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A lot of people ask if I'm from India... just to clear things up, I'm not. I'm not Indian, I just really liked that song by Aerosmith when I first made this account. I've never been to India. I'm not even an Aerosmith fan, really, but I really liked that song at the time.
I've been with my fella for 14 years, married for 10. We have two cool daughters and a pretty cool life that involves lots of adventure, art and laughter.
I adore: positivity, theater, llamas, fromage, sweatpants, earrings, and sitcoms. That just about sums it up... |
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My friend wants to move away to be with his girlfriend
Q. Well my problem is that my best friend wants to move 1200 miles away to Texas to be with his ldr girlfriend. I don't agree with it at all but haven't said anything because he seems so happy. Personally I feel there that no boyfriend or girlfriend is ...
A. 3 October 2010: Not your life, not your decision.
I moved across the country to just hang out for a few weeks, ended up meeting a great guy and staying there for 4 years. Then we got married, and now we're in Hawaii which is even farther away!! If I hadn't p... (read in full...)
Does my daughter feel the need to be promiscuous?why?
Q. my daughter just had a baby boy. she is 18. she was told by the father of her child to leave when they were living together before the birth. Except he didn't know she was pregnant, and doesn't want to tell him about the baby. she often leaves the ...
A. 3 October 2010: I agree with Dorothy!
It is a phase that usually gets old fast. She probably is going extra wild because she's so inhibited by the fact that she is a young mother, and is trying to make up for soon-to-be lost time once she has to really step up ... (read in full...)
Twitter codes and teenagers
Q. Ok this is probably the rarest question submitted. But i am hoping someone knows the answer. I have a 16 yr old daughter and as a concerned parent, I like to know what she is up to. I notice from time to time on her tweeter page she would type a b...
A. 3 October 2010: My sister (16) and her pals do this all the time. It is incoherent crazy teenage talk. You pretty much pound the keys and see what comes out. And that is that. It's kind of like saying "blaaaahhhh" and that having someone reply "blaaahhh!!!"
If th... (read in full...)
What does "this week is shot for me" mean?
Q. Meaning of the phrase "this week is shot for me!" Does anyone know what is meant when someone says "This week is shot for me!" Is it used often? I have never heard the phrase before and wonder if it is some type of an English idiom. I got...
A. 2 October 2010: If I say "my week is shot", it means that I don't have any time in my schedule, or it's a crappy week. Usually both!... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guys says he's "smitten"?
Q. Hey, I'd like some advice on interpreting a comment from a guy, please. I've been seeing a guy from work for a few weeks after chatting for a few months. He arranged some amazing dates for us, and we slept together this week :) Today he sent me a ...
A. 1 October 2010: Last time I got a text that said "smitten", I ended up marrying the guy. So, end of story - it's a good thing!... (read in full...)
Does it automatically make someone selfish if they don't want kids?
Q. My parents are devastated that I had a vasectomy years ago and that I don't want to have kids. But my question is...why do people accuse me of being selfish because of this? How is it selfish if someone doesn't want kids? My mum said this genera...
A. 1 October 2010: So you are not lending more mouths to feed in the evergrowing overpopulation problem. That's wonderful! And there are some families who want to have a zoo of kids (19 Kids and Counting?!?!)... so you are helping lower the average. There is nothing ... (read in full...)
Can I change the picture in my permit?
Q. I hate my permit picture..i am actually in my twenties and just learning to drive now..my non drivers id before this--i looked very cute..this one the pose is just all wrong and i look heavier and suprised because i wasn't ready is there a way...
A. 1 October 2010: I'm a New Yorker too. Last time I went in, they said that I could come back and re-take a picture. And I did. Call up the DMV and ask!! ... (read in full...)
My ex is really starting to creep me out
Q. not so long ago i wrote about not being able to broke up with my boyfriend because he wouldn't let me, he would start crying and begging and that broke my heart and made me unable to do it. then a week or two ago i finally did it. But now i have a ...
