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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 14 March 2016: You are him and mismatched. Likely having a love hate relationship. You fully know what he dislikes. Rather than asking him why he can't enjoy a private strip show from his girlfriend, you kept on doing it, expecting a different result. Maybe he's ... (read in full...)
Love or Money? Which relationship would I be more happy in?
Q. I'm torn apart between 2 ridiculous factors: Love and money. At the same time, I'm torn between two guys that I'm currently dating in my life since the end of last year. (Not in an official relationship with any of them) They are both really...
A. 13 March 2016: I know that there are many international marriages in Singapore. Mostly women from poorer Asian countries trying to get a better life. I am guessing the trend is that Singapore men want the docile, submissive, helpless women and your women seem too ... (read in full...)
He has a new girlfriend, so what does he want from me?
Q. Hello everyone. A little back story, my boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 4 months now. The break up was a lot harder on me than him because he is the one who broke up with me, and told me he didn't feel the same about me anymore. It was ...
A. 13 March 2016: Well, it's not up to him to decide isn't it? Sometimes you only know a man's true character once you broke up. If you keep in touch with him, your purpose in his life is to provide the wonderful feeling that he can get his cake and eat it too, the ... (read in full...)
He seemed like a good guy. Now it's pretty much nothing. Why?
Q. I was dating this guy casually for a few months and he was really in to me. He would text me every day and ask to see me every couple of days. He'd talk to me constantly and then one weekend I was too busy to go to one of his parties and suddenly...
A. 12 March 2016: I wouldn't say someone who's causally for a few months is into you. I would be yawning and losing interest. I think he could be dating a few people at the time, and is really good at making it sound like he's into people, such as using sweet words. ... (read in full...)
Is this friends with benefits or what?
Q. Hey everyone, im going to try and make this as short as possible. I’m 22 and I recently got out of the most horrible relationship I have ever been in 7 months ago. I started talking to this guy in September we have hung out a few times since th...
A. 12 March 2016: Friends with benefits is anyone who you would not consider getting in a relationship with, introduce to family and friends with. People have their styles and act differently. Some are cold, and some are more affectionate. I've had a guy who would ... (read in full...)
Can I learn to be a sexual 'sub'? The man I love is ending our relationship because he doesn't think so!
Q. My boyfriend just ended our relationship and I am devastated. He really was my best friend and in my whole life I have never met anyone on my wavelength like that. The reason, he said, he ended it is that he is into bdsm in a big way and is ...
A. 11 March 2016: I disagree that bdsm is a sexual orientation. If that was true, he would not have been attracted to you in the first place. People don't wait until the relationship is established then say you are not the one. If he knew all the time that he's a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's unrelentless questions about my past are causing so much trouble!
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and have always been honest about each others past as trust and being honest is the key to a stable relationship, right? I thought so. Before knowing my now boyfriend, I used to go to parti...
A. 11 March 2016: Some guys think of relationships as an effort to get affections, and not something they really want to be in. If women have a beauty standard that's often on the magazine covers, men's standard is to be the guy who can hook up with any women just ... (read in full...)
Ex partner is a born again Christian now and I am scared of our daughters upbringing
Q. Hello everyone, Can anyone please give me some advice on how to deal with bringing up my 2 year old daughter with my ex partner who is now an evangelist born again Christian. Before we split up I was with him for years and he hated all forms...
A. 10 March 2016: I have to say first that most Christians are good and kind hearted. Some sects are quite fanatic such as they don't believe in receiving medical care, believing God will take care of them. In reality, many people died unnecessarily before medical ... (read in full...)
I’m troubled by my boyfriend’s sexual past! Please help.
Q. Hi Dear Cupid community, I've been dating a wonderful guy for about 9 months. But for nearly 6 months, I've been struggling to get over his sexual past. We briefly discussed our sexual pasts in the beginning of the relationship and I mentioned that ...
