Is his message to me a cry for help?
Q. It's not that we talked much, but we were friends, well acquaintances at least. Anyway, it's been years since we've talked. We were in college like 9-10 years ago, but friends on social media. Anyway, out of the blue, he randomly sends me a message ...
A. 17 April 2018: That is a very random message to receive I would probably think the worst as well. I would simply reply and ask him how he is and if everything is okay? ... (read in full...)
Why me? Why am I excluded?
Q. Everyone I know sees me as boring, esp my younger coworkers and my younger sister and anyone I meet socially, friends of friends etc..aquantances.. Should I cAre and what to do?? ??? No one talks to me, though I to talk them when one to one. I...
A. 17 April 2018: Have you thought about taking up new hobbies or interests? Maybe the younger co-workers/ Sister simply don't find much in common with you. They might not mean to leave you out of events. Maybe you could try meeting new people, doing new activities ... (read in full...)
Does having a car really make you the better option to date?
Q. Does having something that the next person doesn’t make you the better option to date? Will it stop your boyfriend from losing interest? My friend was messaged a screenshot/picture by her ex boyfriend’s new girlfriend that showed a status ...
A. 16 April 2018: Your friend has done the right thing blocking him. As for the comment the girlfriend made about the car well it was very immature and it shows she feels threatened. Off course it doesn't matter if someone has a car or not. ... (read in full...)
I laid my cards on the table and he backed right off!
Q. I met Mark 3 months ago. We had both gotten out of 5 year relationships a year before that, and he told me that he lived with his ex during their relationship. She broke up with him because she didn't feel a spark anymore, and he was very hurt ...
A. 16 April 2018: It sounds to me like he is not as in to you as you are in to him. I am sure you both developed a good connection, but from what you have wrote I don't think he is over his ex or being part of her family.
I honestly think the best thing that you ... (read in full...)
Am I being unrealistic wanting 2 breaks when our twins are 3 and 4?minths?
Q. So my boyfriend and I are expecting our twins to be born over the summer. We're both excited and getting everything ready for their arrival. These are our first kids so it'll be a new experience for us both, mainly me because my boyfriend has ...
A. 13 April 2018: I think it is a bit unrealistic to be making plans before the babies are even born. You don't know how the birth is going to go, you don't know how the form is going to be with you. You don't know if both babies will be sick or healthy. A number of ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for checking his activity on Instagram? Is my not reaching out to him an overreaction?
Q. I have a question regarding this issue I have in my relationship. My boyfriend follows hundreds of “Instagram models”, strippers, half naked ladies etc... and I’ve seen from his activity that he frequently likes their posts. Two days ago, he ...
A. 13 April 2018: This doesn't sound like a committed relationship to me. You don't treat someone like that in a relationship. If he is blocking you then it is quite clear that he does not care about you. Why would you allow a man to treat you like this?... (read in full...)
Is it okay to tolerate "triggered" disrespectful behavior when I know she doesn't mean it otherwise?
Q. I'm in a long-term relationship (about 7 years). I've accepted my girlfriend's personality, both the good and the bad. However, I'm finding it more and more difficult to tolerate the way she treats me when we disagree. It seems her "go-to" when ...
A. 13 April 2018: I think you answered your own question and you have realized that you cannot be treated like this any longer. It is tough going when a partner treats you the way she is. It doesn't sound like she loves you, it sounds like she uses you for security ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair wih my fiance's best friend.
Q. I’m engaged due to be married September, I’ve started having an affair with one of his best friends. Now I don’t know whether I love his best friend. He’s asked me to not get married. My fiancé is a good man great father and stable. His frien...
A. 12 April 2018: You really shouldn't go through with the wedding. If you are having an affair then don't enter a marriage because people take there vows seriously. I mean yes we all make mistakes in life, but an ongoing affair is not one of them. You should do the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my boyfriend's smoking.
Q. Im in a relationshio for almost 8 months with my boyfriend,we are like best friends .we Tell eachother everything,But lately he started smoking like 1-2 cigarettes per day and I found out because my best friend told me he saw him.when I asked him ...
A. 12 April 2018: There is nothing really that you can do. He is right, it is his choice. So either you accept it or else end things with him and tell him you do not want to be with a smoker. ... (read in full...)
My husband is in touch with his ex girlfriend again
Q. Hi.... Big issue here is trust... I recently saw ( I was standing behind him while he was at the computer) that my husband has his old girlfriend on his bill payer.. we’ve only been married 2 years and we are not on each other’s accounts... He says ...
A. 11 April 2018: If you are thinking about divorce then there really must be no trust there at all. I can see why you are struggling. If you cannot trust him and you don't believe him then maybe you could both try counselling? Have you asked him to stop the contact ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure that we love each other and we have started fighting in front of our son
Q. Dear All: I need help or a listening ear to help me cope. I've been married for almost 3 years, we have a 2-year-old amazing little boy which is our world. lately and it's been happening for some time I feel like we've been disconnecting more and ...
