Does she fancy me or is she just using me?
Q. I like this girl for 3 months and she seems she's interested in me. She asks me about homework a lot and most of the times, she wants to be my partner. I know that Im not the smart one but yeah, Im kinda good about studying. We talk more and...
A. 15 April 2010: Don't take the bait. You may get into a situation where you will find it hard to extradite yourself from.
Stay your distance and don't get too involved with her, She has a b/f. You would be asking for trouble.... (read in full...)
The sex is very bad. I have to keep reassuring him about his penis, he has some annoying habits in bed and he keeps forgetting where my clitoris is! I'm tired of faking it!
Q. When I have sex with my boyfriend he does some really annoying things. He likes to listen to the radio and sing in my ear while he's on top of me. I hate that. I told him that I didn't like that and he got his feelings hurt. So every now and ...
A. 14 April 2010: No matter how you word it , it will always come out as a criticism of his performance .Men are very sensitive when it comes to his sexual performance or his tool.
What you can do is to lead him or guide him or teach him what you want him to do fo... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend's married.
Q. I have been dating a man for a while and then we decided to move in together. We have now been living together for 3 years. We have often talked about marriage but never really committed. I really didn't want marriage right away, and I think he knew ...
A. 14 April 2010: You have two options, to stay or leave?
Which is more unpalatable ?
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend went nuts after I checked up on him using a fake facebook account. We have split over it, but I want him back!
Q. I have dated this guy for 2 years, and all of a sudden he just changed. He flirts too much on facebook, it was more like i didn't exist at all. Ok, i know i did a bad thing when i created a fake facebook account about a month ago, and jeez, he said ...
A. 14 April 2010: Don't be his puppet on a string , where he will tear your heart to shreds and after he has done it,he will discard you anyway.
Have more self worth and self esteem. He is not the right material for you .... (read in full...)
I love her but she slept with so many men
Q. I was dating someone a couple years ago that I cared very deeply for. We were having a great time together. During the time we were together she was sexually assaulted by someone she knew. She didn't go to the police or tell anyone for months. ...
A. 14 April 2010: She has too much collateral damage. The only sensible thing is to move on.
It maybe a very painful decision but it may save you 10x or 100x the pain later on.
Unless you are very religious or have God's capacity to love and forgive her, thi... (read in full...)
My Dad treats me like a child
Q. my dad is too controlling. i'm 19 years old and i'm at uni and i've moved 30 miles away from home. i live in a flat with 4 other girls and i look after myself and take responsibility for all that i do. my problem is that whenever i ...
A. 14 April 2010: I have to agree with you , it is too much . Your dad is frozen in a timeless zone .
You will have to tell your dad to grow up and stop treating you like a little girl.... (read in full...)
He's changed so much
Q. Why is my boyfriend doing this? my bf was really sweet.it took him 2months to kiss me. i asked he said hes got respect and didn't want to scare me off. whenever we made Iove it was beautiful, passionate and really tender. he was everything i could ...
A. 14 April 2010: He has taken you for granted and does not show his appreciations for you anymore .
He is not only insecure but immature as well. It is going to take a lot of your goodwill to keep him by your side.... (read in full...)
How can I save my marriage after cheating on my wife?
Q. I have been in a 13 yr marrage and now I have distroyed it by cheating on my wife. I had paid for an erotic massage and I am extremly embarresed about it. My wife says that I am upset because I got cought. I am not I am distroyed because I hurt ...
A. 14 April 2010: Be a man and accept your responsibilities. If you want to save this marriage, you should not beg or go down on your knees .
She may make plenty of veiled threats but mostly they are empty and not easy to carry it out.
Take it calmly as a matt... (read in full...)
What is going on with this boy? Please please help?!?
Q. He liked me for months and showed it and I started liking him back too. But the problem was that a close female friend of his started liking him too and began to give me the cold-shoulder. We used to talk and she was even one of the ones to tell me ...
A. 14 April 2010: I think you have lost in this war of affections to the other girl. She has beguiled him and is now under her control.
