Is this relationship over?
Q. *Op's own title* Okay its like this, i have been in a relationship with this girl for 4 and half years now, i was working abroad in Malaysia for the first 2 years and we were together, for the past few years i visited reguarly from UK to malaysia...
A. 18 April 2010: You are taking the right approach and I think you will be able to save this relationship.
Best of luck to you !... (read in full...)
Is this relationship over?
Q. *Op's own title* Okay its like this, i have been in a relationship with this girl for 4 and half years now, i was working abroad in Malaysia for the first 2 years and we were together, for the past few years i visited reguarly from UK to malaysia...
A. 18 April 2010: You should not lay of communicating with her daily because this will show to her that you care about her dearly and is thinking of her always.This is woman's love language.
She needs a lot of reassurance of your love and validate her thoughts... (read in full...)
His mom is sufficating us, how do I make her disappear?
Q. I am currently living with roommates and one of them is my best friend. Whenever him and I want to spend some alone time together, his mom throws tantrums and calls him and I very nasty names. My friend has tried to spend some alone time with his ...
A. 18 April 2010: Your best friend comes in that package and you will have to accommodate her mom.
The only way to clear this problem is to jettison both of them.
If you cannot , you will have to learn to tolerate her idiosyncrasies.... (read in full...)
I have trouble with him not replying for three or four days
Q. I need help....my ex and I broke up about 2 months ago and a month ago we started talking again. It was great at first.He is very independent.I get anxious if he doesnt respond right away to my voice mail or text message and has told do not do that ...
A. 18 April 2010: It is obvious that you are not his priority and he is playing games with you .
Downgrade this relationship to friend's status and let him do the chasing. Ignore him and if he does not contact you , you will have to let him go.... (read in full...)
Found out that he is divorcing and he didn't tell me
Q. My boyfriend of five years got into some trouble as of late. Anyway, to make a long story short, I had to ask about a court date for him and they said that the only one they had on file was for his divorce. He never told me that he was married. We ...
A. 18 April 2010: The past is the past. You are now living in the present.
Would it change events if he told you that he was separated and seeking a divorce?
Anyway that is now history and what concerns you now is the present and future.
He may have his... (read in full...)
So how do I get to know a guy I don't know?
Q. I've seen this guy at my school around and i suddenly have taken notice in him. I've talked to him about once or twice, but this was last semester, near the beginning of the school year. And then I got transferred out of his class so we neve...
A. 18 April 2010: Be natural , be yourself and say 'Hi!' and give him a sweet smile that he won't forget.... (read in full...)
Old love has turned up again after all this time... what do I do?
Q. Many years ago I was involved with this guy who I really cared for a lot. To make a long story short.. He had to go away for a bit in the army and he wrote me a couple of letters. During that time I later married and had a child moving out of the ...
A. 18 April 2010: If you don't want him to stop calling or stop coming to visit you ,then make him yours.
If he is coming to you ,it means that he has no more love for his wife. It would be only a matter of time before he divorces his wife.
Let nature takes its... (read in full...)
Afraid to be pregnant
Q. Hello to everyone! I am writing here because I wanted to hear your thoughts on this personal issue. I am a person who loves and adores kids. I always wanted to have children - to be a mom. I couldn't wait till I would be a mother to my children a...
A. 18 April 2010: I have to disagree with your views. That is life and we have to go through all those gamut of emotions .
Having children will make a woman lead a more fulfilled and contented life.
Life is not complete if you are a woman and you do not want ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to masturbate so much?
Q. I am 14 years old and i watch porno. i watch the type of porno that is called hentai or animations "mangas" because they usally have stories. everytime i watch it after im done i go and masturbate. i done it a lot lately. at least 3 times a day. is ...
A. 18 April 2010: Do everything in moderation's. Excessiveness is bad for your health.
Masturbating constantly over a period of hours can produce some swelling or ‘puffiness’ of the penis. This is called ‘oedema’ and is due to fluid leaking into the tissues.... (read in full...)
Is my weight getting in the way of his pleasure?
Q. This might be a long story... Well my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost 3 years and everything has gone great, theres only one problem... he works out all the time and is super skinny while i'm overweight... our sex life is always s...
A. 18 April 2010: Thats not being selfish ,it is being thoughtful and considerate.
It is good that you felt that way.... (read in full...)
I hate Facebook.
Q. Well, I really need advice. My boyfriend and I had been together 2 years. We started having problems and needed time apart. The arguments were about money and stress and living in a too small apartment. We both loved each other,but then one day ...
A. 18 April 2010: You cannot change a person but you can change your perceptions of him.
When you were apart ,he has a right to be happy and to do those things that he enjoys.
You should not chain a person emotionally and expect him to live like you . He is... (read in full...)
Could I have made her pregnant?
