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writes:Okay, this may be a bit of a long story as the saga has been going on for 14 years. I believe in Destiny. I believe in love. I do not understand how it works though, and sometimes I question my sanity. I was 14 years old when I met my first love. It started out pretty normally...in some ways. In other ways it seemed like it was just meant to happen. We both had grown up in the same town, but I went to Catholic school and he was in public school. I was introduced to him after i transferred from prep school in my sophomore year. We both made each other laugh and the chemistry was off the charts but I was not allowed to see him socially. My parents were rich and strict and his were not. We talked on the phone and in school and were happy that way until he dropped out of school. He never told me why. He was never home when I called him after school and my parents weren't telling me that he was calling. I was afraid that I'd never see him again. Both of us were troubled youths with difficult home lives. After a few months of not being able to contact him in any way and things getting worse at home, I hatched this crazy plan to run away, just for one night, find him and tell him I love him. Instead I doubted his love for me, had sex with him and turned myself in the next day. He was hurt because he knew I didn't trust him. We saw each other once again after that and I still was not able to believe that we could start a lasting relationship. I knew we were too young, and I had been told all my life by my father that men would only use me. He said horrible things to me and I believed him. A couple of years later I heard that Kevin had a baby girl. Although he didn't marry the mother he did the right thing and was faithful and worked tirelessly to provide for her and the two little girls they were raising. I was happy for him. In the meantime I had been dating a man who was as abusive as my father. I finally left him after three years. The whole while I still loved Kevin but was content to know that he had a happy family-or so I thought. About a month after my breakup I met a mutual friend of Kevin and I. He told me Kevin's story. He had been working 2 consecutive 8hr shifts as a security guard 6 days a week since his first daughter was born. One day he came home to his girlfriend unexpectedly because he was violently ill with a stomach bug. He found her doing unspeakable sexual acts in front of the children with a strange man for drugs. He was working so much that he was totally unaware that she had been leading this double life. When I spoke to his friend he had been alone for 8 months, unable to prove that she had done anything, so she still had the girls. He was about to join the Army.The friend suggested that we meet at his house for dinner, so we did. Within 5 minutes of seeing Kevin again I was sobbing on his shoulder and he was holding me like you would hold on to a life preserver. For a few weeks we began to rekindle things, but then the old doubt crept back for both of us. We both loved each other but it was too painful to try to trust. Before he left for the Army, I wrote him a letter to tell him how i felt. I said everything there was to say. He called to say goodbye, but then there was nothing. I kept in touch with his family for a little while, but it was of no use. It was as if I had never existed. Those were the most painful months of my life. Eventually i moved on, and moved away. My self confidence was shattered, and relationships happened more or less out of my stubbornness. i didn't want to believe that there was no such thing as love. It didn't do me any good. 7 months later Kevin called my best friend and told her that he loved me. She screamed at him and informed him that I was very much in love and living out of state. She didn't tall me for months because she did3n't wa1nt to see me in pain.I was just as mad at him when she told me about it and made no effort to contact him. I still loved him though. Several months after I heard that he had gotten married. The rumor was that married people get special benefits in the Army and he had an arrangement with a girl. I was disappointed and angry, but i still loved him and was so confused. Months after that I was single again, and living in our hometown. He hunted me down. He called and asked to visit. I had some very supportive friends visiting a t the time, so I figured that it would be fine. When he came, sure enough, there was a huge wedding ring on his finger. /we all talked for awhile. He wouldn't stop staring at me with this longing. I could not meet his eyes. When my friends left, he asked me if I believed in destiny. I looked at his ring and said "You're married, we can't do this." He told me about the convenience marriage, but I wouldn't budge and he left. I felt very indignant, but I still love him. It's been 6years since then. I've moved around the country, almost gotten married, called it off. I haven't seen or heard from him, but something inside me tells me he is looking for me, and I want to look for him. If it really was that kind of a marriage he might be out of it. I don't know though. I understand why we failed in the past. We had emotional scars that weren't our faults. He is the man who I have loved all of my life, through everything, unselfishly and unconditionally. i want to find him, even if just to hear that he is happy with someone. What do I do, and is it possible for us to have love after all this time?
