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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Am I missing the point, or is he being over dramatic?
Q. Im not sure what I am asking, but I guess Im wondering if this is acceptable behaviour or not. When I asked my boyfriend today if he could do me a favour, he replied not right now. I said it needed to be done right away, and he just said he cou...
A. 5 May 2016: At this point it's not about figuring out who's right, who's wrong. I don't think he's into this relationship anymore. When everything irritates him, it's just not working. Or, his behavior is an accumulation of frustration in his life and he's ... (read in full...)
She’s annoyed that my parents won’t allow us to spend the night in the same bed! What should I say to her?
Q. Hello, I've been seeing this girl for around 1 month and a half. We are both 19 and Last week i stayed over at hers and everything is fine and we stayed in her room in her bed. She is due to come over and stay at mine but she will be sleeping...
A. 5 May 2016: "You don't get on with my parents, you don't get on with me."
Parents who are that liberal to let a one month old boyfriend sleep in the same bed with their daughter, are rare. So this is not about control. Your parents' house, their rules. It's... (read in full...)
Ex' is haunting my dreams
Q. Just trying to understand this situation here. I've been in an relationship for nearly 3 years now and I'm very happy. Looking for a house together soon so things are going well. The concerning thing is i've started having repetitive dream...
A. 3 May 2016: It's a sign that you are still thinking of your ex and entertaining the what ifs. Your dream only brought out your subconscious wishes. You just have to cut the cord with him. You can think of it as a symbolic thing. Actually when you think about a ... (read in full...)
Porn addiction is a blight on my life. Please help.
Q. Hi, I have a huge issue. I left my wife a few months ago, an act of sheer madness on my part. I'd been having an emotional affair, I think because of a midlife crisis (no excuse) and had a massive panic attack, leaving my wife for the other woman....
A. 2 May 2016: I guess you are looking for any possibility that you could still watch porn without losing either of the two women, so that you won't be left with a gaping hole in your heart, the feeling of emptiness. Sorry, porn is not just possibility a factor, ... (read in full...)
Why did this guy flirt with me when it turns out now that he had no honorable intentions towards me?
Q. This is a little complicated, so please bare with me. I have gotten myself into the same situation twice with the same family. I moved in to my new place in July 2015, I met my next door neighbour, an elderly lady. She helped me out, I helped her ...
A. 2 May 2016: The moment he said he wanted a mistress is the moment you should cut him off, and realize whatever he said or did had no honorable intentions.
He wanted to know how much he could get away with, so he would say whatever to get into your pants. He d... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid about this? He keeps in touch with each ex. But now he wants to have lunch with his ex
Q. Hello everyone, Please help me out. I've been going out with my bf for 8months. He is slightly older and we met online. Before we met and started a relationship, we chatted quite a bit online. During this time he met up with his ex and they slep...
A. 2 May 2016: Well, if they slept together before you dated, I would get paranoid too. I know there are men and women who are capable of doing platonic friendships. With this one, I am not so sure.
Just slightly older than you and he already has a string of exes... (read in full...)
Holiday with others and my Bf. How can I get over my fears and actually enjoy this holiday?
Q. I feel really worried about a group holiday that my boyfriend has set up with his friends and their partners. In August, 10 of us are going on a joint birthday holiday for 3 of us the people. It's my boyfriend's birthday, and then one of the coup...
A. 2 May 2016: I would worry less about how his friends think about you, but about how much he values the relationship. He should not get so wasted that you and him could not spend quality time and do sightseeing.
If you end up alone, you can go to a spa sess... (read in full...)
Is this primarily a health issue for me, not ED, or is it because I am feeling as if my wife is less attractive?
Q. for the past year or so ive noticed that my sex life has been getting worse. Embarrassingly enough i cant keep an erection for too long during sex. Its weird because i can get an erection no problem, maintain it no problem, get a blowjob and fini...
A. 2 May 2016: We are wired for promiscuity while being just capable of monogamy. We are not meant to get excited by fishing the same fish in the same pond, after several years together. You can either spice things up, go to the gym together, or accept that it's ... (read in full...)
Why is my partner dreaming about sex?
