I said things I shouldn't have said and now he won't talk to me! This is so painful!
Q. I am going through a pain like i have never felt before. I'd rather experience physical pain then the feeling i have right now. I had been seeing someone for 3 months. We had a lot of fights and mostly because of me because I would question him on a ...
A. 3 May 2010: He is very suspicious and does not trust you . It is very difficult when there is no trust in a relationship.Probably don't love you as much as before.
If there is love, such things would not have cropped up. You need to walk away for your own... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got so jealous she threw an iron at my head. Should I dump her?
Q. I have been dating someone for a year now and it has gotten to be very serious. I work the graveyard shift at a resturaunt and a few weeks ago I was very sick and didn't finish my shift. One of the waitresses is a very dear friend of mine liv...
A. 29 April 2010: Just because it happened once, do you think it is right to assume that she will do it again?
It is wrong to assume that she will do it again because you are not that person and you judged her and condemned her without understanding her.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got so jealous she threw an iron at my head. Should I dump her?
Q. I have been dating someone for a year now and it has gotten to be very serious. I work the graveyard shift at a resturaunt and a few weeks ago I was very sick and didn't finish my shift. One of the waitresses is a very dear friend of mine liv...
A. 29 April 2010: Making wild assumptions seems to be the order of the day.It is great to see so many are able to see into the future.They can predict what will happen in the future with accuracy.
Congratulations to all those who have that ability to see into the... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got so jealous she threw an iron at my head. Should I dump her?
Q. I have been dating someone for a year now and it has gotten to be very serious. I work the graveyard shift at a resturaunt and a few weeks ago I was very sick and didn't finish my shift. One of the waitresses is a very dear friend of mine liv...
A. 29 April 2010: If you had being a bit more thoughtful, you would not have to go through all this.
No one is perfect and we all make mistakes. There are times when our system fails us and we cross the line. Different people may have different breaking points. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he could never marry me because I hate my own mother.
Q. My mother does not support me in anything. I'm in my 3rd semester in college working on a crimal justice bachelors degree. Shouldn't I parent be proud? I guess they should but she isn't. She calls me "worthless" and worst things. So I have tried to ...
A. 29 April 2010: It is only his perspective and he is entitled to it but that does not mean that he is right .
If he loves you, it is only you and not about any relationship with your mother or any person for that matter.
I don't think there is any future with ... (read in full...)
I said things I shouldn't have said and now he won't talk to me! This is so painful!
Q. I am going through a pain like i have never felt before. I'd rather experience physical pain then the feeling i have right now. I had been seeing someone for 3 months. We had a lot of fights and mostly because of me because I would question him on a ...
A. 29 April 2010: Thanks for your update. It is good to see that he has responded well and you are on good terms again. Learn from your mistakes and avoid speaking in any negative manner.... (read in full...)
Should I have my friend tell him I like him?
Q. Ok so I like this guy alot! One of my best friends is friends with him so do I tell my friend I like him or not?...
A. 29 April 2010: Are you sure your best friend is not interested in him too? There could be a conflict of interest if your best friend has latent interest in the same guy. I am assuming that your best friend here is a girl.
Unless you are very sure that your bes... (read in full...)
How do I tell a guy I won't have sex?
Q. How do I tell a guy that I want to wait to have sex till I am married? That I am not willing to give it up?...
A. 29 April 2010: Tell it to them straight and in simple English which they can understand. You can tell them that you don't believed in premarital sex. They will get your gist.... (read in full...)
I said things I shouldn't have said and now he won't talk to me! This is so painful!
Q. I am going through a pain like i have never felt before. I'd rather experience physical pain then the feeling i have right now. I had been seeing someone for 3 months. We had a lot of fights and mostly because of me because I would question him on a ...
A. 29 April 2010: All you can do is to apologize to him and get him out ,to talk to him.
If he does not want to communicate with you or ignores you ,there is nothing more you can do until he opens up again.
Give him sometime to come to his senses or be rat... (read in full...)
Negative test but no period! Am I pregnant?
Q. had sex with my boyfriend a month and a half ago, he came inside of me. i havent started my period, but i did a pregnancy test and came back negative. am i pregnant?...
A. 29 April 2010: You should know if you are pregnant by the 10th or 14th days after your supposed period. If your period still has not come , you should see your GP.... (read in full...)
He's upset and snapping at me -- why?