A. 9 March 2016: I am no prude, but threesome with a cousin and a girl is just disgusting. He didn't keep it to himself. He had to tell his best friend too. I have heard many date set ups by friends here, and none of them were successful, more like, "what are you ... (read in full...)
Was my ex right for gettigng upset with me? We've broken up
Q. Hi guys! I know your probably bored of me now after asking previous questions so apologies if you are. I am still quite distraught about whats happened between me and my ex (Please read my other posts if you don't know some of the situation). ...
A. 9 March 2016: I am a teetotaler not just by choice but because my body can't break down alcohol. Even my son, who's 10 has a higher tolerance than me. Still, I would not grab a drink from someone. Unless I am dealing with addicts then I would really cry as it's ... (read in full...)
I checked boyfriend's ipad and found very hurtful things he told a friend when we were having problems. How do I move on?
Q. Hello this may seem long but I need some advice, last august me and my boyfriend of just under a year had sex, the condom split, I went to the Drs and got the morning after pill which I was told is 99% effective, turns out it didnt work and I fell ...
A. 9 March 2016: I get the feelings of both of you are valid. You had a string of unfortunate events when in fact neither of you had done anything wrong. He used a condom and as extra precaution you used plan B. The only extra option was the birth control. I felt if ... (read in full...)
My husband calling me fat after a baby is not cool!
Q. My husband is appearing to be non supportive and loving after I had a baby. What kills me is that he is constantly acting like he is obsessed with every beautiful woman he comes across. I feel left out in the beautiful woman praise because he ...
A. 8 March 2016: I don't think this has to do with love, attraction and your looks. For some reason he wants to live in the USA and he latched on to you. Having a baby has nothing to do with love either. He's taking advantage of the fact that the baby needs a father ... (read in full...)
Do people still fall in love these days or is that an outdated concept?
Q. What is everyone's opinion on this? Since I'm back in the dating world, I have to say that it's a real cesspool out there. Everyone seems a bit jaded, and women put up these walls and hurdles that you have to jump through in order crack thei...
A. 8 March 2016: We are not reverting back to anything. We are in an age of electronics, media and artificial pleasure and enhancements. There were bitter women and promiscuous women in the 80's. It's just that all of us, no matter how happy or sad we are, are free ... (read in full...)
I've decided to give my ex another chance. Do I cancel the date I had scheduled with another guy?
Q. Tonight Me and my (ex) boyfriend have decided to give it another go, we broke up a few weeks ago but stayed friends. he was scared about moving forward . my friend is on a dating site and knows hes on there too ( he hasnt deleted his profile ). ( he ...
A. 7 March 2016: That's the thing with taking exes back. You will never be 100% sure about other guys. If you say to your ex, "screw you," then you would not have this problem. When people are young, then I can give them an excuse like, "okay, they are young, they ... (read in full...)
Is making me go home after our third date a red flag?
Q. Ladies,reconnected with a old girlfriend from four years ago, three dates, second date, amazing sex, but she wouldn't let me stay the night,third date great time out dancing, went to her condo, brought Chinese, watched a good movie,one thirty,had ...
A. 6 March 2016: Honey pie thought cowboy, I think Owen Wilson.
You are someone who jumps from relationship to relationship without taking breaks. You attract the same. The kind of women who are scared of taking the leap then when they want you again, you alre... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from him, after giving him signs I like him. I don't want to waste my time, what do I do?
Q. About a month ago I met this guy at a conference. He was in my committee and he was very friendly, we ended up hanging out for four days. He was really friendly, a little touchy, always wanted to seat next to me. Basically there were little signs ...
A. 6 March 2016: You both showed some signs of liking each other, but not enough to actually date and disrupt the existing friendship. You weren't interested in him initially maybe that's why you set him up with another girl. Then you warmed up to each other and got ... (read in full...)
Is flirting cheating?
Q. Where do I begin? Basically I am a flirty person by nature, and I never really had a problem with that, I have my fun, mess around, and never really have anything that lasts. However, just over a year ago now I met a girl who I really fell for. We ...
