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18-21,
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writes:Lately, I feel my boyfriend doesn't make an effort to talk to me. LDR. Even though he calls, but sometimes I feel he does it 'cause he thinks he has to since I complained about it before. Just recently, he slept over his friends house out of the blue. We had an argument and he stayed quiet for a while as so did I. He told me to hold on, it was for a while, and I figured he was trying to prolong coming back so I hung up. He called back later apologizing for basically ignoring me. I asked him why did he take so long and he said he was using the bathroom. Anyways, he watched a movie with his friends and I didn't hear from him until the next night. He told me his phone was dead, *I tried calling him earlier on that day*, and he was on his way with his friend to our old high school homecoming game. His friend wanted his phone back only in three minute of the conversation. It's been hours later and he still hasn't called. I feel so neglected. P.S. Please dont say "break up"
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (24 October 2009):
 Why would you say "please don't say break up?" Unless you felt that's the direction this relationship is taking?
Long distance relationships are difficult. That's a given. I read a lot of questions that come on here, and often I believe the questions asked need to be asked to the person who the questions are asked about. I see that here with you. I'd ask him, What do you want? Where do you see us going?
I'm not going to say you need to break up or stay together. I think you need to ask the difficult questions to see which direction this relationship is going, and get more incite to why he's acting in a way that makes you feel neglected.
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reader, katyayni  + ♥, writes (24 October 2009):
 Hi
This goes with the territory. Whether it is LDR or any other relationship. There will be days when he will need you and you just wouldn't make it. Such is life. There are too many couples out there who work late and can see each other for some hours in the entire week. That is how it is love. So, learn to be patient and stay busy. Waiting will make it worse. So, find hobbies, go to parties and just have lots of fun. Enjoy college to the max. And, no, don't grow up. Accept it. He will be standing in your shoes someday and then he too will have to accept your being busy etc.
Believe me, I understand. But, then life is a journey and it is essential that we all learn patience. So, stay busy love. Live your life, okay.
Have fun
Love :)
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