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (11 February 2010):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the question It's over. I ended it. I'm glad that I tried, but once again our timing was wrong and we just couldn't communicate through the obstacles. We played the game fairly, and im proud of us for that. Now I have to heal and step back and look at this year. I hope someday we get a real chance. We still have some growing up to do. Thank you to everyone who helped. You really did.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (7 January 2010):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, part one of this update is below.lol I hope I can finish in 2 parts. I want to say here that though it is truly getting more difficult to wait, we haven't been sexual with each other. I don't ask what he does with his wife because if he said he did I would be hurt, but I have been with no one this whole time. I don't think they have a physical relationship but they are married still so who knows. We do sit close together and cuddle a little. We have kissed twice. I know that that is just as bad, but I think sex would be worse. We've talked about that and it is hard for both of us but we both know that we are more likely to lose each other if we go that way. I can't be with him that way if he is still with her. He did pick me up over his head and spin me around and hug me the last time I was there because it had been so long and because we have closed a big gap in the space of time that we were together. It felt so wonderful. The happiness we feel gives us so much strength, but there is always a risk of weakness. We are incredibly physically attracted to each other. I told him I loved him for the first time in person. He didn't respond in kind. I've heard him say it to his wife over the phone and he doesn't even say the words, just something mumbled that sounds like it. She says it to him first and expects a reply. He put her on speakerphone once. I said it because I wanted to show him how far I've come. I want him to know that I trust him now. He is so confused that he needs to know that he is trustworthy. I understand why he is doing things this way. I know that when they do divorce it is very likely that she will have to stay here but the pain of her taking his son away is still so fresh that he is still afraid. I'll give him time, my company, friendship and love. I think he may be waiting for her to try to leave again so he has a better case. I know he is always watching her to judge if she will. I just wish that they could come to a fair agreement. It's sad that she misses her home but it would be even more sad if his son moved away. Kevin would never ever recover. His son is young, but they are so close that it would hurt him so much. I have seen with my own eyes and heard with my own ears the coldness and loathing that they have for each other. It is quiet. They don't have big fights, they try to keep it normal looking on the surface, but a conversation is like an interrogation. When they say "I love you" it's like a tiny power struggle. I can't describe it..it's just coldness. It's awful. I know that what we have is only in our hearts and minds, but I know that it is good. I know that when he and his family and I are together we feel genuine mutual appreciation and love. I think we are close. We've had so many near misses before that it's hard to believe that we'll succeed this time. I know that trusting him is the key. When I open up to him he opens up to me and we have come so far that way. I know he sees me as his closest friend and he is mine too. He was so happy that I talked to him again after the holidays. He respected me and was grateful for making the decision to let go for that time. He was even more grateful that I came back though. I'm glad that I can make him happy in the ways I do. I know that this is a good foundation for when we get to be together. Well guys, that's all I've got for now. Let me know what you think! Any encouragement to keep my legs crossed would be greatly appreciated as it has been a year and a month for me now and no end in sight! Thanks for everything you've written. If it hadn't been for you I may have never called him! Believe me even if it ends in ...I'm glad I did. It is a good thing. Thank you!
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (7 January 2010):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys! Hope your holidays were full of love and happiness and that the new year is bringing you more! There has been a lot going on here! I'll try not to babble too much but if I do I'll post another update in a couple of days and give you guys half now. The overall theme is that things are going pretty well with Kevin. He made it through the holidays and I contacted him New Years Eve eve. It turns out I was invited to his mother's party. I met her about a month ago through her sister though very little introduction was needed as she remembered me from years ago. We get along great! The whole thing was very strange because Kevin, his son, and his wife were there. I didn't have to talk to her though because she spent the whole night loudly proclaiming that she had a headache. He has definitely been telling the truth about her. He has never spoken derogatorily of her, but merely says they are just not compatible and in which ways. So that was strange. His son recognized me and I said hello and happy New Year, but he was pretty busy with the other kids who were raising hell until midnight. They were a riot! Kevin was polite and we shared a couple laughs but definitely kept the conversation at an acquaintance level. I knew a lot of his family already. They know who I am and what I'm about and seem to approve though it still is so strange. I got to meet some more of his family and friends and it was a great time. I didn't know I had been invited until the night of the party so I was very nervous on the way there. I did get a little drunk but had a sober driver of course and was trying so hard to act "proper?" that everyone said that they would never have guessed that I had even been drinking if they hadn't seen me drinking. I did call him after I got home at 2am and don't remember what I said so I know I was intoxicated. I don't think I said anything offensive because he would have picked on me if I did and he didn't when I saw him a couple of days later. On that day I came over to visit him and his son showed me all of his Christmas presents. We watched a movie (he, his son and my dog all vying for my attention at once)until his son went to bed. He seemed rather eager to get him to bed this time. I told him he was being grumpy in a playful sort of way. After that we were watching some lifetime movie and started talking about the past. He said that we could have been married by now if we hadn't been so afraid to speak our minds then. I know that he wants to jump right into a life with me as soon as he divorces. I'm happy about that because I know that he won't just rebound with me. It's hard not knowing when he is going to ask for a divorce. Ok this is getting long so I'm going to try to post this and start another one. Thanks guys!
