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writes: Me and my gf have been together for 8 months now. We connected and have the potential to have a brilliant and fun future.A month ago she lied to me. She met a guy and was planning to go to a barbeque with him. She told me she was at a girlie friend's house. She assured me it was nothing, just an error, but no threat.In the next two weeks after obviously forbidding her contact with this guy, I realise that she has been talking to him online, despite constant reassurances and promises that she hadn't. I then last week kissed another girl while out. I was very drunk and did it twice on two seperate nights. I regret it and dont want to do it again, but obviously she is angry and is considering ending it.However, last night, I saw her friend out. My gf had told me that she was going to the barbeque with as more a guest of her friend, with the guy. But her friend says she has never met him. This was last night.I'm distraught that she s still lying to me, and I dont know where she stayed last night. I love her, but I'm so confused. x
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (18 July 2006):
 lets think back dr pete! Remember the tv show House? Well that doctor said the longest lasting relationships are built on lies. To quote "You're off to a great start!"
Realistically though, your relationship is going down. Eject!!!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (18 July 2006):
 8 months in and she feels the need to cheat and lie? (Allegedly!!)
C'mon, you must know what she is up to in your heart. I wouldn't be sticking around for more of the same, I would be out of there. Dr Pete is completely right. Go Go GO! Don't look back!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): So she's a compulsive lier and you're a cheater. Yet you're connected and have a potential to have a brilliant and fun future?
Hold on a minute. Perhaps I woke up feeling particularly negative but I don't see a glimer of hope for your relationship. Why? Because it's built on lies, distrust and infidelity.
And with 8 months in to a relationship... perhaps it's time to do a bit of soul searching and question whether or not you two are really right for each other.
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reader, apollo +, writes (18 July 2006):
apollo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionupdate: i spoke to my gf and she says that her friend is lying.i want to believe her, but i cant see what her friend would gain from this lie.if her friend is lying then it makes this a lot better. x
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reader, Tray-c +, writes (18 July 2006):
 The more you dwell on this man the worse it will get, "after obviously forbidding her contact with this guy" get with the times men and women can be friends and as for the "drunken" kisses there is no excuse, are you really ready for a big commitment??
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