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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: Why is posting photos on the internet worse than watching porn? Well for centuries women are possessions. They stay inside, men go outside and do whatever they want. Women were the ones who got their feet bounded or their clits mutilated. Today many ... (read in full...)
How can I make my girlfriend secure? She's heard my ex is now free and is acting strange
Q. My life is like a soap opera and I don't know what to do about. A girlfriend breaks up with me. I try to reconcile, but she's with someone else so I move on. I am still in a little pain or rebounding, but I began a new relationship with another ...
A. 24 February 2016: I won't say it's your fault but it's a consequence of dating too soon when you were still hurting. Only time will make your girlfriend more secure. Maybe she had an ex who betrayed her by going back to his ex. If that's the case it's her own problem ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 24 February 2016: The direct parallel is that she watches porn also, then you are both even. Since she knows that you won't be upset if she watches porn, she decides to do something that would really get to you.
She's upset about porn because she feels compared to t... (read in full...)
She said she didn't want to hang out any more and I'm scared! A part of me wants to make some gestures so she knows how much I care!
Q. So I'll start first by stating that some of my friends and even adults while growing up have asked me again and again if i had ASD (Asperger's Syndrome Disorder) though i never saw any professionals growing up (they say it shows vividly in my ...
A. 24 February 2016: Some people just want to have a relationship for the sake of having it, but not serious about their intentions. Just like people want to wear a wedding ring because it's beautiful and it shows status, but they don't really appreciate the daily grind ... (read in full...)
She said she didn't want to hang out any more and I'm scared! A part of me wants to make some gestures so she knows how much I care!
Q. So I'll start first by stating that some of my friends and even adults while growing up have asked me again and again if i had ASD (Asperger's Syndrome Disorder) though i never saw any professionals growing up (they say it shows vividly in my ...
A. 23 February 2016: Did you make up with your ex gf or you just remained friends?
You can't do the same thing with friends and with girlfriends. How is it different? With friends, it's more relaxed and you don't have to worry about playing games. In the dating worl... (read in full...)
My actions drove hime away. What can I do?
Q. Hey guys. I complain about cheating in relationship, but I'm the one who cheated. I was a nympho until I met this person who I really love. I changed for him, and we lived happily until the troubles started to appear between us. I began to tal...
A. 22 February 2016: People don't just go cheat because there are troubles in the relationship. Or because they have a high sex drive. Usually it's because they have self esteem issues or have an excessive need for male approval and attention. You can say you love him ... (read in full...)
How do I handle her confession?
Q. Hello, I've known this girl from college for a few years and she and I gradually became a little closer over time. She has a boyfriend for 4 years and I respect that and I did not want to pursue a relationship with her anyway. We were friendly an...
A. 22 February 2016: She just wanted to let it of her chest. Maybe in the future if you meet again, you are both single, you can use her crush as a reason and basis to start a relationship. But you don't have to do anything besides feeling flattered. The point is you ... (read in full...)
Is this guy telling me lies?
Q. There's this guy I'm really close with, and he told me he had a gf when I asked. After that I kind of stopped talking to him (Maybe due to this but also because he had an exam coming up and I didn't want to bother him) Then 5 months later when we ...
A. 22 February 2016: Whether he's telling lies, he's not worth your time. There are two possibilities.
He feels that lying about having a girlfriend would make him more attractive. It's like his status is upped, because he's worthy of a relationship. Also lots of girl... (read in full...)
Is this a good sign or does she think I'm not well dressed?
Q. I was on a second date recently. We both travelled into town together to see a show. We had a really good time and after the show we had some time to kill before the train back home arrived. We decided to take a look at a fashionable new store that ...
A. 21 February 2016: I think it's a good sign. She's comfortable enough to share fashion sense with you. It's the friendliness of playing dress up. Some guys actually appreciate if women can give them suggestions what to wear. ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting with my fiance's behavior?
