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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I need some advice.Over the past year, I grew distant from the man in my life and he had what we refer to as an emotional affair. He became emotionally close to another girl and lied about the time he'd been spending with her. At the time, we felt we'd evolved into friends after previously being together for years. The intimate side of our relationship had faded out so we referred to each other as friends, despite spending the same one-on-one time together doing all the things we love.Anyway, when I found out it broke my heart. Emotionally, it felt like a marriage ending or something.I had thought the situation was much worse and assumed it was a full sexual affair and felt betrayed he hadn't been honest. Now I know it was an emotional thing only and he had tried to set her straight and explain that we were still close. He says this has made him realise he loves me and he wants more than anything to get back to what we once had and make a commitment to me. He says he feels like he's really been somewhere else (he has been very emotionally low for many years). He says he feels like a vail has lifted from him now. We now spend time together and cherish everything. We are more affectionate with each other and we're HONEST about EVERYTHING, including the things we didn't want to acknowledge had gone wrong between us. There's no label on what we have at the moment, but he's waiting and hoping I'll tell him I want to be an official couple again. This guy knows my entire life's history and basically grew up with me. It's really hard letting go. Since we've been spending time together again, I feel like I'm falling in LOVE all over again and can't stop thinking about him. It literally keeps me awake at night. I feel like I'm back when we first fell in love.. when I was 18.Can you tell me, is this part of the grieving process and the heightened emotions are clouding my ability to make sensible decisions? Or do you think this is the real thing. Do you think an emotional affair can actually wake two people up from a stagnant situation and make them realise their love for each other.Your thoughts are welcome.Thanks
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reader, devastated2010  +, writes (16 April 2010):
well I wish I had your outcome only mine (husband) had an emotional affair after he had a trk wreck that kept us in two sep. states. and because I didn't go to him he found comfort n whatever else in her n is now leaving our marriage for her. wish he realized things the way urs did. good luck
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 Sometimes an affair can make the marriage stronger . They found what they have missed about each other and they will go all out to make their marriage stronger and more successful.
For more;-
http://www.articlesnatch.com/Article/Reasons-An-Affair-Can-Make-A-Marriage-Stronger/360751
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