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I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. Should I do it with him?

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Question - (19 June 2007) 34 Answers - (Newest, 1 October 2007)
A female United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:

I am a 12 year old girl and I really want to have sex with my boyfriend who is 14. He wants me to come over to night and have sex with him. Should I do it with him?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007):

no, he's probably gonna dump you after you do it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007):

hey gurl ,

Dont do it !!! you will regret it !!

he only wants sex he will dump you after he gets wat he wants

xoxoxo

bob

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007):

yes u should

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2007):

no u should not

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A female reader, love hurts!! United States +, writes (19 September 2007):

love hurts!! agony aunthunny I Lost myy virginity 10 months ago and ALL I am left with noww Is a broken heart It doesnt feeel too good!!

you will regret It just like I do!!

you will find your self doing things you NEVER think you would do!

and Its all cause of that one thing!!

you migght think sex isnt a BIGG thing well sweetie it is!!

and If this kid really likes you he wouldnt want you to give it up this yougn!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007):

HEY HUNNi,,

Dont Do It, Coz I Did It And Made THE BIGGEST MISTAKE, cauz my mum saw me in bed with the guy, and he got kicked out of the house and i did (only for 1 day) and then there was this guy who lived in my house hes 32 and me and him at night where just talking in the bed under the covers and then my mum opens the door!!! she nearly rang the police!! and now my lyf is a reck, now everyone at skwl no's and calls me a SLUT!! no body wants that name now do they lOl, i still have sex but i no it wrong. . Reply back to this message

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (11 September 2007):

eyeswideopen agony auntYou say "sex" and "sex" then call it "doing IT" it should be "making love" otherwise it's what the bears do in the woods and it's meaningless. If you want to ruin your life then go right ahead but you'll regret it, I know for a fact.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2007):

girl if u love him u do it but if not wait ok

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007):

Dude wait till you're 18.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2007):

normally i would say no, but i would love to get laid, it is completly your choice but if you love him i garente he is dying to have sex. make sure he has protection though, you don't want to ruin your life at this age with a std or a child. i forgot to mention i am your age and i talk with my gf about this kind of thing all the time. so if your comfurtable go for it

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007):

Go with the flow, if you really love this boy, do it.

Just think that you're gonna be remembering this boy for the rest of your life. Love is the key to perfect sex.

Sex can make a healthy relationship stronger.

Sex can't make a bad relationship stronger.

Good luck x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2007):

hi my name is Tatyana and i know how u feel.im 12 to so u should really understand what i mean. yur bf is 14 so he might not be that meture but if he was he would understand you if you said no. if u do it, u might get aids or other bad stuff. plus once u have sex with him yur havin sex with every body else he did it with. let me tell u a lil secret. when god created man the first was a boy. but god saw how mest-up and stupid boys were so he creates woman. us wemon are his perfections. its alright to say no, but if u do, yu'll fell sorry for yurself. i read that this one girl that was like your age had sex. when she was 16 she found out that she had gotten aids. few months later she died. what sux is that she got pregnant at 13 to 14. now her mom is taking care of her kids. and if you do get preg how r u going to take care of yur kids? yur parents might not alow it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2007):

Don't do it. You're only 12. You could get pregant and even if you use protection it only works 97% of the time.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2007):

i dont think u should not do it im 12 and i want to wate till i maried i think u should to so for all 12 year olds should say no to sex its your life but say no plz say no!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007):

dude its youre choice theres no rong time to have sex if you want my advice i would say youre not ready trust me im 13 ok and i know 2ndly dont ask youre boyfriend of course he is going to say yes heses a horny little boy i say know but its youre choice if you wanna grow up and be able to say i lost it when i was 12 then go ahead but i say dont do it untill you feel ready not when youre boyfriend feels ready

jake

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007):

dude its youre choice theres no rong time to have sex if you want my advice i would say youre not ready trust me im 13 ok and i know 2ndly dont ask youre boyfriend of course he is going to say yes heses a horny little boy i say know but its youre choice if you wanna grow up and be able to say i lost it when i was 12 then go ahead but i say dont do it untill you feel ready not when youre boyfriend feels ready

jake

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007):

dont do it, i wanna have sex but i think i am to young i would wait until ur older its ok to have sex on ur mind but dont make a mistake wait until u have the right guy

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007):

your 12!!! no way

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A male reader, bobmcbobbins United Kingdom +, writes (22 June 2007):

bobmcbobbins agony auntI think you get the piont by now

wait til your older at 12 you are in a bigger mess if you get pregnant especially with your studies.

Over here the age of consent is 16 I know its 14 in Canada but i am unsure what it is in America but still I dont think it 12.

So wait and Don't jump on the bandwagon till its got wheels!!!!

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A female reader, lemonstarxx Singapore +, writes (22 June 2007):

lemonstarxx agony auntYou're crazy! You wanna have sex when you're 12??? DONT DO IT!! It's illegal. You'll regret it. Believe me.Tell him that you two are not ready for sex. You guys are too young! You'll regret it.

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A female reader, xsweetiex United Kingdom +, writes (20 June 2007):

if you are sure it what u want then do it but if he loves you hell wait for you till ur a 100% ready for sex as ie is a big step for a 12year old and a 14 year old ethier of you are ready for the commitment of a child so my advice would be dont its not worth the bother. and laura says wat i say coz i is amazin! xx

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A female reader, i might be a girl but i can help United Kingdom +, writes (20 June 2007):

i might be a girl but i can help agony auntwell honestly NO u shouldn't u are givin up somethin really special to u and u want to give it up at ur age they are loads of conquences that can happen like getting pregent and diseses and u and ur bf can get into a lot of trouble its against the law. wait till the right one comes along and thoses urgus u r gettin its ur hormous they will spin out of control as u r reachin teenage life trust me u will reget it and in 20yrs time u r going to wish u waited and by the time u r 16 u will be bored of sex coz u have tried everythin wait please

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007):

no you shouldn't do it with him! You are way to young to be worrying about sex at your age! If you are asking the question whether or not to do it with him that answers it for you really!!

