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writes:My boyfriend has fallen out with me cos last week (friday) on facebook a lad i had never talked to before he just sed it was a random add. he sent me a facebook chat message saying "you look F*****G amazing you Gorgeous babe" my boyfriend was stood behind me and he kicked off over it calling me a cheat and everything. he lives 70miles away and he had come to see me for the weekend. but when he saw that he got in his car and went home and said he would text me when he got home. he hasnt texted me yet 6 days later. i have texted him 3 times everyday and he hasnt replied to ANY of them. what am i supposed to do now because i dont know whether we are still together or not. i got in touch with his mate and his mate sed he mentions me everyday and cries everyday gets really upset over missing me but why is he ignoring me then?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (15 April 2010):
 First things first, delete the weirdo on Facebook and block him so he cant message you again in the future. And learn a lesson from this - only accept friend requests from people you have met before, no more randoms!
All you can do is keep trying to speak to your boyfriend - email him, send him a message on facebook, ring him, text him, write him a letter....I'm sure if he loves you he will answer eventually. Can you go and visit him? I know he is a long way away but surely it is worth travelling the distance to save your relationship?
Your boyfriend has totally over-reacted, he is being very immature about this so dont feel like any of this is your fault. The only thing you did wrong was accept this random person's facebook friend request! In your next text or email to your boyfriend, explain to him that you are very sorry for adding this guy on Facebook, that you have no idea who he is and you did not realise he would message you in such an innapropriate manner. Tell him that you have deleted him and will learn from your mistake and never add anyone again who you dont know.
All you can do is apologise for making this silly mistake and hope that your boyfriend calms down a bit and stops being so dramatic. If he wont talk to you and is willing to split up with you over this then you might have to start questioning his feelings for you - if you really love someone you would let them explain themselves first rather than flying off the handle and ending all contact with that person. So if he wants to be with you then I am sure he will reply, if he doesnt reply then maybe you just have to accept that it is over I'm afraid.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 He is over reacting and irrational. He was too quick to jump into conclusion without hearing you out.
Tell his mate what actually happened so that he will talk some sense into him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea i did reply and i said why did you say that you dont know me. my facebook profile picture is me as a baby with my two sisters and he was talking bout tht pic when he said that! he dint know which 1 i was. yea i deleted him straight away. i aint suffering thought its him thats suffering. i havent cried or being upset about it.
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (15 April 2010):
 did you reply to the guy who said that? would you be pissed if a girl said that to your bf? i think he is overreacting and taking this way out of hand. if you didn't flirt with the guy then you haven't done anything wrong.
did you delete this guy? i would do it. then it will show your bf you don't want random people adding you to perve on you.
your boyfriend seems to have jealousy/control issues. he left and is ignoring you because he is trying to control the situation, make you suffer.
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