She's become friends with someone I have reason to dislike
Q. hello, I've been dating my gf for about 4 months now, and we've had couple fights here and there, but we are having a pretty big one at the moment. She recently started being friends with this guy, which wouldn't normally bother me, but the guy ...
A. 21 April 2010: You are welcome!Thanks for your compliments.
Some times,there are situations which are beyond our controls. No doubt, she should follow your advise because you know more about that guy's history than her.
It can be exasperating whe... (read in full...)
Are my emotions clouding my ability to make sensible decisions? Or am I falling for him again for real?
Q. Hi, I need some advice. Over the past year, I grew distant from the man in my life and he had what we refer to as an emotional affair. He became emotionally close to another girl and lied about the time he'd been spending with her. At the time, we...
A. 16 April 2010: Sometimes an affair can make the marriage stronger . They found what they have missed about each other and they will go all out to make their marriage stronger and more successful.
For more;-
http://www.articl... (read in full...)
Confused, am I a freak?
Q. i am a 39 year old male who's wife passed away 9 years ago i have not been with another person since.Here is my confusion and question about four months ago i met this great looking girl at a bar she was nice and smart and everything well i went ...
A. 16 April 2010: There are always two sides to a coin. It does not matter what others think because you will have different sets of values from different people across the broad span of our society.
The general consensus may not be to your liking but it matters ... (read in full...)
Atracted to my best friend's cousin
Q. I like my best friend's cousin. When i first saw him, i was like... oh it's kinda weird, but then i started to hang out with him and my bff and we used to talk everyday, by msn, but i don't know what happened, when suddenly he stop talking to me and ...
A. 16 April 2010: If you value the friendship with your best friend,you should not go in there.
If you feel that you cannot control yourself, you will have to get off from his planet and avoid him if possible.
It maybe hard but you need to exercise some fo... (read in full...)
She's become friends with someone I have reason to dislike
Q. hello, I've been dating my gf for about 4 months now, and we've had couple fights here and there, but we are having a pretty big one at the moment. She recently started being friends with this guy, which wouldn't normally bother me, but the guy ...
A. 16 April 2010: If you don't know what is controlling or manipulating other people by subtle thoughts and arm twistings ,I am very sorry for you .Your relationship will always be very rocky.
You can learn it by trials and errors and from making your own mistakes... (read in full...)
The sex I've had in the past upsets her.
Q. My girlfriend makes me feel bad constantly about the number of sexual partners I have had. I have been with seven other women. I don't think that's a high number. I had sex with seven different women but I only had sex, get this seven times. ...
A. 16 April 2010: She has a different sexual standards.You cannot blame her for having that kind of opinion because you have 7 different partners.
She could be thinking she is the number 8 and there could be a number 9 or 10. She could be feeling insecure .No doub... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my children's father might hurt them!
Q. Dear cupid, I am worried about the safety of my kids concerning their father. We are not together because of our abusive relationship and I am worried that he might try to hurt our children after the court says he is okay to be around. (only a ...
A. 16 April 2010: You did great and those info's could be provided to your lawyer when dealing with visitations or any matters related to him.
He may have mellowed through the ages but you have to take extra precautions with your children.... (read in full...)
Is he too good to be true?
Q. i have been dating a guy for six months. he seems amazing. he doesn't want to have sex yet and accepts im not ready. he never pushes me into anything. he also says he wants to marry me. is he too good to be true?...
A. 15 April 2010: He seems too perfect! He must be a rare breed. Only time will tell.... (read in full...)
Sometimes I wish I could just dissapear!
Q. Hi, I am a mother of 5, my oldest daughter is graduating this year...Then I have a 16 year old daughter and a 14 year old son, a 11 and 10 year old daughters. Well, when I was 20 I was ran over by a drunk driver, I had a spinal cord injury, I never ...
A. 15 April 2010: My sympathies for your misfortunes. You are going through a very difficult time in your life.
I pray for your well being and to God to give you the strength to face your daily routine . May God's grace and healing powers be upon you .
