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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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Should I marry him even though it would mean that I would be stuck in a life I would hate?
Q. Ive going to marry soon this year and im having dillema about my future. I think its normal to worry about my future life and im not telling or discussed this with anyone. Its making me depressed by the time pass and it keep worse. We have been t...
A. 12 April 2016: I would only live in a big house that's 2000 sq ft at least, anything smaller than that I would say no. You can even get a side by side house, or conjoined units so your fiancé isn't really leaving them. If your dad is fine with spending that money, ... (read in full...)
Life is flying by, do I take a chance or wait?
Q. Hi i joined a dating site 2 week ago and saw a guy i know of and on rare nights out over the years we have spoken and said hi to each other ive always had a liking of him , its been 4 years since i last spoke to him. I messaged him on this dating ...
A. 12 April 2016: If he lives faraway and that's why the dates in the past had been on and off, then no. If it's a case of, you happened to know him, but neither of you were ready for anything serious but you both felt a spark, and now you want to try it again ... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from my crush
Q. Hi everyone, sorry if this is a bit long. I am 21 year old gay man. Last year I dated this guy, and even tough we never made our relationship "official", I was very happy during the months we were together, I really tried my best to make it work,...
A. 12 April 2016: He wants a little bit more than nothing from you, and that's all he can handle. He needs you to be there to support him, to pick up pieces when he gets hurt or ignored by guys who are no good for him.
Talking to you and enjoying your company isn'... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's attitude towards my godchild turned me off. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We recently started talking about moving in together. I felt anxious about that cause although we get along very well, I still think we're in the "honeymoon" period or something. Any...
A. 12 April 2016: I think you have associated party types as absent parental beings and you worry your god child would suffer. It reminded the times when you and your father separated. When your boyfriend acted standoffish, it trigged the anxiety of being abandoned, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's attitude towards my godchild turned me off. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
Q. Hi everyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We recently started talking about moving in together. I felt anxious about that cause although we get along very well, I still think we're in the "honeymoon" period or something. Any...
A. 12 April 2016: I am not there to see the severity of his aversion to kid activities. He certainly does not hide his facial expressions and his dislikes. Either he chooses not to or has no self control or self awareness. The only credit I could give him is at least ... (read in full...)
What would keep you from being in a relationship?
Q. What's up guys, I've been away from here for almost a year but I've had something on my mind for quite a while that I'd like to here people's opinions on why they don't want to get into relationships. I've heard this from a large number of my fri...
A. 10 April 2016: If the question is what would keep me in a relationship, I would say it's an emotional need, a sense of belonging, that always trump the inconvenience of being in one. It's okay that people don't want to be in a relationship because time is not ... (read in full...)
He wants to move close to his baby mother! Am I overreacting?
Q. During a conversation with my boyfriend of 2 years, we were discussing areas of our city where we would like to live together. (We currently reside our parents) I told him that I wanted to live in a more central area where condos were being built ...
A. 10 April 2016: Some men pay exes' bills because they are not over them. Even though physically they can't be together, giving money is a way to get an emotional hold over them. His ex is lapping up the benefits of both men. Sexual ones from his boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
He wants to move close to his baby mother! Am I overreacting?
Q. During a conversation with my boyfriend of 2 years, we were discussing areas of our city where we would like to live together. (We currently reside our parents) I told him that I wanted to live in a more central area where condos were being built ...
A. 10 April 2016: I think he's too accommodating because in some ways his ex is manipulative. Maybe if he wasn't so nice then she would limit child visitation. Has he arranged child custody yet?
He knows he is short changing his girlfriend but is making you feel self... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has a small penis!
Q. My boyfriend is has a considerably small penis. When we have sex I'm unable to achieve an orgasm through penetration, only foreplay (oral, fingering) but I've never told him this in order not to hurt his feelings. We've been together for a little ...
A. 10 April 2016: Can he feel where your G spot is? I think even a 3 inch penis can hit that spot. It's not the frequency of the in an out but stimulating the right location. If fingering alone can produce a G spot orgasm then it wouldn't be too hard for a penis to ... (read in full...)
I don't love him the way I did before I met the other guy
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years now so last month he was acting up for me so I left him. He had started acting up in such a way that he was working so since when he was off from work he spent time with his family leaving me with ...
A. 10 April 2016: Maybe I need more information on how he's acting up. Why can't he visit his family and how often do you see each other now? You are infatuated with the older guy but it isn't love. What you are missing from your boyfriend is the initial stages of ... (read in full...)
What should I do so he could leave me alone without hurting his feelings?
Q. My ex and I broke up about a week or 2 ago because he felt as though we weren't "compatible". I ve been coping with it and I honestly don t want to talk to him nor see him because it makes getting over him easier. Ever since we broke up he s been ...
