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18 January 2008: I've been through it myself. That stage following the breakup where I can't help but want my EX back. Whether you dumped them, or they dumped you I think everyone goes through these feelings. Here are some reasons to (or not) get back together that ...
How to get over your EX.
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9 January 2008: BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
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Is it normal for him to have naked women on his phone?
Q. My husband thinks it's normal for him to post naked women on his phone. I disagree. Help please. ...
A. 4 November 2008: I wouldn't have any naked pics of women on my phone especially if it upset my gf. I agree it is tacky and whats the point?
"at least it shows that he's heterosexual if nothing else!" = Rubbish imo.
Shows he needs to grow up more like.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my cross-dressing husband?
Q. My husband regularly wears saree and other Indian female attires.He feels very comfortable in them.We do share saree, salwar kameez,blouse,petticoat(saya),nighties,ghagra and cholis, bras ,panties etc.In fact I always buy free size women dress, so ...
A. 3 November 2008: Buy him a nice dress... And get yourself some trousers :)... (read in full...)
Do I talk to my Ex about how quickly he's moved on?
Q. I'm just going to jump straight into this. My boyfriend of three years and I have recently split. It was a mutual thing, we weren't getting on so decided to end it. The things that's bugging me is that on the same day we decided to end our relat...
A. 3 November 2008: Hi Soda,
I agree with the other replies here. Concentrate on yourself for the time being. I wrote an article on this here at dearcupid.org. Have a look, it might be able to help you.
http://www.de... (read in full...)
Now what's done is done, but how can I forget my first love?
Q. i met a girl on msn than we fell in love, my bad luck she is my first love . she gives me her phone number, i call her everyday, she is not near me, she is very far but i know her family. I want to get marry with she! But my family don't acce...
A. 3 November 2008: I wrote an article on this many people have found useful. Take a look, it might help you too...
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Good luck :)... (read in full...)
It perplexes me. Really, since when are C cup's small?
Q. I hate when people call C cups small. They are always talking about "small boobs" referring to Bs and Cs. Where does that leave AAs and As? I'm a B cup by the way. I don't think Cs are small. What's the deal people? Learn to look! Don't you thin...
A. 3 November 2008: To put it bluntly... Who gives a ****. They're just boobs. I've been with girls with B, C, D, and probably bigger and smaller. They're just boobs.
Does it really matter?... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 3 November 2008: Thanks for your comments Greg. Again I'm glad almost a year on this article is still being read and helps people. I only wish I started my own website and put it on there :)
In your situation it must be hard just being friends and the fact you... (read in full...)
Help! I don't want my girlfriend pregnant!!!
Q. Im 17 years of age and sexually active. I'm the type of person that worries over everything; and i mean obsesssively. I've looked and researched into ways of making sure i'm careful as i have a very successful life which isn't ready for a ...
A. 6 October 2008: The chances of her being pregnant as a result of what you describe here are ZERO. It's refreshing to here youngsters being careful... You don't need to wash your hands 3 times though :)
Sperm die very quickly. I have heard urban myths about a ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 6 October 2008: I'm glad people still find my article useful... You know it's amazing how much your life can change. A year on from all that and I'm so much happier and thinking about the future... I've set up a business which is going well, I'm hoping to move into ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi anonymous, messy-bess and carrie-anne,
I'm glad you like dmy article. TO be honest I haven't been on here much recently since I've had far too much going on in my life.
Started a new job and working hard. When I look back at my previous post... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 12 June 2008: Hi anonymous, messy-bess and carrie-anne,
I'm glad you like dmy article. TO be honest I haven't been on here much recently since I've had far too much going on in my life.
Started a new job and working hard. When I look back at my previous post... (read in full...)
I've left 10 texts to my boyfriend with no response, does he still care?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been dating for two months. now, we are on spring break and he hasn't text me back. i have left at least ten plus messages. do you think that hes doesn't care about me anymore or that our relationship is over? ...
A. 19 March 2008: I would be suspicious...
I had the same situation with my EX when she went away on holiday for 11 days without any contact at all. When she got back she was angry I hadn't replied to her message within an hour while she ignored mine for the enti... (read in full...)
Does my ex really want me back after a bad breakup or are these just "booty calls"?
Q. Does my ex girlfriend want to get back together? we broke up, very badly, and did not talk for a month. I called her and invited her to a party at my house. she came. i kept things light and did not mention the relationship at all, and even kept ...
A. 13 March 2008: "she said that she loved me, and wanted me to get the day off of work so that i could spend it making love to her and then go to her parents house for dinner"
Heeeeeeeellllllooooooo... Here's the clue. She wouldn't want to see you all day and go t... (read in full...)
