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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Why are women such idiots!
Q. Last Wednesday I had a teeney tiny argument with my girlfriend, I later on apologised (even though it wasn't my fault). On Friday I asked her did she want to do something or go somewhere and got no reply.....fine. On Sunday still no word so I rang ...
A. 4 August 2006: Bit of a generalisation there... " why are women are idiots"
From my expereince men are just as much idiots as woman are if not worse! lol Now I guess your girl is just playing stupid games leave her to get on with it rather than play the same... (read in full...)
Do women prefer a hairy chest or shaved chest?
Q. what do women prefer, a hairy chest or a shaved chest?...
A. 4 August 2006: Hairy!! But not in an over the top way.... Love the hair on my partners chests, its just enough but not over done!
Smooth I feel makes them look less of a man, but Then i guess it doesnt depend on the man as it either suits them or it does... (read in full...)
Does it Matter that My 15-Year-Old Friend Won't Have Sex with Me?
Q. I'm really good friends with this girl in my neighborhood. She's 15 and I'm 19. we both want to get more into an intimate relationship and bring our friendship to the next level, sort of like friends with benefits. The thought of sex has come up, ...
A. 4 August 2006: Gosh you want her to be your friend but the whole time all you can think about is yourself and having sex!! What do you mean you want to move onto an intimate level, kind of friends with benefits!? I think that, part is souly you... She obviously ... (read in full...)
He keeps asking how good the sex was so should I tell him? "AWFUL!"
Q. I split up with my boyfriend of three months a few weeks ago, which I was glad of. He now keeps asking me if he was any good at doing sexual things with me (it was his first time). Should I lie and say he was good or should I tell him the truth ...
A. 4 August 2006: Maybe be a bit diplomatic and see if you cant point him in the right direction. You say he was awful, try and word it that it would have been better if he had done it this way or that... if you dont tell him he will never know and will think that ... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think you're more sympathetic to females who cheat?
Q. Why is it on this site that women tend to be so sympathetic to a woman who has cheated and are so very understanding but when it's a man who cheated you hear phrases like, "Once a cheater always a cheater" or "A leopard never changes his spots". Is ...
A. 3 August 2006: The advice I give is based on the situtation... Never toward the gender. I never condone cheating but appreciate that some situations are different to others to try advise in that capacity. I know women are more lenient to other women and are more ... (read in full...)
My husband isn't man enough to leave me, so should I leave HIM?
Q. What shoud I do? I have been married for 10 years with 2 young children. Last summer my husband told me he loved me but he wasn't in love with me anymore. I told him that love changes, but he doesn't want to listen. We have stopped having sex ...
A. 30 July 2006: If he really refuses to get help and its bringing you down because of it then you may have to make the decision to jump ship yourself. You can try counselling for you that could help give you a clearer perspective on where you are headed and what ... (read in full...)
Having problems with my married man!
Q. Falling for a married man - how not to? So...... He is married I know (wedding ring), but he never says 'we did xxxx' as in he and his wife did something. We've gotten close over the last 6 months (emails and coffee or lunch, but nothing more...
A. 29 July 2006: This might sound strange, and you say you have known him for 6 months, but is his wife still alive ?? I mean yes he wears a wedding ring but have you actually asked him ? He might feel he cant tell you ? Just a thought ? I dont mean come out ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are great, but my heart is attracted to someone else! What do I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a great girl for two years now. She's my best friend and I absoulutely adore her, but I have one slight problem. I think I'm falling in love with someone else! I don't know what to do! This other girl has a bo...
A. 29 July 2006: I agree that your being selfish. Your currrent girlfriend is oblvious and its not fair. Im not trying to sound harsh but you got to look at it this way. If your head is turning for someone else then you are not as committed to your girl as you ... (read in full...)
I want to keep my fiance from knowing that I've had sex before!
Q. I'm in a very weird situation. My wedding is coming up in about a year with the guy that I haven't told that I've had sex many times before, due to some family and personal reasons. And I kind of do want to keep it a secret from him because I'm ...