A. 30 September 2010: He is just trying to get a rise out of you. My advice is to stop taking his calls, don't reply to his messages, freeze him out. Block his number if you have to. The more you talk to him and react to him, the strong he will come on. At first he may ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend got DUI and says if I wasn't so jealous it wouldn't have happened!
Q. I have been living with my fiance for 3 years. He and I both drink daily. He has has a problem with crack in the past an cocaine. He has had 2 dui's in two years. He smokes pot everyday and takes pain pills every chance he gets.He is 56 I am 60. ...
A. 29 September 2010: You are both toxic to each other. By being with each other, you are enabling each other to drink, be reckless and go in and out of drug use. You clearly make each other very unhappy, if you are getting verbally abused and smacking him. And, as a ... (read in full...)
I want my "old" husband back, not this new greedy selfish man!
Q. Hello everyone. I've been married for about 15 months now. Before I got married, my husband and I had made the decision to wait until we were married to have sex because we wanted our 1st time to be special. Even while we were dating, he was a very ...
A. 29 September 2010: Whoa, this is a major issue. He is forcing himself on you, telling you that it's your "wifely duty" and that you have to comply? You should not be guilted into sex, and he should not feel so powerful over you that he feels he is entitled to you ... (read in full...)
What are some birthday ideas for my friend?
Q. Hi ppl. Um male 21. Its my best friend's birthday next week. She s quiet and shy type of girl. What should i get her for her birthday? Any ideas? Any sweet and thoughtful ideas? Thanks in advance ppl. :)...
A. 29 September 2010: You can't go wrong with a bouquet of flowers. They make anyone feel like a million dollars on their birthday!
You could also get her tickets to the movies or to a play. Make her a mix CD (do people even do that anymore? It would be retro), ... (read in full...)
We made up, but my new bloke is back to his old behaviour!
Q. I've been seeing a new guy for about 1.5 months. He is 21 and I'm 23. Like him a lot. But he forgot that we had plans. This is like the second time. And the other week we were supposed to go out on a date. But he showed up drunk, with his friend. ...
A. 29 September 2010: Only a month and a half and he just forgot about you, no apologies??? And he shows up drunk to a date with a pal, and is so obnoxious that he gets kicked out of the place?
Girlfriend, CaringGuy said it once and I'll say it again - dump him! Don... (read in full...)
Do you think my wife could have lesbian desires?
Q. well this may sound strange i have always thought my wife is attracted to very good looking women. Recently a friend of her'S and me supposedly committed suicide and we finally were able to verify that .Long story short she used the tub twice today ...
A. 27 September 2010: What in the world?!?
Perhaps your wife has lesbian desires, but this letter you've written gives no evidence of that! It seems that your wife is grieving over her friend, and has taken two baths to relieve some of the stress and let out some tea... (read in full...)
Should I be mad at my best friend?
Q. Heyyyy!! I just want to know should I be mad @ my best friend if she told her mom ( which is whom we both work with ) that I don't have my diploma? I really really trying to get my GED ( for 2 years ) and I've known my best friend since the 10 g...
A. 27 September 2010: I don't think you should continue to be mad at her. She did just tell the truth and she told it to her Mom. Personally, I tell my Mom practically everything... that's what Mom's are for. And I'm sure that her Mom is proud that you're working towards ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'm going to get stuck.
Q. When my girlfriend is having an orgasm i feel like something is sucking my dick and she becomes very tight.is this normal for i fear i might get stuck....
A. 27 September 2010: You will not get stuck. Her muscles involuntarily spasm when she has an orgasm, and she can work her Kegel muscles to continually keep tight around you. Enjoy the sensation - you will not get stuck. It is completely normal. ... (read in full...)
I've tried everything to get my ex back. Is it possible she loves me still?
Q. Ok I've tried everything to get my Ex back. Even after almost a year I can't get her out of my mind. I want to know if she loves me. She told me the other night she did. She introduced me to her family (including extended). She has discussed the ...
A. 27 September 2010: It's possible, but it's also possible that she likes having you around without an actual commitment to you. So enjoy her friendship. If she has said she's not ready for something serious, that means that while you can do all the things that a ... (read in full...)