Q. i dont know whats going on with my boyfriend, he got rejected by the raf becos he has a shellfish allergy, and his so annoyed by that, i understand. since then though he has been in a funny mood with me, and i try an easure him but his telling ...
A. 29 April 2010: Thanks for your update. Great to hear that everything is back to normal.... (read in full...)
What do I do if another guy is flirting with my girlfriend and wants to get with her?
Q. I'm 14 almost 15. I'm a freshman and this guy keeps flirting with my girlfriend. We have been together for a while now and my girlfriend says she loves me. I truly love her too. My girlfriend is the shy type. She doesn't want to be mean or n e ...
A. 28 April 2010: You can try to be a better person than that other guy until he gives her up.
The second way is, two can play at that game. Flirt with other girls and make her feel what you are feeling now. This is called mirroring back to her .... (read in full...)
I just found out my partner cheated and has another kid! How can I get over this? It's tearing me apart.
Q. My partner of 12yrs had an affair 5yrs ago which resulted in a child. I only found out about this when the child was 3. His family and friends all knew about it but he forced them to keep quiet as he didnt want to hurt me. Well it has hurt me even ...
A. 28 April 2010: You need to accept reality . You will have to accept that events have happened and you will have to make peace with yourself first and then with your surroundings.
Forgive him and decide if you want to stay in this relationship or to move on .... (read in full...)
Why didn't I bleed after losing my virginity? My boyfriend doesn't believe me now!
Q. am a virgin i had sex for the first time with my boyfriend and no bleeding and now my boyfriend think am not a virgin he thinks that i have had sex with somelse. but i know am a virgin , i swear, and don't know why no bleedig i really need help...
A. 28 April 2010: That a woman must bleed during her first intercourse is undoubtedly the most misguided notion people harbour.
The bleeding occurs when the hymen splits. Rigorous exercises such as cycling or accidents can split the hymen.
The hymen can... (read in full...)
First he had an emotional affair, and now he just doesn't seem interested in me. What should I do?
Q. Hey everyone, I just feel like venting some feelings and hope you can give me some advice. Tonight I was rejected by the man in my life, yet again. Recently, I discovered he was having an emotional affair with another girl for just under a yea...
A. 28 April 2010: When a person has outlived his usefulness, there is nothing more you can gain from staying in that relationship. It is like flogging a dead horse.
Time to begin a new life and adventure.... (read in full...)
We're on a break, should I not go to the club she'll be going to?
Q. My girlfriend and I are on a break and I am planning on going to a club this weekend but she is going to be there. Shall i still go?...
A. 28 April 2010: Since you are on a break and technically she is just someone you knew. There is nothing to stop you from going there.
You should not stop yourself from having fun just because she is also there. Go and enjoy the fun with your friends.
Does sh... (read in full...)
Is their brother-sister relationship abnormal?
Q. Brother- Sister situation My boyfriend (27 years old)and his sister (24 years) have a relation that makes me very uncomfortable because- 1. They don't mind walking in to each other when one of them is actually using the bathroom like in the tub...
A. 28 April 2010: What is normal to them maybe abnormal to others.
There are reasons for their way of life and one should really understand their backgrounds and culture before passing judgments on them.... (read in full...)
Would you tell him with words or body language if you didn't like the increase physical affection?
Q. Girls, if you had a male best friend who admitted he liked you but you felt you wasn't ready for a relationship (for any reason but for example because you've been hurt in the past), how would you react if your male best friend gradually started to ...
A. 28 April 2010: She is not ready for a relationship but it does not mean that she does not enjoy the physical closeness and the attentions you showered upon her.
She is telling you not to expect too much or too high or too fast in this friendship with her.
... (read in full...)
Does he love me if he feels the need to cheat?
Q. My boyfriend and I were dating for 4 years, until about 2 months ago. We broke up due to mutual decisions, which we both realise now are trivial compared to how much we love each other and want to be together. While we were broken up, I slept with ...
A. 28 April 2010: If you use the same standard to judge him , then it is fair . Why is it O.K with you but not O.K with him ?
Since you are not officially back together again , he has a right to sleep with another woman first before he wants to commit back to you a... (read in full...)
Problems galore--B/f has no job, obsessed with playstation and porn!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for nearly ayear and a half, I live at his house at the moment as he likes me to be here and i love bieng with him!! I and would like to have our personal space in a flat. I am finding it very claustraphobic living ...
A. 28 April 2010: You are still in love with the same person but who is no more the same person when you first set eyes on him.
