Should I just leave him alone?
Q. After three years my Ex and I broke up. The reason was because he is an alcoholic and the disease became progressively worse. He sent me a text that stated that he must remain distant from me because every time he thinks of me and how he failed me ...
A. 28 October 2009: I would leave him be, he has issues he has to work out by himself and to be honest someone like him is only going to drag you down, no matter how much you love him.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my fiance insists on having friends over all the time
Q. Hi there, My fiance and I have been together a little over 2 years. He asked me to marry him in April and we found out that I was pregnant in May (good timing huh?). We both have an interest in poker and kareoke and before we found out I was ...
A. 28 October 2009: It sounds like you are on different pages, you want to settle down, make a home for your new family life, he wants a party house & it almost sounds like he is trying to live a batchelor's lifestyle.... (read in full...)
Her mom thinks a 2 year age gap is too much
Q. im a 17yr male in grade 12 and ive just started dating a girl in grade 10 who is 15. im having a hard time convincing my mom that its ok that im two years older... how can I convince her that its ok, or rather, is it actually ok?...
A. 28 October 2009: Give her time, let her see how good you 2 are together... (read in full...)
Is it ok that I am 21 and she is 15?
Q. OK... If i am 21 can i go out with this girl that is 15 and she loves me and i love her. her parents like me and trust me, they don't mind if i go out with there daughter. I am a Cristian and i wear a purity ring and i am faithful to my promise with ...
A. 28 October 2009: Ummm...Bit wrong I think...Not only is she illegal, there's a huge mental and physical gap...... (read in full...)
My girl friend dated my best friend before me and I find this difficult
Q. Me and my girlfriend have dated for about 5 months now and I love her but she dated my best friend just before me and her. They dated for about 2 months. She told me it was not a big deal at all and it was not serious but if it was not a big deal I ...
A. 28 October 2009: If you can't get over it, you need to get out of the relationship... (read in full...)
He moved in immediately with me but I think it was a mistake
Q. I recently moved a guy into my house that i didnt even know. The first day i met him he moved in with me. He told me he wanted to be with me and stuff and i am a sucker for beleiveing stuff like this stupid i no but ive always been the same. When he ...
A. 28 October 2009: This might sound harsh but it seems to me he was taking advantage of someone a bit naive and trusting, and was looking for a place to stay and someone to rebound with as he only just broke up with his ex.... (read in full...)
He says he wants to be friends but is now avoiding me
Q. Is it a bad thing that I feel as if the guy who wants to stay friends is avoiding me now? We do not have any of the same classes but we pass by every morning and he never says hello anymore. When I asked him out he said he wanted to stay friends but ...
A. 28 October 2009: I would leave him be and let him have space, let him come to you if he wants to x... (read in full...)
Ladies: what is your experience with sex on prom night?
Q. I’m going to the winter formal soon. I truely care about my boyfriend . I look forward to a the evening of dressing up etc. the thought of sex has entered my mind. If we have sex on the winter formal night I think it should be with someone like my ...
A. 28 October 2009: Not to take any of the romance away from your first time...But I just wanted to make 2 comments...
-The first time you have sex, it's usually pretty awkward/painful/uncomfortable, it's not usually the beautifully romantic scene you see in movi... (read in full...)
I'm having to lie to my parents, how do I get around this?
Q. This Friday my boyfriend wants me to stay round his, he has the house to himself so his parents don't know. The problem is my parents won't let me sleep round his so I have to make up an excuse I've already said my friend is having a sleepover and ...
A. 20 September 2009: I'm not gonna lecture, been your age, done it all :)
I'm glad you mentioned you're nto ready for sex. I was pressured into it at 15 and was stupid enough to let myself be pressured.
But, anyway, back to the point. If I was you, I would tell you... (read in full...)
Why are men so hard to understand!!!!
Q. I've been seeing this boy for around 2 months. I'm 17, he's 22 and he has a 4 year old son. He's happy with how things are between us and doesn't want to change it while I can't stand waiting for something that might not even happen! Because of this ...
A. 20 September 2009: I guess you're wanting more of an idea of commitment...Whether he wants to live with you, have children etc? And you feel like he won't as he already has a son? He sounds a bit more laid back than you are, whereas you sound like you need more str... (read in full...)
Women aged 20-29 - please answer this!
Q. I've been seeing my gf for about 4 mos (I'm 39- shes 25) I know big gap. Anyway, about a month in -- we had "the talk" ---and I found out about her not so innocent past. It made me sick to find out she had slept with 15 other guys before me. ...