A. 11 April 2018: Having a child can be stressful in all relationships and can bring a lot of tension. It sounds like you are both in a rut. You say he doesn't agree or understand you, yet I bet he would say the same about you. You need to go back to basics. Can you ... (read in full...)
Can I get an std from someone using no protection who came back with a clean bill of health
Q. So I have 2 sex partners and both are clean ( before you question how I am sure, I have had both men take std tests as well as taken one myself so everyone is safe) but I’m curious if I can still get an std from either of them from unprotected sex? ...
A. 11 April 2018: Off course you are at risk. Just because they had a clean bill of health doesn't mean that they are not having sex with someone else unprotected at the moment. You should always use protection for your own health. Also if you are being passed around ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to tolerate "triggered" disrespectful behavior when I know she doesn't mean it otherwise?
Q. I'm in a long-term relationship (about 7 years). I've accepted my girlfriend's personality, both the good and the bad. However, I'm finding it more and more difficult to tolerate the way she treats me when we disagree. It seems her "go-to" when ...
A. 11 April 2018: I guess we all have our good and our bad sides. When couples argue it can be a big strain and two people can deal with arguments in two different kind of ways. My husband would rather just end it where I need to keep going until we come to a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's priorities are not in order and I'm worried about our future
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years. I'm 29 and he's 28, unfortunately, we both had a change of careers at a late age, which has thrown us back a bit in regards to money for the future. Besides this, I'm discovering more of his ...
A. 11 April 2018: In regards to his flaws well we all have them nobody is perfect. If you love him then yes that is great but a relationship does need a lot more than love to keep it going.
It is great to hear that he is a hard worker. Being a manager while also... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend's mother jealous?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together since last October and we are very much in love. We banter back and forth with one another lovingly. He will say something like...."My baby" or "My (my name)" and I will do the same... While at a family ev...
A. 11 April 2018: If you both normally get on okay and this was a one time thing then I wouldn't really worry about it. She might just not be a fan off you calling her son yours. It could be a case that she sees this as controlling. She obviously sees it different to ... (read in full...)
Is it a good sign if a one night stand contacts you afterwards?
Q. I met this guy out recently and we just clicked. I went home with him, we were dancing for quite some time and I met his room mate. Soon things got heated, had a great time together. He was exceedingly affection, but in intimate ways, kissing my ...
A. 11 April 2018: It depends on what you want from this? I mean are you wanting a relationship? To date? To hook up? Just because he was nice to you doesn't mean he was not only interested in sex. Not all men kick you out of bed as soon as they get what they want.
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My cousin talked me into having sex with her when we were just 12 and 13 and now I feel uncomfortable having her stay over at my place
Q. When I was 12 years old male, my 13 years old female cousin talked me into having sex with her. Over the next two years, we had sex on several occasions (maybe once every 3 months). We stopped having sex when she was about 15 years old and when I ...
A. 10 April 2018: You have a lot of unresolved issues here and I think you need to talk to a professional. You where both very young but I have a feeling you feel you where taken advantage off. You need help to over come these issues. It seems to still be effecting ... (read in full...)
I has sent really embarrassing messages to a girl 6-7 years ago and I just realised that girl is my girlfriend's cousin! What if she still has those messages?
Q. Hi all, 6-7 years ago , i was messaging a girl on Facebook, probably very cringey and embarrassing texts , nothing came of it and i deleted her of Facebook , 4 years ago I started dating my current girlfriend, been together 4 years now, that girl ...
A. 9 April 2018: You are completely over reacting. Look it seems to me that you are a worrier. Try and let it go. Whatever the messages where about you where a teenager and we all do silly things growing up. If the cousin wanted to cause trouble she would have done ... (read in full...)
Was my husband lying about not loving the other woman?
Q. is my husband lying to me when he says he never loved the other woman? I found messages and video with him telling her he loves her...
A. 9 April 2018: I guess you will never know. Deep down what is your head telling you? I know it is easy to follow your heart because you love your husband. But him having an affair is a sign that there is something lacking in the marriage for him. Maybe he likes ... (read in full...)
Is the size of the take out he brought home a sign he is becoming cheap?
Q. After dating selfish cheap guys, I'm pretty gun shy. My bf has always been generous w/me and we do pay for each other pretty often. Today he went out to eat and I couldn't make it, so I asked him to bring me some soup. I'm not one to eat a lot, but ...
A. 6 April 2018: Honestly I think you should be thankful he was thoughtful enough to bring you back some food in the first place. ... (read in full...)