A. 6 March 2016: Before anything I would say I would not risk my heart with you. If your past relationships never went anywhere, your flirting was the problem and no girl would allow it to get to the point of cheating. Now I get to the technicals. For me, cheating ... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend has gone to Canada for the weekend. Should I be mad that he did this?
Q. So I've been with my bf of and on for the past two years he is 28 I am 32. Recently things have been really progressing with us it's been good. He has told me that he has wanted to take a trip to Canada and for financial reasons I am just strapped...
A. 6 March 2016: Most people, especially women, would feel hurt for no reason in an on and off relationship. There's nothing to be bad about, the fact that he went to Canada without you. The question might be, what's he doing up there that could be causing you ... (read in full...)
Do we just need a break from one another?
Q. Hi All, I've recently noticed a pull away from my boyfriend of 3 months. We've known each other (and have had a thing, for about 6 months). He's my neighbor in my dorm-so or anything were to happen it would be super awkward. He's been super bu...
A. 5 March 2016: Sometimes we can lose ourselves in relationships, that's especially so for people who don't socialise often and only have one or two good friends. The introverted types also live their lives internally and need to understand everything thoroughly. ... (read in full...)
Why did he just vanish like that and dealing with rejection
Q. I was kind of seeing this guy until about a month ago and it's now been a month since we saw each other (he was out of town for a couple of weeks in that time). I know if he wanted to see me he would make it happen so I'm just wondering how it can ...
A. 5 March 2016: He probably did feel you were out of his league and therefore wanted to be with a girl he feels more comfortable with. He could have vanished for many reasons. Many people on dating sites are on there, while they are not even ready for relationships ... (read in full...)
A young pretty woman gets special attention whenever she has a maintenance problem. Do I tell his wife about this? How do I address it?
Q. I work as an maintenance assistant for a local housing association. In the office we deal with tenants on daily basis for repairs. Most of them get turned away unless it is serious or have to wait a few days for the repair. However there is a female ...
A. 5 March 2016: I would just tell the boss that he's playing favorites and that's not fair for the other tenants. There's no way to prove if they are having an affair. A man does not have to get sex to want to help someone out. Single moms attract a lot of ... (read in full...)
I'm not looking forward to any more trips with my partner's mom after this last one
Q. I'd really like your advice.. My partner and I enjoy taking holidays when we can - tramping and taking long walks and generally exploring new places together. A few years ago was the last overseas trip we took. We're home owners now so i...
A. 5 March 2016: I don't think the money comments were directed at you, but rather, she is generous with money. Maybe she feels that if she pitches in, then her son is more likely to agree to bring her on trips. She doesn't want to feel like a financial burden.
I... (read in full...)
How do I get past my fears that he might not be ready to settle?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. We met on our first day moving into our university's campus accommodation, and fell for each other quickly. We decided to be "officially" a couple after 6 weeks and we've been quite inseparable ...
A. 5 March 2016: A person coming from a small town has a different mentality. If he's like people I know, who grew up in towns that are under the population of 10000 and had never travelled. It's very different if you had been to other places and can easily get ... (read in full...)
I just need to understand, what am I supposed to do after I let him in and now he's cutting me out!
Q. I guess I'm just a little lost... ok this is going to sound really bad and yes I know I screwed up by even going there in the first place but I need a little help. I was working for a company for over a year when they decided to move me to anoth...
A. 5 March 2016: I think he's someone who balks whenever something gets serious so he has to "protect himself" by venturing into something new. Like hitting the reset button. I bet it's nothing like she's fitter therefore she's better than you. It's more like he ... (read in full...)
I feel I need to discuss the contact my girlfriend had with my best friend while I was away, in order to rebuild trust!
Q. When I was overseas last year my best friend began texting my girlfriend and making excuses to call around and visit, they both didn't tell me at the time, just before I got back my gf told me about it, she said some texts where inappropriate ...