He broke up so he could party during his last semester of school without worrying about me, his exact words! Do I accept him back??
Q. I was with my bf for a year and a half and he wanted a break so he could go and party his last semester of law school without worrying about me (his exact words). Before he left we were having problems and we tried to fix them and three times he ...
A. 13 March 2008: I would just like to add that my EX said the same thing before she went away on holiday for 11 days. No contact for all that time and when she got back we got back together.
After a few months we seemed to argue far too much and the relation... (read in full...)
He broke up so he could party during his last semester of school without worrying about me, his exact words! Do I accept him back??
Q. I was with my bf for a year and a half and he wanted a break so he could go and party his last semester of law school without worrying about me (his exact words). Before he left we were having problems and we tried to fix them and three times he ...
A. 13 March 2008: From personal experience I'd say NO WAY.
He wants to not worry about it so he can fool around and not feel guilty about it.
End of.... (read in full...)
Should I let my ex know that I am still waiting for him?
Q. My ex-bf and me have been together for 5 years and during these 5 years, he has been a very loving bf. He loves me alot and we really wanted to be together forever. However, during the 5th year of our relationship, he found out that I was cheating ...
A. 13 March 2008: "What baffles me is if u luv him this much then why cheat on him"
This is true.
However, we are all human and all make mistakes. Sometimes it takes making a mistake to realise things.
I'm not condoning cheating having never cheated mys... (read in full...)
I have just recently moved in with my partner who has started hitting me.
Q. I'm 21 years old and have a three month old son. I have just recently moved in with my partner who has started hitting me. He says it's my fault for pushing him too far which I do do that but I just can't take it anymore. The other night I had my ...
A. 12 March 2008: It's is ceratinly NOT YOUR FAULT. It's HIS fault. Get out and go stay with family/friends.
You're setting yourself for a WHOLE LIFETIME of ABUSE if you stay. Think of YOURSELF and YOUR CHILD.
ANY child growing up in that environment will... (read in full...)
Is my ex not over me???
Q. I'm having a hard time at home and uni at the moment, and i called my ex bf to ask if i could kip on his sofa for one night, just till i got somethig else sorted out. He uhmm'd and ahh'd and eventually said no cos it would be too wierd. I was like...
A. 11 March 2008: "I guess some people are just not mature enough to handle it"
I don't agree. Personally, after a splitting up with my gf over 4 months ago, I don't think it's easy being friends with an ex.
All sorts of issues arise, when she gets a new boyfr... (read in full...)
How do you tell if the condom has split?
Q. Hi all, I've read a lot of horror stories about condoms splitting and stuff. Its the only contraception me and my gf use (she has a history of cancer in her family and doesn't wanna risk increasing her chances with the pill, patch etc) Anyway, j...
A. 10 March 2008: Would just like to add a disclaimer to my reply; I was only joking... Please don't try those ideas out :)... (read in full...)
How do you tell if the condom has split?
Q. Hi all, I've read a lot of horror stories about condoms splitting and stuff. Its the only contraception me and my gf use (she has a history of cancer in her family and doesn't wanna risk increasing her chances with the pill, patch etc) Anyway, j...
A. 10 March 2008: To be honest I've never experienced a condom splitting ever. Make sure you use good quality ones and not Tesco value ones :)
Ways to check:
1) I suppose you could blow it up like a balloon and see if it deflates. Bit messy though!
2) Yo... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop this before I lose him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. I love him very much. But when we fight I always seem to break up with him. I dont want to break up but it just slips out. What can I do to stop this before i lose him? ...
A. 5 March 2008: "when we fight I always seem to break up with him. I dont want to break up but it just slips out. What can I do to stop this before i lose him?" This is what seemed to happen with me and my EX. After a while I ended it - only once... Once and... (read in full...)
We got on well but now he's calling me psyco! What's that about?
Q. i met some afew weeks ago and met up with them on friday i really like him before but i was with someone at the time we spoke on MSN and he said that he would c how it went if i wernt with my bf in the end in dumped my boyfriend and that was wen i ...
A. 5 March 2008: Sounds like you rushed it a bit ditching the bf, meeting up with this other guy you've been messaging, and then going for the kiss. Perhaps there are trust issues there already? Personally, I would be cautious in his shoes to be honest as you did ... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 3 March 2008: "She made a habit of calling people all the time and talking loud so I could here, she talked about what she had been up to, laughing and joking as if nothing had happened. I hated every second of it. Everything she said, did was all to hurt me and ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my boyfriend?
Q. I'd like some advice please. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, moved in together in September. Everything has been alright but these past few months, he has treated me like shit and to be honest, I don't deserve it but I'm too s...
