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writes:Hi all, I have a slightly weird question. I'm 18 and have a very high sex drive, I have a boyfriend if 4 months and he is now realising how horny I am. At the minute he seems fine with it but Id just like to ask is it a turnoff? I'm literally willing to go anywhere at any time and I don't know if men find this wrong? Or if it's tiring? Or maybe it's just hit? I really don't know and am concerned about it, thank you for your help
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (11 February 2016):
 I agree with Abella, don't let anyone "label" you for having a high sex drive. It's perfectly normal. Some have a high, some a medium and some a low level of sex drive. YOU happen to have a high one.
Just remember a relationship is more than just getting your rocks off.
Any MAN who has issues with your level of sex drive are not for you. It might not be you level of sex drive for them feeling inadequate and most people don't like that.
So let your man take the initiative every now and then as well as you do it. And make sure he know that he is more than a walking vibrator to you. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2016):
As a 42 year old man let me say that you seem to have more of a sex drive than most women I have met over the course of my experiences, but that there's nothing wrong with that. I would imagine that most men would consider it a turn on to have a gf who wants to give it a go all the time. Enjoy yourself and stop worrying!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 People, men and women, have different sex drives. It's not about whether it's a turn on or not, it's about whether he's as ready for action as you are. If not, then he will become tired. If he's got the same sex drive as you then it'll be just great and you will have sex all the time.
Just understand that a low sex drive has nothing to do with loving you or being attracted to you. But also understand that different sex drives is, for the majority of people, a deal breaker. One or the other will get frustrated and feeling hurt in the end. So if there's a big difference, better to let him go.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 No, not if you are sexually compatible.
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reader, lovebug123123 +, writes (10 February 2016):
Everyone is different, and your at the age where you are likely to have a high sex drive. I honestly dont know a guy who would be upset about this haha.
Guys love sex.
If he has a lower sex drive than you, he may not always feel like it, but please dont take it personal if he says hes tierd etc. Thats normal. Just dont get defensive or clingy and just be like thats fine :) we'l just chill then.
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reader, Abella +, writes (10 February 2016):
 If a guy has a low sex drive or has difficulty performing and if any erectile dysfunction is evident, then the two of you will not be in sync and he is likely to feel uncomfortable and you are likely to be permanently dis-satisfied. Such a mis-matched sex drive is likely to lead to problems, eventually.
Never allow anyone to label you negatively for having a high sex drive. There are many men and many women who live happily with a high sex drive.
If you need to burn off some of the energy then get involved in sport, running, cycling or any very active activity to wear off some of your energy. Though constantly not getting enough action will be draining. I think one partner with a low sex drive and the other partner with a high sex drive will lead to problems, eventually, no matter how nice each of the parties are.
You will soon discover if a guy has a similarly high sex drive and if everything else is going well when you are together then it will likely be a mutually satisfying partnership.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 It's normal to have a high sex drive. Having a high sex drive does not define you. Also your body goes through stages and there will be ebbs and flows in your libido. It's also very common that at the beginning of your relationship you are excited to be with him. Then after a while you get comfortable and don't need sex as much. The only turn off would be if you act clingy, demand sex even if he's tired and doesn't feel like it, get personal when there's not enough sex then flirt with other guys to feel sexy.
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