Am I lesbian? Does thinking sexually about a woman make me a lesbian?
Q. Hey everyone. I'm 17 almost 18. I have some big doubt about my sexuality, it's something that's killing me. Ok, I currently have a boyfriend and all my life I've had relationships only with men. I'm both emotionally and sexually attracted to men, ...
A. 27 September 2010: I think a lot of women go through what you're going through. Freaking out when they discover that they find women sexy, and/or that they like watching girl-on-girl porn.
Here's the thing... women ARE sexy. And as females, we're a lot more lia... (read in full...)
Gf wanting to get married to use my gi bill
Q. ok so ill just get straight to the point im 19 and in the Marine Corps my mos is mp and im also working on my bachelor degree in criminal justice my gf is still in highschool and she lives in a small town in the country and the only way kids that ...
A. 27 September 2010: First of all let me introduce myself as the husband of TasteofIndia :)
I am a U.S. Marine myself, a 2846 stationed at MCBH Kaneohe Bay, Hawaii. I'm always happy to give a young Devil Dog some advice.
College is extremely important so con... (read in full...)
I wish he could be more jealous
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I really wish my bf was more possessive. Not in the creepy "he needs help"-sort of way, but a balanced way. I don't think he's ever jealous although when my friends text me a lot when with him, he jokes that it's my man on the ...
A. 27 September 2010: I felt this way when I started to make the shift from jealous guys to nice guys. Why don't we fight more? Why aren't you more jealous? I thought we lacked passion. But ultimately, those are the guys who don't break your heart later... and who you ... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend of 6 years because he wouldn't propose!
Q. First of all, this really sucks. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have been through a lot. I'm currently in graduate school and he moved to be with me. The only problem is he hasn't proposed. It's not like he's one of those guy...
A. 26 September 2010: My fella proposed after 5 years. The military had a lot to do with it. My best friend got married after 8. My godfather, after 12!! Most recently, my fellas buddies celebrated a wedding after 9 years! I'm not saying I don't know plenty of people who ... (read in full...)
My mom won't let me take this test!
Q. this really isnt a relationship question but i really need help ok im in 8th grade but i take geomerty i've been given the chance to take a PSAT test with 34 other student in my school for free i told my mom cause all i need is a parent permission ...
A. 26 September 2010: Ask your Mom if she will come into the school and discuss it with your guidance counselor. Or, ask your guidance counselor to write a note to your Mother explaining that it would be best, or asking to talk to her personally. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My mom won't let me take this test!
Q. this really isnt a relationship question but i really need help ok im in 8th grade but i take geomerty i've been given the chance to take a PSAT test with 34 other student in my school for free i told my mom cause all i need is a parent permission ...
A. 26 September 2010: Talk to your guidance counselor and see what he or she thinks about you taking the test. If they recommend it, I'm sure your Mom will jump on board. The PSAT is a really good opportunity for practice! Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend of 6 years because he wouldn't propose!
Q. First of all, this really sucks. I have been with my boyfriend for six years and we have been through a lot. I'm currently in graduate school and he moved to be with me. The only problem is he hasn't proposed. It's not like he's one of those guy...
A. 26 September 2010: It sounds like you have a great relationship beyond the lack of proposal. He's comfortable going to couples events with you and everything - sounds like a cool guy. If he is not ready to propose to you, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. And ... (read in full...)
I finally got a nice boyfriend so why do I think about somebody else?
Q. I finally got a bf and he is the nicest,sweetest,awesomest bf but for some reason i keep thinking about this guy i had a crush on before we got together!...
A. 26 September 2010: Well, you're 13-15 and for me that time was all about the thrill of the chase. What was mostly fun was chasing after cute guys and then once you started dating them, your eyes move on to the next guy you can chase.
Pretty much, you need to decid... (read in full...)
10 years, 2 kids, is my boyfriend gay?
Q. is my boyffriend gay? im in 10 years deep with kids. am i paranoid or is my gut feeling right? is my boyfriend gay? we met at a rave 10 yrs ago, he seems straight with all the hetero porns and magazines in his room and all the sex we had, however,...