Please ... (read in full...)
I confronted him about another girl and he spat on me and shoved me down the stairs. How do I move on from this?
Q. I am not sure how to get over this so im asking for everyones opinion. I just recently broke up with my ex saturday because I confronted him about texting this girl and deleting messages from her. he got all pissed off kicked me out of his house ...
A. 15 April 2010:
I am very sorry that you have to go through all these pains and sufferings.
Accept the reality of the situation that it is all over and collect your things from there and move on with your life.
Don't look back. He was not meant to be your... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wont speak to me over a facebook message from I guy I don't even know.
Q. My boyfriend has fallen out with me cos last week (friday) on facebook a lad i had never talked to before he just sed it was a random add. he sent me a facebook chat message saying "you look F*****G amazing you Gorgeous babe" my boyfriend was stood ...
A. 15 April 2010: He is over reacting and irrational. He was too quick to jump into conclusion without hearing you out.
Tell his mate what actually happened so that he will talk some sense into him.... (read in full...)
We have not met yet so would it be unreasonable to ask him to remove other girls from his facebook?
Q. a guy i've been talking to thru internet and texting for a month says he loves me and wants to meet me so we r meeting in a few wks. i know he is who he sez he is cos met him thru a friend. on hif facebook. he has 500 friends. i'd say he knew bout ...
A. 15 April 2010: It would be unreasonable to ask him to delete those girls .The order to delete must come from himself.
It would be better to just leave them alone at this stage. If you ask him to do that, it would show that you are a jealous and controll... (read in full...)
What else can I do to get over him now he has gone back to his ex?
Q. hey, I was with this boy for only 4 months but really fell for him. he then said i was too full on so he ended it. i have now found out at hes getting back with his ex but i really do like him and cant stop thinking about him. ive tryed to keep busy ...
A. 15 April 2010: Find a new hobby or join some social activities . Go for a holiday or hangout with friends or seek God.... (read in full...)
I was totally blindsided by my girlfriend suddenly dumping me!
Q. What do I do? I have been broken up with my ex-girlfriend for 3 weeks now. Of course, I'm still sad, but I have accepted it's over. I have no sort of disillusionment in wanting her back. I just want to move on. What's gnawing at me is I still do not ...
A. 15 April 2010: She probably found some one better . Accept the reality and move on . She was not the one for you .... (read in full...)
My brother's jealousy ruined my relationship
Q. *OP's own title* When I was 20 my older brother liked the same girl that I did. She didn't want him she wanted me. We started going together and I fell really hard for her. We had a good relationship for a almost two years but things didn't work...
A. 15 April 2010: It is not easy to forget those incidents but you should forgive your ex and your brother and lay those feeling to rest.
It is time to let go of the past and stop carrying them in your heart. Look forward and do not look backwards.
They ar... (read in full...)
He has a kid with another woman, ...but I love him so much.
Q. *OP's won title* i met a guy some weeks ago, i fell in love with him and he did the same, the thing is that he has a kid with another woman who fortunately happen to get married thats now according to him... i love this guy very much and am even look...
A. 15 April 2010: You should check out his story about that kid and not simply believed what he told you . He could have been married to her for all you know.
He comes with a baggage and he will not be able to give himself all to you .... (read in full...)
Is he up to something if it took him 2 months to kiss me?
Q. What do you think?? is my boyfriend up to something bad? my bf is really sweet.it took him 2months to kiss me..we'd hang out cuddle, hold hands but he didn't make a move to kiss me. i asked him why it took him that long cos most guys would just jum...
A. 15 April 2010: Maybe , he is afraid that you may turn him into a green froggie and keep him as a pet.
He could probably be very shy and does not know how to kiss a sexy girl or his mom did not tell him how to kiss or warned him not to kiss any girl or he could... (read in full...)
