Should I rekindle this relationship?
Q. I broke up with this person who was married and I still care about this person. It has been 2 years now and want to know if I should pursue to rekindle a relationship with this person or leave them alone. This person said they still care and love ...
A. 7 May 2010: There is a reason why he is in the past. He is not meant to be yours.
Furthermore,he is married and he will not leave his wife for you . Don't be taken in by those sweet words .
He is history.... (read in full...)
My father makes creepy jokes and I would like them to stop!
Q. Sometimes my dad talks about having anal intercourse with the family dog. This creeps me out and my mother never says anything about it. I'm pretty sure he's joking, but still... How can I make him stop? Thanks, Marty Z....
A. 7 May 2010: You can offer him passive resistance. When he cracks that joke, get up and move away from him. He would get the message.... (read in full...)
I'm having very strong urges to have an affair..would like to hear from others who have been there..done that
Q. I am a 44 year old male. Married for 15 years. I'll get right to the point: my marriage is having big problems right now and I am at a crossroads. I have never cheated before. But I have never felt the way I do now. I am visiting depths of emotio...
A. 7 May 2010: If you want to have an affair ,make sure that you can swallow the bitter after effects. You will stand to lose everything you have made or acquired in your whole life.
You should channel those urges into working at your marriage. Seek professi... (read in full...)
The ex, missing him, and him wanting to borrow money
Q. 2 posts combined.... I broke up with my boyfriend because i felt he was not affectionate enough but he was trying the best he knew how...... But i pushed him away and always accused him of cheating he was so distant with me after we broke up so i...
A. 7 May 2010: Things happened for a reason and you should not lend money to anyone. Don't listen to his sweet words or sweet promises. He will promise you the sky and the moon to get what he wants from you .
Don't listen to any sob stories or any get rich qui... (read in full...)
I don't want to get my hopes up. Should I accept my ex's invite?
Q. So I posted a question about a month ago looking for help. My girlfriend had broken up with me because she wanted to be single but still wants to be with me eventually. So I've taken a hands off approach. She still texts me and calls me but we only ...
A. 7 May 2010: If you think there is no chance of a relationship,then you should not go .
She broke up with you and you still meet regularly. She could be exploiting you or taking advantage of you .
Maybe, she may want to reconnect back with you again. You w... (read in full...)
Is this a case of birds of a feather flocking together?
Q. i have a problem, ive been close to this man for a year or two now, we met online but recently started meeting up. i have feelings for him, kinda starting to fall for him. he lives local so we spend quite abit of time together and im sure he likes ...
A. 6 May 2010: Be careful, he could be a vulture. You have been with him for a year or two and you should be able to assess his character.
A man is what he is by the friends he keeps.That is a red flag.Another thing is his phone is always busy and that could me... (read in full...)
5 months and never been on a date?
Q. so me and my bf have been dating for about 5 months on and off... but it seems like im the only one trying to be romantic and wanting to see him. he has NEVER taken me on a date... i REALLY want to go on a date with him. how do i hint that to ...
A. 6 May 2010: Your b/f is the laid back type and very predictable .
You need to speak to him about initiating things and giving you surprises.
Tell him that you would be very happy if he can initiate things sometimes .You got to put that idea into his min... (read in full...)
How long does it take for a man to decide if he can fall in love with someone he has met recently?
Q. How long does it take for a man to decide if he can fall in love with someone he has met recently?...
A. 6 May 2010: A man can fall in love instantly when he see's a beautiful woman.It could be under a few seconds .Some may take longer.
Men are capable of falling in love by the first look or impressions.... (read in full...)
Is he into me or my body?
Q. Hi people !!!! Ok one quick question. How can u tell if a 16 yr old guy is into u or ur body ?? how can u tell if ur a "mess around" or something serious?? how can u tell if he likes u or not?? plz help on these questions and thanks so much ...
A. 6 May 2010: A 16 years old guy probably does not know what is love . If he is trying to get into your pants,then he is into your body.