A. 26 September 2010: Well, who cares if he's gay? He sounds like a jerk! Your last sentence said enough!!
As for your question, he may have just had a bi-curious phase in high school and he likes anal. That's not enough evidence to suggest that someone is gay. And... (read in full...)
Dumped out of the blue, should I contact him?
Q. I'm 23 and was dating my bf for nearly a year and everything was going well. Then one day he calls me out of the blue and says he wants to breakup. I was in shock, we hadn't been fighting at all. He said tat he wasn't attracted to me anymore and ...
A. 26 September 2010: You shouldn't contact him, you may have been cheated on. If it was out of the blue and he's known for wanting to be single and moving around from girl to girl... or, maybe he just got bored? Definitely don't contact him. You will probably never get ... (read in full...)
What do women like/dislike about getting it in the face?
Q. So I'm with a girlfriend who loves to make me come. She swallows, which is amazing in itself, but she wants me to come other places if I want. I would like to try coming in her face, well, really more like her open mouth, but I've always thought ...
A. 26 September 2010: I actually don't mind getting it on the face. I'll take it on the face over in the mouth any day of the week! What do I like about it? I don't know, I guess it's just something different! And, it's nice knowing that he likes my face so much that he ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for breasts to be flat when a woman is lying down?
Q. I have a somewhat silly question I haven't seen asked here before. I have size C breasts - good enough when standing upright, but when I lay down they go flat...too flat for my liking. I wish they defied gravity haha! So my question is, do ...
A. 25 September 2010: Yeah, they do. If you want to give them some oomph, but you hands on them and push them up or together. Then they look like DDD's!!
But yes, real boobs flatten out... ... (read in full...)
When I get really angry or sad my body hurts!
Q. This isn't exactly a relationship issue, but whenever I get really sad or angry, my inner wrists and chest hurt in a strong aching sort of way (especially if I'm holding it in). And if I continue to get more and more sad or angry, other parts of me ...
A. 25 September 2010: It seems like you ought to go see a doctor. If you are feeling regularly sad or angry to the point that it is physically hurting you, you ought to see a doctor and make sure that you are 100% healthy. You might have high blood pressure, way too much ... (read in full...)
Does a brazilian wax hurt?
Q. Hey I'm 19 and I wanna get a brazilian wax and I was wondering does it hurt?...
A. 25 September 2010: Does it hurt... yeah, it hurts. But, I've found that it hurts only while it's being pulled off. And then, the pain is gone. So it's not this pain that lasts for hours. It's pretty instant.
But that is just ME. Go to a good... no, excellen... (read in full...)
My friend told me my crush and I would date and now she says we won't. Why the change?
Q. hi im Josie and in my last year of middle school well my friend morgan has a bf but she told me she likes slade my crush(she didsnt know)but when i told her she was happy for me but you can hear a little sadness in her voice.She told me earlier ...
A. 25 September 2010: Okay, so Morgan has a boyfriend but likes Slade. She told you, and she didn't know that Slade is YOUR crush. So you told her and she was clearly upset, but still told you she was happy for you.
Then, she tells you today that she thinks Slade wi... (read in full...)
I can't see to stop my angry outbursts at him.. even though I know it's wrong. Should we break up?
Q. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 17, we've been going out for a little over a year. Our relationship is mainly over the internet, as we live 1000 miles away from one another, but get together on holidays. He started out as a friend and then a rebound from ...
A. 25 September 2010: Listen, I dated a lot of really great guys, who I had kind of crazy relationships with. There were a few guys who just brought out the worst in me, and I'd act a lot like you. We'd fight a lot and like, 40% of the time I'd just feel really pissed ... (read in full...)
Does my brother need help?
Q. my brother says people are talking about him and that there are cameras everywhere and saying people are recording him does this mean he is ill and needs help...
A. 24 September 2010: Well, if you are worried and you feel like your brother isn't acting like himself then you should talk to your parents or a school counselor. He may be just messing around with you, or over exaggerating, or he might have something going on mentally ... (read in full...)