A. 8 April 2016: He wants to be ex with benefits. He obviously doesn't care if he hurt your feelings so do not care about his either. You need to be firm that you want either a full relationship or no contact. Do no settle for bits of cheap attention here or there.... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend be putting in more effort to see me?
Q. I have a general question about a relationship that I've been in for just over a year now. I love my boyfriend. We both have our ups and downs and have been working on creating an amazing relationship together as we love each other more than we've ...
A. 8 April 2016: He is a bit OCD but the upside is that if he like structure and routine, he feels only comfortable if he can see you few times a week, and he won't get bored of it. Only you can tell if you can accept his quirks. It won't be quite workable if one ... (read in full...)
I need my mother to understand why I want to move out!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 24, employed and living at home. I've been helping out with bills etc and when my mom told me she was buying a house with my stepfather I got concerned because I've been wanting to move out for ages. She doesn't make a lot and ...
A. 8 April 2016: Everything else you said besides you are not marrying your boyfriend yet are reasons why you are moving out. I am sure your mother is aware of your living situation now. If you have to explain this to her I wonder how much of a denial she is in. I ... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 8 April 2016: If she's jealous then she can't really be friends. She disregarded what you have by breaking up, using the reason that you both needed to be alone to date other people. Then she assumed that you would just wait on hand, pining for her to decide what ... (read in full...)
Am I in a position to help her? or should others advise her instead?
Q. I'm having a moral dilemma, me and my exgf broke up over a year ago, a few months ago we decided to be friends again since we shared the same group of friends. So I'm dating my current girlfriend for over 3 months now, I've made an effort for my c...
A. 8 April 2016: You still "love" her because you've never had sex with her and the break up was a blur. Don't mistaken that as her being special. Men often put women whom they never slept with on a pedestal. It's the unreachable, hard-to-get-ness that tricked you ... (read in full...)
Do I expose his lies or just blank him ?
Q. Hi everyone 4 week ago me and my ex decided to give our relationship another go he spun me lines and i fell for them. My friend is on a dating site and saw him on there so told me im glad she did , im tempted to message him and tell him liars al...
A. 8 April 2016: I don't think he would be very sorry when caught. He's just trying his luck with you. Exposing lies will not work in making people feel shameful when they grew up believing that lying is a way of life. He feels it doesn't work out with you, at least ... (read in full...)
What would keep you from being in a relationship?
Q. What's up guys, I've been away from here for almost a year but I've had something on my mind for quite a while that I'd like to here people's opinions on why they don't want to get into relationships. I've heard this from a large number of my fri...
A. 7 April 2016: I didn't mean for it to come out that way. I honestly feel that being responsible and having to pay bills sucks out our ability to love, and that's including myself. My point is that the effort that's required to sustain a relationship is too much ... (read in full...)
Should I let him do things his way? Or am I right in feeling this way about his reluctance to introduce my daughter to his family??
Q. Hello, I apologize for the novel and thank you in advance to those who take the time to read and offer any advice! I am a 24 yr old female with a daughter and have been in a relationship with 27yr old male for a little over a year and a half ...
A. 7 April 2016: What you are dealing with is fear and preconceived notions. No one is actually getting hurt. Your daughter is shielded from the knowledge that there are judgmental people who may look down on single parents and their children. A lot of parents have ... (read in full...)
Is it morally wrong, and selfish on my part to tell him how I feel, and tear him away from this woman?
Q. I dated a slightly older man for about a year and half until I left to finish my college education. We had decided to break what we had off since we weren't keen on the idea of a long distance relation ship and we had different goals to focus on...
A. 7 April 2016: Telling him how you feel does not guarantee that you can tear him away from his future wife, it only opens up the opportunity that he would use you for recreation sex. Especially when his wife is too tired from taking care of the baby. It does not ... (read in full...)
What would keep you from being in a relationship?
Q. What's up guys, I've been away from here for almost a year but I've had something on my mind for quite a while that I'd like to here people's opinions on why they don't want to get into relationships. I've heard this from a large number of my fri...
A. 7 April 2016: For me the issue is not cheating. I've never been cheated on. If I didn't want a relationship it's because it does not offer me enough benefits. Not enough men want them and the ones who can love in the genuine sense are the ambitionless, moneyless ... (read in full...)
She still wanted to spend time together but not romantically, so did I do the right thing in ending it?
Q. Did I do the right thing, an ex an me got back to get her, after four years she said at first let's have fun no commitment, I said ok,but we started shopping together movies going out dancing nice places to eat I was staying the nights, then after ...
A. 3 April 2016: I won't say it's impossible that your mom kissed you. With this woman, you did the right thing in ending it. No need to feel guilty or insert more reasons to justify. Nutty or not, she's just wasting your time. ... (read in full...)