A. 23 August 2009: I would be grossed out about the warts and would rethink a relationship with someone if they told me they had them...I think personally most girls that age (my age) have slept with around the same amount of guys, I myself have slept with about ... (read in full...)
How far should a boyfriend be allowed to go with the other woman in a threesome?
Q. If you are bisexual and want a threesome with another woman, how far would you let boyfriend (long-term boyfriend) go with her?...
A. 23 August 2009: You need to set your own boundaries.
Do you even want to share your boyfriend with another woman?
When thinking about your boundaries, think about how you';ll feel when you see her having sex with him, him going down on her, her going down on him..... (read in full...)
I need help in seeing the right from wrong in my first love
Q. I have a boyfriend who I have been with for 17 months. However, he treats me like a door step. He pushes me, he yells so close to my face that I can feel his spit, and he tells me that he is the best guy that I will ever find. I know I sound stupid, ...
A. 23 August 2009: My heart really goes out to you. No one deserves to be treated like this. You're worth 100 of your boyfriend, and you need to find the courage to leave him, because he's dragging you down. Look to your family and friends for support...How dare ... (read in full...)
Is he interested at all or just playing games?
Q. I kissed this guy a year and a half ago but the following night he said that he was drunk that night. I met him a few times since but nothing ever happened and we just talked. I bumped into him in a bar last weekend and he apologised for what ...
A. 23 August 2009: My views are this;
After reading your question, I get the impression you were pressuring him.
He agreed to go out with you only because he told you he didn't want to be with anyone, yet you still pressed it and asked him to be with you.
If he was... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex after bumping into him?
Q. Hello guys, I really need help, first of all I'm gay, so here's what happened to me. Last night I went to a club with my best friend and I found my ex-boyfriend so I said hi to him and we ended up dancing and kissing for a while, so later on we h...
A. 23 August 2009: I would leave it, contacting him is just going to keep causing you pain, it doesn't sound like he's interested the way you are...Just move on, try to forget him...... (read in full...)
How can I make her show her feelings for me?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a girl,i love so much. We have been together for about 5 months. She gets angry easily and we always quarrel. She doesnt ever show her feelings for me but i do and i always feel bad about it.How can i make her show her ...
A. 23 August 2009: You don't sound very compatable...She's just the way she is and you can't change that.... (read in full...)
I don't want there to be secrets in my relationship, how to get the point across?
Q. My on/off boyfriend of almost 3 years cheated on me about 2-3 months ago but supposedly they didn't do anything sexually (I never really believed that).. so I forgave him, and things have been steady since. But I haven't forgotten. Jokingly, I stole ...
A. 23 August 2009: Hmmm alarm bells are ringing...I don't think he's being honest with you.
Do you have naked photos on your phone of yourself?
If you do who would you send them to apart from your boyfriend?
Has he been sending you those photos?
I rest my case...D... (read in full...)
How should I go about re-establishing contact with a friend?
Q. I'd like to re-establish contact with a friend of mine and I'm thinking on what to write in an email. -We haven't talked/seen each other for more than a year. -We are from different countries. -We were very close (although never in an offi...
A. 23 August 2009: Keep it short and sweet - Hi, how are you, long time no see, what have you been up to, etc...... (read in full...)
How can I kick my ex bf out of my place?
Q. Hi :-( I'm a college student in a foreign country.My ex and i are still living together in an apartment that i pay for and the lease is on my name.We broke up about 2 years ago. Our breakup was not a bitter one, since no one cheated or anything...
A. 23 August 2009: You are not his mother. He's a big boy now and should be fully able to look after himself. I'm assuming he's getting a free ride from you? Maybe it's heartless, you need to give him a month or so to move out, you need to move on with your life x... (read in full...)
Married but sexually incompatible
Q. I am a 32 yr old woman married to a 38 yr old man. We have been married for almost a year and everything else about our marriage is good except that we are completely sexually incompatible. When we were dating he was very slow moving in the sexual ...
A. 23 August 2009: Sex is one of the most important things in a relationship, in my opinion...Have you tried talking to him about it?
I totally get how you feel - I have to have the passion, that can't get enough of you feeling, be able to dominate or be domi... (read in full...)
One on one dinner with a friend of the opposite sex - yay or nay?
Q. I'm in a great relationship where there is a lot of trust between my partner and I. I have many male friends that I hang out with or communicate with on a regular basis and he has female friends too. This is of course fine. But the other night, a...
