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writes: I am in bits at the moment, I have been dating this guy for about 3 and a half months. The first three months were wonderful, we talked to each other all the time and were very very happy. Then two weeks ago his staff at work were made redundant, and his behaviour changed, he stopped being loving and caring, he was like a different person, then a week ago he said that he couldn't do this any more and that he needed a 'break'. He doesn't want to talk to me or see me. I tried to ask him what this means for us and he gets annoyed and tells me to stop putting him on the spot, that he just needs time to himself because he feels like his head is going to explode and wants to cry all the time and cannot cope with work. When asked he said he still has feelings for me. What should i do? I am so worried that he may be heading for a breakdown and throwing what we had away. I told him that he should see a doctor and maybe get some antidepressants, but i don't think he will. I am scared, i care so much for him and love him so much, should i respect his wishes and not see him for a few weeks, or do you think it is over? I also asked why he can't talk or see me when he is still manageing to see his friends, and he said he didn't know, its just different. What am i supposed to do, i am finding it hard to stay away and am so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): he hasn't lost his job, his staff have been made redundant and he now has to do four peoples job and he cannot cope with the pressure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2006): He was into me, he talked about moving in together, about how he could see us being together forever, everything...with no prompting from me.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (16 July 2006):
 This is such a new relationship and you have known each other for such a short time I do not see how you can judge if he is heading for a nervous breakdown. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but he has asked you to leave him alone for a bit and this is what you should do. I don't think he was actually that into you at all and he has used the loss of his job to dump you when he realised it wasn't quite what he wanted to be involved in.
I can't suggest anything that will make you feel better because there really isn't anything! Cut your losses and get out now with your dignity still intact.
xx
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reader, willywombat +, writes (16 July 2006):
This is such a new relationship and you have known each other for such a short time I do not see how you can judge if he is heading for a nervous breakdown. I am sorry if this sounds harsh, but he has asked you to leave him alone for a bit and this is what you should do. I don't think he was actually that into you at all and he has used the loss of his job to dump you when he realised it wasn't quite what he wanted to be involved in.
I can't suggest anything that will make you feel better because there really isn't anything! Cut your losses and get out now with your dignity still intact.
xx
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