us get that feeling now and ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with girlfriend's past
Q. My girlfriends past bothers me alot. I know so much about her past and I always get these images that pop into my head of her doing things with other guys and its all I think about. Just looking at her kills me sometimes. The one time that has ...
A. 29 September 2009: If she disgusts you, why are you with her? How do you feel about her? Are you happy she's you're girlfriend?
You understand that what you focus on expands. This image attack is referred to as mental masturbation. If you want to keep her and want... (read in full...)
How can I get over my spanish teacher?
Q. i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...
A. 27 September 2009: Why do you think feeling the way you do is wrong? It may not be acceptable to act on these feelings, but how you feel can't be judged as being right or wrong.
I've worked where clients or co-workers were attractive making the mind wonder. ... (read in full...)
How can I get over my spanish teacher?
Q. i am really confused because i am a 15 year old young woman and i am in love with my spanish teacher. i thiought i was in love with another teacher about 2 years ago but he was a worthless piece of crap. what confuses me is that my spanish teacher ...
A. 25 September 2009: I want you to think about this question thoroughly, and not let it go in one ear and out the other. Do you love her, or you do love the feeling of being cared for?
I've found teens who lack physical affection at home, fall for authority figures ... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 1 August 2009: I'm sure you've heard the saying to "focus on what you have control over, not what you don't." What you don't have control over is the actions of anyone else.
Divorce can be extremely difficult emotionally, at times financially etc. He does not... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 16 March 2009: This is a wonderful story. I'm happy for you. Take care. ... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 14 March 2009: There are computer search engines. Google for "people finder" and a list will come up. A PI you can use if you can't find him. It's not stalking, because all they do is utilize search engines which they pay for the service, and have access for any ... (read in full...)
We've been through more than anyone can imagine, and now, years later, I want to find him again. What should I do?
Q. Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first lov...
A. 14 March 2009: You've been so afraid of what might happen, it's kept you from the one person you were meant to be with this whole time. I don't consider it destiny, you two may be soul mates. This explains a love that never disappears, even when with someone else. ... (read in full...)
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