If he is playing the field, then he is just messing around with you till he gets what he wants.
If he likes you , he w... (read in full...)
Not sexually active but haven't had my period
Q. ok so i need help or some information about this.i haven't had my period this month and i know i'm not pregnant because i'm a non-sexual active virgin any ways this has never happened to me usually it comes early but it hasn't came at all the last ...
A. 6 May 2010: You are 2 months late and I think you need to consult your health care provider.... (read in full...)
Do I tell his fiance what we did?
Q. A week ago, I went for a walk with an engaged guy, and somehow we ended up kissing and feeling each other up. The day after, we met up and things went further (but we didn't sleep together or anything.) The thing is, I am 15 and have never had much ...
A. 6 May 2010: It is only your words and do you think his fiance would believe you over him ? Do you have any concrete evidence like video's or pixs to prove what you are telling her ?
Put yourself in her shoes, a girl comes and tell you that kind of story wo... (read in full...)
He told me never to call him again and to get tested for HIV! Why would he do this to me?
Q. ive a psoarisis, till my boyfriend found out when we try to fist made up. he felt sorry for me and yet we still have it in protected way. (COndom) the worst part is, he left me hanging dont know why he ask me not to call him anymore and ask me to ...
A. 5 May 2010: Just because someone threw rubbish into your brain , you accepted it .You should know what is the truth and the false .
You don't have to accept anything from him as the Gospel truth. You know it is all lies and you should just ignore those wo... (read in full...)
How is it possible for us to have the same dream when we have never even met?
Q. Me and my girlfriend had the same dream: I was at the airport waiting for her plane to arrive. About 3 mins later a voice came on saying her plane arrived. I ran to the gate and looked around trying to find her. The gate closed and she was nowhere ...
A. 5 May 2010: It is possible and can happen. It is difficult to explain the phenomenon. It could be due to some telekinetic energies that both of you send forth to each other .... (read in full...)
How can I get over the fact that my husband lied to me about being a virgin all those years ago?
Q. When I met my husband over 30 years ago he told me that he was a virgin (as was I). However, recently, and during a difficult patch in our marriage he confessed that this was a lie. This has upset me terribly, and to make it worse he says that it ...
A. 5 May 2010: It happened 30 years ago and you should lay it to rest. If you cannot get over it, your mind would be cluttered with too many rubbish and there will be no more room for happiness and joys.
Furthermore , you can't change the facts. Live in the pres... (read in full...)
It seems she would be happy to never have sex again! How do I talk to her about this?
Q. Well, I am obviously an idiot. First off my wife and I have a good marriage, she just isn't interested in sex (when we talk about it she says she can't explain other than she just isn't interested)it has been since Jan '09. For reference we have ...
A. 5 May 2010: She may have inhibited sexual desire (ISD), a common disorder in which there is a chronic disinterest in sex.
It could be due to depressions or inter personal conflicts.The relationship isn't working or isn't providing the woman with what she want... (read in full...)
What the hell!
Q. What to think? ...been together 4 yrs, having a crazy day and I was just getting ready for bed and he knows I have had a pinched nerve for a couple of days - I just asked him kindly could you please rub my neck for a few minutes and he says sorr...
A. 5 May 2010: That is just unloving and uncaring. You will have the chance to pay him back.... (read in full...)
I don't think I love my boyfriend anymore and I'm only staying with him for his sake!
Q. i think i dont love my bf any more.but im in the relationship only for him.he really loves me.but i feel frustrating staying without any feeling.now what should i do?...
A. 5 May 2010: You cannot have a relationship without love. You will find it empty and void.
It would not be fair to him too and he cannot love a loveless person.It ain't no fun.... (read in full...)
Can it be possible to be pregnant even though I am on the pill?
Q. I am 22, I need help. I am on pills and me and my Bf make love almost everyday. My periods finished on sunday. Since then i have been sick. I can smell food at all. I throw out evrything i eat. I am scared i might be pregnant. can that be possible. ...
