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writes:my daughter just had a baby boy. she is 18. she was told by the father of her child to leave when they were living together before the birth. Except he didn't know she was pregnant, and doesn't want to tell him about the baby. she often leaves the baby with me on weekends to go out an have fun. I've noticed she has had several different boyfriends. I want to understand why or what she might be feeling that she needs to be promiscuous. please advise. I would also like the perspective of any teenage girls that might be enaged in similar behavior. thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (3 October 2010):
 I agree with Dorothy!
It is a phase that usually gets old fast. She probably is going extra wild because she's so inhibited by the fact that she is a young mother, and is trying to make up for soon-to-be lost time once she has to really step up to the plate and parent. Most 18 year olds would see the next decade as their time for fun and for playing the field a bit with the guys.
I also think that it will probably pass and that she'll find an appropriate balance. Don't let her take advantage of you, or slack on her responsibilities as a Mom, but it would be kind of you to take on the Grandkid every other weekend, if you have the time. Also, be sure that she is being extra safe!! Using condoms, birth control, etc. Good luck!
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (3 October 2010):
Hi there. As she is only 18, she is at an age where most girls her age would be going out socializing and simply having fun.
It's probably that she feels that she is missing out on fun because she is a mother now and feels the need to break out a bit.
Perhaps she was in the last relationship for a while, and might now realize what she was missing out on - freedom. She might be trying to make up for lost time. It's possible.
As times goes by, this phase will probably pass. She just needs to find balance in her life, between motherhood and still having some fun and enjoying life.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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