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (1 November 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there. So far no fairytale ending, in fact it seems after all this time that we may have the timing wrong or lack the communication skills to make it. It has been over 7 months since we first talked and if anything I am more uncertain now. I guess i could have been content with the situation, but I am only human, and as I saw more and more of the reality of the situation I realized that he can get a divorce and there is not much of a risk that he would lose his son at all. When I tried to talk about it before he inferred slightly that I was being insensitive, but I don't see it that way. He really avoids any kind of reality based conversation. He'd rather pretend that we have everything we want even though I have not had physical contact with anyone for over a year and we do not speak very often at all. He tells me to keep doing what I am doing, but I can't keep this up. I want to be with him so badly and I know that it's only a matter of time before we slip up and get physical. I told him that he needs to honestly tell me his intentions and come up with a plan for divorce. Until he does that I'm not going to contact him. (I also told him prior to that that I want to suspend our communication during the holidays because while I am not very religious myself, i do consider it a sacred family time)I always initiate our conversations because his phone is being monitored by his wife, so if I don't get ahold of him, we don't speak. I know he cares for me. I know he loves his son. I believe he can have both. Why is he being this way? Should I have just been content to wait the way we were. I am heartbroken that we aren't talking and am afraid that we will grow apart again.Im hoping that he realizes that we can't go on being sneaky and that it is better for everyone if he gets a divorce. I'm saying that for both selfish and unselfish reasons. I have become part of his family's (sisters) and his life. I see it for the way it really is and know that he has been honest with me. I realize that he is a creature of habit and while he is miserable where he is he is terrified of changing anything. I feel like I can do little more than I have done. It is up to him. I'm not giving up, just sitting back and waiting to see what he does. Hopefully he'll miss me. Is this right? Should I keep hoping or should I do something differently. I'm afraid of repeating past mistakes that I've made with him but my vision is too blurred by emotion to see clearly. Please help and thank you all again for all your kindness and understanding!
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (1 November 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi there. So far no fairytale ending, in fact it seems after all this time that we may have the timing wrong or lack the communication skills to make it. It has been over 7 months since we first talked and if anything I am more uncertain now. I guess i could have been content with the situation, but I am only human, and as I saw more and more of the reality of the situation I realized that he can get a divorce and there is not much of a risk that he would lose his son at all. When I tried to talk about it before he inferred slightly that I was being insensitive, but I don't see it that way. He really avoids any kind of reality based conversation. He'd rather pretend that we have everything we want even though I have not had physical contact with anyone for over a year and we do not speak very often at all. He tells me to keep doing what I am doing, but I can't keep this up. I want to be with him so badly and I know that it's only a matter of time before we slip up and get physical. I told him that he needs to honestly tell me his intentions and come up with a plan for divorce. Until he does that I'm not going to contact him. (I also told him prior to that that I want to suspend our communication during the holidays because while I am not very religious myself, i do consider it a sacred family time)I always initiate our conversations because his phone is being monitored by his wife, so if I don't get ahold of him, we don't speak. I know he cares for me. I know he loves his son. I believe he can have both. Why is he being this way? Should I have just been content to wait the way we were. I am heartbroken that we aren't talking and am afraid that we will grow apart again.Im hoping that he realizes that we can't go on being sneaky and that it is better for everyone if he gets a divorce. I'm saying that for both selfish and unselfish reasons. I have become part of his family's (sisters) and his life. I see it for the way it really is and know that he has been honest with me. I realize that he is a creature of habit and while he is miserable where he is he is terrified of changing anything. I feel like I can do little more than I have done. It is up to him. I'm not giving up, just sitting back and waiting to see what he does. Hopefully he'll miss me. Is this right? Should I keep hoping or should I do something differently. I'm afraid of repeating past mistakes that I've made with him but my vision is too blurred by emotion to see clearly. Please help and thank you all again for all your kindness and understanding!