Q. Okay so a little background, we have been going out for three years, engaged for six months and getting married next year. We do have a great relationship and I know he is the one for me. We do have our small arguments like every other couple. ...
A. 19 February 2016: He does not show the same enthusiasm for your weight loss goal. He was also tired and did not feel like talking. Maybe he feels support is when you are sick, when a family dies, but not when you are taking a weight loss class.
Maybe there's a bett... (read in full...)
I feel like his mom always comes first!
Q. Please can I have advice on how to deal with my husband and his mother, she has always been very reliant on him but in the last few months since he became a house husband, he spends all his time on the phone to her and going round to her (she lives ...
A. 18 February 2016: There are times when moms get clingy towards their sons. When sons first reaching manhood and start dating, when they get divorced, when their husbands die, when they are sick and when they know they don't have many more years to live. Given her age ... (read in full...)
Am I silly for being disappointed and upset that my much richer boyfriend got me absolutely nothing for Valentine's Day?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for close to two years. I am upset , disappointed he didn't get my anything for Valentine's Day. I got him a cute bag with his favorite candy , card , along with shoes. I would of been happy with a thoughtful ...
A. 18 February 2016: I would be hurt and disappointed if your being giftless was a sign that he fell out of love, or simply didn't want to put in any effort, if at all during the year. I would not be if he's one of those guys who hate Valentine's day. And that he only ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I don't fit in with the crowd
Q. I'm a really social person, and I've always tried to chat with girls who are at my lecture. They are basically a group of girls, and they are just not my type, but i have no choice or else I'll just end up alone. I do have lots of other friends but ...
A. 17 February 2016: Girls are rude to you because they have mistaken that you thought you are better than them. You are approachable by guys so it's possible you are a boyfriend stealer. There's a segregation of men and women. It doesn't have to be like in Arab ... (read in full...)
Is this what I have on offer? That, if he doesn't find someone else, he'll "settle" for me?
Q. I really need help getting over an ex. I don't know what's wrong with me or why I can't let him go. We were great in the beginning, I really thought I had found the one I was meant to be with for life. Then my issues of insecurity came up and he b...
A. 17 February 2016: I don't think there's anything wrong with your self esteem, or that you are not good enough for him. Quite the opposite. He's being ridiculous and you kind or refuse to believe that the "one for life" suddenly turned into a selfish, a liar and ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to want sex with my ex- lover?
Q. Sex with ex- what is wrong with me! We both know this 'relationship' will not progress beyond sexual stuff. So why do I crave sex with him? Will it fizzle out on its own? Will it hinder my meeting someone new that I can build a future with? Saw him ...
A. 16 February 2016: You are not crazy, just finding it hard to let go of him forever because it's hard to start anew with nothing. It's not technically wrong to have sex until you find someone you like. Your ex might fake wanting a relationship just so that any new ... (read in full...)
Does my friend really love me?
Q. Sorry it's a long post, but I am really confused and need some help. A friend of mine told me last year that he loved me. I told him clearly that I felt only friendship about him. We went out later, got a bit drunk and we kissed each other. Life...
A. 15 February 2016: He loves the challenge that you are not easy and the romantic ideals of pursuing. One should back off when heard "we are just friends." The mistake here was you went to drink with him and kissed him. That's where the mixed signals came from. You ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like I'm a difficult person?
Q. I wrote some months back about my relationship, and whether I should keep going and continue to try, or that was it. Here is the link: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/without-passion-is-it-worth-it.html I appreciate all your answers to my fi...
A. 15 February 2016: You could have also bounced it back to him and say he's particular because he wants to go to the gym during the day time. Maybe he's not a morning person and at night he feels tired. To make an issue out of this signifies that he's the difficult ... (read in full...)
How do I know the girl I met on European dating site is for real?
Q. Hi, I am an American man in my early 40s. I joined a European dating site 4 or 5 months ago out of curiosity. I've never been married, never related so well to Americans. Always liked Europeans more. I am employed but shy, never so good with wom...