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (20 June 2007):

DrPsych agony auntSo, you really want sex at 12 or you really want sex because your 14 year old boyfriend wants sex and you think it will keep him interested? Most 12 year old girls are not psychologically ready for a sexual relationship and it would be illegal. If an adult found out, your boyfriend could be in legal trouble. Girls who have sex early are at risk of all sorts of health problems later on such as an increased likelihood of cervical cancer for example. Risking pregnancy at your age is just not good as many of the pregnant teenagers using this website testify to. If your boyfriend really likes you then he will stick around regardless of having sex or not.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007):

Hey,

U are only twelve and u have a lot of time to wait and see if hes that right one for u.Im 16 and boys can be such dumbasses.Plus sex will hurt the first time and when he puts himself inside of u and its tite u mite bleed a little.Ive had friendS who had sex w/ boys in school in thE bathrooms!!!!!!! and guess wut?......these boys dumped them tha next day and spread dirty rumors about them.wait until the time is right. WHO knows.....most ppl find true love in high school and college so at least wait until high school and save yourself for true love.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2007):

YOUR CRAZY CHICK!

your gunna get pregnant

dont do it i repeat dont!!

ur gunna get deseases.

once u get married you wont ever have ur virginity back

youll be known as a whore in school.

you have a full life ahead of you don do it.

your 12 u have much more to learn please dont.

much luck girl.

Tandra

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A female reader, Artemesian Australia +, writes (20 June 2007):

Artemesian agony auntHaving sex is a big step, that is having responsible sex where you take precautions against diseases and pregnancy, as well as being emotionally ready to share your body with someone else. Age may only be a number but it is a good indication of your development and to be ready for sex at 12 is not likely, even if you think you are.

Also, you most likely won't even enjoy it - your boyfriend is too young to do a good job at making your first time as good as possible and you are probably not experienced enough with your own sexuality to make anything of it for yourself. While that may or may not be the case if your boyfriend isn't prepared to wait however long you need to be ready he isn't the right person to be doing it with - no matter what he might say or come up with. This is your body, not his, so treasure your childhood while it lasts and don't let yourself be pressured into something that you will enjoy later on much more : )

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A male reader, Jamer70 United Kingdom +, writes (20 June 2007):

Jamer70 agony auntIll keep this too a short rant

But you are 12. Not to be patronising but you are way to young to even be thinking about sex. Enjoy your childhood and its freedoms.

Your not old enough too comprehend the consquences of sex like STD and Pregnacy.

Also its illegal and you B can get in alot of trouble for preorming a sexual act with a minor.

Lastly excluding your age, i someone asks if they should lose their virginity, it means there really not ready

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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (19 June 2007):

deejuliet agony auntAbsolutely not! You are way too young to even be thinking of this stuff yet.Lots of people look back on their first time and regret doing it too young, but nobody regrets waiting. Enjoy being young while you can. Why are you trying to be an adult already? You will spend your whole life as an adult, you only a very short time to be a child. Enjoy it!

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A male reader, DV1 United States +, writes (19 June 2007):

DV1 agony auntPersonally, I would say no way. Are you ready for the possibility of pregnancy, or STD's? You're still a little girl, and you shouldn't be rushing into things like that...

DV1

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A female reader, flower girl United Kingdom +, writes (19 June 2007):

flower girl agony auntWith most people i would say when you are ready then you go for it if you are comfortable with doing it and you are not under any pressure, but babe you are twelve you are far too young to start getting into these types of relationships plus it is illegal.

There are so many nasty consequences from doing this at your age so i would wait and if your boyfriend is not prepared to wait then he is not worth the worry.

Take care.xx.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2007):

Hi I'm Selenne

I say you shouldn't do it cuz I did it when I was 12 and I don't regeret myself that I did it but I regret that I did it such at a young age!!!!!!!I'm 13 now and I wish I could of waited till I was a little older!!!!!!How long have you been with your boyfriend?????What grade is he in????Email me so we can talk more about this if you want!!!!!

Selenne

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A female reader, YummyMummy United Kingdom +, writes (19 June 2007):

YummyMummy agony auntI'm not going to lecture but sex at 12?!

If you decide to go ahead make sure you use protection against stis and pregnancy.

First decide if you are really REALLY ready for this. You can't ask strangers whether you should do it or not. That is down to you. If you decide not to explain to your boyfriend you aren't ready yet and he should understand.

xxxxx

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A female reader, Sweet-thing United Kingdom +, writes (19 June 2007):

Sweet-thing agony auntI know you are not going to want to hear this....but no, no a thousand times, no. Please do not have sex because believe it or not, you will regret it. I had sex for the first time when I was 15 and I have always wished I would've waited a couple more years before taking the plunge. For one thing, word gets around and then it won't be long before every horny boy will come knocking on your door once they learn that you'll put out, none of them will take the time to get to know you first and that will leave you feeling used. Your body is changing, and I'm sure your intensely curious about the act, and no doubt your b/f is all for it, but you are both too young to deal with the aftermath. Please wait. You'll thank me someday.

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