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I need to know how to ask this girl out before this other guy does!

Q.   hello. i like this girl a lot and im pretty sure she likes me back but i cant think of how i should ask her out. any help? o and btw this other guy likes her too so i need it quick. plz?...

A.   6 September 2008: well i should make sure that she does actually like me first in that way , it would be really bad if you got the wrong end of the stick and you get all embarased and might hurt the relationship that you to had . on the other hand , if she really ... (read in full...)

At the beginning he put a lot of effort to see me but now he rarely does! Why did he change so suddenly?

Q.   im mad about this guy that i was seeing briefly a while back. we stopped speaking though really and would only see each other very occasionally. but the thing is i can't get him out of my head..and its been like this for a while now. i'll think he...

A.   6 September 2008: i think the only thing u can do is to either txt him and say look i think we should talk bout everything or do the cold shoulder on him for a couple of months .. let him know how it feels for a change ... bt on the other hand .. he could of just ... (read in full...)

My wife told me she doesn't love me anymore and seems to have no interest to save the marriage. Am I being hasty for considering divorce?

Q.   After a relationship that has lasted for 16 yrs, the last 10 married my wife has stated she doesnt love me anymore because I have neglected her and left her on her own too much. This is odd because she was telling people she couldnt do without me ...

A.   6 September 2008: like you said , she is going throguh the menaporses , so all womens emotions and feelings are not correct , i think what you should do is if she feels like she is neglected by you , when she comes home from work , just greet her with a smile on your ... (read in full...)

Am I right for wanting to lose weight before I meet him?

Q.   can someone please give me an opinion! i met this guy about 2 years ago through a friend, we only met like 3 or 4 times but i fancied the pants off him! then he randomly added me on msn about 2 months later and we got chatting! hes proper amazin a...

A.   6 September 2008: it all depens on how much you way at the moment to loose weight .. and try dont to think that guys only like whats on the outside most of the time , cauz most guys are sweet and will love you for whats on the inside , i think what you could try and ... (read in full...)

How can I ease my boyfriend's pain as his mother just died?

Q.   Hello. Even though my boyfriend and I have been together for around a month, we have a strong connection. He lost his mother 5 months ago, and I do not know what to tell him to relief his pain. We keep telling him that she's in a better place now. ...

A.   6 September 2008: i think the only thing you can do at the moment is just let him know that you are always there no matter what , and he will get through it . it may seem hard for him at the moment to belive that but as long as he keeps trying to do a few little ... (read in full...)

Is it considered cheating if I masturbate to porn?

Q.   I have a question for the aunts and uncles of DearCupid. I'm a 18 year old male starting university in a few weeks. I have a girlfriend, the same age as me, who is also going to uni, but its a 3 hour distance and i wont get to see her as much. The...

A.   6 September 2008: i dont think this is cheating because you are not really seieng the other person in rel life , and every guy does it with or without a gf .. so i wouldt class it as cheating , as long as this isnt going to over come to you having fun with your gf or ... (read in full...)

He hit me again today but I still love him. Please, someone tell me what to do...

Q.   Hey, i'm 19, I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. About 4 months ago, he started hitting me. Nothing really to start with but it got worse. Today he burst my nose and strangled me, I think that it was probably the most terrifying ...

A.   6 September 2008: Get out of there as soon as you can ! i would even report him to the police this is assult on you and he can do serous damage by the sounds of it . if you are this scared about him , why do you still feel stracted to him , mabye it because of th... (read in full...)

I had a really weird dream about this guy. What does it mean?

Q.   Last night I had this realy wierd dream. It was about me and this other boy I have never seen in real life, and came into the room and we were about to have sex but then I had told him I was not ready. And it felt so real like it was it was ...

A.   6 September 2008: to be honest , it was just a dream , it could not mean anything or it could mean sometihng , but what you have to think about is that most dreams come from imagaions in your brain , so even tho dreams can feel real and the poeple in them and stuff ... (read in full...)

I don't know if I should visit this guy I met on the internet...

Q.   i have recently meet a turkish guy on the internet we talk everyday and send text messages,im beginning to really like him,he wants me to go over on holiday and see him for a week i really dont no what to do here because of the distance and stories ...

A.   6 September 2008: dont go on holiday with someone you dont know . . it is really bad because one , he could be someone else to who he says he is .two , he could really hurt you while out there and who would know . and three , he cud stand u up , you could go al the ... (read in full...)

He says he flirts with other girls because he wants them to feel happy. Am I being unreasonable for not believing this?

Q.   heya last night i found out that my bf of a month likes to flirt wiv other gals i dont mind this but he likes to flirt alot he tells every gd luking gal he talks to ow gawjus they are he seys its just the way he is he seys he likes to make thm feel ...

A.   5 September 2008: boys are like that .. they flirt with every girl ebcause thats just who they are .. i shouldnt worry to much just watch him not like a hawk but just keep an eye on him .. and if u think that it is getting to bad , then leave an update and i will ... (read in full...)

How can I convince my boyfriend to have sex with me while I'm on my period?

Q.   My sex drive seems to be at its highest when I have my period, but my boyfriend isn't keen on the idea of sex then because he doesn't like blood. I have never tried having sex on my period. Is it commonly done? What are people's views on it? I don't ...

A.   5 September 2008: dont have sex when your on your period . it isnt the best thing for you or your boyfrind . Your sex drive will be all over the place on your period because your hormones are not stable .i am sure that you could wat a week at the most 2 have sex .. ... (read in full...)

Is it ok for a 15-year-old to have sex with a 26-year-old?

Q.   Is it ok for a 15 year old male (me) to go out with a 26 year old women and have sex?? Any advice?...

A.   5 September 2008: No not really yopu are leaving yourself in loads of danger and trouble , why are you thinkin of having sex with a 26 year old ? i wouldnt advise it .. xx Belle x ... (read in full...)

Am I a normal teenager?

Q.   I am a 19 year old boy. I am starting my 2nd year of university, and I know what this means to a lot of people "parties, sex, alcohol etc." But this doesn't concern me. When people are out going crazy Im at home studying. I recently asked a girl ...

A.   5 September 2008: Of Course Your Normal , Dont worry . Be Yourself , no 1 is forcing you to be someone who you dont want to be .. not everyone is the same so stop worrying xx ... (read in full...)

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