It is better to let him go and move on.... (read in full...)
I like him, he likes me, but his friend might like him too ... What should I do?
Q. A girl, who is close friends with this guy, acted normal at the start of the school term (about 9 weeks ago). She was friendly, we walked together and talked between classes, she squeezed the information out of said boy that he likes me and told me ...
A. 14 April 2010: Some day you win and some day you lose. Forget about him , he is only two timing you .... (read in full...)
Trying to get my ex back. How do I keep the momentum going when he does not always answer?
Q. My ex and i were together for a few years and he broke up due to petty things like arguments etc but we did love each other alot. We had pretty much a year of no contact until i left a voicemail. He knows my intentions of getting back together. W...
A. 14 April 2010: You can keep on calling every 2weeks but it won't have the desired effects on him because his heart is cold and dead.
All your efforts will only be in vain. You will be pushing him further away from you .
reference;-
http://www.wikihow.co... (read in full...)
Why do we keep getting back together when all we do is fight?
Q. first off, i am gay, and was dating a closeted bisexual girl. i was in a relationship with this girl for about three years. at first, everything was great, like any relationship, but then stuff got a bit rocky. there was a lot of jealousy, there wa...
A. 14 April 2010: Both of you love the high drama and the fights are something interesting as it will bring out the best or the worst in you .Your present life is too dull and boring.
After each subsequent fight , you will find that you will understand her more and... (read in full...)
I want to leave him, but he might be dying
Q. Sorry this is so long, but I think details should be known. Hi guys. I'm going through some really hard times here. My boyfriend used to make me incredibly happy. He'd try his best to please me and everything for the first couple of weeks we got ...
A. 14 April 2010: I think he is manipulating you and playing on your emotions.You don't have to believe everything he says. He could be lying and a dying person will not speak to you in that way.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for considering abortion over bringing a child in to an unstable environment?
Q. Well, I been dating a guy for about seven months. I notice that he had several woman friends. I have issue with trusting him. I went by his house and notice a car park in his driveway, next to his. I knocked on the door several times he didnt answer ...
A. 14 April 2010: Right or wrong , you are the one who will have to bear the consequences and I hope that you will make the right choice and do not have regrets somewhere down the road.
Please think deeply about all those options before you decide to terminat... (read in full...)
Why would my ex make up so many hurtful lies about me?
Q. Why would my ex say all this horrible stuff about me? Hey I just found out that after my ex boyfriend broke up with me he was saying these horrible lies about me. We had a good relationship but he ended it when he got back into drugs. He was saying ...
A. 14 April 2010: When things turned sour, his opinions of you will turned negative.
We cannot control what others think or say .He is belittling and insulting you to make him look good .
It is good that you discovered him for what he is.... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and now wants to be friends. Is this a good idea or not?
Q. So I just got into this relationship and have been with the guy a month. He was telling me a week ago how he was so glad he was my boyfriend and making all these fun plans for us in the summer. Then the next week he was telling me he was confused ...
A. 14 April 2010: Keep him as a platonic friend because having a friend is more useful than an enemy.
You will never know if somewhere down the road , you may need his help on some matters.... (read in full...)
Is there any way to get over the pain of a break up?
Q. I met that guy, he was so sweet and nice I likes him alot, then he was never there, we go out he dances with every girl but me, I used to get mad everytime, and he calls me and be sorry and promise he's gonna change, but he never did.. I had to ...
A. 14 April 2010: You are not his priority but only an option. Since he does not know how to love,appreciate and cherish you , you should not give him all your love.
You are only casting your pearls before swines.
Find another great guy and you will forget ... (read in full...)
Does she fancy me or is she just using me?
Q. I like this girl for 3 months and she seems she's interested in me. She asks me about homework a lot and most of the times, she wants to be my partner. I know that Im not the smart one but yeah, Im kinda good about studying. We talk more and...
