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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
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We have sex and I'm in pain for days after. I think his penis is too big! What can I do?
Q. i have a problem everytime me and my boyfriend have sex i`m in agony for days i think maybe his penis is to fat please help me ...
A. 7 April 2006: Without a doubt get to the docs!!! At least if they get you checked out your mind will be out at rest. Sex should not be painful, if it is then you need to do something to resolve this. It could be something very simple, but at least get it ... (read in full...)
Do I take the risk and leave my current bf for my ex bf, whom I can't stop thinking about?
Q. Hi i am a 22 year old female and i have been with the same guy for 3 years. I have been living with him for the past year and a half. The trouble is I think iam still in love with my ex boyfriend. We split up 5 years ago because we were both very ...
A. 7 April 2006: Lets just say .... The grass isnt always greener!!! You are with the guy you are with for a reason, and your ex is also an ex for a reason. You need to work out what you really want, and be fair to the guy you are currently with. Things always ... (read in full...)
I still want him.....but he was in bed with someone else....NAKED!!!!
Q. I found my boyfriend in bed with another woman both naked.I still want him in my life i cant let go.Is this right?...
A. 7 April 2006: You owe it to yourself to walk away. A hurt now will be far easier than one down the line when it does this over and over. yes you are hurting like crazy, but this will pass in time, it feels like it wont and it feels like the hurt will be there ... (read in full...)
Her ex bf sent her roses and she purposely hid that from me! What should I do?
Q. thank you everyone answering my questions prior to this one. i really appreciate it even if i don't have the time to show it. my girlfriend saw her ex boyfriend on our first week going out with me. he gave her a dozen roses. she borrowed my came...
A. 7 April 2006: She really isnt over her ex. I think you may need to accept that she is probably dating you just to get at her ex and try to make him jealous. I would give her some space, let her know that you unhappy how things are turning out and explain why ... (read in full...)
My foreskin doesn't retract when I get an erection. I'm concerned this will affect my ability to enjoy sex!
Q. Hi When my penis is about to erect or erected I can pull back hardly any of the skin - only probably enough to see the tip of the head. If i try to pull back more it hurts. I'm worried if this will effect when / if I have sex, as there is this gir...
A. 6 January 2006: Maybe you might need to take a trip to the doctor to see if anything else can be done rather than forcing it... the frenulum can snap you know! I wouldnt just keep pulling it back until it hurts as this could actually cause damage! Some men are ... (read in full...)
Is a year long enough to wait before becoming intimate?
Q. Do you think a year if a long enough time to wait before becoming physically intimate with your boyfriend? It doesn't necessarily have to be sex, but just intimate touching? Thanks...
A. 30 October 2005: Sex is all about the both of you, not just one person. I wouldnt even call it a waiting game as you so put it. If both partners are not happy about it then respect is needed. Without respect a relationship will not work. There may be a reason ... (read in full...)
Is it fair that I'm left alone so my girlfriend can be with her family at Christmas?
Q. M26 F20, My partner of 3 years wants to spend Christmas and her 21st birthday with her family (she was born on Christmas day). We have just moved to a new town which is 14 hours drive from her parents' house. I have two problems, 1. She knows th...
A. 30 October 2005: Hmm.. You dont say the reason why you both cant go ? Is there no way that you can compromise on this situation ? Its going to be tough if you cant come to an arrangement that suits the both of you. I can understand that she would want to be ... (read in full...)
Why is my fiance talking about his ex to me, just a fortnight before our wedding?
Q. I am supposed to get married in two weeks, however my fiance still talks about his ex and the other night he even started talking about how good the sex used to be and how great it felt.. Is he purposely trying to hurt me? Or is he just not over ...
A. 22 October 2005: Hes trying to get you to break it off by the sound of it, as hes not man enough to do it.... This is very nasty how he is behaving... if any man and I mean any man talked at length to me about sex with another before me id be like thers the door... ... (read in full...)
A different kind of porn problem: Where can I get porn for women?
