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My friend is copying me! it is annoying me!

Q.   This is so annoying. My friend is copying my piercing - I know there are many out there who have the second lobe piercing. She is copying me because I've been deciding if I wanted the second piercing done now for about a couple of years and finally ...

A.   21 June 2014: If this is the biggest concern you have right now, you are a very lucky young lady. I would let go. ... (read in full...)

Too much friction when I'm on top!

Q.   When me and my boyfriend have sex we seem to have a friction problem he does not shave, but I do shave and any time I am on top he will eventually say ouch from feeling the friction. It usually happens even if I am cleanly shaven ,but defiantly when ...

A.   27 January 2012: I know a lot a of women automatically think they need to shave their privates, but that hair is there for a reason. I'm not saying you should let it go all bushy and wild woman, but hair is there to protect the vagina, keep it clean, and it holds ... (read in full...)

His text left me confused! What do you think he meant by this?

Q.   hi - it is official i hate texting !!! This guy and i went out a couple of times and we slept together. Always initiated by him. I texted him asking to go out for drinks and he replied something VERY confusing: "i have to go out with some colleg...

A.   24 November 2011: I think what he means is he is out with colleagues, and he is obligated to be there for now. He would like to see you, but right now he's in a position he can't get out of. ... (read in full...)

It just doesn't turn me on, is this normal?

Q.   Hi.. Simple and short question.. I'm dating this guy and I've wanked him off a couple times but when I do it there's nothing about the act that actually turns me on. I just like the fact that he's happy and he's being pleased.. Is thi...

A.   24 November 2011: I don't know, I get pretty turned on when I'm touching my boyfriend and I get him all aroused and moaning. :) I love watching his face when he has an orgasm. I'm just into that though, I like watching him touch himself in front of me. It turns me... (read in full...)

Is a 30 year old man too old for a girl of 19?

Q.   Ok so I met a guy in April met at a nightclub he was 24 we hit it off got together but within about a month weird things started uhappening he kept having serious accidents I couldn't get thru to his phone he could only call me he claimed it was a ...

A.   23 November 2011: Eh, he probably told you he was younger just to get in your pants. And yeah, I think the age gap is too great. Looking back when I was 19, I thought I knew everything but I didn't know shit, and I'm close to 30 now. You two won't have much in ... (read in full...)

Unexplained blood after having sex?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have a long distance relationship, I say long - we live like forty minutes away on a train, but to be fair it's long enough that we only get to see each other once/twice every week at some point because of money and juggling work ...

A.   28 October 2011: If it's a lot of blood, like a heavy period, then you should go to the doctor. If it's just a little rusty spotting, then don't worry. I get that sometimes too, especially after lots of sex in a short amount of time. ... (read in full...)

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

Q.   Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

A.   28 October 2011: I honestly can't believe that load of crap ShiShisAdvice just dumped here. I am a woman, and I am NOT petty or envious of ANYONE. I make my own money, I paid my way through college, and often I purchase the fun things in my marriage for both of us ... (read in full...)

Online dating - no-one replies to my messages! How do I make girls interested in me?

Q.   I have been using dating sites for quite some time now but no one seems to be interested replying me. I might not have look of Tom Cruise but I am not that bad either. So What I need to do to make girls interested in me and finally get a ...

A.   27 October 2011: I had an online dating profile a looong time ago. This is what turned me off: -Shirtless photos -Bad grammar -Stating that you wanted a "fit or slim" woman. (I am average, but the thought that someone could be so shallow turned me off.) -If you... (read in full...)

Is there any way to get my ex back? I'm not willing to let go of something this powerful.

Q.   Everyone I know tells me to just move on. Even if my future self went back in time to tell me that it's not worth it, I would still continue. I've always took pride in having no regrets, but I'm at the point when I realize that there are special ...

A.   27 October 2011: You're only have a full life ahead of you. If he doesn't want to be together, then that's that and there's nothing anyone can tell you to do or how to act in order to get him back. My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me when I was 21. ... (read in full...)

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

Q.   Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

A.   27 October 2011: I think that her getting upset when you have valid reasons to not give her the money she wants for a frivolous reason is very immature. I admit, in the beginning of my marriage I would get upset over things like that, but now that I'm older and we ... (read in full...)

Ladies: How can you tell exactly when you ovulate?

Q.   Hey all, Firstly, this post is for other women out there. Men may find it disturbing. I'm 28, almost 29. I have polycystic ovary syndrome, well, I have symptoms of PCOS (chin hair, inbalanced hormones levels etc). My gyno diagnosed me with...