A. 29 July 2006: Why is that you want to hide this from him so much ? Have you guys been intimate together ? You say the last time you had sex was a bout six months ago, was this with the your man your going to marry ? Im a little confused as to why you think he ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to my Air Force man, but can't help thinking the distance has made our love fade!
Q. I am engaged to be married at the beginning of October to my Air Force man, but for the past month or so, I've been having doubts. I thought it was just a case of the jitters or cold feet, so I've been sort of blowing off the thoughts in my head. I ...
A. 29 July 2006: First off money is just that money, it doesnt buy happiness!
You have to do what is right for you and that its whats right for you deep down. It doesnt matter about money thats insignificant its people that matter. Yes people can get cross abou... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 28 July 2006: I still feel that if they have tried everything and EVERYTHING as you put it didnt work then they should move on first... Not start an affair. The person here was saying that things were great apart from that bit of attention, so hows that trying ... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 27 July 2006: I Agree with wild Thaing... plus if your not happy with the person you are with you should take steps to see if you can remedy it.. If all else fails then its time to move on. Cheating is not the answer, it only leads to heartache, but then as Wild ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid for thinking this means he cheated ?
Q. Hello My b/f and i dont see each other every night..every few days..so when we do sleep together--the first time is kind of fast if you know what i mean and then the 2nd time is usually longer..last night the first time was longer than usual and w...
A. 27 July 2006: I wouldnt worry about it ... He could have just been masturbating!! Besides the longer a guy gets used to holding back the better he becomes!! Learn to trust him and dont think of the bad side straight off... this is after all a good thing isnt ... (read in full...)
Am I Bi or is it just a phase?
Q. Well here it goes, i am having a problem. i don't know if i am bi or not. i like boys, infact i like boys alot but for a few years now i have been finding myself attracted to girls. i start having thoughts of being in a female-female relation...
A. 27 July 2006: Hot, I would not entirely agree with that statement of yours... I can see of late your getting pretty upity on here soemone upset you ?
My friend who is female, as had relationships long term with both sexes, so yes it is possible to like bot... (read in full...)
Bus stop, wet day, she’s there, I say,..
Q. I will be honest with you , i am a single 29 year old guy,very shy no friends and at the end of each work day including weekends i stay home i never go out to party. On Monday this girl walked on the train, our eyes met and she smiled at me. her ...
A. 27 July 2006: She was probably just being polite in smiling. I often smile at people here, male or female, I dont know them that well on a day to day basis but its friendly to smile at someone as we have to work together at some point. She would probably be ... (read in full...)
Boys/guys: What do you think about?
Q. What do guys think about? can anyone give me a true breakdown of their minds cos at the moment i dont have a clue. Help please! This seems very random but i have my reasons...so any boys wana share their thoughts?...
A. 27 July 2006: Hmm different people think about different things... doesnt matter if your a girl or a boy you will think different things, there no such thing as a boy thinks about this list and a girl thinks about that list... for instance at times my thought ... (read in full...)
He's ready to move to be with some internet girl--isn't that just what 40 year old divorced people do?
Q. I resently logged into one of my exs profiles on the internet only to discover he’s been messaging a girl who lives almost half way across the country. I thought I was funny when he started talking about moving there to go to college. (He’s never ha...
A. 27 July 2006: Oh dear sounding a bit bitter there! Fact is hes over you as you can see hes moving on. Perhaps you should to. Friends will come and go in our lives as will some partners. By the sound of it you are very young so stop logging in to your ex's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just told me he has Chlamydia
Q. I'm so upset, we were about to start trying for a baby. I'm going to the clinic tomorrow to get myself sorted, but what if I am infertile now because of him? What if he is infertile?! And where did he get it from? He said he was checked and given ...
A. 26 July 2006: Okay Chlamydia, is a very silent STI. There are normally no symptoms with this and if there are its normally a discharge and some dicomfort down below and with men its normally a discharge from his penis, if any symptoms at all. Now the thing with ... (read in full...)
