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writes:Hi i had this boy i knew i really liked him and he liked me and one day we made out at night.The next day he pretended like it never happen like he never liked me and i texted him and told him did it mean anything and he said no and that broke my heart cause i liked him but i cant seem to get over him what made him not like me anymore?why cant i get over him?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 April 2016):
 ..The fact that he never liked you romantically to begin with. He just wanted to make out, to experiment a little, and ... he liked you enough for that but not more.
Valuable lesson which is never too early to learn. Words mean nothing if not backed by actions. " I like you " means nothing or in fact means " I like you if there's something in it for me ". Unless the way he treats you shows he does like you.
Next time, when you fall in like with a boy, take your time and give him time to SHOW you that he likes you too, not just to tell you. Let him court you a bit, let him get to know you, let him find ways to spend time together without getting too physical. Yeah it takes time and patience , it's the opposite of instant gratification, so in your age range it does not come very natural, and yet it begets better emotional dividends.
How do you get over him ? By getting mad , as TasteofIndia says. Not too mad, because it's not the end of the world, things like these happens to all the teens of this world,... but mad enough to realize that you have been selfishly manipulated by a little wanna-be player. This is not the best you can aspire to, this is not what you want for yourself, I hope, and this is not the kind of guy you can feel love and respect for. You are not missing out on anything valuable, as you will realize soon once your bruised ego is on the mend.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (26 April 2016):
 Get over him? I'd start with getting MAD at him.
He knew you liked him, and he 100% took advantage of that. He has NOT considered your feelings, has not bothered to be bothered by breaking your heart... this dude is a total swine.
Once you recognize him for what he is (a jerk), getting over him will become much easier. He's got a lot of growing up to do. As for you, I hope you spend some time getting to love yourself. You deserve respect, and you deserve to be wanted and loved by the fella who gets the privilege of your attention and kisses.
Stay strong, and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2016): He wanted to make-out, but he didn't want a girlfriend. He liked knowing you liked him, and he took advantage of your feelings. This is a lesson to be learned. Not every boy who wants to make-out with you, likes you. So you first, have to establish how much they really do like you, before you let them have their way. Some boys will play with your feelings; but that's only if you make it too easy for them to do it.
If he acted like it never happened, it's because he doesn't want everybody to know about it. He's still an immature knuckle-headed kid. Don't let any boy hurt your feelings too much. Boys can be mean or stupid, but girls are smarter and more mature than boys at your age.
You feelings are hurt and you're embarrassed; but you'll be fine, sweetheart.
Be brave and show him you're just fine; and you can get over what he did.
If you're going to do grownup things like making-out; then you'll have to handle it like a grownup.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 April 2016):
 I don't think he likes you. He's taking advantage of the fact that you like him. He told you he like you so he could get a make out session, to see what it feels like. He is such a coward, and I hope you don't count that as a first kiss. It should be with someone special. Next time, make sure it's more than just like. Take the time to get to know someone, so you can weed out losers and those who just want to experiment.
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