A. 13 February 2016: You may have to travel there to find out. Think of it as a vacation if you don't come home feeling that she can be your wife. You can get a feel of her and listen to her play her instrument. However if you are just "curious" about that dating site ... (read in full...)
I'd like to get to know my biological father but I know it will upset my mom and possibly him and his family too
Q. this is sort of the confusing story but I will do the best I can.I had a baby 2 years ago by a boyfriend I had been dating for 2 years before that. my mom my adopted father liked him ok, but they really didn't like me having a boyfriend because my ...
A. 12 February 2016: You have a right to know your biological father, and when he dies you have a right to his legacy. You don't need their permission to go search for you dad. You also have the right to collect child support from your on and off boyfriend. Talk to your ... (read in full...)
When do you tell a guy you are a virgin?
Q. Hello, first time poster. I keep having a problem here and I guess my main question is when do you tell a guy you are a virgin? I oviously shouldn't shake a boy's hand and say, "hi, I'm Carey and I'm a virgin." but a lot of boys, after I have been ...
A. 11 February 2016: First of all, when you are dating you don't ever tell people they are a waste of time. It's impolite and not good dating etiquette. Dating is a time to find out whether you are a match. Everyone involved would spend time and there is risk involved. ... (read in full...)
Would I be better off on my own?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and have two small kids a baby and a 2 year old, lately it seems like we just talk bout the kids or house, I feel like I do everything with the kids on my own he works long hours but would never help ...
A. 11 February 2016: He's not your husband, just a partner, so maybe that's why you would even think about being on your own. When people form a forever commitment, they work things out, and they would understand that a relationship doesn't fall apart because one person ... (read in full...)
How does he get away with cheating and then get the perfect girl and relationship and I'm left looking like the big bad wolf.
Q. I'm probably going to get a lot of hate over this but this is why I'm writing, for help and advice. Around 19 months ago I had an affair with a guy 11 years younger than myself who was in a relationship with an extremely beautiful girl a...
A. 11 February 2016: You need to realize you can't control the outcome of things outside of yourself. Throughout the 19 months you've been waiting for things to go down south with them, but it didn't. They moved on because she decides to forgive him. You both cheated ... (read in full...)
Is it a turn off if a girl has a very high sex drive?
Q. Hi all, I have a slightly weird question. I'm 18 and have a very high sex drive, I have a boyfriend if 4 months and he is now realising how horny I am. At the minute he seems fine with it but Id just like to ask is it a turnoff? I'm literally ...
A. 10 February 2016: It's normal to have a high sex drive. Having a high sex drive does not define you. Also your body goes through stages and there will be ebbs and flows in your libido. It's also very common that at the beginning of your relationship you are excited ... (read in full...)
My younger husband likes to tell me that no one else will have me because I'm older
Q. I am older than my husband. Every time me and my controlling abusive husband have an argument he will say no one else will have me as I am old ( early forties, which no one believes my age) and will use a load of vulgar language towards me. I have ...
A. 10 February 2016: If he's in custody because he abused you, he shouldn't be your husband anymore. Divorce him and arrange separate living arrangements. He will just get angrier once he's out of prison. He's not demeaning you because he's telling the truth. He's just ... (read in full...)
Does being friends with benefits ever work out?
Q. I am a 42 year old single man. One of my best friends is a 33 year old single woman. We have never been romantic in any way but recently my friend told me in a joking way that she would give me oral sex if I took care of some things around her hous...
A. 10 February 2016: If her pain was caused by a bad relationship or she is generally a sensitive person, then it will probably not work out. Back in her head she could sense that you are not really boyfriend material but her ego couldn't take it if you treat her in a ... (read in full...)
Are the scenes of sexual romance real?
Q. Are guys in relationships always tryna fuck? Are the scenes of sexless romance real? I ask this cause I'm separated from my ex but we still live together. We are focused on our separate goals and have agreed we don't want to give romantically to the ...
