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writes:So I was talking to this guy for like some months now. We found each other online though we already knew each other beforehand, we started talking in a dating manner only from like 4 months before... so i had never really met him after we started feeling so strongly for each other. I told him lets just leave it the way it is but he wanted to label the relationship so we kinda started dating and he freaked out.... told me we would be better off friends. I thought we would just be fine in some days but after like 2 weeks or sth he told me he was dating someone else. How fucked up is that ? And he just wanted to be friends with me. I was stupid enough to agree that we could be friends after all that. Then again he told me he was just kidding and he would come meet me this month. Now, Surprisingly enough he has blocked me from all his social media and I can’t really figure out wtf happened... Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 January 2018):
 The only tip I can give you here is try not to form any relationship online even if it is with someone you met before. People can hide behind a computer screen and pretend to be anyone. From the sounds off this guy he likes having girls to talk to when he is bored so he keeps you close. It sounds then like when he finishes playing he blocks people and then moves on to the next person. Let this be a lesson learnt that online relationships a lot off the time are not real.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (23 January 2018):
 You dodged a bullet from a flaky man. Thank your lucky stars that he showed his true colours before you invested any more time, effort or emotion in the "relationship". I wouldn't mind betting he will be back in contact further down the line. PLEASE don't fall for it. Just ignore any contact attempts he makes. Find yourself someone honest and straight forward who will treat you with respect. You deserve it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2018): You'll meet flaky characters online. It's par for the course. You should hope for the best and always be prepared for the worse. You've encountered typical online-behavior; because people have so many options open to them. You're in the candy-store and some candy is sour!
When you run into a flake: block and delete.
Forgetaboutit, and move on! Next!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (22 January 2018):
 He sounds like a guy who likes to play games with people online.
Honestly? If you two didn't go on any dates in person, I am not sure how strongly EITHER of you really felt, more like infatuated with the idea of being with each other.
You say you knew each other beforehand, but nothing happened until there was online contact, so are you SURE that you were being catfished by someone CLAIMING to be him?
Either way, I guess it IS really irrelevant, you NOW know that he is a piece of crap who didn't feel anything deeper for you (regardless of what he said). He probably is talking to MULTIPLE girls playing mind games to buff his own little ego up.
BLOCK him, DELETE him and FORGET this guy. Be glad you didn't waste ANY more time on this guy. He sounds like an idiot.
Next time you look to be dating... Don't keep it to "just" online. Date someone who lives close enough that you can go OUT on dates and get to KNOW (really know) each other in person.
Don't feel bad, the trash took itself out.
This wasn't because there is anything "wrong" with you, but him.
Chin up and move on. Waste no more time on this guy or trying to figure him out. He isn't worth it.
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reader, Allumeuse +, writes (22 January 2018):
Online relationships can feel real to some but just like a game to others. They can play characters, talk to lots of different people with very little chance of being caught.
Perhaps he was talking to lots of women and when the time came to make a commitment reality hit home. Perhaps he realised that he didn't want to be in a relationship with you and wasn't man enough to tell you in person.
The important thing to take from this is that none of this is your fault. There is no lesson you can learn when some flaky idiot on the internet does something callous.
This only thing you can do is not get so emotionally invested until you meet someone. Humans weren't designed to have relationships over great distances and so you can't really trust your feelings, or theirs for that matter until you are close enough to shake hands. Even in the same room, people can still behave awfully. But at least you might see it coming.
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