A.   18 October 2011: I also have PCOS...I have all the goodies that come along with it too, like the facial hair, extra thick leg hair, cysts on my ovaries, elevated hormones, get the picture I'm sure. I am overweight. Not just a little, I've got a good ... (read in full...)

Six years with no intercourse. Is this normal?

Q.   I've been with my bf for 6 years,on and off.he wants to have intercourse but i dont for various reasons.he said he shouldnt have to wait any longer as 6 years is a long time and he said he doesnt want to be with someone who wont have intercourse ...

A.   18 October 2011: You have to ask yourself why you aren't having sex with this person. Sex is not only a pleasurable experience, it's also a way to show love. Sex can be extremely emotional and bonding. Sometimes my boyfriend and I have sex where it's just us going ... (read in full...)

I'm so stuck - days just go by and life keeps ticking away and I just don't know what to do

Q.   I am in a rut and have been for a long time (although I appreciate many people are!). The last 10 years in my head are nothing but a blurred montage of bad decisions, depression, regret, anxiety, ill health and lack of motivation. From about 16 ...

A.   18 October 2011: I really think you need to speak with a therapist. There are lots of medications available these days that will help you tremendously. Constant Fatigue can also be treated. I think once you get on proper medication and get out of your depression,... (read in full...)

Could he have food poisoning?

Q.   Hi, my bf has been going to the bathroom every 5-10 mins. He has been cramping and every time he eats it's hurts his stomach and basically feels like he have to use the bathroom constantly. It's loose stool only a bit. It's been going on almost 2 ...

A.   18 October 2011: That's a question for the doctor, not a relationship advice site...but I will agree with the other aunt, it sounds like IBS. My boyfriend has it as well and it can really tear up one's stomach. ... (read in full...)

Online dating--I'm ok till they ask to meet and then I get scared!

Q.   Hi guys, I am not sure if any of you have had the experience of online dating? I have recently signed up on OkCupid, and it seems to be a very polite and good site - people there are not particularly sketchy, and are fairly friendly. I have be...

A.   18 October 2011: Online dating is a great place to find guys or gals who aren't interested in the bar scene anymore or were never in it to begin with. In my experience, it was very easy for me to figure out who the creepers can usually tell by poor ... (read in full...)

Why is my fiance trying to look different?

Q.   Ever since we got engaged, my fiance has been trying to look different. While I want her to have all the freedom she wants (I don't want to be controlling), She is no longer recognizable to the attractive, beautiful woman she was. She used ...

A.   18 October 2011: One time I colored my hair red because I thought my boyfriend would like it. He once said in passing that he liked redheads, and I wanted a change anyway, so I tried out the red. He hated it on me. And he told me so. I put it back to medium blond. ... (read in full...)

I dreamt my ex was a toddler. Why?

Q.   i had dreamt of my ex but as a toddler and wherever he would go I would follow him. I am currently in a relationship and I was wondering why would i dream about him as a toddler?...

A.   5 October 2011: I had the same dream too...after eating too late the night before. Some people put a lot of stock into dreams. Some do not. I don't. It was just a dream, and nothing weird in my conscious life occurred afterward.... (read in full...)

How to dance for my man

Q.   I am a 31 year old woman. My husband and I were watching a movie from 1996, The People vs. Larry Flynt. At the end, Woody Harrelson's Larry Flynt is watching a video of his late wife doing a striptease for him. My husband says he wants one of ...

A.   28 June 2011: Look up the Carmen Electra Striptease workout. Or go on youtube and watch some of the amateur ladies doing it. You don't have to get all crazy about it, just slowly take your clothes off and keep your eyes on the camera. If you're not too sure of ... (read in full...)

Men and porn!!! Why do they need it?

Q.   I need help! I don't understand why my boyfriend has 2 look at porn!! I'm beautiful why can't I be enough? He says I wouldn't understand. We have been together 6yrs an he's hid it the whole time until I cought him! I told him 2 make me understand an ...

A.   27 June 2011: Porn used to bug me when I was younger. Now that I'm older and more seasoned, it doesn't bother me at all if my other half is watching it. Just as long as it's in moderation and not completely out of control, like he can't function without beating ... (read in full...)

BF unexpectedly dumped me. I need some support

Q.   Hey, I'm really devastated right now and really hurt. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me. When it happened i felt as if i couldn't breathe. I mean, he just broke up with me out the blue. The day before the break up we were all fine. He sai...

A.   27 June 2011: All break ups are like this for someone. Take a day off work, lay in bed and watch movies and cry, throw presents he gave you at the wall, rip pictures up, etc. Maintain the no contact thing, though. This is important. A few years ago my boyf... (read in full...)