A. 9 February 2016: I asked guys if they hurt when they are having erections. General answer is that they don't, they enjoy that sensation. When guys badger you for sex, it's not that they need it every single time. Boys get horny starting at around 15. By the time ... (read in full...)
Do I throw away a 3 year relationship based on a "gut feeling" my BF is cheating on me?
Q. Please help me. I cannot live this way anymore. I am on the verge of throwing away an almost 3 year relationship with a man I love and adore because of a "gut feeling" he is cheating. How do I deal with this? I am right at the edge. I hav...
A. 9 February 2016: It's horrible to live in anxiety. I've done it, when I was in an on and off relationship with no sense of security. I give a lot of advice to people, but never to myself when I needed it. I've had sleepless nights, nightmares, panic attacks 5 years ... (read in full...)
How do I break my luck with women?
Q. Is it possible to be happy with your life as a man and be a virgin? I feel like I have a cloud over my life because women dont find me attractive enough to have sex with. I've tried many ways to improve my confidence and it all seems to be temp...
A. 9 February 2016: Sexual attraction is not so black and white. It ranges from total disgust, can do, lukewarm attraction, wanting to make love, wanting to have sex regularly for health, to make each other happy, and finally just have to have sex because of instinct, ... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to force my wife to talk about a 2 year affair she had years ago? We never talked about it and she doesn't want to now
Q. Ladies....Do you think its worth trying to insist that my wife and i talk about a two year affair that she had MANY years ago, that at the time, we never really did talk about,other than me telling her to end it or else it was going to be the end ...
A. 9 February 2016: When you married her, it's assumed that you make promises that you've forgiven her and would not talk about the past again. You can promise people you won't cheat, you won't watch porn, but it's impossible to promise you won't ever feel a resentful ... (read in full...)
I am happy and don't want negativity from family to ruin it!
Q. I am 28 years old women with no children. Well established in my career. My parents recently divorced so I moved back home to help my mother maintain bills. My love life hadn’t been much of anything because past relationships just didn’t work out. ...
A. 8 February 2016: I don't come from a place of negativity but I will say you need to think it through carefully. You dated for a few months and then already you are trying for a baby. Before having children it's better to be certain that you would be in each other's ... (read in full...)
I worry he may still be wanting his ex!
Q. Dear cupid, i feel hurt and confused sometimes, it's the first i fall inlove with a guy i like we were friends untill he asked me to be he's girlfriend ,he is everything i ever wanted ,we agreed on honesty so he wanted to tell me what happend with ...
A. 8 February 2016: I assume when she got sick after fighting with him, she was somewhat mentally sick, not just having physical symptoms like an acidic stomach or headaches. It's very stressful to be with someone who can't handle arguments and talk like an adult. So ... (read in full...)
I'm not his type, so what do I do?
Q. I like this guy at school and he seems to like me too. However when I went to his social media accounts all I saw are girls that he 'liked' and retweeted that look nothing like me. I am black, short ~5'3, 114 pds, (pretty-so I've been told), avg ...
A. 8 February 2016: You can be your own star with your own page. Glam up with makeup but not wearing clothing that's too revealing. Not saying that's what you should do. But if you had done this you would get likes too. It doesn't have to mean a guy wants to date you ... (read in full...)
Older sister is turning family wedding into kids talent show as a surprise for the bride!
Q. I'm in a really awkward situation with my sisters at the moment and I don't know what to do without upsetting one of them. My twin sister, Natalie, is getting married this year and my older sister, Joanne, thought it would be a nice idea if her...
A. 8 February 2016: Nathalie needs to talk to Jo. She should plan for events. Timing can be tight and you want the best performers there. Jo may think, it's a maximum 8 minutes for two songs. That shouldn't be a problem to squeeze those two in. She will be surprised, ... (read in full...)
Mixed messages from a miss with a long distance love
Q. Hello, There is this woman that just moved to the area that I haven't seen in 20 years. When she found out I was here I was told that she was so excited. She pretty much remember me just like that but it took me a minute to remember her. So as time...