A. 2 March 2008: I agreee with the majority here... Leave and find someone who'll appreciate you :)
You've already listed 7 very good reasons. Be strong and I say get out of this relationship!
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
More on the 'two sides to every story' story
Q. in response to replies posted about my previous posts entitled two sides to every story thankyou for your comments.Yes i have admitted i have a a problem emotionally and im glad i am seeking help for it as for my ex partner i think she needs to do ...
A. 28 February 2008: "Once again thankyou for responding to my first post it has made me open my eyes a bit"
Well I'm glad and good luck with everything!
"... believe me there really is two sides to every story"
We know this already :)
... (read in full...)
Have you ever...
Q. Have you ever loved someone so much, that you could never be with them, but couldn't be without them? It's one of the most heart-breaking feelings in the entire world... Right now, I'm feeling just like that. I'm in a 'kind of' relationship with an ...
A. 28 February 2008: Thing is it's never a case of one side fighting for the good and one side fighting for the bad. Both sides are fighting for what they believe is the good for their cause.
During the days of the Roman empire the Romans were thought of as the "bad... (read in full...)
What are some good ways to meet single women in my new town?
Q. Hi all, I am a somewhat new resident to New Iberia, Louisiana and I grew up in New Orleans. I am saying that to ask where can I find a good way to meet single women in the area? I'm not a big fan of dating sights because they dont show off my ...
A. 28 February 2008: Well, I don't know what things are like there in the US but here in the UK one of the best ways to meet single women is Salsa dancing... An informal evening where you go along, have a laugh, learn a bit of Salsa and dance with various partners and ... (read in full...)
Is this considered rape?
Q. I just had sex with my boyfriend and I know I love him a lot but I just wasn't ready. I told him no but he kept bugging me about it until I agreed. I wanted him to stop after we started but I didn't tell him that. Since I did tell him no to begin ...
A. 28 February 2008: I disagree. I think the fact that you said no to begin with but he persuaded you/pestered you until you gave in means you did eventually agree. Of course I'm assuming he didn't force you to agree.
During the act itself, you didn't tell him to s... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin that I saw his girlfriend cheating?
Q. oh my god i walked in on my best friend having sex with her boyfriends best friend! i dont know what to do. her boyfriend is my cousin and even though we're not that close hes still blood!should i snitch on my best friend and help my cousin or ...
A. 28 February 2008: "Will your cousin believe you? It will only be your words against hers... If they were to break up, you were the reason"
Well whether you deicde to tell or not is up to you. However, if they were to break up YOU WON'T BE THE REASON.
The rea... (read in full...)
There are two sides to every story...
Q. it appears i have been written about on this site by my previous partner.first of all the facts she has written are to an extent untrue.Yes i lived with her for 2 years without a job and no i did'nt sit my fat ass on the sofa all day long or on the ...
A. 28 February 2008: Of course there are ALWAYS 2 sides to every story. And advice given to people on here is only based on what we know through our own experiences and what the "poster" has told us.
At the end of the day the "poster" knows whats going on far better t... (read in full...)
Why does he need time to think before marriage? Has something changed recently, for him to hesitate?
Q. I am engaged currently and we had a date picked out already but now he is saying he needs time to think about getting married now. I can't be mad because he is being honest, but at the same time what do i do? I know that i love him and want to spend ...
A. 27 February 2008: Couldn't put it better myself. Basschick - your reply is legendary :)
Made me laugh a lot too!... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 27 February 2008: Hi Angi,
It's hard I know but look at it this way... If he couldn't open up to you and prefers to run from his problems rather than work through them perhaps you're better off without him?
I had a smiliar situation where I was open to talk abo... (read in full...)
Every time I watch our favourite TV shows memories of her keep buzzing through my head. How can I overcome this??
Q. I could use some advice from anyone who has been in a fairly long-term relationship before. I came out of a long-term relationship just over 6 months ago and I've found it very hard to get over (I didn't want it to end). Since then I can't enjoy th...
A. 26 February 2008: I'm afraid it's just going to take time. I agree with eyeswideopen when she says "stop watching the shows for awhile. Try not to engage in any of the activities you did as a couple".
You need to take time out to heal after the break up. I remember... (read in full...)
I saw a flirty txt on his phone and now he won't let me see his phone bill...are guys just like that??
Q. hi, my fiance changed careers at the start of the year and has to train for 5 months. He doesnt come home at night until after 9 every night apart from Fri and Sat. When I approached the subject of setting a date for the wedding for a year and a ha...
A. 26 February 2008: "I need your advice. Why isn't he helping me out and letting me see his phone bill? or are guys just like that? He is making the situation worse"
Judging by what you say I'd probably think the worst given your situation.
At the end of the day i... (read in full...)