Q. Im a female of 22 and recently split with my long term boyfriend. I don't want to go out and sleep with everyone so I'm really enjoying my marathon masturbation sessions. The problem is, where do I get hold of porn for females (mags)? Porn for men ...
A. 22 October 2005: Well, there are a few sites on the internet but they are few and far between all aimed at the males im afraid! there are a couple of download sites that i found when doing a google search, not brilliant but they have men here and there! its a case ... (read in full...)
My friend can't stop looking at internet porn. It's taking over her life!
Q. Hi, my friend has a major obsession with internet porn. When ever she invites me over I always see her looking at porn. It's really bugging me now. When I invite her over my house, she goes on my computer and downloads it so I'm the one who gets the ...
A. 22 October 2005: You dont say how old she is ? But then you do say that your at school.. Im thinking that maybe she has a few insecurites with her own body and maybe looking at this porn images shes hoping she can maybe have a body like the females in them... its ... (read in full...)
My ex seems too busy to meet me, but not too busy to meet an online acquaintence...
Q. What would you make of my ex-boyfriend's behaviour? We split in March of this year, after a six-month relationship, as he had a lot of 'baggage'. Recently, we have discussed reconciliation, but not on a serious basis to begin with, as 'baggage...
A. 20 October 2005: Harsh as this sounds.... Hes keeping you in limbo until something else comes along... if this something else comes along and he deems it better then he will have no doubts in telling you its over for good.
Move on dont be his little puppy waiting ... (read in full...)
There was a threesome with my boyfriend, long before I met him. Now I can't get past the idea!
Q. My current boyfriend (Don) and I have been dating for 3 yrs. When we first started dating, he lived with his roommates, a married couple, Alex and Wendy. We dated for months before I got a job at Wendy's company, and befriending Wendy. (Wendy turned ...
A. 14 October 2005: Only you can stop it... we all have a past... we all do things that maybe in hindsight we wouldnt have done.. why dell on it... why make what happend ages ago a centre of your life now ? So what he had sex with someone else.. a threesome... it ... (read in full...)
I explained how I feel about his looking at porn, but he still insists he enjoys it.
Q. I am middle aged woman dating a seven year older man for almost 2 years. I recently saw him looking at pornography on the internet when I walked into the room. I was shocked and I tried to explain to him that I felt when you are in a loving, ...
A. 14 October 2005: I see that there are some varied answers here... Men are turned on by visual stimulation and thats a fact... no matter how little or how much sex they get some still choose to masturbate.. if its not directly affecting your relationship then its ... (read in full...)
I think I should move in with my boyfriend so that I'll have my own life...
Q. Hello, I have no life living with my mom. I am given a time to come in 11:30pm. I'm 18 and many people at the age of 18 are in and out when they want. I have no life, seriously. I babysit constantly. My boyfriend has asked me to move in with...
A. 9 October 2005: Just remember one thing... The grass isnt always greener...
Yes you have issues at home with your mum, but moving in with your boyfriend may not be the right thing to do.. do you really want to end up falling out with you mum and then finding ... (read in full...)
I thought "big" was supposed to be good, but sex hurts my girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend and I were both virgins, until about two months ago. I knew it would hurt her the first few times, but she still cannot get that much pleasure because it hurts her so bad. I thought big was suppossed to be good. What should we do? We ...
A. 24 July 2005: Try some different positions... use a bit of lube... a different position may help alot... say her on top that way shes in control and that may make her more relaxed... experiment a little... the more you try the more you will know what will work ... (read in full...)
Due to be married in 9 months, but I'm falling for a co-worker instead!
Q. I got engaged 5 months ago to my long term girlfriend. We are due to get married in about 9 months. In the last two months I have met a girl at work, who has been there for a while, but now I have very strong feelings for her. The worst of it is...
A. 24 July 2005: I think Harry is spot on. You need time to reflect away from the situation maybe to see wha you really want. Only you can decide. Dont throw away what could potentially be the best thing in you life because something else seemed to look rosier. ... (read in full...)
My 40-something wife sometimes likes clubbing with her 21-yo gay friend. Do I have anything to worry about?