We want to spice things up! any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend wants to spice up our sex life. Im not very good at inventing or imagining things so I cant think of anything to do that he would really love. We are also kind of broke so I dont have a lot of money to buy stuff. Anyone have any ideas ...
A. 24 September 2010: Got a cheap scarf? Try blindfolding each other, or tying each other up. That's fun and I'm sure you have something around the house to play with. Or, look up some new positions! I'm sure Cosmopolitan has some new great moves. Buy a magazine or go to ... (read in full...)
My friend is asking me about sex? what do I say?
Q. My friend thinks I know loads about sex because I know the answers to health questions she asks about sex and know words like dental dams/guards, coitus interuptus, etc. The irony is, she has way more experience! I've only had one lover and only for ...
A. 23 September 2010: Answers...
A) Either demonstrate on him first, or just come out with it already! Trust me, if you say "Spank me, baby!" in the middle of sex, he's going to be THRILLED.
B) So you can get into a situation in which there'd be spanking, but yo... (read in full...)
I can't get wet anymore.
Q. [OP original title] I'm 18 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. For a long time we were very sexual and I was always wet, very wet. Now, I'm never wet. Sometimes, I'll try touching myself before sex but it doesn't work. He m...
A. 23 September 2010: Could it be that you need to go to your doctor? If you're getting aroused and your sex life is still making you hot, you might want to just check and make sure you are cootie-free. Some times overlooked infections can result in dryness.
But, ... (read in full...)
Emotionally weighed down, boyfriend not like he used to be?
Q. Recently I helped dye my boyfriends hair black. I did it to make him happy because he's been kinda down lately. But after that he's not like he used to be. Now he wears a dog collar, and adding a ton of black to everything. He talks really ...
A. 23 September 2010: I am very sorry to hear about your mother. This has got to be a really tough time for you, and I'm sure the situation with your boyfriend is just adding to the troubles!
I don't think that fitting into the stereotype will be the best decision... (read in full...)
Should it be an "i do" or a "i don't"
Q. I am about to get married next yr in Apirl, everything was going good when my fiance ask me do i think we doing the right thing. I told him that if he love me the way i love him that we was. well he said that the love thing is there but he was ...
A. 23 September 2010: I think you should listen, and I think you should call it off. Or, in the very least postpone it.
I'm assuming he's military? My fella is in the Marines too, that life is TOUGH. So, props to you for being strong and wanting to marry into it.
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Am I the only one who hates the smell and taste or sperm?
Q. This may be strange or maybe this is common...You tell me. I can not stand the smell or taste of sperm! I freely give my husband (of 25 yrs) BJ when he wants, let him cum on my chest and he has even rubbed it on my face BUT it makes me gag! ...
A. 23 September 2010: You are NOT the only one! I'm not keen on the taste of cum, so I don't swallow. I don't even take it in the mouth. But, like you I give my fella every other option and this is a good compromise for both of us. I avoid getting a mouthful, and he ... (read in full...)
Hate that my husband is a crossdresser!
Q. My husband of 17 years has been cross dressing since before we married. I didnt think much of it 19 or so years ago when it was minor and more of a naughty fettish of sorts, but now...... Over the past 10 years, it had gotten crazy out of con...
A. 22 September 2010: It is awesome that you have been so tolerant and understanding so far. And I do think that your problem must be really hard on you. Have you two tried counseling? That may help both of you find a happy balance in your marriage, since it seems that ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship ok?
Q. Hey I really need answer for this. I am 17 yr old boy and my girlfriend is 14-15 yrs old. Is this relationship fine? Will she like to have a french kiss with me? (She told me that she has dedicated her soul to me and she had already given a kiss to ...
A. 22 September 2010: Sounds okay, as long as you don't have sex for a couple more years! She will probably want to kiss you. :o) Let it happen when it feels right and don't push her farther than she wants to go.
"Dedicated her soul"... tell her that the reason y... (read in full...)
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