Q. Me and my other half have been together for 6 years, the last couple of months its become a little rocky. we haven't had sex in around 5 months. a couple of nights I have woken up to him touching me and kissing me. HES ASLEEP, only problem is ...
A. 2 May 2016: Okay, he might have his reason why he doesn't want sex. Maybe tiredness, stress, loss of libido, or ill health that contributes to erectile dysfunction. He can't just keep the issue under the rug, as if your needs don't matter. A young guy with a ... (read in full...)
Is he just leading me on? Is he really in love with me? Or is it just sex??
Q. Okay so I'm bi not out! Please read full story I started seeing this guy in September 2015 and it was great but after a couple of weeks he started to tell me he had feelings for me. I continued to hide back my feelings and made him continue...
A. 2 May 2016: A lot of people stay in passionless marriages because of money. I believe what he said to you it's true but money is more important in his life right now. It's not as if he had a choice. It would be very hard to leave him if he's sick. Compassion ... (read in full...)
How do I go about telling my parents about the relationship I am having with a professor at University?
Q. I have been having a relationship with a professor at my university now for 8 months, I have now told my parents i am in a relationship with someone and have told them he is older than me. My boyfriends family (Uni profs family) have met me and are ...
A. 1 May 2016: The age gap is big. A professor is a highly respected job. Your boyfriend is knowledgeable, and has status in society. He can certainly take care of you if you became pregnant. You can argue away the fact that he is not technically your teacher. The ... (read in full...)
He's drunk and abusive. How do you reason with someone like this, for the sake of your kids?
Q. I've been with my partner, "Bill", for 12 years and we have a family together. Tonight he told me for the umpteenth time that he was sick of my bad attitude and that I need to "know my place". Then he told me it's over and to expect all my thing...
A. 1 May 2016: You are not at the stage where you say to yourself, it's all over. You still love him and are hoping that one day he would just stop drinking and start loving.
The thing, is you can't reason with an alcoholic. You did not cause any problems in the ... (read in full...)
When travelling, what are your pet peeves about the people you meet and the places you visit outside of your own country?
Q. This is not a relationship issue, it's just something recreational if any of you wants to humour me up. So : yesterday I was reading on a travellers' forum a thread called "Why Italians are so rude." Now, .. Italian can be rude, I am not argui...
A. 30 April 2016: I actually don't have any, but I would be annoyed by my own kind. Chinese people are pushy, impatient, and always need to get the best deal. Many of them take photography lessons so they buy the most expensive cameras. When we were in the USA My mom ... (read in full...)
Can you change a player just a little?
Q. I'm trying to decide if I should have sex with a guy who's a player. If i don't have sex he'll just ignore me. If I do, then I'll get ignored after...but I was thinking, even if I can't get him to commit, what if I got him to at least do nice things ...
A. 29 April 2016: Do you know for sure that you would be ignored by him before and after sex? How about just be his friend without taking off your shirt. You will really stand out amongst other girls if you try to appeal to his emotional side, and not just physical. ... (read in full...)
He’s been chatting with women online and now has booked a solo trip to a country where one lives! I need opinions on this!
Q. Hello everyone, Me and hubby have been together 7yrs and married for 3. We have a 4 yr old daughter..He has been talking to women who he has friended from social media. He doesn't know any of them. But to some he will start talking in a way...
A. 26 April 2016: This is not fair. He's spending on money on a "fantasy life" when it should go to you and your child. I would not bother talking to him. I would save all his social media messages, hire a private investigator to go to his hotel and take videos of ... (read in full...)
I really liked him, we made out and the next day he pretended it never happened! What made him not like me anymore?
Q. Hi i had this boy i knew i really liked him and he liked me and one day we made out at night.The next day he pretended like it never happen like he never liked me and i texted him and told him did it mean anything and he said no and that broke my ...
A. 26 April 2016: I don't think he likes you. He's taking advantage of the fact that you like him. He told you he like you so he could get a make out session, to see what it feels like. He is such a coward, and I hope you don't count that as a first kiss. It should ... (read in full...)
We rushed into a relationship. Were his words his way of making himself not feel guilty, or do you think he's being genuine?