Is this enough of an apology or should I do more to show him I was just really stressed and upset last week?

Q.   I've been in cross-cultural, cross-religious, cross-everything relationship for the past 2 years! I'm 27, my boyfriend is 33. We live 80 miles apart and have been seeing each other about every 2 weeks lately. Our relationship has been tough with ...

A.   27 June 2011: I was married to an Indian man. I'm white. We have a son. His family made my life completely miserable until after I had the sought after boy child. Even after I gave them a grandson they still talked badly about me to my husband and to each othe... (read in full...)

BF claims he hasn't used his online dating account in over a year. Then how is it that it showed recent activity? Can there really be glitches like that? Could someone have used his account to log in?

Q.   I have been exclusively seeing someone for about six months now. He treats me well, I see him everyday and talk on the phone with him everyday. We've said we both love each other and things seem to be going well. He told me that a long time...

A.   27 June 2011: I had an account with an online dating site, and the sites usually do things with the profiles to keep members interested. There's fake profiles and I'm sure the sites adjust when the last time someone was logged on to keep the ladies thinking there ... (read in full...)

He's too old for me, and he's leaving for college...but I can't get him off my mind! How can I move on??

Q.   Okay so I like this boy a lot and i'm 15 and hes 19, and according to some people he'll be leaving town for college soon, and me and this boy haven't spoke in for about three weeks and i miss him so much. I wanna see him, and be with him but..i ...

A.   27 June 2011: You'll get over it eventually. It sucks right now but trust me, the feelings will go away when some time passes and you start seeing other boys. ... (read in full...)

Anybody meet their spouses as teenagers?

Q.   well this is just me thinking if im honest ... how many people here on this site have been with spouses since they were in their mid teens (14-17) because me and my bf started goin out last year (me 13 and him 14) and after a year and 3 month...

A.   21 June 2011: Honestly, you two are still much too young to be even be thinking about that. I know, it's fun to sit and fantasize about being with him forever and imagine a great fulfilled life together. My boyfriend and I met when we were 15 and 17. We dated... (read in full...)

BF's fatigue affecting his erections. He took Cialis and now there is a different issue. How can I bring this up without hurting him?

Q.   My boyfriend is a lathe operator at a mill and works extremely long hours. His job is demanding and drains a lot of his energy. Sometimes this affects his ability to get an erection. I don't really worry about this; it's not frequent and if it ...

A.   21 June 2011: He is on the lower dose... I think I'm going to take the advice from the female anon...I think it's important that I don't say "You hurt me", he might translate that as "Well she doesn't like it when I can preform and I can't last long enough when... (read in full...)

I want to call him but should I wait?

Q.   Dear Cupid: After exchanging emails with a guy I met online for about a week, I gave hime my phone number. He waited approximately 3 days and called me on his lunch break at work. Our conversations were brief but pleasant. I told him that I enjoy...

A.   21 June 2011: I don't see the harm in giving him a call and asking him if he would like to meet for coffee. Some of my guy friends love being pursued. Give it a shot, the worst he could say is no. ... (read in full...)

How do couples in LTRs initiate sex?

Q.   My wife and I do not have sex as often as either of us would like to. However, she is very shy and will almost never initiate (maybe three times since I've known her and once was the first time we had sex) and I am pretty shy, too. It sounds s...

A.   19 May 2011: My husband and I lead very busy lives, and our sex life tends to come in waves. Sometimes we go a couple weeks without sex, sometimes we have sex for a few days straight. I'm pretty blatant when I want sex. I'll ask for it or get into bed naked. I... (read in full...)

Questions on squirting...

Q.   just curious, from the girls perspective...what does it feel like when a girl squirts? Does it feel like your just urinating. Also, does it squirt like really fast or just dribble out? I am just really curious! Thanks!...

A.   19 May 2011: It just dribbles out for me while I have an orgasm. it kind of feels like urinating, but not really. I can feel something being released, but it's not the same kind of pressure. ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to win his heart back?

Q.   hi! i would want to know if i would even win my babys fathers heart back? i did soo much to hurt him after he left me cause he was sick of playing the break up make up game, i lyed to him about me having a miscarriage cause i told him that i was ...

A.   19 May 2011: I think you need to do what is best for your child, not yourself. He obviously isn't interested in being involved in you or the child, so you need to walk away. ... (read in full...)

She wants me to cum in her face but I respect her too much to do that...

Q.   Ok guys dont give me hell or call me a pansy. My gf asked me to cum in her face while she was giving me a blow job last week, and I totally froze up and couldnt do anything. I have watched it in porn and I dont see it as a turn on at all. Honestly...