Q. Help! I'm really scared right now. My girlfriend and I have never had sex, but I went over to her house and she gave me a handjob and a blowjob. I came in her mouth, then we went to wash our hands just in case. I fingered her shortly after. She has ...
A. 18 April 2010: Only a pregnancy test will reveal if she is pregnant or not. She is late probably due to stress and worries.
If you washed your hands, the chances of getting her pregnant is very low. ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken 17 year old. How do I move on?
Q. So I was dating this guy for the last 2 and half years and I love him so much. But he has this horrible Jekyll/Hyde personality. He can be sweet and romantic and suppportive, but you say the wrong thing and he completely snaps. He makes me cry ...
A. 18 April 2010: You need to demonize him. Think of all his negative points and the abuses he inflicted on you and your system will reject him.... (read in full...)
I really like my colleague, but I'm afraid he might reject me.
Q. I hope someone can help with my problem I am a married woman for many years and I have a massive infatuation on my male colleague. I can't remember how it started, but all of the body language is there from him, deep blushing when I look at him...
A. 18 April 2010: If you are thinking of a romance in the office, you must be prepared for the consequences.
If career is more important to you than love, then you should not ever venture into that territory.
For there is no MAN worth your career! Stop and... (read in full...)
My emotionally cheating hubby has changed, so why can't I trust him?
Q. I sadly found out just B4 christmas that my husband of 5 years had been emotional cheating on me via emails and texts etc...I had my suspisions and caught hm emailing some random lady on an i phone app, it was quite sexual stuff but it was clear ...
A. 18 April 2010: You can't move on because you are wallowing in your own self pity and self righteousness.
Nobody is perfect .Forgive him and move on .Live in the present and let the past go.... (read in full...)
Why won't he give it to me?
Q. I have been with the same guy for over a year and half and when we first got together he had sex 4 times in like a month then all of a sudden he says he aint intrested in sex and im just the opposite i would love to have it and i do everything for ...
A. 18 April 2010: You can communicate with him and find out his reasons and see if he is willing to change.
If nothing works then it is time for the old to go and welcome the new.... (read in full...)
Should I tell her about my previous 'relationship' with her family friend?
Q. Long story short, I've been seeing girl A. 11 years ago (in high school), I dated a girl B who happens to be close family friends with girl A. That relationship with girl B didn't mean much to me. I was younger and had no idea what a relationship ...
A. 18 April 2010: You don't have to but if you feel strongly about it,then tell her.
It happened 11 years ago and it should not matter now.... (read in full...)
Question about bankruptcy...
Q. This isn't a relationship question obviously but with all the different types of people that are on this site maybe there is someone who will be able to answer me. I'm in the process of claiming bankruptcy. My question is this. If I don't clai...
A. 18 April 2010: Even though a debt may no longer legally appear on your credit report after 7 years, you could still be sued for the debt if the statute of limitations for your debt in your state is not up.
If the debt is gone from your credit report AND the stat... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex, morning after pill, still no period! I'm worried about pregnancy and STI's!
Q. Ok. basically i had sex with my boyfriend for the first time about 5 days ago. We didn't use a condom and now i feel stupid and all my friends have lectured me, at the time he said he would pull out and everything seemed fine. I really liked him, ...
A. 18 April 2010: You don't have to tell him unless you are tested positive.
Morning after pill works only if taken within 72 hours. .
Have safe sex always.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my live in boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend who is 42 moved in with me 5 months ago due to his business going under and was pretty much broke. So I felt I needed to help him. He had high quality furniture and mine was not that nice but it suited it's purpose. Well since he is a ...
A. 17 April 2010: I think he has overstayed your hospitality and it is time to ask him to leave and take his furniture's along with him.
You have done a lot for him and you have gained nothing in return.
He and his daughter should find some work and not depend o... (read in full...)
Can you undo a lifetime of conditioning???
Q. I'm very uncomfortable around gay people. I'd hate to describe myself as Homophobic but maybe that would be accurate. I know the usual answer to something like this is: maybe youre secretly gay yourself. But I'm 100% sure I'm not secretly gay. I ...
A. 17 April 2010: You can undo a lifetime of conditioning when the problem affects your immediate family and you will begin to understand those problems better from another perspective.
Nature has a strange way of educating those who are anti this or anti that.
... (read in full...)
Since we moved house my husband seems to have lost his sex drive...
Q. My husband is 25 years old we have always had a great sex life. Recently we up and moved to the other side of the country for his job. About 3 months after moving he totally lost his sex drive! I dont know if it is me or what, we have talked about ...
A. 17 April 2010: It could be the stress ,worries, over worked, not enough rest or sleep and the lack of exercise.
It could also be poor nutritions.Get him to eat those foods which are rich in zinc which can increase his libido. Make sure he gets plenty of rest.
... (read in full...)
What are these bumps on my legs and how can I improve them?