He's moving to America on a scholarship
Q. I'm told so and I also believe that I'm very mature for my age and I have been going out with my boyfriend for two and a half years now. We are deeply in love and we both can't stand being apart from one another. However this year, just before we ...
A. 15 April 2010: Whatever will happen ,will happen .The future is not for us to decide.
Everything happens for a reason and if he is yours , nothing will ever separate the two of you.
Don't let your imaginations run riot. You can still talk to him through t... (read in full...)
She's become friends with someone I have reason to dislike
Q. hello, I've been dating my gf for about 4 months now, and we've had couple fights here and there, but we are having a pretty big one at the moment. She recently started being friends with this guy, which wouldn't normally bother me, but the guy ...
A. 15 April 2010: She has a mind of her own and she can make her own decisions. You can explain to her why you don't like that guy but that is as far as you can go.
You should allow her to decide for herself because if you want her to follow your decision ,it woul... (read in full...)
Does he want a serious relationship or does he just want to be friends with benefits?
Q. Hi all, I'm a 14 year old girl who lives in London and I have a dilemma. I really, really like this guy (my best mate since forever) but after some remarks he has made, I wonder whether he sees us as friends, friends with benefits (fwb) o...
A. 15 April 2010: We cannot tell what is in his heart. If you want to know the answer, you will have to ask him directly whether he sees you as friends, friends with benefits (fwb) or as a proper couple.
Only he can answer that question.
We could only specu... (read in full...)
How can I stop my feeling of hatred towards my best friend?
Q. I have a problem that has been stressing me out and causing me to be quite mad and it's making me feel bad... Let me start off, I like this guy ever since I met him in September last year. Ever since, mutual friends had been commenting that ...
A. 15 April 2010: Don't let others opinion influence you. If you think it is alright to tell him your feelings, just go ahead with it.
Just change your attitude towards her. Be a sport and be fair .May the best man/woman wins.... (read in full...)
I'm really into her, but she doesn't want any part of it.
Q. There is this classmate of mine, who is my best friend and is a girl. I sort of like her, she knows this. Everything was fine until i gave a cell phone as her birthday gift. I did not give it because i like her, i just gave it as a friend.she ...
A. 15 April 2010: You cannot force anyone to love you . You can give your unconditional love and if she is not interested in you , you need to move on.
You cannot buy love. The phone that you gave her on her birthday looks like a bribe to her .
If she is not... (read in full...)
I need a little advice.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going together for 5 months, and he still hasn't kissed me! I really want him to, but don't how to give him the hint, and I'm not even sure if he wants to. Can you help me? Please?...
A. 15 April 2010: Give him a kiss on his forehead or his cheeks and it will slowly progress to the lips when he gets the hang of it.... (read in full...)
He's married. Is it too late?
Q. I have told an ex that I am still in love with him. We have not talked or seen eachother in 3 years. He emailed me out of nowhere to send me well wishes. So I took the opportunity to tell him how I have felt for 3 years. He told me he is engage...
A. 15 April 2010: There is nothing anymore you can do but to let fate decides your destiny.
If he comes back to you , he is yours ,otherwise, he belongs to that woman.... (read in full...)
Should I get involved?
Q. So my husband's ex-girlfriend (who is currently engaged) STILL cannot get over my husband. He does not speak to her, nor does he reply to her emails, texts, etc. Also, she drove by our house the other day really slow, and she lives about 15+ miles ...
A. 15 April 2010: You have a right to tell her to back off but I think it is better if you let your husband handle this matter, unless he asks for your help.
No doubt, you feel the strong urge to intercede in this matter but you need to respect and have trust in... (read in full...)
Why would he hide these things?
Q. What is wrong with my husband? Here's my story. We've been together 7yrs, married 3yrs. I don't have my family in the country and he doesn't have his family in the state. So it was just the 2 of us here. He met all of my friends, but I haven't me...
A. 15 April 2010: He could not come clean with you because he feared that you would not be able to accept it.
If you think your marriage is worth saving , you could give it another shot .