A. 5 March 2016: She told you to stop dwelling in the past. Well the problem is still in the present because she was supposed to cut him off altogether. That means no texting back and forth, and asking for favours, even friendly ones. I surely would not want to ask ... (read in full...)
Why why do girls dump guys who treat a girl like an angel?
Q. I wonder why ladies, I never hear a woman, talk about them dumping a nice guy, on here. I here all the time,How they get hurt, by the guy who treated them bad. It does happen all the time, a guy treats a woman fantastic. Then a woman, breaks t...
A. 3 March 2016: "dancing, shopping, movies, nice places to eat , taking walks holding hands,open car doors ,"
These things don't invoke a woman's passion, or make a pussy wet. They just ensure that a woman is respected and well taken care of. Women are attr... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's fear of commitment normal or something we should both be concerned about?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year. It's the deepest connection I've ever felt with someone and he feels the same. Like puzzle pieces fitting together. But my other half is scared of commitment. As he puts it, half the time he...
A. 1 March 2016: I think the wisest thing to do is to just nod and acknowledge what he's saying without adding your input. Normally this is going to make you worry and overthink. He's open and honest enough to share this with you. So if you show your supportive side ... (read in full...)
Communication issues with my 21 year old partner. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
Q. Hi So i'm getting pretty desperate for someone to talk to about my relationship problems, and i've put off asking for help so many times because there's so much that needs including in the explanation that you would end up reading an essay. So ...
A. 28 February 2016: You can't say yes just based on the fact that he's lovely. A husband needs so much more than being lovely. Still, being denied a proposal is very hurtful. If a woman just says yes to avoid drama, then there would be many divorce cases few years ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on what to do about my Bf who stares at women too often and for too long?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years we have a baby girl together. The problem is everywhere we go he stares at other women and it makes me feel so unattractive and unwanted, as he never shows me any affection nor love. Nor tells ...
A. 28 February 2016: Men always want something to look at. After three years, it would be impractical to ask him to stare at you that way, for a long time. You would just ask him "why are you looking at me like that?" If you confront him about looking at other women, he ... (read in full...)
He says I lack spontaneity. I hate lies. He lied to his family. Was my reaction right or wrong?
Q. Dear friends, I've just had a stupid argument with my husband. We made up, but I would still like to hear your opinions as I strongly believe that I am right. Here's what happened. I hate lying. But, I agreed to support him with this particul...
A. 28 February 2016: Anyone would have replied like you did. There are many 30 year olds that secretly want to behave like teenagers again. Just like at some Adam Sandler or Will Ferrell movies then you will understand what I mean. The kind of humor he was trying to ... (read in full...)
How do I find enjoyment in life?
Q. How can I find enjoyment in life? People say find a hobby, but I don't seem to want to do anything. I feel that feeling passionate about anything at all could help me pass the time but I can't find anything remotely interesting. Every day I just ...
A. 27 February 2016: Sounds like you are going through a quarter life crisis or the dark night of the soul. You think all life moments should be happy? That we should be constantly on the go? Happiness and sadness go hand in hand. Why force yourself to be happy? ... (read in full...)
Should I be this unsettled about the fact he still has a key to the family home? He's separated from his wife.
Q. My new boyfriend of three months is separated after a 20 year marriage ended six months ago. They outgrew each other and there is no love lost for either of them. A divorce and house sale are going through amicably. He rents a flat near his wi...
A. 27 February 2016: Many divorced men would admit they still love their ex wives. That's what I have a problem with. If you are the same way, a divorcee just looking for companionship, vacations and fun together then you are on the same level. To want more than this ... (read in full...)
Should I continue a relationship with someone who doesn't want children?
Q. I am currently at crossroads in my life. I found a guy I truly love and loves me for who I am. We seem to be made for each other. In fact, I feel that we are soul mates if not for one terrible flaw in him. He hates children! I have seen the wa...
A. 27 February 2016: Growing up means you pay your bills, take care of household chores, and be able to handle your emotions and communicate well. Unfortunately wanting children does not fall into one of those. There are many parents who were enthusiastic about having ... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person, for now just wanting to have casual sex since a breakup?
