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writes: Hello,Ok here is how it is, Im 22,i have been seeing a married guy for a year and a half now, he is 47) we started off as friends but then things happened after a few drinks, feelings developed and i totally love him, i know im crazy! I know he is not using me because we have a good friendship and there is times when we meet up and just go for dinner or have a chat, we speak everyday on the phone about anything and everything. He has two young kids and i know the situation is hard and that i won't be with him but when he is drunk he will say things like,' shall i leave her' or where are we going to go' and loads of i love you's which then messes my head up and makes me think ok maybe he does want to be with me, next day he says oh i was drunk- that's his excuse.I try to end things but can't, he's crafty and has ways of sneaking back in, he doesn't take no for an answer. It's hard because i really do love him and i know the only way that i can move on is to cut him out of my life completely, but that means losing my best friend which i can't imagining doing. Help!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Take it form me as i am in this situation i have two young children and did have a husband he met someone else and left, so i would say if he really wanted to be with you he would no matter what the consequences will be. You are young i know it will be hard and you love him but if you want to end it you have to do it, for the sake of your own sanity, don't let him be in control if you end it ignore him get on with your life and if he really wants to be with you he will pack his bags and come.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (11 June 2007):
 I think that you should end this relationship and soon.
The man may be consenting to this relationship, but you have to think of what his wife will go through if she finds out. Also think about his kids who may lose their daddy.
It may sound a little harsh but it is very selfish to do this, though it may not be complety intentional.
Though you have tried to cut this man out of your life i reckon you should complety cut him out, dont talk to him, meet him and acknowledge him at all. Its the best for you and his family.
You will have to find someone you love who is single.
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