A.   4 November 2010: My exboyfriend asked me if I would let him do it to me. I'm usually gung ho about anything, so I said sure. And when the moment came, he couldn't bring himself to do it either. So even guys who think they want it really don't want to anyway. T... (read in full...)

How can I encourage him to show his feelings more?

Q.   So i'm 21 and in my first long relationship and it's almost 6 months now. I'm white and I'm dating an Indian guy who asked me out after getting to know each other at school in chem class. The relationship is secret from his family which i totally ...

A.   25 October 2010: As a white woman who is in the process of divorcing her Indian husband, let me give you a bit of advice. Get away. If he knows his family isn't going to take kindly to you, you need to say good bye. Don't think that you can prove his parents ... (read in full...)

How do I talk dirty to him?

Q.   I've recently taken on a new lover. He loves talking dirty in bed. (Which was a surprise...he's fairly conservative.) I'm alright with it and willing to talk back, but I just have no idea what to say without sounding like a cheesy porno. Any ideas? ...

A.   3 October 2010: lol, essential. That's a good way to start. He always says things to me like "Is this what yout pussy needs?" and "... (read in full...)

Why are men turned on by fake women?

Q.   Okay, so I just thought I'd ask a question about men's taste in women when it comes to sexual desire. You see the adult magazines, and the women in them look nasty.. Fake boobs, overly tanned, slutty, what is it that men find sexually arousing by ...

A.   27 June 2010: It's primal for a man to be attracted to a woman who looks very fertile- hence the large breasts and exaggerated waists of plastic surgery fans. It's also primal for men to be attracted to healthier looking females, i.e. tan is preferred over pasty. ... (read in full...)

Should I have a baby at 24?

Q.   I'm about to completely change my life and I need some advice from people in a similar situation. I am 23 and have been with my partner for 3 years and we've been living together for the past 2.5 years. Our relationship is strong and we have great ...

A.   27 December 2009: I was 24 when I had my son, and my husband was 29. We had no issues. And just like the person below me says, you're never really ready for that first child. Our son is 16 months old now, and I'm 25. I went back to school, and it all still work... (read in full...)

How does a woman know when she's had an orgasm?

Q.   How does a female know she has had an orgasm? i know that sounds stupid. but my boyfriend is always telling me that i should just let go and orgasm already or are you going to orgasm soon and i dont really know what it is like i dont know how i ...

A.   23 November 2009: You'll feel contractions.... (read in full...)

Sick and tired of my stingy husband!

Q.   Hello, I am posting here because I am so sick and tired of my husband being so stingy. We are both working and I am actually earning 800$ more per month than him. Together we are quite a middle-class family - total earning after tax about $6...

A.   19 July 2009: Tell him to loosen up or you're going to open your own checking account and put all the money you earn into it, and you two can split the household bills and such down the middle. ... (read in full...)

If I give him some time, what if he doesn't even think about me?

Q.   My ex boyfriend dumped me about two months ago. I have made mistakes like calling him, txting him and even begging all that stuff right after we broke up. Then I backed off for a bit and decided to call him once a week. Everytime I txted him or ...

A.   18 June 2009: I think it's just over, and him saying that in 6 months he might want to get back together is him just trying to placate you. He has no intention of reuniting. ... (read in full...)

Am I wrong for wondering if she'll ever care about her appearance?

Q.   This autumn will be 6 years married, 7 years in the same relationship and i will be 26. My girl is really good to me, but she is really overweight. I figured eventually she could lose weight, but there's never been any motivation. I've tried ...

A.   18 June 2009: I think Honeypie gave you the best advice. Just encourage her. ... (read in full...)

Opinions on women going braless

Q.   Well I have been doing some research and I keep finding out that it has never been proven that bras help keep breast firm, or stop them from sagging. I've been thinking about this issue, and what bras mean in the bigger picture, and I just don't ...

A.   24 March 2009: I'd put at least a tank top or an undershirt on so your nipples don't show through your clothes. But other than that, what ever floats your boat!... (read in full...)

Am I being selfish because I want to be a mother?

Q.   I've been married for a year and a half together for four. I believe I'm ready to have a child, I'm in my late 20s and I want to be a mother. My husband is not ready. Throughout everything in our relationship I always have to be the submissive ...

A.   24 March 2009: If you want to stay married, then you need to do as he asks. How would you like it if you weren't ready for a child and he constantly pressured you to have one? Wouldn't you get frustrated, angry, and defensive? He doesn't want a child right now,... (read in full...)

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