Q. I have recently been dumped by my boyfriend of three years and I'm relieved about it as he didn't treat me very well and did some things that were awful by anyone's standards. But I'm having a bit of a freak out thinking I will always just give ...
A. 27 February 2016: I felt that way when I was 28-30 and had a full year of casual sex experience and that's all I needed. I've been with quite a few characters, and learned their life stories and how they ended up in a casual dating site. If that's what you want now, ... (read in full...)
Why why do girls dump guys who treat a girl like an angel?
Q. I wonder why ladies, I never hear a woman, talk about them dumping a nice guy, on here. I here all the time,How they get hurt, by the guy who treated them bad. It does happen all the time, a guy treats a woman fantastic. Then a woman, breaks t...
A. 27 February 2016: It's the same thing with men. A lot of players get that way because they got played by women. So they decide they are not going to love but just take what women have to offer.
I applaud you for keep being nice because if you turn into a player that... (read in full...)
Would it be crazy to leave my husband who gives me everything for a man who couldn't give me what I have?
Q. I really need some advice.... Firstly what I'm about to admit is horrible - I'm not here for sympathy or understanding and I know I'm completely 100% in the wrong and nobody could be more disgusted with me than I am. I married my long term boy...
A. 27 February 2016: My mom had an emotional affair with a married man oceans away. Same problems such as having nothing to talk about at home and feeling the outside one is the soulmate. The difference though, is that this other guy had money and he was ready to take ... (read in full...)
I am on the verge of being divorced over a dog! Dog left me for the dog!
Q. My husband and I have been together for 2.5 years and married for 5 months. Our relationship was picture perfect. No arguments, completely devoted to each other etc. Not to mention he stepped up and has been a father to my 2 kids from a previous ...
A. 26 February 2016: It's been 2 days now. No contact from your husband? He must be suffering with that poor dog. Imagine the pee and poo in a smaller house and his furniture being chewed up. He's living in fantasy if he feels he can live with a dog that he only wants ... (read in full...)
What did my ex girlfriend mean by this statement?
Q. For starters, I am aware that I need to move on and stop obsessing over my ex, but there are some things that still confound me to this day. I wonder if she ever really loved me or if she loved how I made her feel instead. Understand what I'm ...
A. 26 February 2016: How about you be a constantly plugged in battery so that no matter what kind of woman you meet, you always have love in you, and that the success of a relationship does not define your worth. If you love yourself and are happy no matter what, then ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: Why is posting photos on the internet worse than watching porn? Well for centuries women are possessions. They stay inside, men go outside and do whatever they want. Women were the ones who got their feet bounded or their clits mutilated. Today many ... (read in full...)
I'm worried my girlfriend might have cheated on me but I'm afraid to know
Q. I don't know if my girlfriend cheated on me, and I'm scared to find out. About a month or so ago, my girlfriend of about 6 months went on vacation to her home town with her family, which happens to be where her ex lives. He's an old friend of he...
A. 24 February 2016: She's not mature enough for marriage. She's using her ex to make you jealous and as a catalyst to goad you into marrying her. Well you backfire this on her and tell her to marry her ex and leave you alone then. No need for this drama about cheating. ... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend secure? She's heard my ex is now free and is acting strange
Q. My life is like a soap opera and I don't know what to do about. A girlfriend breaks up with me. I try to reconcile, but she's with someone else so I move on. I am still in a little pain or rebounding, but I began a new relationship with another ...
A. 24 February 2016: I won't say it's your fault but it's a consequence of dating too soon when you were still hurting. Only time will make your girlfriend more secure. Maybe she had an ex who betrayed her by going back to his ex. If that's the case it's her own problem ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: The direct parallel is that she watches porn also, then you are both even. Since she knows that you won't be upset if she watches porn, she decides to do something that would really get to you.
She's upset about porn because she feels compared to t... (read in full...)
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