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I've met a guy I like, but he is friends with my ex baby daddy.

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Question - (31 May 2020) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 June 2020)
A female United States age 41-50, *hiannon3 writes:

I’m trying to decide if a guy is interested in me. He is a divorced single Dad. The issue is he is friends with my ex baby daddy. We saw each other out with our kids. His daughter is friends with my oldest daughter. So I asked if she could come over for a play date. So he came over and stayed at my place while the played. We talked for like two hours. Then we got them together at the park. Afterward he invited us over to his house just to hang out. We did for a couple hours. We just talked. The thing is in the last few weeks he has started liking all my selfies on instragram. Is that a sign that he does. He is a great guy and is chill. Am I reading him wrong?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2020):

Liking your selfies might mean something if you were your daughter's age.

I think it's convenient being close to his daughter; and hanging with another parent is cool. I wouldn't be popping heart emojis over it.

If he asks you out, just the two of you on a real date; it might be construed as trying to get to know you better. You determine more about a man's intentions when he shows readable romantic-interest that you don't have to guess about. If signals are unclear, don't jump to conclusions.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (31 May 2020):

Honeypie agony auntWhile "liking" your selfies in itself doesn't show REAL interest in another person, him spending time with you AND his daughter (when he really could just have dropped her off - unless she is very little) makes me think that he wants to get to know you all the while having a friend for his daughter to play and hang out with. Who you "portrait" yourself to be on social media isn't who you are as a person. A pretty picture is just that.... a pretty picture.

The thing is... if you start thinking OH this will be a relationship in a minute, you are jumping ahead of yourself. You have only spend some hours with him, and it was with the PURPOSE to get your kids together. He might simply have spend time around you like this to make sure you are a good parent for his daughter to be around.

Just enjoy having someone to hang out with while YOUR daughter gets to make a friend and have fun.

Because your daughters are friends I would go really slow here anyways. If he is good company, enjoy it. Make sure you keep SEX out of the picture for a GOOD long time. And IF he down the line ask you out on a date you can consider if you think he would be a good fit for you and your kids.

Relax! Don't be in such a hurry to replace you ex. Didn't you recently break up?

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (31 May 2020):

kenny agony auntI think its all still in the early stages of the getting to know each other phase so would not read to much in to anything yet.

I may very well be that he does like you, you both do seem to get along ok and enjoy each other company.

I would not force anything, so keep doing what your doing, meeting up with the kids and stuff and see what transpires naturally.

If you made a move and he was not on the same page as you things could get a little awkward there after. So by getting to know each other naturally over time you will be able to see for yourself if he is in to you.

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