A. 14 April 2010: She has a b/f and you can only be her best or close friend to her.
She could be using you as a temporary replacement for her LDR b/f. When her b/f comes back, you will be kicked to the kerb.
If you are expecting something to come out of this... (read in full...)
Is it too late to back out now I have filed for divorce?
Q. 13 April 2010: I filed for divorce last week. Is it too late to back out? Have I made a horrible mistake? I am so confused! My husband was a good man. He treated me like royalty I just lost my attraction for him. We've been separated for 5 year...
A. 14 April 2010: I believed it is normal behaviour. When you filed for the divorce,the realization sank in and you want to pull back.
It is possible to withdraw the divorce application. Go see your lawyer.
There are cases where after the divorce, the cou... (read in full...)
I'm about to run away
Q. [Moderator note: this post has been edited for clarity] my mom promised me a phone for christmas. She said the place was too busy and she said we'd get one 'tomorrow'. That happened again and I still didnt get it. Today she got a phone (for herse...
A. 14 April 2010: Your mom should not make empty promises. This is very bad .I am so sorry that you did not get a phone .
Maybe, you should tell your mom not to make promises if she cannot fulfill them.... (read in full...)
Is sex something bonding for women?
Q. Do women become more attached to men they've had sex with? I've had a drawn-out flirtation with a woman. We are never single at the same time. I sometimes wonder if she thinks about me (we were pretty inappropriate for a while at one point when I ...
A. 14 April 2010: Women gives sex to obtain love. That's the way women are programmed.
When she received enough love, sex would be a natural progression.
Some modern day women can have sex first even without love but they will want your love ,more of your ti... (read in full...)
Boyfriend in jail accused of rape!
Q. My on again off again boyfriend of three years has been in jail now for a month he keeps calling, having his family call, and write me i dont think i want to be with him anymore because he is accused of rape and kidnap but he has yet to tell why ...
A. 14 April 2010: Your b/f is innocent until proven guilty . He has only been accused of rape and kidnap. He has to face a trial before he is judged guilty.
I am not sure if rape and kidnap is a non bailable offense in the US but if it is bailable and he is still... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from oral sex?
Q. I recently gave my boyfriend oral sex and he did the same for me, but since then I've been feeling strange. Could I be pregnant?...
A. 14 April 2010: You won't get pregnant from oral sex unless you take his cum in your mouth and you kissed him on the mouth and his mouths comes into contact with your vagina.This is a very slim probability of getting pregnant.
You could get pregnant if you fool... (read in full...)
Did my past infidelities cause my wife's cervical cancer. This guilt is eating me alive! Help!
Q. I am married and have been unfaithful to my wife through out our whole marriage, and not with the same girl. I always used protection because I did not want to be responsible for an STD. I have changed and now I am a new man thanks to my religion I ...
A. 13 April 2010: I am sorry for what you are going through at this moment.
Whatever happened , has happened. There is nothing more that you can do about the past.
Please don't judge yourself harshly. Do forgive yourself and accept the reality of the situation... (read in full...)
He seemed happy to be done with the relationship
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend today he was not paying that much attention to the relationship and me, he just came home slept, ate and then went to his friends house to play video games and then went to work, i just felt used, i just could not take ...
A. 13 April 2010: I don't think he felt hurt. He could not care less if you stayed or left. His video games is more important than you .
You are into a relationship with an immature and could not care less guy.... (read in full...)
Is he a bad guy for getting mad over this?
Q. My boyfriend can be a bit mean. I went out tonight. one drink and played pool with my cousin. he has been in a massive mood over it. I do not understand why? I love him so much. but why would he be so mean as to say fuck you so much over it? we have ...
A. 13 April 2010: He is morphing into a control freak and emotionally abusing you to keep you under his control. He is trying to control who you can mix with and when you can go out.
Don't let your rights be eroded though his selfish behaviours.... (read in full...)
How do I heal from my Mother's horrible abuse? Please help!
Q. Dear cupid...please help me...I was emotionally and sort of physically abused by my mother when I was a teenager...my mother left my family when I was about 9 years old. I went to live with her again when I was about 14. Before that, except for when ...