If you think there is no trust and love in this relationship, it... (read in full...)
There's only one problem..
Q. I have been married for five years now. My husband and I recently separated and now he wants me back. The problem is he sucks in bed. I have been enjoying my sex life, which I haven't in the last past three years. My husband was decent in bed at ...
A. 15 April 2010: You could work with him on this problem and give him time to learn the new tricks. If he is unwilling to change,there is nothing you can do about that.
You will either have to accept him as he is or find another one.... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits?
Q. I am a 21 year old female and I've been dating this guy who is older than me for 10 months. We have broken up a couple of times and gotten back together. We will be fine for a few weeks and then he disappears, doesn't call or answer phone calls from ...
A. 15 April 2010: He is your priority while you are his options. This relationship is very lopsided and you would be better off dropping him and moving on.... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me? help!
Q. Okay, so my ex and i started talking again about a month ago. i was so ecstatic because it had been 5 months since he had talked to me (i messed up really bad with him and he broke up with me. but he's forgiven me for it and says he loves me and ...
A. 15 April 2010: Don't panic ! Call him up and speak to him to find out if everything is O.K over there. Give him some space.... (read in full...)
Do you think once a cheat always a cheat?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 8 months and told he confused to me that from October 2008 - January 2009 he had an affair. He proposed to me on new years eve 2009, that means whiel he was having an affair he asked me to marry him. I had NO ...
A. 15 April 2010: That is only a generalization and stereotype of thinking.Not everyone is the same and there are exceptions.
If you want to stay with him, you need to forgive him and move on. In time , you will not feel the sting anymore.
Will he do it again? ... (read in full...)
I usually text him first
Q. I have a huge crush on my best guy friend. I am usually the one who texts first, but he always replies almost immediately. He will sometimes text first and sometimes calls. Many of his responses are short, but he keeps the convo going and I'm ...
A. 15 April 2010: Obviously , he enjoys the attentions from you and perhaps there is some mutual attractions and some sparks flying about.
Soon ,you may get a bonfire...LOL!... (read in full...)
This is abuse, right? And I should leave?
Q. Getting right into it...(sorry, it's a long question) I met this guy four months ago through a mutual friend. At first he came off as a bit cocky, but overall, a nice guy. I started seeing him, and things got comfortable pretty quick, (as in...
A. 15 April 2010: You are in an emotionally abusive relationship. He has threatened you with violence, used fear, humiliations and verbal assault to control and manipulate you .
If you don't leave, you will be subject to more psychological batterings or violence... (read in full...)
Don't want to lose her forever
Q. I have a broken heart because my ex girlfriend has a boyfriend and I truely love her and want her back. What can I do?? I dated my ex girlfriend for a year in a half. I'm 32 she's 24 and we were a very good looking couple. She always talked ab...
A. 15 April 2010: Chase and woo her all over again and show that she is the top priority in your life.
Never withdraw and never surrender,charge forward until your last drop of blood.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for being suspicious?
Q. My girlfriend is considerably older than me and wants to keep us secret naturally this means we dont get much time because she lives with her daughter. When we both get time i say im on my way then suddenly shel say im busy or im out i thought ...
A. 15 April 2010: I smell something fishy too. Maybe, you need to do some spot checking by dropping unannounced or on the lookout for some foreign and unusual activities in her place.... (read in full...)
Custody and domestic violence issues
Q. i have never been to court for the custoday of my 5 yr old and my 2 yr old and im there mother but when me and there father split up my son was in pre school so we decided together to let him finish the last yr of his pre school in the same school ...
A. 15 April 2010: If you called the police when taking your son , they will have to hand them over to you unless they break that order by hiding and taking your son to another secret place.
It will be good if you can involve the father in the son's life . You shou... (read in full...)
My mother slanders my cooking
Q. O.K. this is kind of childish I know. I live with my parents cause I'm jobless and have a lot of debt. My mother told me a friend of hers ask her if I know how to cook and my mother told her I knew how to but my food was always 'tasteless'. I'm ...