How do I pursue this situation, she has 2 kids and divorced and I'll be leaving the country for a year?
Q. Quick background: I'm 25 years old, male. I've known this girl for about 10 years, since high school and she's always been my high school crush, way before I had my first girl girlfriend. She became my friend during early high school. After hi...
A. 3 April 2016: Don't base your decision on your nostalgic feelings for her. A lot happened during those 6-9. You may never know what would happen the year you would be out of the country. Her feelings for you are mainly influenced by the fact that now she needs a ... (read in full...)
Men, can you get past imperfections?
Q. I'm trying to not feel sorry for myself in this question but I'm having problems with my self esteem and I don't know what to do. I was taking a bath earlier and my boyfriend came in to the bathroom and he saw everything. I don't really like my s...
A. 3 April 2016: I don't think he went soft because of your stomach. I've had an emergency C section too and no one did that to me, and no one focused on my stomach. I assume the baby is his too, but you are not married and living together. Your sex life can be ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to deal with this angry and feeling-entitled stepdaughter?
Q. I have posted in 2013 about my husband having a child which he never knew off. She contacted my youngest daughter via fb and after having paternity tests done it was confirm it is his child. She is 34 this year. She was rude from the beginning, ...
A. 3 April 2016: He doesn't have to support her 4 children but she should not be treated as a dirty secret. A person growing up not knowing who her father is all her life feels worthless, and is bound to make mistakes in regards to relationships. Her need for a ... (read in full...)
He said I'm wife material, not casual dating type. what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone I have a question. Men are easy to meet on dating sites. Been out with some and met a few at store bar etc. I'm told and shown the same thing. I'm so sweet all say then disappear. My good guy friend says I'm a good catch for long te...
A. 2 April 2016: I actually tried that too, and I was deemed to sweet to be the casual dating type. Men back off so that they don't have to deal with the guilt of leading you on, even if you had said you were not looking for anything serious. It can be your looks, ... (read in full...)
Is sex such a big deal? Do I need to hold out for someone special? How do I know if that special person exists? Did you regret your first time?
Q. I am 16 and yes I know you might be thinking i m too young to be talking about sex. But that's on my mind almost 24/7. Unlike a lot of the people who claim to be otherwise, I'm still a virgin. I never really talk about it to anyone, not really ...
A. 23 March 2016: I did not regret my first time at all. I think I knew was important was that I lost it to a boyfriend, and not just a random guy. I knew there was no future with my first boyfriend because of different background and I was too young and not knowing ... (read in full...)
Am I too uptight with saving intimacy until later? Does this turn men off and was it a mistake to visit his home?
Q. I posted last week and would appreciate further advice. I went on 7 dates with a great guy and we communicated daily. The last date, I went to his place and we made out but I was clear in not wanting to go further just yet. At the end of the evening ...
A. 23 March 2016: I don't think waiting is a problem but he might have interpreted it as being friendzoned as you didn't let him touch you. If you had clarified that you really like him romantically and want to take it slow, and he still withdrew, that could mean he ... (read in full...)
Is it right to stay in a relationship when your partner indicates that someone before you was his ''perfect match''??
Q. I would really like some opinions about my situation and I'm not sure if I'm being an idiot staying with my boyfriend or if I should leave him. I've been with him for three years and from the second date he started talking about a female friend qu...
A. 22 March 2016: Some people just can't be happy with the present and always romanticize the one who got away. Maybe it's not a particular woman, or you it's just people cherish things that are hard to get. It's like people who are in school wish they are in ... (read in full...)
I feel scared that I'll be tempted to cheat again. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. I am a 37yr old married woman no kids. Have been super happily married for a few years now, but I am seeing my usual relationship pattern starting once again. And the pattern, which has always started after a few years into any of rela...
A. 22 March 2016: You want the spark to last forever, the kind of spark that the same man over and over just can't give you anymore. What you need is not your fantasies about cheating, or actual cheating. It is deep acceptance of what relationships are about. They ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I have a crush on a person but I am in a relationship with another.
Q. Dear readers, Thanks for taking your time to read this. I've been in a loving relationship with my boyfriend for more than six years. We met each other in Highschool and were each others' firsts in almost everything. I am 22, my boyfriend is t...
A. 22 March 2016: Continue to do nothing about the crush. What you are experiencing is the emotional roller coaster that in reality is not a threat. Train your mind to observe and not to react to your thoughts. You are going through the heartbreak as if you were ... (read in full...)
How can I make this work? I want to get back with her. My family think I'm crazy to try.
Q. My ex girlfriend and I had a pretty intense relationship. We met when she was pregnant with her son, we became friends first but started dating shortly after her son was born. I hadn't had much contact with my family for a few years but once we ...