A. 8 February 2016: "Are you attracted to me?" That's not a simple innocent question like "do you like the color red or blue?". It implies you want to go further with the person. Being in a relationship it doesn't mean you can't be attracted to other people and have ... (read in full...)
After dating six months we don't seem to be moving forward
Q. Hi, i feel just despair at the moment. My partner (we do not live together) is 13 years younger than me. We see each other most days and speak on the phone 3 to 4 times a day. we should have gone on holiday but he became very ill and the doctor s...
A. 8 February 2016: His health is an issue, not that he doesn't see you as a life partner. He doesn't want to disappoint you and he doesn't know if he can recover from his illness. It could be a chronic thing. He could be lying in bed a lot when you both should be ... (read in full...)
Is this man a rogue?
Q. Hi all. Ive just met a guy from my co worker. This guy was accompanying a family to collect something at my work place, so the guy got attracted over me but couldnt come and tell me cause i was very busy then he begged my co worker to give me his ...
A. 7 February 2016: Rogue or not, this guy is unreliable. There's a few possibilities he didn't call you back. His mom or ex couldn't look after the kids. His mom warned him, if he has money, it should be for the kids, not another woman. Kids first she says. Or he ... (read in full...)
Older men are my weakness. Should I be worried?
Q. Why am I attracted to older men? I have have dated men my own age but I feel nothing. I have had two serious relationships one with my ex' who was 38 and I was 20 and I was head over heels for him. Then 1 year later I met my Daughter's father who...
A. 7 February 2016: Crushing on people is fine. You don't have to act out your feelings. Not all older guys are bad and use younger women to boost their ego or to prove they still have "it." Most unhealthy relationships today are of people who take value from a certain ... (read in full...)
I've changed my mind about children .....
Q. I made a deal with my husband before we got married in 2011. Back then I was young and immature. We considered each other soul mates. We both liked the care free lifestyle. Like playing video games, travelling and partying. We work in the gam...
A. 6 February 2016: I think there are more men like Denizen than men who absolutely don't want children, and sometimes that has nothing to do with maturity but a determined lifestyle. There are women who don't want children either. Some even have a more adverse ... (read in full...)
I really like her but she blows hot and cold!
Q. Hi everyone I need some advice. Last september i met a girl, we grew very close over a few weeks, she seemed very interested and i really started to like her. she then discovered she had to move away with her job and just changed overnight, becam...
A. 6 February 2016: She did not become cold to hurt you. She must have the same concerns as you do, about the distance and not knowing how many times you can travel back and forth. She was also busy with planning up and packing Maybe she talks to you now because she's ... (read in full...)
We broke up 2.5 weeks ago and he's already dating someone else. Was he cheating?
Q. I'm a 44 year old woman who was recently in a relationship with the man I planned to married. He is 47. We were in a serious relationship and were very much in love. We did everything together! He's never given me a reason to think that he was ...
A. 3 February 2016: Getting a new girlfriend does not mean he moved on. After we break up with someone we are actually in the most vulnerable state, perhaps desperate. The desperateness drives some people to go on a frantic search, maybe online. They say to themselves, ... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 3 February 2016: There are people who've had many partners and then one day decide to settle down. I don't like the fact that he mentioned he met bitches. You've only met two times so I feel it's too early to say negative things about women. If he met a lot of ... (read in full...)
I can't make sense of this sexual stuff!
Q. Hello everyone... first post here, wanting to discuss something thats been happening for a while now and have never had any input from anyone else on the subject due to it being a pretty embarrassing to say the least. Anyway i have been with m...
A. 31 January 2016: If I recount on my own abusive relationship more than a decade ago, there were indeed parts of it that I enjoyed. But overall it's a horrible experience. Maybe she said she enjoyed giving blow jobs to soften the trauma, when in fact it only reminded ... (read in full...)
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