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 October 2009):
 True love is a stronger bond than any other. Just had to say that for those who read this and still don't believe in "true love"
Now since your in the place you want to be. Let's talk about Kevin's place. While his marriage is dissolving further, he's going to need to begin pre-planning for when divorce takes place. Protect his rights with his son. Have him get a notebook and write down anything that might be valuable in a custody dispute. Such as when she left and didn't tell him how his son was doing. For that same reason, my daughter lives with me. The judge told her mom that he was extremely worried about her ability to communicate in the child's best interest. Have him keep a log, dates and times, etc. Even if she says, "you won't see your son." have that written down.
I'm glad everything is working out for you. I look forward to further updates as well. Take care.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (10 October 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank all of you for your help and advice without which i may not have had the courage to see my heart through. THere is a long journey ahead before Kevin and I can live our dream, but we are close friends and our friendship has been growing stronger. I am so happy and believe i bring a bit of happiness into his life. Superficially we have remained friends for 7 months. We have respected the boundary of his marriage vows. The situation is complicated but i trust him completely. He fears that his wife will take his son halfway across the country if he files for divorce. Over a year ago she left him and what i didn't know before was that she refused to contact Kevin or any of his family for months to even say that his son was ok. He has a very close relationship with his son. I have met him and cant say enough about how wonderful he is! They have a true bond of love. I feel more strongly that they stay close together than I feel desire to be with Kevin. Still, I have stayed alone and single, waiting and hoping for a breakthrough. I know that their marriage has been dissolved in the spiritual sense before i even arrived on the scene. I have been good, even though I feel strong temptation, but i feel that if I just wait this out, everything will work out. Meanwhile I am just loving Kevin in the ways i can. There is no question that he shares my feelings and the purity of intention that we have is stronger than what seems to be an impossible obstacle at this point. His wife is willing to divorce (he asked her for one)but only if he allows her to move back to her home state 1000 miles away, with their son. He of course retracted his request..and stopped talking to me for awhile, which was painful for us both. We both fell into depression until we finally had to agree to at least be friends. Neither of us could bear the thought of falling out of each others' lives again. We both promised that no matter what we would always stay connected. We talk once a week, and we try not to get too emotional, but sometimes we do. I don't feel guilty as i did at first. I don't think we are doing anything truly wrong, but i am not by nature a deceptive person. It may take years, but we will be together, and I am willing to wait for years. This is true love. I didn't always know it, but i have always felt it. I am in the middle of my life. Fourteen years have gone by since we first fell in love. We have learned so many lessons and are able to share love even with miles and years separating us. Thank you for making me brave and reassuring me. This is one of the most noble and kind websites that i have ever encountered and you are some of the most noble and kind people i have met with. Your few words have changed my life in the best way possible. I was wandering lost and now my path is before me. I am going home. Thank you all so much and I hope there is always perfect love in your lives!
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (1 August 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you that is great advice but something must be really wrong and i an truly miserable. we were so close
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 August 2009):
I'm sure you've heard the saying to "focus on what you have control over, not what you don't." What you don't have control over is the actions of anyone else.
Divorce can be extremely difficult emotionally, at times financially etc. He does not want his son to be far away from where he is, so if they are in disagreement their case would go from a simpler divorce to being more complicated with a custody battle.
