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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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How do I convince her to trust me again?
Q. Adult Help And Advice Required Please I need some Help and Advice with my relationship. I have been seeing my Gf for about 2 years now and got engadged at christmas, we were meant to be getting married sometime this year. our relationship has ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hey!
I can see where you are both coming from, and I really would be asking the question, why is she harbouring this so much ?
It was obviously way over 2 years ago that you met this other person and it really should not have a consequen... (read in full...)
Are anti-depressants bad for you?
Q. I went to the doctors yesterday because I was feeling really tired all the time and really down. He prescribed me anti-depressants and I started taking them last night. My housemate went nuts and told me they were really bad for me but I think I ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hey,
As Cool as cucumber said anti depressents are normally prescribed with a session of councilling. Maybe pop back and talk to your doctor some more about this.
Anti depressents do not work for everyone as we are all different and ha... (read in full...)
Sex is hurting him! To the point of bleeding! What can we do to help this ?
Q. I am having a little trouble in the bedroom! i lost my virgity to my boyfriend 2 months ago. But it hurts him to have sex with me! he has a large penis could this be why? he says it is like "having sex with sandpaper" is there anyway i could loosen ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi there,
I would be a bit concerned that hes bleeding ? Ive experinced sex when its a bit lets say drier than usual and used a lubricant, but my partner has never bled because of this.. maybe a little sore maybe a bit red, but not to the poin... (read in full...)
I want to ask her out on a date but I have never met her! Should I do this?
Q. There's a girl who i met online and like quite a lot. We've known each other for about a month and chat with each other quite often but have never met. I fell for her cos she has a really sweet personality and although i haven't met her, I've seen ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hey, Im not sure if your meaning date in the sense of a full blown date, or meet as in have coffee kind of a lets met up date see how we get on ?
Perhaps date was too strong for it. You get on great as you say, and I guess the only natural ... (read in full...)
I really want a womans point of view on how she reacts about "rejection of love". Any thoughts?
Q. What's a womans point of view on rejection of Love? I'd like to hear a womans point of view on this one. Your both - attractive, educated, professional, mature adults, civil, and nothing bad at all occurs in the time you dated. So you date a guy f...
A. 24 March 2007: Hmm... First off... Having been in the postion with a guy(many moons ago!) dated about 6 weeks or so, where things were great as you first described, sex was on the menu, and loads of other fun things were happening and stop overs were happening, ... (read in full...)
Can someone please give me info on the abortion pill ?
Q. Can anyone explain to me about the abortion pill. What is it?How can you get it? is it from hospital or doctors? how much is it in the uk? can you get it on the nhs? what effects does it have? Do you have to be a certain age to take ...
A. 22 March 2007: The abortion pill is a form of abortion available to women who are under 9 weeks pregnant. The woman will be given a pill to swallow and 36 to 48 hours later a tablet will be placed in her vagina. These two drugs will end most early pregnancies ... (read in full...)
He wants to go away fishing, I came up with a compromise, but he wont accept them, any ideas ?
Q. i have been livi8ng with my boyfriend for 1 and 1/2 years. he has always been very kind to me and has always worked out a solution to the problem we are currently having. he loves fishing and has always included me, however a very domeneering ...
A. 22 March 2007: Well hun, is it really such a big deal that he goes off for a week ?
If could come down to that he thinks you dont trust him, which is why your coming up with compromises and hes not getting a bar of it.
A week isnt that long, would pass in no... (read in full...)
I have nothing compared to all his ex's did he just settle with me for now ?
Q. I know this sounds completely insecure but... the last few women my BF dated, including his exwife were professionally and finacially set. They all have very nices homes, money, they took vacations with him but I don't. I rent, have zip in the ...
A. 22 March 2007: Hey there, Well lets see they all had all of this and what happend.... they all broke up! Doesnt mean he was happy does it!
Maybe he does just love you for you! Isnt that what we all want ?
Dont go comparing yourself to the ex's or you will... (read in full...)
He said he deleted his profile on the dating site...should I trust that he did this?
Q. In my question from yesterday about how my boyfriend had a profile on a dating website, I asked him if he would delete it for me and he said that he did indeed delete it after he realized his profile was searchable and he received a message from ...
A. 21 March 2007: As Kenny said, take a look see for yourself for peace of mind. But what does concern me is that the profile was active and girls were contacting him! From my experiecne searching profiles were someones been on the site and forgotten all about ... (read in full...)