You cannot change a person if he does not want to change. Your being there will not change him .
It is only when a thing is gone , ... (read in full...)
He says he's not a sexual person...what about my needs?
Q. It's been 3 years and 10 months that nothing has changed between me and my boyfriend. He does change but then he goes back to his old ways. In the beginning, we were at our honeymoon stage and after that, everything just went down hill. When i ask ...
A. 28 April 2010: If he cannot meet your needs now, he will not meet your needs somewhere down the road in life.
It would be better to move on from him than to wait for him to provide .You have given him many chances and yet nothing has come out of it.
If he i... (read in full...)
He's upset and snapping at me -- why?
Q. i dont know whats going on with my boyfriend, he got rejected by the raf becos he has a shellfish allergy, and his so annoyed by that, i understand. since then though he has been in a funny mood with me, and i try an easure him but his telling ...
A. 28 April 2010: He is acting out his frustrations for being rejected. Just be there for him and you don't have to offer any answers or solutions to him.
Don't say anything negative or sound negative like .It could be taken wrongly that you don't support him.
... (read in full...)
Please Help Me Get A Divorce
Q. I have been married for 3 years now, and we have a child together. My husband is physically and verbally abusive daily, and the only time we ever talk about anything is when he is yelling about something. It was never like this until our child was ...
A. 27 April 2010: You can try the resources at these links,
http://www.asafeplaceforhelp.org/emergencyshelter.html
http://www.womansdivorce.com/divorce.html... (read in full...)
Too hairy down there?
Q. im really hairy down there.. good, bad? im a 16 year old girl and ive been getting really close to this guy he wants to finger me and see me naked but im too scared of him seeing me down there. also i dont know how to ask him if its ok that ...
A. 27 April 2010: Love your own body and you don't need to seek anyone's approvals on how it should look.
If you feel too self conscious, you can trim a bit and make it look neater.... (read in full...)
Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?
Q. It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...
A. 27 April 2010: It is great to see that you care so much about your sister's well being. May God bless you .... (read in full...)
She told me she needs at least 6"
Q. Huge problem. I have small penis 4in when fully react. I had two previous girlfriends tell mr when can't feel anything it's too small. I know the foreplay part but doesn't work. Now I been with a sweet girl for 6 months she say im her everything. ...
A. 27 April 2010: You have got to prove to her that your 4" is better than the 6" one's.
The trick is to make her orgasm first through orals and manual stimulation's and she would not know if yours is 4" or 6" unless she has a ruler nearby.... (read in full...)
Controlling boyfriend.
Q. Please help me, my boyfriend is from iraq, (non-muslim), and he's very controlling, he states this is his culture hoWever I believe it may actually be his personal issues. He doesn't let me go outside without him, even across to the local shop, his ...
A. 27 April 2010: You can't really blame him for being that over protective because things happened to him and he cares a lot about you .
If you think you can take care of yourself, and you feel that the trip is safe, just ignore him. He will in time taper down his... (read in full...)
I want to leave my husband so badly but wouldn't know how to!
Q. Im 22 years old, I have a two year old and an eight month old. My husband and I have been together since we were fifteen years old. I noticed a change in him while I was pregnant with our youngest daughter. As it turns out he has been abusing ...
A. 27 April 2010: Consult with a good lawyer about your divorce.
You can go to this link to arm yourself with the knowledge.
http://www.womansdivorce.com/divorce.html#PROCESS... (read in full...)
In love and hurting - should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I'm 17 and as dramatic and cliché as is sounds, I love someone. He is dating somebody else and they aren't really serious, but all the same, I'm pretty sure he doesnt like me. In four months I will leave for university so I want to tell him how I ...
A. 27 April 2010: Shout it out aloud to the wind and let the wind carry that message to him.
Embrace your new life which will be full of excitements and fun.... (read in full...)
Help with a hairy chin
Q. Hi...I need some advice. I recently just discovered that I am growing hairs on my chin!!!!! I keep plucking them, but its really beginning to freak me out and I am petrified that my boyfriend will see them and leave me. Is this normal? or is th...
A. 27 April 2010: Your body produces more testosterone's or male hormones which caused those hair to grow.It is normal.... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex-boyfriend to stop talking to me?
Q. How can I get my ex-boyfriend to leave me alone? He broke up with me by text message telling me that he has another girlfriend and a baby (news to me). He was never all that great as a boyfriend. We only dated for a couple of months. I thought he w...