He's 34 and prefers teen porn sites instead of me...what should I do?
Q. My partner and I have been together for nearly 2 years and have lived together for the past 6 months. Every time I am out or at work he is on the internet porn sites, he's 34 and many of the sites he visits are teen sex. I have asked him about this ...
A. 26 July 2006: The thing is the porn generally has no bearing on the guys girlfreind. Guys look at porn regardless of what sort it is and dont care if we think its crass or not the done thing. Not all men look at it, but alot do and you only have to look on this ... (read in full...)
Something for the men to answer: Is this sensation in my lower torso normal ?
Q. This is something only a male can answer. When I reach orgasm, apart from a sensation in the penis, I also sometims get one around the lower torso area afterwards. Is this normal?...
A. 25 July 2006: Hey, I know im not male... but my partner has the same, sometimes he gets it completely underneath as well and othertimes the whole body shudders.. I asked him one day what happens when he orgasms and he told me! So I would say its pretty normal! ... (read in full...)
My dad heard the sex talk I was having with my boyfriend on the phone
Q. I'm a college student who hasn’t lived at home for 2 years and i’m back for the summer. I was on the phone with my boyfriend late at night that I recently went and visited and apparently my dad heard out entire conversation about sex and even heard ...
A. 25 July 2006: How do you know your dad heard it if he hasnt confronted you about it ? If he heard it and then said I heard your conversation and that was it then hes not going to be saying anymore, but if you heard it from someone else that your dad heard that ... (read in full...)
I just dont enjoy sex with my boyfriend anymore, its affecting us what can I do ?
Q. I dont enjoy sex with my boyfriend anymore. i use to but after we moved in together it has just gotten worse and worse. now of course he is is complaining bu as much as a try it just is not the same. i dont feel cormfortable anymore. what can i do ...
A. 25 July 2006: HI well you dont say how old you are and why you suddenly feel like this. If you can give us a bit more info will be easier to suggest some ideas. It could be a number of things like living together can take away the excitement of sex as you are ... (read in full...)
Do straight me like to watch gay porn ?
Q. Do straight men watch gay porn?. What if it was more than curiosity and he was aroused by it. I've put it down to him exploring his sexuality. Am I being naive? ...
A. 25 July 2006: Ive watched gay porn and lesbain porn. Its just different types of sex. Most of us get curious and take a peek, doesnt mean that we are gay, just simply openminded and like to express ourselves in different ways. We just like to see whats there! ... (read in full...)
Found Latino porn on his computer-does it mean he doesn't fancy me?
Q. i found latino girl porn sites on my boyfriends computer and im not a latino does it mean he doesnt fancy me anymore ...
A. 25 July 2006: Its just what he was looking at at the time. He probably looks at all diffrent kinds not just latinos. Dont read to much in to it... its just a woman on a screen no matter what race she is doesnt mean he doesnt fancy you because your not latino, ... (read in full...)
He says nothing's happening, but his actions say otherwise!
Q. My husband works in a pub. He came home and told me a girl that goes in there is always chatting him up. When I asked him if he was seeing her he told me it was nothing to do with me. Now I'm getting phone calls at set times twice a week, on nigh...
A. 25 July 2006: Honey hes cheating and at the same time just plainly being a brute about it.... how dare he talk to you like that and tell you its nothing to do with you and to also stay out till 4am etc... hes definately got something going on with this girl and ... (read in full...)
How can I use my Pills to supress my period?
Q. How long before a period should you start taking birth control pills if you want to repress your period?? 4 or 5 days??...
A. 25 July 2006: As far as I was aware you need to have a period first, take the pill on the first day and then continue all the way through. You might find tha taking the pill will stop this first period a bit, and then just carrying taking it to delay the next ... (read in full...)
What age should you lose your virginity??