Q. Try keep this short.. met this guy online we hit it off right away talked every day for a month, he opened up about why he has his daughter all time. We both are single parents..he has his daughter with him all the time, one of the things I liked ...
A. 25 April 2016: You should assume they are genuine until they show otherwise. There's a difference between "let's be friends" and "let's be friends first." If I were him, I know that even better is not saying anything about using terms, and just using actions or ... (read in full...)
Help. Am I justified for being annoyed with my Gf?? I am having girlfriend problems
Q. Whilst in the club with my work colleagues and my girlfriend for a colleagues birthday, my gf and a female colleague go off to dance. I go looking for them about 20mins ish later because my gf is shy so didn't want her to think I've left her with a ...
A. 25 April 2016: I think rough time means arguing a lot and that led her to question her relationship with you. People don't just lose their sex drive completely out of nowhere. Taking shots with guys does not mean she would go after them, or wishes to have sex with ... (read in full...)
How can someone who claims to love you be so unfeeling?
Q. I got pretty sick this past week. I was bed ridden for days had no energy throwing up. My husband had it the week before so naturally I was concerned for him took care of his every need and made sure he felt loved and taken care of. Fast forw...
A. 25 April 2016: I am the unfeeling one, and without much maternal instinct. I am not the one to bake cookies and organize tea parties, but I certainly do something that's emergent, if it does require medical attention. My son has complained to me about this fact. ... (read in full...)
We rushed into a relationship. Were his words his way of making himself not feel guilty, or do you think he's being genuine?
Q. Try keep this short.. met this guy online we hit it off right away talked every day for a month, he opened up about why he has his daughter all time. We both are single parents..he has his daughter with him all the time, one of the things I liked ...
A. 25 April 2016: Oh, his past is not blah blah blah, and not an excuse. There's certainly something in the past that made him act like this. Maybe he didn't word it well and was talking from his "fight or flight" part of the brain, and didn't reassure that he really ... (read in full...)
I’m expecting my first child with my boyfriend but he isn’t happy and is calling me a liar!
Q. I have recently discovered I'm expecting my first child with my boyfriend of 3 years. It seems like it would be great news but he isn't happy at all and keeps calling me a liar as I had always believed that I couldn't have children naturall...
A. 25 April 2016: I've heard a little about PCOS. The percentage of women who trapped their boyfriends is greater than women who have pcos than found out they are pregnant. It's understandable why your boyfriend has his doubts but he loves you enough. Even if the ... (read in full...)
I’m falling out of love with my boyfriend because he keeps rejecting me due to my weight gain of 15 lbs!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3.5 years, during which time I have been enrolled in a rigorous PhD program. I am 5’8 and when he met me, I weighed 155 lbs. A year ago he told me he hadn’t been attracted to me for about 6 months. He had b...
A. 25 April 2016: There are a few possibilities. He has been having sexual problems and blaming it on your weight gain. Or he is a narcissist who enjoys controlling people and making them feel inadequate.
I will just tell it how it is. That you fell out of love for ... (read in full...)
What do I say to my boyfriend about where I and my daughter are on his list of priorities?
Q. Hi ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a 6 month old daughter the problem is I'm always last on his list of priorities he works all week plans what he will do at the weekend his plans never involve me or his daughter he does nothing to ...
A. 24 April 2016: "You need to spend time with your daughter." That's not something that has to be said. I am beginning to think that the fatherly instinct is in some men, but not all. That is something I had taken for granted. I really can't understand why men (and ... (read in full...)
Are we just really good friends, or does she like me?
Q. I have known this girl-I'll refer to her as "H."-for almost two years now, though we have been actual friends since about August. I am a sophomore in High School, and she is a Junior in High School. My freshman year, I met her in my Theatre I cla...
A. 24 April 2016: You can hang out with her and then ask her if there's someone she likes. If she says no then you go ahead and get closer to her. She may be waiting for you because it's supposed to be the guys asking girls out. You already hugged her for a long time ... (read in full...)
I want to try FWB. What should I consider?
Q. I want to try friends with benefits. Any women on here have experiences with sleeping with multiple guys at the same time? Most of the stories I've heard usually only have the male fwb sleeping with multiple girls. So I figure if it's inevitable ...