A. 13 April 2010: I am very sorry to hear of what you went through. There is nothing that can be done about the past .
I can only point you to the direction of God and seek Him.Ask for His strength, grace and healing powers and to take away your pains and hurts.
... (read in full...)
I want to be bf and gf again, but he says no because of the future!
Q. I am a freshman in college and back in highschool i dated a boy for 6 months we broke up last june because we no longer seemed like "boyfriend girlfriend" just more like friends. We ended up going to the same college and eventually started becoming ...
A. 13 April 2010: He is simply not ready to commit.He is like a rolling stone which will gather no moss.
You can only be a friend to him and do not expect any commitments from him. You will only be disappointed if you expect that from him .
If you are looking ... (read in full...)
Should I end the relationship with a married woman for someone else?
Q. I am in a turmoil mentally. I have been seeing a married woman for just over 2 years now. She still lives with her 9 yr old boy and husband (who does obviously not know about us) but their marriage is now one of convenience after 16 years. She ...
A. 13 April 2010: You should move on from the married lady. If she can not make any decision within those two years, she will not be able to make any decisions 5 or 10 years down the road.
Love is blind and now that you have woke up, you should correct your sit... (read in full...)
I love two men. I don't want to make a bad choice, who should I choose?
Q. I'm in love with two men. I wish I could put both of them in one. I married my husband after a ruff two years. I should have waited. But I loved him. I left him after a month of being married.I just couldn't get over all the stuff he have done to ...
A. 13 April 2010: For money or for love?
If you have love,you do not need anything else. If you have money but no love, you will always be lonely and unhappy.
Is material things more important than true love?
What good is material things when you cannot f... (read in full...)
My b/f doesn't recognise my voice when I call him from a different line.
Q. I knw it might sound crazy but is a big problem to me. .my bf does not recognise my voice when i call from a different line. .its so confusing and suspicious considering the fact that i talk with him 3 to 4 times a day nd he stil don't recognise my ...
A. 13 April 2010: It can sometimes happen and it is due to human error. The human mind is sometimes too busy and his mind may not recognize your voice at an instant. This is quite normal .... (read in full...)
Grown man still obeying his parents
Q. He tells me he loves me and wants us to be together even if he has to wait forever since his family won't allow us to be together. He doesn't want to risk loosing them and wants me to wait for them to accept us. He is 23 and still listens to his ...
A. 13 April 2010: When you are a child , you talk like a child.
When you are an adult ,you talk like an adult.
He is talking like a child and he will never grow up and he will always be mommy's pet.
If a man loves you , he will put you first and his family... (read in full...)
Obsession with Army Boyfriend's Ex
Q. Okay, so this is another "Obsessed With Ex" story. I guess I should explain more about myself and why I *think* I'm so obsessed in the first place... Before I met my current boyfriend, I was in a 4 year relationship. V and I grew up as be...
A. 13 April 2010: To stop obsessing about her , you need to change your views about her.
View her in a negative way and demonize her .Rationalize her away by telling yourself that you are much better than her and that you are the one for your b/f and she is in th... (read in full...)
How can I cut ties with her completely?
Q. Ok i used to be friends with this girl called... say um Chelsea We had a fight and I havent heard from her until last week, she called and acted as if we were friends, she is nice but i just dont want to be friends with her, i also dont want to be ...
A. 12 April 2010: You should forgive and forget and it is better to have a friend than an enemy. Who knows she may help you in the future.
There are no permanent friends or enemies.Today's enemies can be tomorrow' friends and vice versa.
If you want to cut ties... (read in full...)
What does this mean? Is he just not into me?
Q. please help.. I hooked up with this guy a year ago little awkward he was a little tipsy and i was completely sober. then few weeks later i saw his friend had tried adding me. A few months later i contacted him and i apologized for my behavior he ...
A. 12 April 2010: He is trying to show off and taunting you . Pretend you have no interest in his antics like you see someone whom you do not like at all.