A. 5 May 2010: It is possible to be pregnant while on the pill but the chances of being pregnant is only 0.1 to 1% .
You should go visit your GP and find out why you are sick.It could be food poisoning, stomach flu or other things.... (read in full...)
I need help with my Sex addiction!
Q. I'm addicted to sex: how do I get over sex?...
A. 5 May 2010: You may have OCD .(Obsessive, compulsive disorder)If your obsessions and compulsions are affecting your life,please see your doctor or mental health provider.
You could refocus your interests and attentions on other activities , like physical... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but we are very different and I doubt it will work out
Q. Dear Cupid, I genuinely love my boyfriend, we have been together for over a year and before that we were friends for 5 years. I can't imagine being without him, but we are complete opposites when it comes to fundamental political, social, ...
A. 5 May 2010: You cannot live with an intolerant person or a bigot. Life is just like hell and it is only his views and nothing else matters.
You cannot breathe under those circumstances and it is better that you break up.
Find someone who is more tolerant... (read in full...)
Its like I am invisible to my boyfriend
Q. i love my boyfriend but i don't think he loves me? he doesn't notice me and its like am invisible.i buy all the gifts,he demands a lot and he makes a scene when am unable to provide for him but yet i get noting in return.when i complain on how i ...
A. 5 May 2010: He has taken you for granted .When you are there for him , he does not know how to appreciate you .He will treat you like a door mat.
Don't be his doormat or a martyr.
Unless he puts in more commitment in this relationship, you will stay pu... (read in full...)
Does his blushing mean he likes me?
Q. There is this boy that I like and I've liked him for 3 years now. This year, we have become REALLY CLOSE. He's in every one one of my classes, he sits next to me and is there when I don't even know. He is always smiling, laughing, and is close to m...
A. 5 May 2010: It does not matter who asked who out. When you are together alone, it is a different and new ball game.
If he is not going to ask you out, you will have to initiate it.Don't let anything stand in your way of fun.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant after a drunken fumble in a toilet?
Q. Could I be pregnant or am I being stupid I AM NOT ON THE PILL OF ANY FORM OF CONTRACEPTION I am normally a very sensible person but I was out on friday night and my best friend got me very very drunk, I was dancing with this really nice gu...
A. 5 May 2010: Actually clothing offers no protection against pregnancy since there are holes in them thanks to the weave of the material.
They are quite porous to those sperms which can penetrate those panties if they are wet.The seminal fluid in which th... (read in full...)
Feeling bad because I've never had a boyfriend
Q. Almost every girl in my school has a boyfriend except for me and im starting 2 feel kinda sad and ulgy and fat and i want some addvice like what boys look for in a girl and stuff im just kinda feeling lonely i mean im like 13 and i have never ever ...
A. 5 May 2010: Confidence is a very strong asset. You need to feel confidence about yourself and your body. Be happy and bubbly and it will attract the boys.
When you are confident, your character will shine through.... (read in full...)
Used the morning after pill twice in a month ...
Q. Hey i have a question, first of all i have irregular periods, well i got my period beginning of march then end of april, but i had sex a week before i got my period of the month of april and i used next choice because i didnt want to get pregnant, ...
A. 5 May 2010: Women who have regular periods can easily calculate when ovulation occurs. Ovulation almost always happens 14 days before you expect your period.
For a woman who has 28 day cycles, that would be in the exact middle of the cycle, 14 days after th... (read in full...)
Should I keep dating him?
Q. I've been dating this guy for 1.5 years. We usually get along really well and spend a lot of time together. However, we fight quite often, and especially lately. Our last fight wasn't too long ago and we were almost going to break up. Howeve...
A. 5 May 2010: Don't let him blackmail you emotionally. If you think you are incompatible with each other, you need to walk away from him and end it.