Q. I have a wonderful wife who is very loving. But I have some problems accepting that she likes to go clubbing now and again till 3 in the morning with a 21 year old gay male friend who has shown some interest in her. She is 40. Am I being over ...
A. 24 July 2005: Well you say he is gay... have you any reason to believe he is not gay ? Maybe he is just a friend and she feels that he isnt a threat as he is gay and that she can go out clubbing with him safe in the knowledge that he wont try it on with her. ... (read in full...)
He seems to go out of his way to insult me. Why am I with him?
Q. I have recently marrried a man who seem seems hell bent on insulting me. Last night I asked him if he was talking to a dog and he said "you are a do". Last week he said his friends said I look ten years older than I am and why is he with me. H...
A. 24 July 2005: Tell him exactly how you feel, you dont deserve to be treated like this. He may not even realise that hes doing it! Sit him down and tell him how you are feeling and ask if there is something on his mind. You need to find out now as the longer it ... (read in full...)
I don't feel the same about my girlfriend any more. How do I break up gently?
Q. I am a 20 year old male who has been seeing the same girl for 3 years now. Things have been going OK and we haven't had many major arguments. However, I think the time has come for me to end this relationship because I don't have any feelings for ...
A. 24 July 2005: Whatever way you do it, it will be a blow to her.. it is never easy to be dumped. If you are really sure that you dont want to be together anymore then, The best thing for the both of you is to be honest. That way you can both move on. The longer ... (read in full...)
I like to think my cousin and I are smart, pretty and sweet, so how come we can't attract guys?
Q. Is it just me or am I repulsive? I have the worst time with guys. Like my cuz, both of us only attract losers or no guys at all and we are both pretty, smart and we are nice and sweet but we - me especially - never get noticed by guys. What's wr...
A. 24 July 2005: Im guessing that your probably in your teens! We all start out thinking that we will never find the right guy, or that no one notices us...it takes a lot of ugly frogs before you find your prince charming!! Relax a little there are bound to be a ... (read in full...)
I'd love to go out with the new guy, but will I risk contracting herpes?
Q. Hey there. I've been with my boyfriend, Paul* for 18 months now and he's a great guy but I've fallen for someone else. Craig* is older than me, 27 (I'm 18) but he's amazing and I want to be with him. I've decided to finish with Paul* but I'm worr...
A. 23 July 2005: So long as you use the right protection then there is less chance of you cathing it... although condoms are only 99% safe at reducing this type of infection being caught.. that said it is unlikely that you would catch it whilst using a condom.. so ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's become distant and basically ignores me...
Q. My boyfriend hs become distant and I hardly see him. When I do see him he is only concerned about his problems at home. He's a manic depressive and self harms regularily. He won't discuss things with me and basically ignores me. Also he's told a ...
A. 23 July 2005: You say hes a manic depressive... is he being treated for this ? I hope so! Sounds as though he needs help to manage so maybe counselling is the way to go. It is difficult when a partner as an illness such as this as it will put pressure on you. ... (read in full...)
Both of us had an STD and we don't know who gave it to whom!
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months has just finished with me. I hadn't seen him for a few weeks as he was on a course, but we spoke to each other twice a day and werer making plans for a holiday. During his time away he had to have a medical and discover...
A. 23 July 2005: Okay you are not going to know for definate which one gave it to who... this is the risk we take when we have unprotected sex. The good thing is he told you straight away when he found out.. the thing with this STI is that it can go undetected for ... (read in full...)
He starts asking me awkward questions when we're kissing!
Q. Ok. Here's the thing. Basically when my boyfriend and I are doing some heavy petting he starts to say/ask some things. I don't they are like normal things like "Do you like that?" and "Are you wet?" but to me they just seem kind of corny. I usua...
A. 23 July 2005: Relax a little... its just his way of asking how thigns are for you... he needs some pointers in the right direction of what you like... and he doesnt ask you how does he get to know!! maybe have a little chat and tell him what you like and so on.. ... (read in full...)