A. 27 April 2010: Thanks for your interesting update. The only way to remove this obnoxious man from your life is to forcibly removed yourself from his world and not to see him again.
You are quite an intelligent and wise person and I am sure , you will find a w... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't trust me, but I want him to be happy
Q. My ex broke up with me over a text message, and I told him it was over for good (we had a habit of breaking up and making up). Now he texts me and calls me everyday, telling me he's sorry, and how I'm making a mistake, that why can't I give him one ...
A. 26 April 2010: Throw all those reasons back at him and you will find that he should not have broken from you but instead should have appreciated and love your more.
He is immature, self conceited and a very selfish guy.You need to harden your resolve not to g... (read in full...)
Does he go limp because of me?
Q. I am having a problem with my sex life. Almost everytime me and my husband have sex he goes limp. He gets off within two minutes sometimes less, but he stops himself quick and once he does that he goes limp with in seconds. This is fusterating and ...
A. 26 April 2010: It is not your fault .It has nothing to do with you at all.
It could be anxieties or stress about his performance.
It is unfortunate that he cannot control the hardness. He may need Viagra or Cialis to increase his performance.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to end an unhappy relationship for a happy one with an ex?
Q. if someone (already involved in a long term relationship that saddly brings that person mostly unhappieness) happens to reunite with an ex from ten years ago, found that the feelings for their ex was still very, very strong, would it be wrong to ...
A. 26 April 2010: If you are unhappy with a long term relationship, you should end it and begin a new one with the ex.
If you did not end it but carry on with the ex, it would be cheating and is wrong.
... (read in full...)
Should I choose love and appreciation over money?
Q. I am for now a single women. I have been getting to know two guys that I really like. One guy is going to be very successful but I'm afraid he won't have time for me and our relationship. The other guy is just your average Joe but with him there is ...
A. 26 April 2010: Never marry a very rich man or a very beautiful woman . Love is the glue that holds a marriage together. Without love,your marriage will not last.
Money is not everything and cannot guarantee you happiness.... (read in full...)
Self conscious me is worried what she will think.
Q. hi I really like this girl. But there is a problim I have a very small penis, I am 33 and never had a girl friend or sex because of this. Like i said I really like this girl. Don't no what to do I am afraid she might just laugh at me if we ever have ...
A. 26 April 2010: A small penis is not an obstacle to a relationship with a girl. You need to increase your confidence ,self esteem and increase your sexual techniques and knowledge to compensate for your small penis.... (read in full...)
Should I be open about my past or keep quiet?
Q. Ok I'm in a major dilemma.. I'm getting married to this really wonderful guy and we have been seeing each other for over a year now.... I have been in a relation before this and have kissed my ex boyfriend but I have not revealed this to my fianc...
A. 26 April 2010: Your past belongs to you and no one else. You don't have to share your past with anyone .
If he loves you , he should love everything about you and you cannot change the past. It is an integral part of you that shaped you for what you are today.
... (read in full...)
In love and hurting - should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I'm 17 and as dramatic and cliché as is sounds, I love someone. He is dating somebody else and they aren't really serious, but all the same, I'm pretty sure he doesnt like me. In four months I will leave for university so I want to tell him how I ...
A. 26 April 2010: Fate has a way of bringing you two together or messed up with your plans.
If he is interested, he would come for you . If you were meant to be together, things would have happened already.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be best friends with my teacher?
Q. My english teacher is my best friend, me and her dont see a problem with it, but some of my friends say im being stupid and i cant be best friends with a teacher. We will always be best friends, we decided on that a couple of weeks before the east...
A. 26 April 2010: Too much negative news about teachers falling in love with their students and inappropriate relationships in your country.You cannot blame them for having those perspectives.... (read in full...)
He says he loves me more than he has loved anyone but cant be with me because his mother hates me!
Q. My boyfriends mother hates me. She has no reason to, and if he asks her why, she responds by shouting at him that she doesn't want to talk about it. On wednesday last week she banned me from their family home (she did last year for 4 months)....
A. 26 April 2010: If you are meant to be together,nothing will ever stop you . It will be a very hard mountain to climb and you will need all the resources you can muster.
Only time will tell if yours will be a true love story.... (read in full...)
Partner says he'll give me more sex if I dye my hair!!!
Q. My partner says if I dye my hair blonde, he will give me more sex but I don't want to dye my hair. He watches a fair amount of porn by the way, which I think interferes with our sex life already. But should I leave him or adapt?...