A. 23 August 2009: Sounds innocent enough, depends how long they dated for etc?
My boyfreind was with his ex 5 years. They meet up now and again for a drink and a catch up, one on one, and this is fine, because I've seen them together, there's no chemistry, I trus... (read in full...)
It's like he has two personalities
Q. what was going on with him? when i was around him, my former boyfriend would have three days to one or two weeks of being relatively indestructably 'happy' and energetic, and then very soon after he would lose much energy or become very angry, ...
A. 23 August 2009: He thinks he's not bi-polar?? Jesus...Sounds exaclt ylike my ex, he was bi-polar (but refused to admit it) also found out he was a complete cocaine and marijuana addict. He was a comploete nut case and I was always on edge around him.... (read in full...)
My wife constantly wants to move
Q. hi, i have been in a relationship for 12 years now we are married and have a daughter together. my wife is always unhappy where we live so we are constantly moving about 5 years ago we moved to the uk, to make a frsh start. she then went back to ...
A. 23 August 2009: Firstly I say good on you for finding someone who treats you right and makes you happy. Sorry if this offends but your wife sounds like a complete B*tch and I don't blame you for meeting someone else.
She can't stop you seeing your daughter - get ... (read in full...)
What's the most important thing in a relationship?
Q. Pls what is most important in a relationship that would make the best for marriage? is it the time they share together, the shown love or the spending? for i know poverty is not a choice, and also some know how to show love while others dont though ...
A. 23 August 2009: Trust... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my boss, should I tell him?
Q. I have had a huge crush on my boss for the past seven months but have not done anything about it. I joke with him as I do with the other employees at work but I don't flirt with him because I know that a relationship with the boss is not ...
A. 23 August 2009: Do you think he feels the same way?
Tell him, what's the point in having regrets x... (read in full...)
Can I trust him? He's telling other girls he wants to be with them!
Q. I been this relationship for 2yrs now,, in the first couple of months we had some problems or at least i had some problems with him. such as his bm called my phone and then another time a girl called my phone talking bout they been together for ...
A. 23 August 2009: YOU ARE SO RIGHT TO BREAK UP WITH THIS LOSER!!!
Be strong, keep your chin up x... (read in full...)
Good dating websites in the USA?
Q. This is a question for American users. Is anyone familiar with any good American Dating sites as I am sick and tored of my so to be called relationship now and have always wanted to start a new life in the US. Any suggestions?...
A. 23 August 2009: Do a Google search? Find which sites suit you best...?... (read in full...)
She wants to seperate and I'm shocked and heartbroken
Q. My first marriage ended after 17 years and it was heartbreaking. We had 5 children together and it took me a long time to get over it. Eventually I met my second wife and she was the girl of my dreams. We had 16 great years together, raising her ...
A. 23 August 2009: Maybe do what she did but in reverse, research this on the net. Find out how her eostrogen levels are affecting her and making her feel. Talk to her, tell her how you feel,but don't pressure, tell her she can have all the time in the world and ... (read in full...)
My brothers wife is so controlling
Q. A year ago my brother got married to a girl i had never met before (i had been living away in a different city). He came out of a 6 year relationship only 8 months before they got married. We are very close only a year between us. He's never kept ...
A. 23 August 2009: Tell him how you feel, some people like to be controlled in a relationship though...... (read in full...)
I want to emigrate to the USA
Q. This is not a relationship question but more related to settling in the USA. I am British and teach and own two houses and would like to emigrate to the US eventually. How easy is it to get work there. I was thinking of coming over on an exten...
A. 23 August 2009: Top careers in demand:
http://education.yahoo.net/degrees/articles/featured_top_demand_careers.html... (read in full...)
I need some advice on giving massages
Q. I need some advice. It's not really a problem, just something I'd like some advice on. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite a while and we like to try new things. We've recently starting giving each other massages but I'm not very good at ...
A. 23 August 2009: Buy some massage oil, or just use moisturiser. Work your fingers into his shoulders and around his neck, massage with your thumbs facing his spine and use your fingers and thumbs to massage as you move down his back. Just experiment, think about ... (read in full...)
I find it hard to make friends, no one likes me
Q. I have a really big problem... no one likes me. I've always found it hard to make friends or talk to people, I think I might have panic attacks sometimes I don't know if its social phobia. I never know what to say to anyone or how to start a ...