Not sure if my girlfriend is a virgin...
Q. I just had sex with my girl for the first time. It wasn't too good, just like I expected, but because no blood came out I'm not sure that she is not a virgin any more ? I know that some girls do not bleed when they have sex for the first time but is ...
A. 23 July 2005: She is diffiantely not a virgin if you had penatrative sex. Jsut because she didnt bleed doesnt mean she wasnt a virgin beforehand either, we are all different and can lose the hymen in various other ways and some of us dont have any problem at all ... (read in full...)
We use lube, but I still get sore! Any advice?
Q. Me and my boyfriend started having sex a few months ago. At the start it was uncomfortable but we decided to use some lubrication. Now however after sex finally getting good and enjoyable, it's starting to get sore when ever we do it (with the ...
A. 23 July 2005: Make sure that the lube you are using is not causing an irritation first of all... as that could make you a little sore... perhaps you are using condoms and maybe you are allergic something like that.... it may just be certain times of the month... ... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling like I'm not as attractive as my boyfriend's skinny exes...
Q. All my boyfriend's exes were really skinny and I'm pretty much average. He says it shouldn't bother me and that he thinks I'm fine the way I am but the fact that he has dated all these super slim girls and obviously finds that look attractive has ...
A. 23 July 2005: Stop worrying! If he didnt want to be with you he wouldnt be!! whats size got to do with it... hes with you because he wants to be and has told you that you have nothing to worry about. IF you carry on worrying it will make the relationship hard ... (read in full...)
I'm too fast and I feel like I don't satisfy my girlfriend! What can I do?
Q. Hi, my main problem is that I ejaculate very fast when having sex, let's say between 2 to 5 minutes. I feel like I do not satisfy my girlfriend during sexual intercourse. Please do assist in solving my problem. Thanks a lot. sid....
A. 23 July 2005: Well how about not limiting yourself... how about having another go!! Just because you came early doesnt mean the fun has to end, get in the mood together again after and see what happens... the more you do this the easier it will be!! also you ... (read in full...)
I want to believe my girlfriend, but...
Q. Two weeks ago my girlfriend spent the weekend with another man she told me they slept in the same bed but nothing happened. I want to belive she is not lying but i have my doubts. ...
A. 17 July 2005: You dont give much information..... why was she with this other guy ? was it a case of she needed somewhere to crash and shared his bed ? You need to find out why she spent the weekend with him first before anything else.. are they just friends ? ... (read in full...)
Sex stopped cold turkey in January and my boyfriend won't say why...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. Im 21 hes 22. We have a great relationship with each other but we havent had sex in the past 7 months. We had a great sex life up until January when he just stopped cold turkey. He was always initiati...
A. 13 July 2005: It could be that he as an erectile disfunction problem for some reason and that hes now embarrased. A lot of men at some time in their lives cant substain an erection and that in itself can affect how they behave. Maybe try chatting to him ... (read in full...)
My dreams are full of an old boyfriend and I feel guilty about it...
Q. I am feeling incredibly guilty because I have been dreaming of an ex-boyfriend for about a month. Let's just say the dreams are not all platonic and it has caused me to begin thinking about him in 'real' life. I am married for less than a year...
A. 8 July 2005: You need to stop living in the past and concentrate on what you already have. You made the decision to marry your husband and start a life with him, if you continue to dwell on what might have been you will in turn ruin life with this man... Take ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my friend's brother actually likes me?
Q. I've known my best friend since kindergarten and we are now in 9th grade. She is one of 5 kids and her oldest brother is a year older than me. I really like him and I think that he likes me too, but I dont know for sure. I don't know what to do. I ...
A. 8 July 2005: Maybe subtly ask if they would like to go somewhere like the cinema or for a coffee or for lunch with you.... say you would like it if it was the two of you and see what they say.. if they bolt then you know they just want to be freinds.. but they ... (read in full...)
I start off hard, then go soft. What's wrong?