A. 26 April 2010: His addiction to porn is a cause for concern. You should let him know where are your limits and boundaries . When he crosses them , be firm with him.
If he continues to enjoy porn at your expense, it is time to reevaluate your relation... (read in full...)
He says he is happy but is giving me mixed signals
Q. ok well this is my problem. Me and my ex boyfriend were quite happy when we were living together. we were even talking about getting married and raising a family. then we ran into money troubles and ended up renting off my mother. I lost my job and ...
A. 26 April 2010: I am afraid he is not ready to commit yet . You can only have him as a friend and no more. Don't expect too much from this relationship.... (read in full...)
Should I accept a big pay reduction in order to achieve my dream?
Q. I have a good job in education but it was not my dream job. I have always dreamt of working for a large international airline as cabin crew. I turned down a job with BA to take up a management job. Now I am hating it. I love the money but no ...
A. 26 April 2010: Thanks for your update .It is great to see that you still have the enthusiasm and zest in life. All the best to you !... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or did the pill mess up my cycle?
Q. My menstrual cycle for the past six months has been 28, 37, 32, 24, 25, 26, 26 days. This month, I had sex with my boyfriend on the 25th day and the condom slipped. He noticed it on time and pulled out of me and came all over himself. The condom was ...
A. 25 April 2010: The pill is effective up to 72 hours BUT once conception has formed, it will become ineffective.
Get a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex-boyfriend to stop talking to me?
Q. How can I get my ex-boyfriend to leave me alone? He broke up with me by text message telling me that he has another girlfriend and a baby (news to me). He was never all that great as a boyfriend. We only dated for a couple of months. I thought he w...
A. 25 April 2010: Thanks for your update. In retrospect, if you had open your eyes wide, you would have smell a rat.... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex-boyfriend to stop talking to me?
Q. How can I get my ex-boyfriend to leave me alone? He broke up with me by text message telling me that he has another girlfriend and a baby (news to me). He was never all that great as a boyfriend. We only dated for a couple of months. I thought he w...
A. 25 April 2010: Try to minimize all contacts , avoid and ignore everything from him. Even if you see him , imagine he is invisible and pretend to walk by without giving him any chance to make any visible contact with him.Do not look at him at all. In time ,he will ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be best friends with my teacher?
Q. My english teacher is my best friend, me and her dont see a problem with it, but some of my friends say im being stupid and i cant be best friends with a teacher. We will always be best friends, we decided on that a couple of weeks before the east...
A. 24 April 2010: Definitely no problem as long as you two don't cross the thin RED line.
Having a teacher as your best friend is a great motivation.... (read in full...)
Should I accept a big pay reduction in order to achieve my dream?
Q. I have a good job in education but it was not my dream job. I have always dreamt of working for a large international airline as cabin crew. I turned down a job with BA to take up a management job. Now I am hating it. I love the money but no ...
A. 24 April 2010: Which is more important to you , money or happiness?
If you can get along with less money and it is not a problem,then you should go for happiness.
You only live once.
... (read in full...)
Partner says he'll give me more sex if I dye my hair!!!
Q. My partner says if I dye my hair blonde, he will give me more sex but I don't want to dye my hair. He watches a fair amount of porn by the way, which I think interferes with our sex life already. But should I leave him or adapt?...
A. 24 April 2010: It was just a simple and maybe innocent request from your partner to spice up his sex life. Probably got the idea from watching those porn movies.
You could either accept it, modify it or reject it totally. To go looking for his intentio... (read in full...)
He says he is happy but is giving me mixed signals
Q. ok well this is my problem. Me and my ex boyfriend were quite happy when we were living together. we were even talking about getting married and raising a family. then we ran into money troubles and ended up renting off my mother. I lost my job and ...
A. 5 April 2010: He is enjoying some personal freedoms and he feels relax about life.
Apparently , he still has feelings for you and is waiting for clearer signals from you.
Do you want to open up your heart to him again ?... (read in full...)
Sister staying in bad marriage for the kids--should she do this?
Q. It pains me to no end that my sister married a pathological liar. He lied about everything before they got married. He lied about his childhood, he lied about being in the army, he lied about what his family's line of work, he lied about being an ...
A. 4 April 2010: To stay in a dysfunctional marriage is wrong. It won't get any better but can only get worse and may end in violence or in some cases,death.
She should take the child and leave him and provide a better environment for the child to grow up.
... (read in full...)
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