Using emotional blackmail is one of the tactics of making you feel guilty and unable to leave him.... (read in full...)
He's thinking of leaving his g/f for me
Q. My ex from about 4 -5 years ago and i have been texting quite a bit - even though his gf doesn't allow him to have any communication with any girls that arent family, on friday we met up just to say hi. We've both realised we still have feelings for ...
A. 5 May 2010: It may not be your decision but you are an accomplice to that decision.
If you did not give him a chance, he would not leave her for you.
If you don't her to be hurt, you should stop all communications with him.
The choice is yours. ... (read in full...)
I can't look at him when I'm talking to him
Q. Well.... I have this problem through. Well its better to tell the story first. Okay anyway it been like this for days and well months. There is this boy I liked, he is also my friend. We talked happly about a month until some hormonal emotio...
A. 5 May 2010: Give the command to your brain to tell your eyes to look at his eyes when speaking to him.Tell you brain that.
Initially , it may feel awkward but after sometime ,it will become natural.... (read in full...)
Should I write a letter telling him how I feel?
Q. I've been trying to tell my friend how I feel about him by saying it online because I'm very shy and don't want to say it in school. I told him that I like him and other things like the way he's been distant is hurting me. Would he be offended? I'm ...
A. 5 May 2010: If he likes you ,it is unoffensive but if he is not into you ,then it is offensive. It depends on how you word it and how you tell him that his distancing is hurting you .
It can sound clingy and that is a turn off.
Sometimes , he never answers... (read in full...)
He dumped me because of his friend!
Q. There was this guy back in highschool, who I really liked. But I knew that we'd never be together because he didn't see me that way, if you know what I mean. He was really interested in a friend of mine, and even when she told him she wasn't ...
A. 5 May 2010: If you love him, you will need to let him go and if he comes back for you ,then he is yours.Otherwise , he is somebody's .
To some men , you are a second hand shoe or an old shoe and they would not want to try it on. Some men have this notion w... (read in full...)
He says its over but he's still in my bed!
Q. hiya going through a rough time with my bf been with him for 4yrs ive been chatting on line and hes seen my emails there wasent anything in it just boredom really he works away he says its over between us he still lving with me and out daughter hes ...
A. 5 May 2010: He will calm down and think over it and he will probably come back to you .After all it is also his home.... (read in full...)
Broke up for a year and now I'm pregnant, he wants me to have an abortion!
Q. Well last year the love of my life of 14 yrs left me and our son saying he"had to get himself together". Well it was a huge adjustment for me as well as our 10 year old son. He was always around, still active in my sons life. We remaine civil. I ...
A. 5 May 2010: You are right. He is selfish . He should accept your decisions if he really loves you .... (read in full...)
I'm married, she's married!
Q. Hello, I have a female friend that ended up telling me she is attracted to me and she really likes me. She is an attractive woman and I do like her and her personality. We hang out every weekend with our neighbors. The only thing is I'm married a...
A. 5 May 2010: Stay away from her. She is a temptress and you will soon fall under her powers. She will only use you and then will kick you to the kerbs.
Think of your marriage and your wife. Do not eat the forbidden fruit ,for its aftertaste is putrid and very... (read in full...)
I told g/f I'd be home at 7, but came home 2 hours later. I screwed up!
Q. I've been dating my girl friend seriously for about a month. Last night I told her I was on the way home from the bar with the guys at 7pm. Long story short I didn't show up till 9pm. She had told me she was cooking dinner for me and seemed ...
A. 5 May 2010: Apologize with a bouquet of flowers and a box of chocolates. Take what she throws at you and do not repeat that mistake again.
If she still likes you , she will give you another chance.... (read in full...)
He says its over but he's still in my bed!
Q. hiya going through a rough time with my bf been with him for 4yrs ive been chatting on line and hes seen my emails there wasent anything in it just boredom really he works away he says its over between us he still lving with me and out daughter hes ...