A. 15 April 2010: If what she says is true,then try to improve your cooking.
If it is untrue, just ignore those remarks. Don't take it too hard. ... (read in full...)
What is normal...how much is too much
Q. Quick question, is it normal for a guy to call his girlfriend of 3 weeks, 10 times in 23 hours for a chat, lasting between 4 mins to 1 hour at a time? ...
A. 15 April 2010: He is like a tempest or a whirlwind, very strong in the beginning and fade out quickly once it is over.
He should moderate it and learn to run a marathon than a short sprint.
2 or 3 calls in a day is quite normal but 10 times a day is botheri... (read in full...)
Does she fancy me or is she just using me?
Q. I like this girl for 3 months and she seems she's interested in me. She asks me about homework a lot and most of the times, she wants to be my partner. I know that Im not the smart one but yeah, Im kinda good about studying. We talk more and...
A. 15 April 2010: Don't take the bait. You may get into a situation where you will find it hard to extradite yourself from.
Stay your distance and don't get too involved with her, She has a b/f. You would be asking for trouble.... (read in full...)
How can we get past his emotional affair?
Q. Hi, I really need some advice. A few months ago, I found out the man in my life had been having an emotional (non sexual) affair with a friend of his that he's had for the past decade. This girl is absolutely besotted with him and he was giving h...
A. 14 April 2010: You are your worst enemy. You need to live in the present and forget about her. Don't let anything come in between you two.
Always think in the positive and develop a more positive attitude.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become close to another girl!
Q. I need help! My boyfriend has become close to another girl after helping her with some advice. He's been open with me about it and says the feelings he had for her were NOTHING compared to what he had for me. Nothing really happened between ...
A. 14 April 2010: You have to show your b/f that you are better than that girl and you should not stop him from seeing her if they have any legitimate business.
You need to feel more secure in your b/f's love. If he leave you for her, you only have to blame yo... (read in full...)
Is there a way to fix this without kicking him out?
Q. I feel terrible for writing this, but feel I could benefit from some advice on how to approach this situation. I trust my boyfriend, but there is a money issue and I dont want to be taken for a ride. We just moved in together, and he was originall...
A. 14 April 2010: A promise is a promise and if he cannot keep his promise, you do not have to keep the other end of your bargain.
He has failed you and either he has tricked you or he has used you .
This situation is untenable and you better put a stop or in... (read in full...)
The sex is very bad. I have to keep reassuring him about his penis, he has some annoying habits in bed and he keeps forgetting where my clitoris is! I'm tired of faking it!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend he does some really annoying things. He likes to listen to the radio and sing in my ear while he's on top of me. I hate that. I told him that I didn't like that and he got his feelings hurt. So every now and ...
A. 14 April 2010: No matter how you word it , it will always come out as a criticism of his performance .Men are very sensitive when it comes to his sexual performance or his tool.
What you can do is to lead him or guide him or teach him what you want him to do fo... (read in full...)
Does she fancy me or is she just using me?
Q. I like this girl for 3 months and she seems she's interested in me. She asks me about homework a lot and most of the times, she wants to be my partner. I know that Im not the smart one but yeah, Im kinda good about studying. We talk more and...
A. 14 April 2010: She has a b/f and you can only be her best or close friend to her.
She could be using you as a temporary replacement for her LDR b/f. When her b/f comes back, you will be kicked to the kerb.
If you are expecting something to come out of this... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my children's father might hurt them!
Q. Dear cupid, I am worried about the safety of my kids concerning their father. We are not together because of our abusive relationship and I am worried that he might try to hurt our children after the court says he is okay to be around. (only a ...
A. 10 April 2010: This link may help you search for some one's criminal records.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Free-Criminal-Records-Search-Tips----How-to-Find-Free-Criminal-Records-Resources-Online&id=474038... (read in full...)
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