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How do I get her to talk about sex?

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Question - (1 February 2022) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 February 2022)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have known this very beautiful and fun woman in my neighborhood for about ten years. We have been friends and have enjoyed doing many things together. I am 20 and she is 35. About a year ago she was divorced and her ex is not in the picture. She has not dated much since. As I said I thinks she is very beautiful, creative, sexy, and fun. I have thought that she was hot for years. At night I often dream of her and I together. A few weeks ago after swimming in her pool we went into the living room to talk. One thing lead to another. First we were saying sexy words, petting, kissing, and undressing. Next we had sex in her living room. I enjoyed it very much. It was beautiful, fun, satisfying, and passionate. Since then I have mention to her that I really enjoyed being physical with her. I have also mention more than a few times that I would like to do it again with her in her bed. Where we could have more time and unleash our passion. Every time I have told her that I would like to have sex (and make love) to her again I see that she face lights up and has a cute grin on. However she often chances the subject. During one of our past conversations she did say that she enjoyed our sex and it was needed. I want to talk more to her about my sexual wants with her However, I do not want to always be talking about it. How often should I bring up this topic? How can I get her to talk about it?

Most importantly what recommendation would you have for me getting her and I in her bedroom for a time of passionate uninhibited sex?

Sometime it seems that I will never get to sleep with her. What are my chances? How can I make it happen?

I appreciate your time.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 February 2022):

Honeypie agony auntMaybe she has realized how inappropriate it is for her to have sex with someone who is BARELY an adult.

Or she doesn't want to get too emotionally attached to a young adult so sex is off the table.

She has already (in not so many words) shut you down by changing the subject. So take that as a HUGE hint she isn't LOOKING to have sex with you again.

Maybe, you should leave her be and find someone closer to your age to have a relationship/sex with?

Just because she is now single doesn't mean she is desperate for sex with anyone.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2022):

I'm going to assume it's a typo and you are 30. You're asking her to be your f**k buddy. Ask her out on a romantic date.

You had the perfect storm with her, swimming, almost naked already -- Mr Right Now after a drought. Now you are saying, let's have sex again and again. Even if she is open to a FWB -- it probably won't be with a neighbor.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (2 February 2022):

kenny agony auntI think its something that should not force, rather just let things transpire effortlessly and naturally.

You made out in her living room, and you both really enjoyed it, i bet this all just happened by chance and was not arranged. I'm sure it will happen again, but you don't want to keep asking her and risk pushing her away, rather step back, be friendly with her, play it cool, and i'm sure things will materialise of their own accord.

She may also be wondering what is it that you actually want, do you just want her for more sex?. Or do you envisage a relationship with her?. You may both want different things, after all, she is a divorced lady who is 15 years older than you.

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