A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Please help me, my boyfriend is from iraq, (non-muslim), and he's very controlling, he states this is his culture hoWever I believe it may actually be his personal issues. He doesn't let me go outside without him, even across to the local shop, his reason bEing it's a rough area and it's full of men who like to harrass girls, true, but still I can look after myself. Me and my best friend have a shopping trip planned, to a neighbouring city, however he's told me he doesn't want me to go. He doesn't know what I'm doing aplarantly, even though iv repeatedly tried to reassure him he can trust mr if I was on the other side of the world. I really do love him and sometimes he will do the sweetest things and I will think maybe it's not how I'd choose to live but it's worth Omaking him happy, othertimes I will be so angry cos I'm a human being with rights and wherever he goes I trust him and respect him and i'd never ever tell him what to do. Is there anyway I can make him see sense? Leaving him is my last resort, I really do love him and sometimes i just look at him, my heart melts and I feel guilty for even thinking these things. I'm scared of leaving I guess cos I know I would never truly get Over him, and never truly forget him. Please help, also he wasn't always this controlling, but alot of bad stuff has happened to him in the past few months like losing his job, assault,,, stuff like that and he seems to have become this person.
View related questions:
best friend, neighbour Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 You can't really blame him for being that over protective because things happened to him and he cares a lot about you .
If you think you can take care of yourself, and you feel that the trip is safe, just ignore him. He will in time taper down his controlling attitudes. You do be careful if your place is a violent place. Be street smart.
A
male
reader, C. Grant  +, writes (27 April 2010):
 Your choice is to accept that he will try to control you for the duration of your relationship, or to leave. There is no middle ground.
...............................
|