Q. My legs and thighs have bumps on them and are always dry and not smooth. I'm very insecure about my legs. I see other girl's legs are smooth with no bumps so why are mines like this? I don't let a guy touch me or see my legs or feel my legs bec...
A. 17 April 2010: I think the dermatologist would identify your problems and prescribe the correct antidote for your legs.... (read in full...)
I'm crazy about a girl, but maybe she's not the best thing for me. Should I cut her out of my life?
Q. Six months ago i met a girl that's 2 yrs older than me. We talked every day for 2 months on msn because she lives far away, and we became really close friends. A few months ago i told her i liked her and turns out she really liked me too, but she ...
A. 17 April 2010: You may not be able to make a decision now but in time , the truth or answer will appear before you and you would be able to do the correct thing.
Or you could write a lists of pro's and con's and then be able to decide wisely.... (read in full...)
Should I just stay friends with this guy? Move forward and try to make it work?
Q. he says he loves me i feel like i should trust him....but we like to do totally different things but when it comes to us just being together it just feels right.....but i dont know what to do about this feeling that i have that its just not ...
A. 17 April 2010: You could stay friends with him or move forward but it will be an arduous tasks to make this relationship work.
If you like him , stay as his friend and leave everything to destiny.... (read in full...)
The death of my one love makes me hesitant to date.
Q. hi there. I've been on here many times. I have gotten great advice. I have one question too ask. my back story. thru highschool I had many girlfriends. after a few casual relatonships I started gettin into bad relatonships. I've been used, hurt, ...
A. 17 April 2010: I am very sorry for your sad and great loss. I hope and pray that you will find the strength to keep on going.
If you need to share and talk about it , please do not hesitate to post in here.
I know , no words can adequately comfort your ang... (read in full...)
Forgetfulness -- Is it because you are unimportant or is this a case of absentmindedness?
Q. Hey guys, first post so here goes(apologize if I am a bit long-winded) This has to do with a "friend" I had a few months ago(friend in commas cuz I am not sure I was their friend). One of the problems we encountered was that I would tell them ...
A. 17 April 2010: It is more like you are unimportant to them and they could not be bothered with your plan.Sorry friend!Looks to me that way.... (read in full...)
What if he's perfect, but the sex is horrible?
Q. Quick question: What if the guy you dated was the nicest fellow in the world, educated, intelligent, good looking, treating you amazingly etc but the sex was absolutely HORRIBLE? (some of the difficulties I am talking about can not be fixed, like ...
A. 17 April 2010: How can he be perfect when the sex is horrible?
He is incomplete and only perfect as a gentleman and a provider but not as a Casanova.
There is no perfect man in this world. It depends on your expectations from the man.
For some women,... (read in full...)
If I ask him out I put the friendship at risk
Q. the thing is i really like this boy and most of my mates know i think that he likes my to but im unsure. im too scared to ask him out because i swim with him so it would be wierd if he said no!! i really dont no what to do all my mates said i should ...
A. 17 April 2010: You are friends and asking him should be easy.He has no reasons to reject you .
Don't worry about breaking ups.You are thinking too far in the future.
Live in the present and enjoy life.... (read in full...)
Why does he ignore me altogether?
Q. I was dating a guy for about 6 months. Recently, he broke up with me. I was pretty confused and hurt. We had a pretty healthy relationship, great sex, and a great connection. He broke up with me the day before he moved a couple of towns away to "The ...
A. 17 April 2010: He probably found someone better and lost interest in you.It is not your fault.
Accept the reality and close this chapter in your life.
Begin a new chapter........ (read in full...)
Is this relationship over?
Q. *Op's own title* Okay its like this, i have been in a relationship with this girl for 4 and half years now, i was working abroad in Malaysia for the first 2 years and we were together, for the past few years i visited reguarly from UK to malaysia...
A. 17 April 2010: She is coming over to see for herself if you really meant what you said.
Good luck to you .Hope and pray everything will come out fine.... (read in full...)
Should I keep giving him chances if he comes back?
Q. Right so my boyfriend dumped me last night and claimed things weren't working any more even though i had offered to do something about it like us going out together. Being the school holidays i havent had lots of time to see him. I cried when he ...
A. 17 April 2010: No! You should not give him a third chance because he never learns from his mistakes .
He will commit it again and you will be like sitting on an emotional roller coaster again.
You are incompatible .... (read in full...)
Please help! Should I move in with a roomate for now, or trust how my husband is being?
Q. Hi, we have been married five years. My husband and I recently moved two yrs ago to a different state to start our business and that didnt work out. He has been unemployed the whole time and became very depressed. We have basically lost all of our ...
A. 17 April 2010: I am sorry about your predicaments. Will moving back there changes anything?
You are now on your own and your husband maybe depending on others for their goodwill to survive.
Your place should be beside your husband and if you think of sav... (read in full...)