I suspect my daughter in law is having sex with my boyfriend
Q. I suspect my daughter in law who is married for 11 yrs to my son on having an affair with my boyfriend of 10 years. I believe this has been going on for sometime now. I have no hard proof,just what I see with my own eyes. My gut instant is so sure, ...
A. 6 April 2018: End the relationship, if you do not trust him then there really is no point in being with him. If it is to much for your son and his wife to be living with you then kindly ask them to leave so you can get on with your own life. This is no way for ... (read in full...)
I don't want to nag but my boyfriend never texts me first!
Q. Hey all! So my boyfriend and I just got together officially. I noticed in the first month that we talked quite a bit and he initiated the conversation a lot of the time, and he would always call me in the evenings before bed. When we got into the ...
A. 6 April 2018: Do you both actually spend quality time with each other instead of relying on messages and phone calls? ... (read in full...)
My ex is coming back into my life when I have a new partner!
Q. I need some advice, 4 years ago I started dating my best friend, we were together for about 8 months and it was perfect! However I made mistakes in the relationship such as being too close to her and so i drove her away and didnt handle the brea...
A. 6 April 2018: I don't think it is a great idea getting back in to a friendship with your ex. It is clearly messing with your head and confusing you. You have stayed with your current partner for three years that must mean something surely. If your ex split up ... (read in full...)
I started an affair as a FWB but we are so well matched!
Q. I have been with my fiancé for 6 years now he is much older than me and I have just recently caught the eye of a wonderful man that is my age that has a good head on his shoulders and is very charming and respectful the only bad part is we are ...
A. 5 April 2018: I don't really think it matters that your fiance is a lot more older than you. You are the one that agreed to marry him and spend six years of your life so far with him. So another man caught your eye, that happens easily enough. I see attractive ... (read in full...)
It feels like shes using me. Is she?
Q. We're dating for a few months, I'm 31 she's 22 last night she asked me to pick her up at her house and I didn't want to because I just don't want to get out of my house and as she lives far away I'm not into it driving right now, just a lazy day, ...
A. 5 April 2018: She is very young in comparison to you. The best way to solve it is to tell her how you feel and say you would like her to come and drive to yours sometimes as well. ... (read in full...)
Am I right to not trust him? Can a marriage survive on no trust?
Q. I've been married for 12 years, have 2 beauitful children. Recently found out that a woman my husband works with has a crush on him. They've worked together for 18 months but I was led to believe that they just worked for the same company, in...
A. 4 April 2018: How do you know that she has a crush on him? Has he came forward and told you this. Working together in the same company is fine, I have a male friend who I work with get on well with we are both married. But I would never tell my husband I barely ... (read in full...)
I'm really into my best friend's ex
Q. Okay, so this is a very simple story. I am extremely into my best friends ex. We were really good friends while they were dating, and she brought us closer. I always found myself helping them out, and literally being to solution to their problems...
A. 4 April 2018: Honestly if you valued your friendship at all you would not even be considering this. ... (read in full...)
Our affair ended but now I have to see her every day at work
Q. I had friendship with same gender best friend that turned into more, we had a 2 month physical affair. She has ended the affair and is staying with her husband and teenager but we work together. How do I get over her and handle seeing her everyday ...
A. 4 April 2018: You know what these things happen at work, we get close to the people we work with and sometimes feelings get involved. Honestly the best thing to do is to try and move forward now. She saw the error in her ways and decided it was not worth loosing ... (read in full...)
We’ve been dating 18 months! Do these signs he’s been giving indicate anything?
Q. Been dating a guy for 18mnths. We havent ever said we love each other but we know we care deeply for each other. The other morning we were "making out" (we've never had sex) and he was on top of me. He gradually stopped and then just looked in my ...
A. 4 April 2018: 18 months is a long time not to have told each other that you love each other or to have had sex. Is this a case that this man is your boyfriend or is it a case that he is someone else's who you date from time to time. Is he married? Are you in a ... (read in full...)
Should I sleep with him ?
Q. So roughly four years ago I met a young man who was not from the same country that I was from and he was only in town for a couple days so we exchanged information just to stay connected. We were both in relationships at the time, however our ...
A. 4 April 2018: The choice is completely yours and his. But what is it you want from him? Is it some casual fun, is it a long term relationship? Or a meet up every now and then?
Personally I would take it slow so that there is no pressure. Get to know each oth... (read in full...)
Aren't children supposed to stay near to their family so they can comfort them? Not move far away?
Q. Ever since I can remember, my daughter, 30, has complained bitterly about the state we raised her in: North Carolina. When the kids were young, we moved our family from North Carolina from Florida for a better life in North Carolina, but she's so ...
A. 3 April 2018: You have posted something similar to this before in the past, am pretty sure you are just looking for a reaction on the internet.... (read in full...)