The sex has lessened to once a week, does my bf just not fancy me anymore ?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we used to have sex like 3 or 4 times a week. but now i'm lucky if we have sex once a week. is he just no longer attracted to me?...
A. 19 March 2007: As many couples become more established in a relationship the sex does lessen. Many go through phrases of lots of sex all the time to no sex and vice versa.
Its all about being comfortable with one another and I guess to a certain extent t... (read in full...)
Is he really cheating and messing me around or I am just nuts ??
Q. Hiya again.I am writing again as i posted a question on here a few weeks back and got some postitve replies. Me and my bf split up because he was ringing and texting a woman from work for a couple of months before i found out, they were flirty txts ...
A. 19 March 2007: Honey, the fact you have written in tells me that you know hes up to no good. And you dont need me to tell you that.
What you do about it is up to you... We already know that he has a history of this behaviour, and in short appears that he canno... (read in full...)
I have this odd discharge, is there a natural way that I can get rid of it!?
Q. Ok..im really worried. Ive read stuff on here that people think they have a vaginal infection or something..well i do aswell..recently ive had a brownish discharge come out into my knickers, but im not on my period!! it dosent hurt but it smells ...
A. 18 March 2007: Hi,
Well that rules out an STI or an STD so thats a good thing!
It can however still be an infection. We dont have to be sexually active to contract PID this can just be caused by tampon use or anything that the vagina feels uncomfortable wi... (read in full...)
I have this odd discharge, is there a natural way that I can get rid of it!?
Q. Ok..im really worried. Ive read stuff on here that people think they have a vaginal infection or something..well i do aswell..recently ive had a brownish discharge come out into my knickers, but im not on my period!! it dosent hurt but it smells ...
A. 18 March 2007: Hey hun, You do really need to seek medical advice on this. Nothing that I can tell you to do will cure this naturally if its an infection. Im not sure if your sexually active, but if you are its quite possible that you have contracted an STI or ... (read in full...)
Am I obsessive??
Q. My friends think I have a mild form of Obsessive Compulisive Disorder (OCD) but i dont think i do so i thought i would see what you guys think. when i leave my house, i will constantly check that i have got everything i need (phone, keys, makeup e...
A. 4 March 2007: They are classic mild signs of OCD, we all do the odd check now and again but you are taking it a little too far. My dad was a sufferer well still is for many many years... his was a way more severe case and im not going to go into it as its not ... (read in full...)
He has totally gone off sex! I've tried lingerie and everything but no results! What should I do now?!
Q. hello. i have been with my partner for 7 months. i have two boys from previous relationship. we have been living together for 4 months. after the first month he totally went off sex. we do it about once a month and its over in seconds. he is not ...
A. 4 March 2007: I think its all the stress thats going on.... You say hes jobseeking... alot of men when out of work do have a very low self esteem and a low opinion of themselves... that in turn means the last thing they feel is sexy!
Plus he has the added st... (read in full...)
I want someone who appreciates me, but that isn't happening
Q. I am a ladies man or at least thats wut my friends say I am, but how do I actually get a woman that appreciates me for me. I mean, why is it that most women that I meet say the same thing. They say that they want someone that will appreciate them, ...
A. 4 March 2007: Dont change yourself for the sake of a date! Remain the person you are... these girls you are dating are clearly not wanting the same thing as you...
You could just be going for the same type of girl, and they are not respecting you! You say ... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back with him, I just want to make him jealous!
Q. A few months ago me and my boyfriend split up. Not long after it he gets a new girlfriend, I get so jealous when i see his name pop up on msn with a different name beside it!! Sometimes I think he wants me to get jealous. I want to get him back, ...
A. 3 March 2007: Why do you want to get him back ? Because your hurting! Hes clearly not hurting and has moved on... So should you... He doesnt care that he hurt you obviously and you just want to vent your anger, yes it sucks that your hurt but trying to make ... (read in full...)
Does the regular whitish discharge also stop along with the menstrual cycle during pregnancy?
Q. does the regular whitish discharge also stop along with the menstrual cycle during pregnancy????...
A. 3 March 2007: Depends what the whitish discharge you describe is... Sometimes woman do just generally have a whitish discharge that is just the way their body is and will always be there pregnant or not... But you may want to get checked out that its not thrush, ... (read in full...)