Walk away when he is around. ... (read in full...)
Should people continue to work on the relationship because of a "mistake"???
Q. Hi everyone, I just need an opinion on whether or not to continue a relationship with someone who cheated on you. Express your thoughts and everything... should people continue to work on the relationship because of a "mistake" (and he was COMP...
A. 12 April 2010: It depends on how deep is your love for him. If you cannot live without him , you may want to give him another chance.
But if your professed loves is not deep enough , it will be better to kick him to the kerb.... (read in full...)
Is this a big age difference?
Q. there is a man who is 11 yrs older whants to marry me ,,iam 22 and he is 33,,is it a big age diffrence??...
A. 12 April 2010: That's not a big difference. If you want to know what a big difference is, when the girl can be the man's daughter.
If you love him , your love will transcends all barriers.... (read in full...)
Why are we arguing more than ever? I don't understand why this is happening
Q. I am 57 years old divorced after 30 years. I now have a new partner who is 33 years old. We have been together for 3 years She is German I am English. We moved from the UK to jobs together in France. We have a 5 month old baby that we love a g...
A. 12 April 2010: Stay away from contentious issues .
Respect her views even if you do not agree with her. She is entitled to her views.
Listen and do not argue with her.If she wants to do it her way , just do as she wants and you will have peace in the hom... (read in full...)
Should I do something or stay out of it?
Q. Dear Cupid, I went to a birthday party of someone, #30, I know from a theater group my son belongs to. The birthday girl's party started at her house, then went to a local bar. There was a small group of people there including one father, whose so...
A. 12 April 2010: See no evil,hear no evil and speak no evil.Let sleeping dogs lie and whoever sows so shall he reaps.
It is not our concerns as we are only watchers and nothing more.... (read in full...)
We're seeing one another but he tells everyone we're "just friends"!!!
Q. I've known my guy for over a year, we get on real well, do all the "couple things", he has been living with me for the past 4 months, sometimes he introduces me as a friend, other times he introduces me as the girlfriend, if any body asks him to ...
A. 12 April 2010: If you are only friends.....why is he living with you ?
It's only words and you should see his actions which is louder than his words.
Girlfriend and friend,the only difference is the word girl.But in your heart, it makes a world of differe... (read in full...)
Is she flirting, interested, what?
Q. I've hit a stumbling block here. About two months ago, a friend and I went to a restaurant for dinner. The waitress, a very bubbly attractive younger girl captured my attention. I noticed she kept looking at me, giving the flirty smiles and paying ...
A. 12 April 2010: Either you were good tippers or she is looking for a sugar daddy.
Next time , you go there for your dinner, get her phone number.... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to care more?
Q. Hey guys, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 years. We are both 22 years old, have part-time jobs and go to University full-time. Recently, I feel like my bf seems to care less and less about me. I know he loves me and cares for me, but ...
A. 12 April 2010: Stop initiating those meetings and withdraw from him and he will come chasing after you . He has taken you for granted and basking in your attentions.
Or you can tell him your feelings and make him aware that you are doing all the running around i... (read in full...)
I like him, he likes me, but his friend might like him too ... What should I do?
Q. A girl, who is close friends with this guy, acted normal at the start of the school term (about 9 weeks ago). She was friendly, we walked together and talked between classes, she squeezed the information out of said boy that he likes me and told me ...
A. 10 April 2010: You are a potential threat to her . That explains some of her hostile actions towards you . She is jealous .
If you make a move, there will be outright hostilities between you.Perhaps a war may erupt.
The question is how much do you want this... (read in full...)
Obsession with Army Boyfriend's Ex
Q. Okay, so this is another "Obsessed With Ex" story. I guess I should explain more about myself and why I *think* I'm so obsessed in the first place... Before I met my current boyfriend, I was in a 4 year relationship. V and I grew up as be...
A. 9 April 2010: I think you should make a pact with him not to mention the ex's in your conversations. This would help you to forget the past and live in the present.... (read in full...)
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