So, the 19 year old comes, and it's been a month. The information you gave really doesn't show what might be going on or which direction anything is going to take, which means until you know, you'll have to live with not knowing. If I were you, I would send him a message, but not really an update. Let him know that you're worried about him, and just want to make sure he's okay. There's a difference between messages which really don't need to be replied to and one that prompts reason to reply. Do this, of course without being pushy, but there's nothing wrong with someone being worried, and wanting to know the well being of a friend.
Send the message, and stop mental masturbating. You're going to drive yourself nuts. I'm sure you have enough "what if" questions popping in and out of your head to last you a long time. This is also what leads to your depressive state. Stop sitting around playing mind games with yourself. Take your dog and go for more walks, visit friends, do anything but sitting around waiting and wondering. Live and don't let life pass you bye because your just waiting.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (31 July 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, i want to thank you again for all your help and kindness. I wish i had a happier update on the situation but i may be contorting the truth to make it seem worse than it really is. That is why i am asking for your help again. Here's the gist of it... Over the last several months Kevin and I have been communicating, mostly by text but sometimes he calls so that we can hear each other. We have a friendship that is so wonderful and the flame is still there, but we restrain ourselves because he has not gotten a divorce yet and they still live together (he's on the couch and has been since long before I called) He has spoken to her more than once about a divorce. They are treating each other like roommates and co-parents, but she also agrees that she no longer wants to be married. They do not fight. She is a good person. They just got married for the wrong reasons and are pretty incompatible. She also wants to move home to Texarcana. That is where the trouble starts. He does not want to separate either of them from their 4 year old son. About 2 years ago his wife left him because they were struggling financially and her father told her to come home. She took the baby with her. Kevin says that that was when he gave up on having a real commitment to making things work. He did convince her to come back for the sake of their son. She had been gone for almost a year and hardly had called to even let him know about the well being of his own son, but she came back and they agreed to make it work there even if they were divorced. Now she wants to move away again and he doesn't want to cart the little guy back and forth across the country in some strange custody agreement. He is just too young for that. I think he is trying to stall until he gets into school for added leverage. The reason i don't know this for sure is because we haven't spoken in a month. On the 5th of July Kevin sent me a message that he couldn't talk for awhile. Things had been fine, but his 19 year old nephew had moved in with them and basically robbed him of any private time he had to talk to me. He promised to talk to me soon but my idea of soon must be different from his. For a little while id send him text updates of what my dog and I had been up to and wishing him and his son a nice day without expecting a reply. Now i barely send any but the more time that goes by the more pain I feel and have fallen into a kind of depression. I don't want to give up. I feel like our chance will come and know that they both know that a divorce is best. I don't know what to do with myself though. I know I come second to his son. I am ok with that but a MONTH? I want to know why but I don't want to be pushy. I want to talk to him sobu badly but i can't! What does all this mean? What do you guys think is going on. I have tried my very hardest to do everything right and good in this very delicate situation. I know he loves me and i know he is a good man willing to sacrifice his own comfort for those who need him. i wish i was able to be there for him cause I know this hurts him too. Should I still send him a text now and then? Or should I hold my breath? Thank you so much, i really am in need of some comfort and guidance. Thank you thank you!!
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reader, rcn +, writes (16 March 2009):
This is a wonderful story. I'm happy for you. Take care.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (16 March 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi guys, good news! I'm so excited I can hardly type or even sit down! I did a little detective work of my own today and found him! He did not think I was stalkerish but rather very clever heehehee! I am deliriously happy but a fairytale ending is not what may happen. He is still married to the girl from the army. I first heard this from his sister (she was the one who finally gave me his #) and him. She gave me a long and rather bizarre story about them and said that I should definitely call him as she remembered me as the girl who wrote him a very long and romantic letter years ago. (It was embarrassing to admit that to someone who I am a stranger to) She seemed just as breathless as I was that I had called. My heart has never beaten so hard as when I dialed his number. THEN HE DIDN'T PICK UP! I didn't know what to do so I texted him (i never text) "Kevin, is this your phone?" He hit me back"Who is this?" I told him and he called me sounding like a giddy schoolboy. We talked for two hours, keeping the conversation fairly platonic, but talking about everything under the sun. It was just like our calls in high school! We teased each other about being older and things we had said to each other in the past. I know at the very least we are going to be friends forever because neither one of us is going to let go now. He told me he thought of me often, and we both agreed that we have a LOT in common. It seems like although we've been apart, we have become more like each other. It was better than anything I could ever have imagined. I promised to meet him Friday and he promised me that his wife would not get upset. I sure hope not-I'm not a homewrecker, and I don't want to be one. I'm nervous, but I know everything is going to be good so long as we do our best to be good, considerate people. Oh, by the way Kaylagal, I asked him, and he did say that he and my father had a conversation. I did not want to take away from the joy we were experiencing right then so I did not ask for specifics, but I did tell him that I haven't spoken to my 'rents in years-which I have not for very good reason. Good call girlfriend! I'm definitely gonna watch The Notebook now! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you everyone for all your help. I will return the favor if i am able. Thank yooooou!