Q. Whats a good age to loose your virginity?...
A. 25 July 2006: Of course never under the age of 16!! But there is no such thing as a good age. Its all about doing it for you, doing it for the right reasons, doing it because you love that person. Making sure your not under pressure to lose your virginity for ... (read in full...)
Was I too rude in telling him I didn't want to have sex?
Q. Where would you say this was leading? You're at a house party, start kissing this guy, he starts feeling you up, it's getting heavy, he keeps trying to put his hand down your skirt. You're not comfortable with that and tell him to stop it. I'm a ...
A. 25 July 2006: Better to have come out and directly told him rather than him saying you never said anything. I dont think it was rude, what else could you do other than say stop ? If you didnt want him feeling you up then its to you not him! I wouldnt worry ... (read in full...)
Is there a difference between cheating with sex and cheating without it?
Q. I see on this forum that an affair is defined as a relationship in which the following two things occur: 1) The relationship exists unbeknownst to a partner; 2) There is sex involved. In addition I see this term "emotional affair", which impl...
A. 25 July 2006: Emotional affair to me actually sounds worse!! Its like the partner you have always shared the intimacy of words and wisdom with and known deep inside and out and the person you always held as high regard for your innermost secrets can go and betray ... (read in full...)
My period is late - might I be pregnant?
Q. my last menstrual period was on june 18, 2006. since the 18 of july 2006 ive been getting pains. its weird bc the day after i have pains i get my period.. i really want to know if i m pregnant been trying for a yr with my fiance.. plzzzzzz ...
A. 25 July 2006: Hey dont got jumping the gun, relax a little, with all that going on, you really need to be in better health to be carrying a baby for both your sakes, relax alittle. I think that your anguish is making you feel all those things sick, consitpated ... (read in full...)
Im pregnant, but I dont want this baby, how can I go about getting a termination ?
Q. I'm 17 and I'm pregnant. I don't want a baby but i don't know how to get rid of it. I can't go to a hospital coz someone might find out. What should i do? I need an abortion....
A. 24 July 2006: I have enclosed 2 help pages that should be able to give you all the support and advice you need. As i dont where you are (uk I am assuming) at least with this pages there are links to where they are and how local and telephone numbers to contact ... (read in full...)
Need some advice on the Yasmin pill, can I use it to delay my period ?
Q. hi there, I have the Yasmin birth control but have not starting taking it yet. I am going away and unfourtunately I am going to get my period at the beginning of myholiday. A few female friends have told me that if i start taking the pill about 4 ...
A. 24 July 2006: Yasmin is a new combined pill, but it comes in two different types a 21 day and a 28 day cycle, which means that 21 pills are taken and then 7 free days and then on the 28 one you take it for 28 and the 7 days are inactive pills in aid to help you ... (read in full...)
I take the Pill but not regularly at the same time. Am I still protected?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex a few days ago. He pulled out before he came but I'm wondering if I could be pregnant. I am on birth control (diane35 for skin issues) but I don't always take it at the same time every day due to a very busy ...
A. 24 July 2006: It depends if its the mini pill, this has to be taken pretty much at exactly the same time every day, its a pretty time crucial pill and has more margin for error if not taken correctly. The cominbined pill, you do get up to a 7 hour window where ... (read in full...)
Seeing this great woman for 2 months but there's one problem---she smells! Any advice?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing this woman for the last two months. Things are pretty intense at the moment, so there is a lot of intimacy. Problem is, she smells. Any suggestions?...
A. 23 July 2006: Does she bathe alot, is she just unclean, or maybe there is a medical reason she smells. when you say she smells what sort of smell are we talking about, one down there thats a bit rife or something else. At different times of the month a female ... (read in full...)
My period is late - might I be pregnant?
Q. my last menstrual period was on june 18, 2006. since the 18 of july 2006 ive been getting pains. its weird bc the day after i have pains i get my period.. i really want to know if i m pregnant been trying for a yr with my fiance.. plzzzzzz ...
