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writes:ok heres the thing , i felt like ive always been bi but didnt realize there was a definition to my sexuality until the age of 13 i think, im 17 never had a boy/girlfriend, mi best friend is a girl and i dont know how to explain it but... i get these feelings like i love her and i want her , but we argue alooooootttt too much ppl compare us to a married couple, yeah its that bad , but ten seconds later we say sorry and tell each other we love each other and some days we would tell each other how much we mean to one another on other days its like i dont want to be her friend , i ever told her my feelings about her she would probably laugh and make jokes, or ignore idk but i told her i was bi, shes always playen around with me (flirting) but then again she does it to everyone shes just a playful person, but the feeling i have is weird i have the "love feelings" but i only love her lika a sister nothen else, but then i get jealous when shes around guys, i cant take this anymore the only reason why i dont want to be her friend is because i dont want her to find out i love her or at least it feels like i do, i neeeeedddd help im dien should i tell her we shouldnt be friends
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I dont think you should stop being friends with her, it may just be you have confused your friendship with feelings of love towards her.
She knows that you are bi so why not try telling her not to openly flirt so much with you as it is making you feel confused and you dont want to ruin your friendship.
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (29 May 2007):
 I'm 16, and I'm straight. One of my best friends Amy is openly bisexual, she doesn't care if I know or not because she knows we're just really good friends. My other friend Jess says she's straight, but she's not. She told Amy that she has a crush on me. I'm not supposed to know.
To be honest, I don't care what someone's sexuality is, it's the same importance to say "I have blue eyes" as "I'm a lesbian". I really don't mind. However I find that having one of my best friends crushing on me makes me a bit uneasy - it's the same with my guy friends, though. It's not because of her sexuality, it's just that she's my buddy.
So I guess you should tell your friend that you're bi, and maybe she'll think of your feelings a bit more when she 'flirts' with you, knowing that she might be leading you on. But I don't recommend you tell her your feelings towards her because it might cause awkwardness as it has with me and Jess. Unless, of course, your friend turns out to be bi as well! Good luck with it!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (29 May 2007):
 It sounds like you don't love her like a sister, but like a crush. You can either deal with your feelings and maintain the friendship, or you can cut her out of your life. Those are your only choices.
DV1
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