Stress is affecting sex with my wife, why am I so negative in life?
Q. I always lost out in my life be it be the studies or any thing ,married for over 12 yrs 2 kids and a very att wife i get alot upset when i think about my future my business is not as good as i want though the people around me find me very sucessfull ...
A. 17 April 2010: Whether you want to be negative or positive lies with your tongue.
If you always speak in the negative, you will only attract the negative things.
You need to speak in a more positive way and you need to change your negative attitude to a po... (read in full...)
Boyfriend told me he'd leave if I got pregnant, and I tested positive.
Q. I am 15 and i done a pregnancy test this morning it was positive.My boyfriend said he would leave me if i ever was what should i do?...
A. 17 April 2010: Talk to your parents or your school counselor or the pregnancy help centre near you to find out what are the best options for you.
Forget about that coward.He is too immature and of no help except to run away and leave you to carry the baby all... (read in full...)
Is he distancing himself because we're going to university soon, or for another reason?
Q. My ex and i were together for just over 1 year, we were very much in love but we argued quite a lot and decided we needed a break. This break lasted for about 4 months although the whole time we were still in contact (we did see other people). We ...
A. 17 April 2010: He is worried that going to the Uni may change a person and the environment may alter a person's thoughts.
They will be many hot guys out there and you may find someone better there.
He is rather insecure and does not want to make promises .A... (read in full...)
Is he confused?
Q. Lately my bf has been stressed and distant. i go to his place on the weekends and end up sitting on the couch all weekend because he has no time or money to do anything. i told him how i have been feeling neglected and he got angry. last night i w...
A. 17 April 2010: You should pull back and let him do the chasing from now. By going there, you only add more frustrations to yourself because he does not appreciate or cherish you .
He has taken you for granted that you are his forever and he can do anything... (read in full...)
He won't let go of his separated wife for me.
Q. Hi, i am a 41 year old woman, i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and it has been a very up and down relationship, he has always been a very angry man and i have found it very hard with him, we have a 2 year old child together of which he ...
A. 17 April 2010: If you can believe him , the world would be a square and not round. He has proven to be a habitual lier and nothing more.
Don't ever make the mistake of listening to what he promised. He will never leave his wife for you but will continue... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he stresses me out.
Q. im 7 and half weeks pregnant. ever since i found out i was pregnant me and my partner were really happy and excited (still am) but we have been arguing alot lately, to the point when i dont hear from him for a few days, i get sick with worry ...
A. 17 April 2010: You could take a break from him until he becomes more matured or responsible towards you . Those stress is not good for you and your baby.
It can be a very difficult time for the both of you during this period.A lot of strange emotions and feel... (read in full...)
Was he just playing me?
Q. So theres this guy i like. He says im pretty, beautiful, skinny, gorgeous, cye, ect. he also says im like funn and funny and smart. We used to talk all the time and hang out till like 6 on the preschool play ground. we'd lay together and hed have ...
A. 17 April 2010: Initially , you were his target until your best friend manifested and you got kicked to the kerb.
Sorry to be blunt.... (read in full...)
Is there a better way to go about getting my ex back?
Q. My ex tried to reconcile with me by taking t slow. I freaked and told her to stop stringing me along(believing she was just trying to be friends). I teally hurt her feelings. She told me that we broke up bc I pit other things infront of her in my ...
A. 17 April 2010: If you want to get her back , you need to keep your communications lines with her open.
Being a friend serves that purpose and whether you will graduate back to that phase or not will depends on how you keep her interested in you .... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to feel down all the time about this?
Q. i am a girl and i have a boy best friend and his best friend(MG) likes me well we like each other and i didn't think our relationship was going to go anywhere because he was sooo wired!! but it was like a week after we started talking and i lo...
A. 17 April 2010: You cannot go back into the past to change anything and neither do you have a rewind in your life.
You made a mistake . Get over it and accept the reality.
Nothing you can do about that anymore and why waste your time and resources to do ... (read in full...)
Horrible Pain when trying to finger.Help Please!!!
Q. *OP's own title* I'm a virgin 16 year old girl and when I try to finger my vagina I can't because IT HURTS A LOT.I can't even stick my entire finger in my vagina,I have tried but I can't,I have been trying to finger my vagina since I was 12 year...
A. 17 April 2010: I think you should go and consult a gynae to find out what is your problem.... (read in full...)
Is this relationship over?
Q. *Op's own title* Okay its like this, i have been in a relationship with this girl for 4 and half years now, i was working abroad in Malaysia for the first 2 years and we were together, for the past few years i visited reguarly from UK to malaysia...
A. 17 April 2010: If she is willing to come over to talk it over,there is still hope. She is kindda disillusioned with you and you need to set her right and do what you need to do for her.Find out what she wants and try to accommodate her wishes.
She has given th... (read in full...)
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