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reader, kaylagal +, writes (14 March 2009):
 Wow, what a beautiful but sad story. Okay, here is my take - sounds like he loves you just like you love him. You said you come from money and he doesn't. You also said your dad was abusive. I have a feeling your dad once told him something that stayed with him all these years, maybe that he would never be good enough for you. So even though he was madly in love with you, he never committed to you coz he thought you were too good for him and he could never provide for you like mummie and daddie did.
I totally agree with the other answers, find a P.I or use the internet, try and find him one more time and give it a shot. Lay everything on the table, coz that might be your last shot.
Oh, one last thing - you should watch The Notebook, if you haven't already.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (14 March 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much! I'm so glad that I found this site. This has been so heavy on my heart for so long. My friends have always been supportive of me, but also protective. Many of them have never met him because I met them after I lost touch with him, so they want to protect me and don't know him. I'm very grateful to hear from kind people with an objective standpoint. I am going to try to find him. Money isn't an issue. We are both survivors. If he is single I hope we can take one step at a time but always move forward. If he is happily married I will have no regrets. Something tells me that he may not be, but that I will know soon. Thank you all again, I will let you know how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): I would try facebook or classmates.com on your own. Directory Assistance from the last known town where he lived or even contact past mutual friends. Most states allow public records access through the county clerk's office - with online access. I agree with the other posting...you may be soul mates. I posted the first response, and I think that you should try to contact him. What I discovered with my situation is that when we were together, we were simply just too young (teens-early 20's). We will probably never be anything more than good friends...but you might be able to be together, or just good friends. There is only one way to find out.
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 March 2009):
There are computer search engines. Google for "people finder" and a list will come up. A PI you can use if you can't find him. It's not stalking, because all they do is utilize search engines which they pay for the service, and have access for any record recorded in a government agency. Then they provide you with the information you were seeking and couldn't find.
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reader, Good Girl +, writes (14 March 2009):
Good Girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank both of you so much for answering. I really would like to find him, but wouldn't a PI be like stalking in my situation? I don't know how he would react to that, married or not. Is there any way that I can look him up myself?
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reader, rcn +, writes (14 March 2009):
You've been so afraid of what might happen, it's kept you from the one person you were meant to be with this whole time. I don't consider it destiny, you two may be soul mates. This explains a love that never disappears, even when with someone else. My opinion is to find him, go through a P.I. if you have to.
When you find him, jump in without fear. I have spent thousands of hours learning about behaviors and emotions, and if you are truly soul mates, the ability for your relationship to work far exceeds what the conscious mind can comprehend, and any pain from the past won't be strong enough to break the bond.
I've met people who have the soul mate relationships. From what I see is a fairytale author couldn't write a better ending. I hope this helps. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2009): I understand exactly what you are talking about. I dated a guy on and off for 4 years in High School. He was the love of my life. We haven't seen each other for 15 years. One day, back in December, I was thinking a lot about him, almost to the point that it felt like he "needed" me. Although I have been married for 10 years, I tried to locate him on Facebook, and found him. It turned out that he is also married and having some problems similar to mine. We speak on a daily basis, support each other, and in a strange way help strengthen each other's marriage. We also were able to communicate a lot of things that we should have 15 years ago. We never realized how much we loved each other until now. So..."is it possible for (you) to have love after all this time"- YES. As far as destiny...it could be. There is only one way to find out. Good luck!!
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