Q. When i am making love to my girlfriend, (in the beginning) I always have a hard erection. but, as we go on, my penis begins to go soft which makes us stop having sex. I was wondering if you had any tips on what I should do without taking pills to ...
A. 7 July 2005: it could be that you are worrying about it without realising. Its not uncommon for this to happen.. it may be a case of relax a bit more, have some more foreplay, found out what it is your girl likes so that you know you are doing the right thing as ... (read in full...)
This will be my first time having sex and I'm worried I won't know what to do!
Q. It's my first time having sex and I don't really know what to do. If I'm having sex in the missionary position do I just lie still or should I move with the bloke? It seems a silly question but I'm nervous I won't know what to do....
A. 7 July 2005: Take your time is the key. Dont worry about it.. do what comes natural at the time. The first time is always different anyway... your partner should be aware that its your first time and respect you and take things slow... when the time comes you ... (read in full...)
Feels like it's time to break up, but I can't bear to hurt my girlfriend's feelings...
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 years and lately I have wanted to break up with her because I think it is just time. I really want to know which is the best way to do this without hurting her. I can't bear to see her hurt... please help...
A. 7 July 2005: Unless she knows there is a problem it will come as a shock. I really dont think there is ever an easy way to end a relationship... she is going to be hurt if you end it but you have to let her know why... if you cant bear to see her hurt why is ... (read in full...)
Question about sex and pregnancy...
Q. I want to know something that's been in my head recently after reading a few question her on this great site! ... It's been said that pregnancy is very likely to happen through clothes, oral, by rubbing each other, etc.. all sort of things... but I ...
A. 7 July 2005: It is extremely risky not to use protection when having sex as it can end up resulting in pregnancy. Having said this it can take some woman years to concieve. We are all different and there is no rule as to when we will fall pregnant. In order ... (read in full...)
I was sex-texting a guy on the side and I got caught, but I've learned my lesson...
Q. Hi. i am in a bit of a predicament. i have been with my fiance for almost 18months now and for the past few months, i have been sending "text sex" sms messages with someone else. We never actually physically touched, or saw each other during the...
A. 7 July 2005: I dont think there is actually anything you can do right now.. Only time can tell on things like this. It may take him a time to rebuild the trust so you need to make sure that he knows you will never do anything like this again draw a line under ... (read in full...)
How can I send him a friendly greeting, but not go over the top?
Q. Dear Cupid, My crush's fifteenth birthday is coming up,and I have been planning on e-mailing him for the occasion. This seemed like a pretty good idea until I realized that I have absolutely no clue what to say to him. I mean,I kind of want to ...
A. 7 July 2005: Maybe just keep it simple... a nice formal card of sorts maybe a funny one, with words along the lines of have a great day and put you name with a little kiss. That way its like a friend wishing him well and he knows at the same time that you care. ... (read in full...)
I want to come out to the oldies...
Q. What is the least shocking way to tell your parents that you're gay?...
A. 7 July 2005: I dont ever think there is a good way... but i suspect as most parents do, they have an incling. Just sit them down, over dinner or something like that and tell them that you love them and that you have something to tell them that they may or may ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me and I forgave her. Now we fight because she thinks I'LL cheat...
Q. Hi, I've been going out with this girl for close to 8 months, I love her dearly with all my heart. We were really close friends for a very very long time before this. About 3 months into our relationship, which is 5 months back, she cheated on m...
A. 7 July 2005: This all sounds like shifting the blame... making an excuse to cheat. Many cheaters do this to make themselves feel better, the ones that make the noise about it so to speak are the ones that are doing it. Either that or she is now insecure ... (read in full...)
I want to be a part of his life, but he scolded me for calling him...
Q. I love a guy who is 1 year older than me for 5 years. We were students at that time. Now I am still studying and he is working. Recently he faced a very big financial problem. He does not want to communicate with me. He said no meeting or love til...
A. 7 July 2005: I think you need to keep your distance for a while. Maybe contact him in a little while and see how things are going. Perhaps he feels pressured, but that isnt fair to you. Let him be for a while and then contact him telling him that you are still ... (read in full...)
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