A. 23 August 2009: Speak to your GP about your panic attacks, see what they actually are. Perhaps he can refer you for some counselling, it sounds like you have terrible self esteem, see if there's a way to work on that :)... (read in full...)
Women aged 20-29 - please answer this!
Q. I've been seeing my gf for about 4 mos (I'm 39- shes 25) I know big gap. Anyway, about a month in -- we had "the talk" ---and I found out about her not so innocent past. It made me sick to find out she had slept with 15 other guys before me. ...
A. 23 August 2009: You'd probably be quite amazed to find that is quite a common number of people to have slept with...I don't suppose you have many friends that much younger than you to talk with about these kind of things.
If what q1605 said about her average bein... (read in full...)
Will they sell lube to a 15 year old?
Q. i want to buy this...DUREX PLAY CHERRY PUMP LUBE.. http://www.superdrug.com/DUREX-PLAY-CHERRY-PUMP-LUBE-50ML/invt/512109 and bklist= im 15, will probally get it from Superdrug or something, will they sell it, and things like this, to me?? thanx...
A. 23 August 2009: Buy online...x... (read in full...)
I couldn't have sex with my boyfriend, I feel I've let him down
Q. I tried to have sex with my boyfriend of 6 months last night and i couldn't. His penis felt like it was too big for my vagina. It was so painful that I felt sick and shakey. This has put me off ever having sex again yet I know that my boyfriend will ...
A. 23 August 2009: Do a search on Vaginismus, might be you.
I experienced this once...But it was because I felt so sexual desire for him once we got into the bedroom...Was weird, relationship obviously didn't last!... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for trying to push my boyfriends "best friend" out of his life?
Q. I hate my boyfriends "best friend" this girl cam out of nowhere in his life. And I can't stand her. Today I got another friend of mine to send her some very hateful messages. And I am glad I did. Hopefully she will get out of his life now. Wh...
A. 23 August 2009: How spiteful. I guarantee you will push your boyfriend away before she's out of his life.... (read in full...)
I've been cheating on him for years but don't know why
Q. im a 22 yr old married woman, iv been maried since 20 and been with him since 18. but all along iv been cheating on him. i dont know why. hes such a good man, and a wonderful father to our little boy. im in the service and hes not, so were seperated ...
A. 23 August 2009: You're pushing boundaries, seeing how far you can go before you get caught.... (read in full...)
I want to get with him but I can't tell my parents
Q. hello. right basicly. this boy really likes me, and i like him but i cannot go out with him because i'm too embarressed of telling my parents, it makes me feel sick and i go red. what i am supposed to do because it's upsetting me so much :'( i ...
A. 23 August 2009: Write them a letter x... (read in full...)
I'm trying to do the best for her and she's distancing herself from me
Q. Should I admit to seeing my partners writings and how can I deal with this? Recently my partner made a list of things she wanted. 1. To visit her family. (500 miles away) 2. To go on holiday abroad to the sea. 3. To move in to ...
A. 20 August 2009: I was with someone 7 months. He worshipped the ground I walked on, declared his undying love for me, said he'd die if he couldn't grow old with me. I knew I didn't love him and couldn't ever feel the same way about him as he did for me, after ... (read in full...)
I'm sexualy attracted to other girls more than my girlfriend. Is this normal?
Q. Ok so I need help, I'm 16 years old, I have a girlfriend that I love very much and don't get me wrong she turns me on, I mean I sometime I jerk off thinking of her. I mean when I'm with her I watch her when she walks and even when we're in church I ...
A. 20 August 2009: lol, in church, that's hot ;)... (read in full...)
I'm trying to do the best for her and she's distancing herself from me
Q. Should I admit to seeing my partners writings and how can I deal with this? Recently my partner made a list of things she wanted. 1. To visit her family. (500 miles away) 2. To go on holiday abroad to the sea. 3. To move in to ...
A. 20 August 2009: Hun...She put it in black and white, she doesn't love you.
I can't imagine how it would feel to read that, but she is letting you quite happily do all this amazing stuff for her, yet she feels like she is in an "unhappy marriage" - sorry but I real... (read in full...)
I'm trying to do the best for her and she's distancing herself from me
Q. Should I admit to seeing my partners writings and how can I deal with this? Recently my partner made a list of things she wanted. 1. To visit her family. (500 miles away) 2. To go on holiday abroad to the sea. 3. To move in to ...
A. 20 August 2009: You are far, far, far too good for her.... (read in full...)
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