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writes:Hi all,I'm a 14 year old girl who lives in London and I have a dilemma. I really, really like this guy (my best mate since forever) but after some remarks he has made, I wonder whether he sees us as friends, friends with benefits (fwb) or as a proper couple.At our old school (still live within walking distance) our fellow peers would tell me how much we suited each other and should date etc. but I didn’t know whether the feeling was mutual. Since I have left the school, he has become increasingly flirty asking how far I’d go with him and telling me he’d do anything I wanted. He also makes little remarks about how he wishes we were together, but I don’t know whether he means this as fwb’s (minor) or as a proper couple. The thing is I really like him, and I’m afraid I could accept less than I should and go ahead with the fwb’s thing just to be with him. Also, I am not too keen on the people he has become friends with recently. Although we get on, on the odd occasion we contact each other, they have been known to ‘pick’ on me because I was the ‘geeky’ one in the class. Although these comments do not affect me in the slightest, my bf never defends my corner in front of them because he does not want to dent his reputation. His friends have told me that he hates me etc, but he is quick enough to call me when they are not there. I do not want to ignore him or base my decision solely on this point, I don’t want to get into a fwb or serious relationship with him if he lets his ‘friends’ talk bad about me to everyone.How can I tell what his intentions are without getting hurt? I thought about coming out and telling him I like him, but I don’t want to risk the whole of our relationship. Sorry for the essay lol. I would be really grateful if anyone could give me any advice.Thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 We cannot tell what is in his heart. If you want to know the answer, you will have to ask him directly whether he sees you as friends, friends with benefits (fwb) or as a proper couple.
Only he can answer that question.
We could only speculate but from the facts you presented, it is not very clear .But it seems that he has allowed you to decide what you want to be . The decision is yours to make.
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reader, minda  +, writes (15 April 2010):
i think he likes u but is always concerned about his reputations among his friends
try going out to someother guy infront of him and
he ll come running to u
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