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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other for nearlly 2 years. I loved him once but i do not feel for him anymore. I would love to spend the rest of my life with him but i just can't figure out what is missing. I have been thinking it would be better if we ended but i do not know how i can. Can you help me please? Reply to this Question
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reader, StarNews +, writes (30 January 2006):
 It may be a good idea to take a break. Sometimes just having some time apart makes you realize your true feelings. If you say you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, then I think time apart may make appreciate what you have. This may also work against you, because he may decide he does not want to be with you. It is a chance you need to take if you feel so indecisive about the relationship.
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (30 January 2006):
 If you have tried spicing things up and still you feel like this then move on, it is not worth clinging onto something that was good but is just not working now.
Most people have a varety of relationships before they settle down and some last weeks, others years, your gut incstinct will tell you if it is past saving.
Dont stick with it if this is the case as some people keep relationships going because they are a habit or they are scared of moving from safe and familiar to the unknown.
Good luck
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reader, shania +, writes (30 January 2006):
 Ask yourself this.....could you imagine life without him? If you dont think you can then your relationship might just need a jolt to wake it up again.Boredom can crop up anywhere and everyday life can seem pointless,just like your feeling now with your boyfriend.Have you asked him how you felt? Maybe he is feeling the same.....why not try doing something different together,go to places you havent been before.....are you just sitting indoors watching the tv everynight? If you feel its more then just being in a rut then you will have to weigh up on how much you love him...otherwise it might be that your relationship has run its course.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (30 January 2006):
 How do you mean you don't feel for him? If you mean the love has faded but you feel content, secure and happy then you probably ahve passed the *honeymoon* period and are settling into the secure long-term version of your love. Very very few people can keep the honeymoon period of their love alive, that is why romance is so important, so we don't get bored.
But if you really cannot be bothered with him, he bores you or you know that he is not for you then end it. Go and find somebody you will be more compatible with. Just 'cos you have been together two years doesn't mean you have to stay together.
Good luck with making your decision, I don't envy you at all.xxx
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