Should I call my ex boyfriend's current girlfriend and let her know that he has been playing both of us?
Q. Wondering if i should call my cheating ex boyfriend's current girl and let her know that he has been playing both of us. I am the only one that knows about it. She is only 22 and he is turning 34 this year. So she is young and I would be lying if I ...
A. 26 February 2008: In my honest opinion I think it's far better to maintain a dignified silence.
If he truly is narcissistic and as selfish as you say he is she will come to realise this for herself.
Far better to just forget about it and move on.
Besides, ... (read in full...)
How do you regain confidence after a few bad relationships?
Q. i think am paranoid for no reason. please help. the thing is no relationship has ever worked so well for me. i broke the heart of my first girl friend. not that i cheated on her but i got angry when i heard she had read a letter i wrote to her, ...
A. 25 February 2008: Take a look at my article. There are some great ideas there that might help:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Worked for my confidence and after a host of bad relationships I'm back :)
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My co-worker invites me out, could he like me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I met someone at work who i really like. He invites me sometimes for coffee and lunch. He also asked me out for dinner with a few friends. Not sure if i am reading too much into it or not.Do you think he likes me and should i tell hi...
A. 25 February 2008: "I met someone at work who i really like. He invites me sometimes for coffee and lunch. He also asked me out for dinner with a few friends. Not sure if i am reading too much into it or not.Do you think he likes me and should i tell him how i ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 25 February 2008: Hi diesel78,
Thanks for your comments :) In relation to your situation it sounds very tricky. I think there's a lot for you to really think about and more questions you need to ask yourself before you can really make up your mind as to what to ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I went back to another guy's house after a night out?
Q. This is kind of the situation i am in. I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months and do love him loads. Never have broken up or had a break before. But recently i found myself going out and flirting more and kind of wishing i was single. Me and my ...
A. 25 February 2008: "I could never feel for anyone what i feel for him. We have a holiday booked in 2 weeks so i am hoping we can see this as a fresh start and i will put away what i did as a stupid mistake and will not ever do such a thing again!!"
Good for you! Lik... (read in full...)
Pornography and relationships
Q. As some people reading this will already know, I moderate and write regularly on this site. Porn is one those issues that is often cited as a problem and also causes a fair amount or moral controversy. On the one hand are the people whose ...
A. 25 February 2008: Interesting article but I agree with DoubleM in that it's far too complicated.
Watching porn is NOT cheating. It is pure fantasy. Of course I'm talking about normal porn and not weird stuff (although I'm not getting into a debate about what's n... (read in full...)
We were flirting and he was touching my leg...now we are going out...is this a date??
Q. I went on a business meeting and met a guy as part of business and just had a casual meeting over a few drinks. Through out the meeting, he was flirting, touching my leg, laughing etc, and then 4 days after the meeting he left a message on my ...
A. 25 February 2008: Have to say I disagree with Collaroy when she says "yes it is a date, but he should have suggested dinner for a real date - maybe you should suggest that".
Speaking as a bloke I would have to say dinner for a first date is a bit too much. You don'... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I went back to another guy's house after a night out?
Q. This is kind of the situation i am in. I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months and do love him loads. Never have broken up or had a break before. But recently i found myself going out and flirting more and kind of wishing i was single. Me and my ...
A. 25 February 2008: I agree with Laura1318 when she says "throw away those thoughts about that crazy incident into the deepest ocean and never see it again".
If you really do want to get back with your boyfriend then I suggest you forget about this "inciden... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi Scythe, I'm glad this article was of some use to you :) It certainly has helped me no end and I'm still continuing with the whole treat myself thing now.
It's the simple/small things in life that can really make a difference sometime... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 29 January 2008: Be strong... Likely it will go back to the way it was. I must've broke up with my EX about 6 times and always went back for more... Last time was the last - no games, no messing.
Your choice at the end of the day though and I wish you the best of ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi KayKay,
I was with my EX... lol... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 29 January 2008: Good for you Mr Confused.
I was in a similar situation and broke up with my EX who sounds very similar to what you went through.
Here are some tips as to what helped me through the tough time after I left her:
http://www.dearcupid.... (read in full...)
Am I making a mistake leaveing my abusive girlfriend??
Q. I’ve been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, 6 months of that we have been living together. I met her when I arrived in Australia and quickly became good friends. After two months of dating I was offered a good job in a different state wh...
A. 25 January 2008: I agree you need to stand your ground sometimes and not let her manipulate you. Spending your life walking around on eggshells in order to avoid an argument is NOT the solution and yes, I agree with other replies here, it'll only get worse.
Her b... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 21 January 2008: Thanks for your comments. They're much appreciated and makes me feel it was worthwhile writing it :)
Best of luck!... (read in full...)
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