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22-25,
anonymous
writes:I like this guy at school and he seems to like me too. However when I went to his social media accounts all I saw are girls that he 'liked' and retweeted that look nothing like me. I am black, short ~5'3, 114 pds, (pretty-so I've been told), avg build. The girls he seems to go for are quite tall, brown hair, and blue eyes. When it comes to appearance he is more like me-cute, short-somewhat athletic build, and biracial (Black and Mexican). One of the girls graduated from our school this past year and he posted on her page saying she is very beautiful etc. She is Tall (like 6'3, long brown hair, blue eyes)He does not have me as a friend online, and I don't have these accounts, but of course I was busy browsing my crush's page so that's how I found this all out. The only black girls I saw were a few bum pics (yes, teenage guys can be so immature sometimes) So am I reading too much into this and misreading his cues? What do I do if I really like a guy, and feel he might like me (but then again maybe not!), but I am not his type? It's not like I can change certain physical attributes about myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2016): You are reading way too much into this.
You're misinterpreting his picks for his wall of friends as his preference in girls. You're not a mind-reader. You're making snap-judgments because you have problem with your self-esteem. Sweetie, you say you're pretty. Then own it!
If he didn't like you, why would he even give you the time of day? What's your ethnicity got to do with anything? I suggest you grow some pride in your heritage and stop seeing white attributes as a standard of beauty. That's your problem, not his!
He's between 13-15 years old! Fresh in or out of puberty. How can he have a type?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 February 2016):
 You can be your own star with your own page. Glam up with makeup but not wearing clothing that's too revealing. Not saying that's what you should do. But if you had done this you would get likes too. It doesn't have to mean a guy wants to date you when he hits "like." It just means he finds something visually appealing, that's all. Girls that have light skin, are tall with blue eyes generally have more confidence because society tells us that's standard beauty. So they would take advantage of their youth to show off. So they are the ones who are noticed more often. It doesn't mean other races are less beautiful.
Also don't put too much importance on type. We are not picking a car with a specific brand, engine size or mileage per hour. Human relationships are more complex than just wanting certain physical attributes.
A good way to his heart his to be his friend first. Make opportunities to meet such as joining the same club or classes together. You can take interest in his life, his hobbies and goals. Pay no attention to what he "likes" online. Although if you two do date then it would be respectful of him to stop "liking" girls online.
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