A. 23 July 2006: Take a pregnancy test to be sure, it could just be that your a bit stressed and your period is delayed.. by stressing more it will delay your period even more. ONce you have taken the test you will know either way and can decide what you want you ... (read in full...)
I think my mum is sleeping with my boyfriend!!!
Q. I need some serious advice, I think my Mum might be sleeping with my boyfriend! The other night, I went round to my Mum's and she answered the door in her dressing gown looking pretty flustered. I wanted some company, as my boyfriend was 'w...
A. 23 July 2006: I advist not to go storming in with two feet, and dont assume until you know. You are obviously having doubts about your boyfriend or you wouldnt have suspected this. It could all be innocent and circumstantial, you need to make sure you havent ... (read in full...)
Its hard to leave my 19 year old lover behind
Q. I am in love with a 19 yr old girl and she is in love with me (42). We both know that nothing can come from this relationship as she wants children, I cant have any (vasectomy), I am also married. We tried separating but were both unhappy and soon ...
A. 21 July 2006: I think KDLADY that was a bit over the top... If you have no constructive advice to give dont just slur or barate someone!
Now your married, first off you need to think clearly about what that actually means to you ? What is that you actually... (read in full...)
What are my chances of getting her back ?
Q. i really messed up with this girl i fell in love with i was going out with her for five months we have been seperated for 1 week what happend was one saturday i got really drunk went to bed on the night and fell asleep when i fell asleep i was sick...
A. 21 July 2006: To be honest unless you know exactly whats up and why she wanted to end it then I dont think there is much chance of getting back together. Shes decided that you are not the one for her and broke it off. If shes already decided then nothing you ... (read in full...)
Is my husband wondering eye away of him telling me done with me!!
Q. My spouse of 16 years is staring at women other than me Yet he says he loves me shows it and stands by me except the wandering eye problem which he has had for three or four years. I asked him to stop as it is lack of respect he said he will i a...
A. 21 July 2006: Alot of guys glance at other woman, i personally dont see the big deal about it, When i catch my guy doing i tell him to put his eyes back in lol! But its not that often that he does, but i can see why some men look, i sometimes in traffic or ... (read in full...)
Don't seem to attract the guys I want. The ones i do attract are beneath me.
Q. I have confidence in my appearance but I don't get any attention. I'm not like other girls and all. I guess you can say I'm unique thats how I put it. I don't get any attention from the guys I do like and all but from guys that are well lets just ...
A. 21 July 2006: Well without sounding harsh, what on earth does "beneath me" mean, thats a very shallow comment and if you conduct yourself in this type of manner it is more than likely why you are not attracting a guy more suited to you as your giving out the bad ... (read in full...)
I cant *bare* the thought of him seeing other women naked.. please help!!
Q. ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!...
A. 21 July 2006: In response to the annon poster asking what sort of porn i was referring to when i said most men dont compare thier woman to them. There are lots of sites out there of pretty young girls exposing themselves and they have fantastic figures, they ... (read in full...)
I cant *bare* the thought of him seeing other women naked.. please help!!
Q. ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!...
A. 20 July 2006: If he is simply taking the occasional glance at a naked woman then theres not much harm no. Its when it takes over that you have to be careful. Of course hes going to say your being stupid cos its something he wants to do, but if it makes you that ... (read in full...)
I cant *bare* the thought of him seeing other women naked.. please help!!
Q. ihave been with my bf for 3yrs but over the last 6mths my jealousy has become worse. i hate the thought of him seeing any other woman naked. its ruining our relationship help!...
A. 20 July 2006: So your saying that he recieves naked pics in emails from one person ? Is he just looking at porn or normal pics of females and thats what your trying to say ? Or is this a real life person that he is interacting with ?... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 19 July 2006: I dont condone cheating, partly because its been done to me! But well if you dont feel guilty then perhaps you dont love your husband as much as you think you do. If your not getting from your relationship what you need then perhaps you need to ... (read in full...)
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