A. 5 May 2010: Sometimes a man says one thing and does another.He may not mean what he said. It just slipped out of his mouth. Once said , he cannot take it back.
It may have been spoken when he was very frustrated. Just ignore what he said and see his actions.... (read in full...)
How can I build confidence to ask a guy out?
Q. I have never had a boy friend and i really like this guy. we were really good friends, then his ex came back to him but they are now split up. i don't have the confidence to ask him out. what can i do to build my confidence??? Help ! ...
A. 4 May 2010: Guys are simple creatures. Just walk up to him confidently , smile your sweetest and asked him if he is interested to go for a drink. If your guy is a shy type,you will have to initiate the first move.
If he is not interested, just walkaway... (read in full...)
My husband loves me completely but I don't love him. Should I leave him?
Q. I've read other peoples' questions and answers about whether they should stay in a loveless marriage, but no one seems to be in my situation. The fact is, my husband of 25 years is a kind, affectionate, caring, loving, reliable, attentive man wh...
A. 4 May 2010: It is more risky to leave because excitement, happiness, love and passion can just be your ilusions.
There are younger and more pretty ladies out there still looking for their prince charming.
You don't have to depend on others for your ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I could be pregnant or not?
Q. Okay so I had sex with this guy , and i took 2 pregnancy test and one showed up alomost positive , and now he thinks i am , but i dont think i am , and im going to the docter to make sure , what do i tell him if im not and how do i tell him. Helpp!...
A. 4 May 2010: Phone him and tell him that the doctor confirmed that you are not pregnant .(if the result is negative .)... (read in full...)
I love them both but I can't have them both!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend who recently asked me to marry him for 3 years now, he is the kindest and most loving guy and he treats me like a princess. However over the past 8 months i have been getting feelings for an old friend of his, and the ...
A. 3 May 2010: Well! No one is perfect and one should not have too high an expectation of one's partner.
You love him for who he is and not what you want him to be.During the early stages, he can morphed into anything you want him to be ,but after marriage... (read in full...)
16, think I"m pregnant, can't tell dad and abortion is not an option! HELP!
Q. I'm 16 and I'm pregnet I know your going to say how stuped she is I know already I am any way my bf is with me all the way I just am soo scard to tell my dad I can't tell him I get scard and walk away I'm not aborshinig the baby it is wrong or ...
A. 3 May 2010: Get confirmations of your pregnancy first. If positive, tell your dad . It is better to tell him earlier than to tell him later . He will become better prepared for it.
Do not be scared, he will only want to help you .Which father will hit on h... (read in full...)
We can't move forward until his divorce finalizes, and I'm getting depressed
Q. I have been with this guy for 1 yr. He treats me well. The problem is, that his divorce (he's been separated for 18 mos.) is still not final. Court dates have been cancelled, the 'other' side is being very difficult, he has a 14 yr. old daughter ...
A. 3 May 2010: Be patient.Good things come to those who can wait. Do not let it affect your happiness.
Take each day at a time. Do not make a mountain of this mole hill. It will end someday. Nothing can stop you being together.... (read in full...)
I love them both but I can't have them both!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend who recently asked me to marry him for 3 years now, he is the kindest and most loving guy and he treats me like a princess. However over the past 8 months i have been getting feelings for an old friend of his, and the ...
A. 3 May 2010: You are involved in a triangular affair.
Making a list of pro's and con's is a good way to decide .
Your choice is actually pretty clear. You should choose your b/f. He is committed ,he is the kindest and most loving guy and he treats me like a... (read in full...)
I love them both but I can't have them both!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend who recently asked me to marry him for 3 years now, he is the kindest and most loving guy and he treats me like a princess. However over the past 8 months i have been getting feelings for an old friend of his, and the ...
A. 3 May 2010: You will have to choose between the guy who loves you more or the guy whom you love more? The guy who will put you first on his priority list and the one who can spend more time with you . The answer is to choose the guy that you cannot l... (read in full...)
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