Do men have equal rights to be able to say no when a woman they don't fancy comes on to them?
Q. Do men have an equal right to not allow women to let her touch the guys body parts when he doesn't really want her to or dislikes it? In case, someone forces herself on to you, what would be a proper reaction? I feel like i have been programmed to ...
A. 3 March 2007: Everyone has the right to say no, no matter who we are. If somebody is acting in an improper way toward you then tell them!
The thing with society is that they expect the man to always be up for it and sometimes he may feel a lesser man for decl... (read in full...)
Its not perfect but Im happy with the relationship, but out of the blue shes texting me telling me shes bad and feeling guilty towards my kindness, whats going on ?
Q. Me and my gf had a relationship for 1+ years..for me,i wouldnt say it was a great relationship but i do feel happy with it..then suddenly out of blue, she told me through text message that she was feeling guilty towards my kindness to her and that ...
A. 3 March 2007: I agree with Nicola, There is somethign she hasnt told you... and I think its to do with cheating or along those lines... She is feeling guilty and to her rather than confess its easier to end it...
You need to talk to her and ask why the sudd... (read in full...)
We dated for 2 years, he said he loves me but isnt in love with me, is there any hope sticking around ?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were together for almost 2 years. Towards the last few months of our relationship we were always fighting. After a talk he told me that he loves me but his just not in love with me anymore so now where just friends we still go ...
A. 3 March 2007: I do hope your not sleeping together as this will almost certainly just cause another complication... there is no such thing as just a friend and we have sex... Been there done that and it hurts like hell when the other doesnt want what you want!
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If you had the chance to spend one night with Angelina Jolie... would you?
Q. I have a question that I'm dying to ask. I have a notion that almost everyone with eyes and a libido would love to have sex with Angelina Jolie. I know I would!!! Anytime. Any day. Any way. Oh yeah. So, here goes, if you had the chance to spend ...
A. 3 March 2007: Nah shes not my bag..... Give me Pink anyday!! :o)... (read in full...)
He doesn't trust condoms and I don't like taking medication including birth control pills. How can we combat this?
Q. when my boyfriend and i are messing around to the point of possible sex, it always ends because he doesn't trust condoms and im not on birth control. he has asked me before if id think about going on it, and i have thought about it, but the more i ...
A. 27 February 2007: Hi, I think that if you embarking on a sexual relationship with someone you have to be prepared to take some sort of precautions. The onus should be on both of you not just one. If the comdom isnt ideal or the Pill then there are several... (read in full...)
Can I pluck the hairs from his mole or would this be dangerous?
Q. My bf has a mole on his back that has ugly hairs sprouting outta it. For anyone who has a mole or is in a similar situation could u tell me is it possible to pluck the hairs out or is this painful and dangerous?...
A. 27 February 2007: Well you could just say you were mucking about and wanted to see if men are as wimpy as women ? LOL... My other half gets the odd strangly one on his shoulder.. wont thank me for sharing that lol... its odd its just a single rogue hair... and I ... (read in full...)
Hes suddenly gone silent, and dispondent!! What can I do ? I'm really worried!!!
Q. Hi there, I’m worried about my boyf for the last few days… we’re together over a year and everything is great with us. We have a healthy relationship in every way and love spending time together, going away on w/ends and normal things like that… ...
A. 26 February 2007: Has something recently happend between the two of you ? A row, a slight disagreement over something silly... May have been a couple of weeks ago, that meant nothing and hes harboured it ?
He could be bored with the same routine.. Does he have any ... (read in full...)
I want to try different positions with my boyfriend, any ideas?
Q. me and my boyfriend have regular sex and i want to try differnt positions and i want to try new things any one have any ideas?????...
A. 26 February 2007: I'm with Heather, why are you bothered about sexual positions when you havent even finished school or got an edutation yet ?
Stop and grow up first.... Plenty of time for sex in later years.... Sex really isnt the be and end all in the whole sc... (read in full...)
Can I pluck the hairs from his mole or would this be dangerous?
Q. My bf has a mole on his back that has ugly hairs sprouting outta it. For anyone who has a mole or is in a similar situation could u tell me is it possible to pluck the hairs out or is this painful and dangerous?...
A. 26 February 2007: It shouldnt cause any damage just by plucking the hair out of the mole. But keep an eye on the mole in case it changes in shape and colour. You can get moles removed and should always keep them covered up in the sun. Men tend to think they will ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is moving in with me but she hates my ex's cats so has said either they go or she does!
