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I'm tired of being in limbo-should I just back off this relationship, once and for all?

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Question - (30 January 2006) 1 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2006)
A male United Kingdom, *reenman writes:

My girlfriend and I split 9 months ago after she said she was confused, spark gone, space etc. Since then we have been every few weeks but only because I initiated the contact, she has never contacted me but never declined my offers to go out either. Occasionally, I would ask 'where we were heading' and before christmas she started saying she was 'hopeful' for us, loved me, fancied me, but still didn't initiate any contact. I then said that we need to move this relationship on or finish as i was fed up with being in limbo. She agreed we should go out more but then she backed off completely. She went to work abroad before christmas for 3 months and never called\texted when she left despite previously inviting me to fly out and see her. We have had no contact for 2 months. Have I scared her off?? Does she respect me ?

If so, should I "never" contact her again and appear strong (make her wonder) OR should i reinitiate contact so i can show her i can be upbeat and not needy and then back off again as i implement the 'Game'( upbeat, aloof, not needy, the guy she fell in love with etc )

Any help appreciated

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A female reader, shania United Kingdom +, writes (31 January 2006):

shania agony auntI think the relationship has ran its course,the reason i say this is because you are always doing the chasing.She doesnt make the effort of contacting you which to me sounds like she has lost interest.If i was you i would stop all contact with her...i know it will be hard because its obvious that you are very keen on her but really you have done all you can to rekindle the relationship....surely by now, she should be making the effort? I would walk away and look for someone who will would want to be with you...good luck.

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