A. 24 April 2016: When I hear multiple I think 5 or 6. Just do 2 if that's easier to handle. I did experiment before. At first it was exciting to see how many messages you get, much more than if you want to find guys looking for a relationship. Then it gets tiring to ... (read in full...)
Do I cut all contact with him? He left me feeling disrespected when he took my virginity and then just left.
Q. I've been friends with this boy for just over a year now, for a good 3 months last year we were seeing each other but things just didn't work out. He then had a giflriend and we were like bestfriends but now they've been broken up for a while an...
A. 24 April 2016: I think you should cut contact with him, just for a while or until you can forgive him. I don't think he's a horrible person. He's depressed because when he had sex with you, images of his ex came into his mind. It's true they are broken up for a ... (read in full...)
Does she love me for my money? She never offers to pay!
Q. My girlfriend Lisa and I have been going together for almost ten months and our relationship seems to be sailing along quite smoothly. We're very compatible. We always have a lot of fun together and she never nags me. She's beautiful, classy and ...
A. 24 April 2016: A woman's love can be priceless to a man. I believe you have no problems paying if only you can be sure that she loves you for you, and not your money. That she won't divorce you and take you to the cleaners one day. Just being affectionate and ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Can you sleep with someone for 6 month and have no attachment?
Q. Question for the women. Can you sleep with the same person for nearly six months and have no attachment to them? Is it likely? I've been sleeping with the same girl for that span of time in a fwb situation. We spend the night weekly and talk ...
A. 23 April 2016: I think a few kinds of people are able to do this. Ones who are incapable of loving, which sounds ironic because it's not that staying unattached is a skill. I certainly would find it a turn off that some people are so anti relationships.
The othe... (read in full...)
My girlfriend suddenly has a fantasy about a MFF threesome and won't let go of it!
Q. Hi I have been with my girlfriend and soon to be fiance for 6 years Through out the relationship she has been very possesive and jealous, to the point where if i looked at porn or say another girl in the shopping centre, had pictures of a bi...
A. 23 April 2016: I think she changed because, you ever hear people say, "if you are jealous and insecure about your body/sexual performance/partner's exes, then why not be the most sexual, most beautiful so that you come out as the winner at the end? It is this ... (read in full...)
I'm dating someone who isn't responding by text as fast as he used to, is this a problem or am I over-analyzing?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating someone younger to me for past 1 month, I like him and he says the same. Earlier he used to text often and responds back quickly , now most of the time he doesn't initiate text and if I text I get response but mostly after...
A. 22 April 2016: I can't tell for sure because people communicate differently and it's not something I can answer based on the general. I don't think there is anything to worry if you are still seeing each other twice a week. It would be better if you can adjust ... (read in full...)
How can you love someone and still feel mind-blowing chemistry with someone else?
Q. Hi everyone, I was really curious about something. I feel like my current boyfriend is a man I can marry and have children with etc. We get along very well and keep each other laughing. We support each other in our dreams and careers. However...
A. 22 April 2016: There are men who are good on paper, and men with traits that make them very attractive to women. They two are almost always mutually exclusive. If you are talking about the unexplained, intense feelings, it's really no mystery. Science and biology ... (read in full...)
Is the suggestion we watch a movie at his place for our fifth date normal, or a bad sign?
Q. Is this a bad sign? I'm interested in a guy I met through an online dating site. I've met with him four times already now, we've had coffee, a dinner/movie date, picnic at a park with drinks then at a lounge. For the next date he suggested I come...
A. 22 April 2016: Not necessarily. I would not go to his place without telling him that you are not ready for anything physical (that's if you aren't), and before you are sure of a few things. That you and him are exclusive; you have sparks and starting to fall for ... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think that D*cks and sex are overrated?
Q. Now that I've been with a few guys I realize how small guy's d*cks are. Like when he's pushing it in, it can kind of feel big but once you get used to it, it's just not a big deal. And long and short lengths don't make a difference. The ...