A. 22 March 2016: I think the major blow out fights are signs that she had trapped frustration about your previous cheating and did not know how to deal with her feelings. Underneath the fighting, I believe there is a desire for a happy relationship, if only you know ... (read in full...)
Does this man sound serious to you? I don't know what he wants!
Q. I recently reconnected with a man I have known going on 6 years...we met when I was a senior in high school and I've always been attracted to him but we never pursued a relationship. He never expressed he had any romantic feelings for me so I ...
A. 20 March 2016: It's possible that this could develop into a serious relationship, he just doesn't know you very well. It's too early to make life long decisions. So if you take up this job offer, it would be for you only. That means if the relationship doesn't ... (read in full...)
What should I do if my fiance’s parents kick him out of the house after he confesses to them about his gambling problem?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles.. i posted a question some times ago about my dilemma regarding my fiance was gambling and want me to help him with the problem by asking me to lend him money. From all the opinion and advices given from you, i choose to reject...
A. 20 March 2016: I think that narcissism could not be cured either. However I searched the internet and they did say there was a cure, but therapy sessions can cost more than 100 an hour. I don't know who would fund that kind of money, when there's no guarantee that ... (read in full...)
He moved in with his online girlfriend. We had such an intense connection, surely that hasn't gone away for him if he's contacting me and it feels like it used to?
Q. I started dating someone in early December.Things went on for nearly two months. It was magic. Incredible conversation, passionate intimacy - you name it. We were instantly drawn to each other, it was a ridiculous "love at first sight" type of ...
A. 20 March 2016: I think he is good at making intense connections with whomever but bad at having faith in each one, and taking a pick. He didn't know how serious that long distance girl could be, so he dated you as back up. Now that the girl is here, he didn't know ... (read in full...)
They don’t push their son to do anything, and it feels like such a waste! What should I do?
Q. I know the first response to this question might be that it's none of my business, but any helpful suggestions will be appreciated! I know a couple, both 40 ( and 8 years older than me) and they have a 10 year old son. It seems like they really...
A. 20 March 2016: The reason why he won't do anything it's because he has a mind of his own and the parents decided not to mold him, to fight with his spirit, but instead just nurture quality time together. Some kids are good at listening and following rules. Some ... (read in full...)
Am I too boring to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance...
A. 19 March 2016: I am much like you, very boring. I can't drink and I like my 8 hours of sleep every night strictly. I am 35 and I realized while there is happily ever after, but there is no passionately ever after. Happiness is not determined by how many exciting ... (read in full...)
How do I stop? I'm constantly craving male attention and end up obsessing over those who give me this attention
Q. I have a recurrent issue that seems to be getting out of hand and worse. It seems that every time a man flirts with me or shows interest, I start to revel in this attention and I start liking them. For instance, a guy has recently joi...
A. 16 March 2016: 22-25 is the most fertile age for a woman. It doesn't matter if you are financially or emotionally ready for a relationship. If you are single and not experienced in relationships you are going to crave men attention. If you were a guy I could just ... (read in full...)
Despite his reassurances, there’s something telling me not to trust him. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months and in the first month we started dating, I found out that he was messaging other girls on Facebook wanting to hang out with them. I just found out recently and when I called him out on it, he ...
A. 16 March 2016: It depends on the content of the messages. Was he hanging out as friends or was there a sexual tone to it? The way he answered it sounded like he had something to hide. During the first month of dating, it's still a trial period and I don't think ... (read in full...)
Are we actually together or just exclusive FWB?
Q. A few months ago I started a friends with benefits relationship with someone at uni, it went on for four months and we saw each other regularly. Eventually I started developing feelings and i thought it was only fair to tell him. He actually ...
A. 14 March 2016: I don't think he's ready for a relationship yet, but he doesn't want it to just be casual. When you asked him if he could stop sleeping with other girls, he probably heard "exclusivity", "smothering," "clingy," and not that he actually needed to ... (read in full...)
Dating for 5 weeks. How do I let him know that I'm still interested despite me rejecting him advances??
Q. I've been dating a sweet, genuine guy for about 5 weeks. During the first few weeks he was always initiating conversations throughout the day and towards the middle it evened out between us. We had a make out session this past weekend howe...
A. 14 March 2016: No, none of that. He's on a trip so he would be checking his phone less frequently. Women who are not interested in a guy physically simply would not go on a second date. They would not say they are not ready. I think he understands that. You sound ... (read in full...)
Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.
Q. I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...
A. 14 March 2016: You are him and mismatched. Likely having a love hate relationship. You fully know what he dislikes. Rather than asking him why he can't enjoy a private strip show from his girlfriend, you kept on doing it, expecting a different result. Maybe he's ... (read in full...)
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