He calls me Bud! What’s that all about?
Q. My guy mate and I have been friends for quite awhile now, we get along really well and laugh a lot. We do a lot for each other and help each other whenever we are free. Only thing is he calls me bud! Why? Isn't that a guy to guy thing? I don't ...
A. 23 March 2018: Id imagine he calls you bud to remind you that you are both just friends. I am sure a lot of people complain about there partners to there friends, no big deal really thats what friends are for. I think you should maybe try and hang out with other ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is too promiscuous to me. Break up?
Q. Dating for a few months I'm 30 she's 22, yesterday I found out a lot of pictures of her with her ex on her facebook from a few years ago. I asked her why she keeps them and she said she forgot to delete and that doesn't make any sense since they're ...
A. 22 March 2018: Yes I think you should break up with her. No girl deserves to be called the names you called her by her own boyfriend. She had a past so what that is none of your business. She has sexy photos online for attention again none of your business. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel like a partner when my husband fails to keep me informed of the finances
Q. been married 22 years husband always pays the bills rent etc. we have separate accounts and i can check his one when i want but dont bother unless i really feel i need to. found out when we moved in 5 months ago he hadnt been paying the poll tax. ...
A. 22 March 2018: Well me and my husband both have separate accounts so that we still have our own money, then we have a joint account for things that we both need like bills, holidays, cars ect. Would something like this work for you so that you can see all the ... (read in full...)
My FWB wants a break and I don't know why.
Q. Hi, my friends with benefits recently told me he needs a break. Apparently he's mad at me because I called when his soon to be wife showed up at his house to discuss the divorce. I did't know she was there. We talk every day. We lived together...
A. 22 March 2018: Do you mean his soon to be ex wife? Or are you the soon to be ex wife? Sorry your post confuses me.
If you where both together and had an ugly break up why would you go back there? also why is it all your fault?
It sounds like he was usin... (read in full...)
With all the blocking and unblocking on social media, I don't even know what to expect anymore
Q. So I've been seeing a guy for about three months now. The relationship was wonderful. We were both falling in love and had so much fun together. We met each other's friends and family and seen each other just about every day. A week ago we got into ...
A. 22 March 2018: Three months and all this has happened? I doubt this is going to work out. I read your other post as well. The other guy at your house? Who was he and why did you let some stranger sleep in your house and stay all day? If you are going to have a ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed, every guy I like my best friend gets!
Q. Why do I feel so pointless? How come no guy ever likes me? So these questions started to arise after this guy who I liked who I told many time asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no and asked why do you care and he said I’m jw I don’t like u ...
A. 22 March 2018: You need to ask yourself why you feel no guy ever likes you. Are you approachable? Friendly? He asked you a question and your answer was why don't you care? Maybe he felt rejected there, I would find that rude so he told you he doesn't like you any ... (read in full...)
How would a cheater act if he were cheating on you?
Q. Hi please can people give me some idea of how someone would act around you if they were cheating on you I have been with my fiancé now for 6 years we have a 3 year old daughter we’ve been having sleep issues with our 3 year old daughter so my ...
A. 22 March 2018: How would he act? Well sweetie in all fairness not all men who cheat act the same so it would be impossible to tell you how your husband would act. When you hear him sneaking out maybe get up and look out a window and see where he is going. If it is ... (read in full...)
I want more from my friend who is also my FWB
Q. I'll get straight to the point. My best friend and I (I'm female, he's male) have a 'friends with benefits' kind of thing going on. We are intimate, sometimes affectionate, but never romantic. We have never dated, but despite clearly not being a ...
A. 21 March 2018: Sweetie it is clear he does not want to be in a relationship with you. I know that is hard to take in when you have strong feelings for someone but from your post it is clear to see that he only thinks of you as a friend. If he felt more for you ... (read in full...)
I've borrowed money to celebrate but am not excited about it.
Q. About to celebrate our 5year together but why do I feel like I’m not celebrating anything. We don’t live together as she still works in the same part time job she did when I got with her so we have not progressed. I lost my job 3 months ago, and I ...
A. 21 March 2018: It's not a good sign with five years on your relationship hasn't progressed. Is she wanting to work part time forever? Are use wanting to get married settle down have children? Are these things you talk about?
As for borrowing money to go out for ... (read in full...)
She has cut me completely after our families learnt of our same sex affair
Q. Hello I fell in love with my same gender best friend of 4 years, we are both married to our husbands with children, had an emotional affair that turned physical for 2 months. We ended the affair but still work in the same building. She has cut me ...
A. 21 March 2018: Well swing it around the other way if your husband had an affair would you mind him being friends with her down the line? The way I see it is you crossed a line and now that friendship is over. You should concentrate rebuilding your marriage if you ... (read in full...)
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