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writes:i dont know whats going on with my boyfriend, he got rejected by the raf becos he has a shellfish allergy, and his so annoyed by that, i understand. since then though he has been in a funny mood with me, and i try an easure him but his telling me to stop, im only trying to help him. he has snapped at me a couple of times, and his never like that, and on saturday, he went out with his friend to the pub and nearly got himself into a fight, which he has never ever done, he is a quiet and shy lad.and now he wants to go into game design, which he knows nothing about becos his whole life has been dedicated to the raf, and he spent most of his teen life down the gym to get fit for it.. so game design is a bit strange, he knows nothing about it, so i tried to tell him about it, and he keeps snapping at me saying how im not support him, when i am, but i think hes just gonna waste all his time, on a sodding computer.. when hes fit, and active, i really dont see him working on a computer when he could be doing something worth doing..im really upset about this, and i know it sounds like im being silly.. but im not, i just dont understand whats going on with him..its upsetting me so much i just dont know what to do. can anybody help? pleasethankyou :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Thanks for your update. Great to hear that everything is back to normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the answers =)
his fine now.. he doesnt want to go in to game design becos he read info about it. and its put him off.
thank you again for answering.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (28 April 2010):
He is acting out his frustrations for being rejected. Just be there for him and you don't have to offer any answers or solutions to him.
Don't say anything negative or sound negative like .It could be taken wrongly that you don't support him.
It is only temporary and everything will go back to normal after some time.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 If you want to keep your boyfriend, don't tell him what he could be doing. He has dedicated his life to a goal that he cannot achieve; he's obviously grieving about it and now he has to suddenly switch gears and think about other options. He probably doesn't know what to do now, so his first thought is game design. He will probably change his mind a hundred more times before he settles on something, in the meantime, offer your support, not your advice (unless it's asked for).
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reader, Si Si  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 Dear girl,firstly, it is not so uncommon for people to snap at others and be in a bad mood when things go wrong in their life...he is only human. Just bear with him and give him some space, and some understanding,it won`t last very long.
Secondly, if he wants to go into game design,then let him and support him! Just because you don`t think it right is not a reason to try and stop him,he will only resent you for that.If it is not for him,he will find out in his own time.
Supporting someone means helping them in whatever it is they decide to do.Be that girl for him,support him in his decision,and you will find he does the same for you when you need support. you will both have a better and more fulfilling relationship.
I wish you both happiness..
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