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Any ladies got advice for a heartbroken guy? Is there still a chance?

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Question - (27 January 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 29 January 2006)
A male , *lobetrotter writes:

Hi Folks,

I broke up with my girl in October last year after about six months. I let it go and I got on with things. Then we met up again in December and it was like we knew each other so much better, and I realised that I was more in love with her than ever. I was due to travel to Africa in January though, so I didn't pursue it. Then Africa fell through, and now she's going out with a new guy since mid December. She's told me she's staying with him now - I can't force her to change her mind obviously. I had my opportunity. But it's killing me and I want her back. We spoke on the phone last week and it all ended in not too friendly a fashion. I know I should walk away but I feel there's a small chink of hope there...maybe.

If any of you ladies have any advice for me, it'd be much appreciated. Cheers.

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A male reader, globetrotter +, writes (29 January 2006):

globetrotter is verified as being by the original poster of the question

To those of you who replied to my question, thanks very much, it's really appreciated. It's reassuring to see there's good people out there! She's in my head all day every day but I'm keeping as busy as I can. I think I'll write to her, in a little while.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2006):

First of all..........Stop and take s look at what u are saying. I know that u may love this girl but please for your own sake try to move on with your life. Relationship come a dime a dozen. you should make yourself more active and get and do things that make u happy because life is too short to spent in misery. you know misery loves company. I know this may be hard to do but the sooner the better for you. Friendship is all you should offer her because if you are too accessibke to her she will run all over you. Just remember if it was meant to be it will be. Peace and blessings to you.

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A female reader, shania United Kingdom +, writes (27 January 2006):

shania agony auntTrue love never runs smoothly...does it? Ok,there might be a small chance that you two might get back together...but in the mean time...dont call her or stand outside her house in the pouring rain...let her go...give her space...maybe in time she might realise that she does want you after all.....but you have to get on with your life and not put her on hold for ever more....go out and enjoy yourself,who knows there might be a girl out there,waiting for you to ask her out...give it time.

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A female reader, Aunty Suzie +, writes (27 January 2006):

Just remember there is always hope. But while you "hope", promise me you will get out once a week , time for you only, and if she comes back, that's great, it was meant to be but you must carry on.

Even if it kills you {which it won't} live, life is short, be happy for every day.

Move on . And if she follow's .Great,if not you have not wasted time.

There is alway's hope but there is always life too.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2006):

Sorry to hear about your situation. Timing is such a problem sometimes!

I think what you should do is write her a letter and apologise for the phone converstation not finishing nicely and tell her that you respect her and enjoy her company and miss her. Tell her you respect the fact she is seeing someone else and you don't want to be responsible for breaking up anyone else's relationship but you will always care about her and in another time and place, when or if circumstances are different, you believe that you could make each other very happy.

Then, get on with your life. She knows that you believe it can work and she knows where you are. In the meantime, meet new people and travel and have fun. If you are meant to be, she will come back and then you can see how you feel then.

Good luck

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