A. 21 April 2016: Average is 6 inches. Maybe only guys who are confident about their sizes give their information while the ones who have smaller sizes won't bother. While 6 inches is enough for most women, some find them small.
If you feel the porn actresses are ... (read in full...)
We've been dating almost 7 months and he wants us to marry and move out of province
Q. I'm a single mom with two kids, a four year old daughter and six your old son. I've been dating a guy for almost 7 months. He is great with my kids and they adore him. Last night he proposed ! I was not expecting it at all and he even said he knew ...
A. 17 April 2016: Just spend the summer with him and then make a decision there. A marriage is more than just feelings, the gut instinct that he's the one. You also consider if your life is changing for the better or is it going to be more complicated. Does he have ... (read in full...)
My ex and I talk about reuniting but I can't compete with her current boyfriend
Q. My ex girlfriend and I talk about working things out on a very deep, personal, and regular basis, but her new boyfriend is ten years older, four inches bigger in penis size, and gives her drugs. She says she wants to get back with me and as soon ...
A. 17 April 2016: Kentucky to Hawaii right?
She is not interested in reuniting. If he's that great, in bed and mature too, then why wouldn't she want to be with him? She's only talking to you because he ignores her for half of the month and she wants you to fill in t... (read in full...)
I always liked girls but I'm afraid I might be gay
Q. Hi everyone ! I would really appreciate some insight as I am clearly confused as to whats going on right now, driving me insane !!! So all my life I have liked girls, I remember plenty of crushes that ive had, from elementary - highschool and my l...
A. 16 April 2016: You put too much importance on getting hard and being a man, and too little on actual connection to a person. Your worries give you anxiety and affects performance. It becomes a cycle. Maybe you watch a lot of porn. Actors and actresses look ... (read in full...)
Could this mean I'm not 'the one' for him?
Q. My fiance and I are getting along really well these days, however I recently keep thinking back to the first couple of months of our relationship over 3 years ago. It was very passionate and sexually charged. But my fiance at the time didn't want to ...
A. 16 April 2016: The more important question is, is he "the one" for the long haul, or is he the one for "a relationship that lasts whenever it lasts." I think by default, women would want a relationship that lasts forever, otherwise there is not much point for ... (read in full...)
How can I help my LDR Bf who is constantly presenting as so negative and pessimistic about his life? He blames himself for everything
Q. My boyfriend of a year has recently been very negative about everything in life. He most likely isn't depressed and in all honesty there has been nothing tragic happening which could cause his pessimistic views on the world. (or rather from my ...
A. 15 April 2016: When motivating doesn't help, the only support he wants is your listening ear and your patience. I know it's hard to hear him talk negative things, and it brings you down. Being the closest person to him, you can't help but be affected by his mood. ... (read in full...)
Should I wait an extra year before I can vacation with my young son?
Q. I have no one to ask this question to but this website. I am in a relationship for the past year and we were dating for a few months prior to being in a relationship. Outside this relationship I have a child who is around 19 months old. I wa...
A. 15 April 2016: I know Canada is really big on breastfeeding. I myself weaned my son at age 3. There was a time when I had to be separated from my son when he's 2. It was hard for me. I really enjoyed breastfeeding. But still, I don't think your ex girlfriend ... (read in full...)
My parents are paying for my education and keeping me under tight control
Q. I be never dated before because I wasn't allowed to. I also went to an all girls school and now attend community college. My parents said since they're paying I have to commute from home and if I make good grades and get my associate, I can transfer ...
A. 14 April 2016: I won't go against them. Your parents know what's good for you. The consequence of sneak dating Marius is that sooner or later your parents have to know. You have to look beyond what "No" means. Most parents are reasonable people and would come ... (read in full...)
Should I marry him even though it would mean that I would be stuck in a life I would hate?
Q. Ive going to marry soon this year and im having dillema about my future. I think its normal to worry about my future life and im not telling or discussed this with anyone. Its making me depressed by the time pass and it keep worse. We have been t...
A. 12 April 2016: I would only live in a big house that's 2000 sq ft at least, anything smaller than that I would say no. You can even get a side by side house, or conjoined units so your fiancé isn't really leaving them. If your dad is fine with spending that money, ... (read in full...)
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