Q. I am going through the final stage of a divorce. When we were together i bought 2 cats for my wife. When we split up and she left she couldn't take them with her and so they have remained with me. I now have a new partner who i have been with f...
A. 21 February 2007: I think your new GF is being unreasonable. We all have a past and so on. But a cat is harldy the thing you want to vent anger at because of an ex... highly odd... Perhaps you should have said they were yours!
Anyway... My partner has an a... (read in full...)
This is a bit unusual I know, tomorrow is V's day. (I'm the female) but I want to stay in and watch the FA cup replay!!! How do I tell my boyfriend?
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a pickle here! My partner and I have arranged to go out tomorrow night (we try and go out for a meal at least once or twice a week) - now, unless you live in a cave, you will realise that tomorrow is Valenti...
A. 14 February 2007: Sorry but Had to put my 2 cents in.... Yes Im a Spurs fan, and didnt ever think that an Arsenal fan would make me chuckle! tee hee.. but I must say this was somewhat amusing and I have to say good on ya! I would be the same If it were Spurs its ... (read in full...)
Why did he hide a new girls number??
Q. My partner took a girls number at his new job and never told me (i checked his phone seen the messages in the deleted box) - he knows that it would cause arguments if i thought he was in touch with someone new. I seen his phone bill lying around a...
A. 6 February 2007: Hun the trust was broke in this relationship the second you looked in the phone to check up on him. What made you do that ? Was he acting differently ? Something made you doubt him, or was it just plain old insecurity ? How do you know it was ... (read in full...)
My mum died, at first my GF was great, but now shes asked me not to talk, now I have no one to talk to about it!!!
Q. This is a strange question. My mum died and at first my girlfriend was amazing help. Then she went on holiday, whilst she was away i was having trouble dealing with the lose of my mum and i shared my feelings with her. When she returned from her ...
A. 6 February 2007: Sorry but your girlfriend is being selfish... All she was thinking of was herself and not you when she said that.
Maybe it was a helpless moment, and she feels bad that she cant take the hurt away, so for her its easier to shut it out! But she ... (read in full...)
Is Valentine's Day important to girls?
Q. is valentines day important to girls? ...
A. 6 February 2007: Well I think its all a con so the Manufacturers of cards and the florists all make a huge a profit! Making us think that if we dont do something on that day then we dont care for one another! its always nice to recieve something nice from the one ... (read in full...)
We want to 'go all the way' with this other couple. Are there any repercussions we should be aware of?
Q. Me and my husband have been best friends with another couple until last year when we decided to try some not-so-innocent massage on each others spouses. It took me a while but today we are still the greatest of friends and in addition we have turned ...
A. 6 February 2007: Anon, I would Happily Talk to you, If you want to mail me here, feel free and I can chat to you regarding a somewhat similar experience.
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I might be pregnant. My bf has been accused of rape-what if he goes to prison! How would I cope with a baby?
Q. help me please , I'm nearly 18 and think i may be pregnant ,i had unprotected sex with mi boyfriend over Xmas and now I'm l8 on mi period. I'm really scared because i don't want a kid , mi boyfriend is 21 and already has a kid with an ex , he rarely ...
A. 30 January 2007: The first thing you need to do is establish if you are infact pregnant. Until then the other factors dont come into it until later on.
Im not sure if you are saying that you are on your period, or if your period is due, or its not happend.... (read in full...)
Feel I've messed up by marrying someone who was my best friend but I didn't love - I was too afraid to hurt her by breaking up!
Q. I think perhaps I have made a mistake by getting married. We got together 8 years ago, split up after 3 then got back together the next year. Ever since then (4 years) I have felt that there has been something lacking: we get on fine but I don't ...
A. 25 January 2007: Oh dear.. What a bit of a mess hun... Well its a case of your happiness... or your wife's (best friend as you say)...
Well the only thing you can really do is fess up... or else carry on living the lie... Your best friend(wife) has no idea ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know any websites regarding sex education or masturbation?
Q. I need help. I'm 20 live in the UK and have had virtually no sex education. It was poorly talked about in class, and I'm too embarrassed to talk to my parents about it. Can anyone give any websites about sex ed, masturbating etc....
A. 24 January 2007: Hi,
This site is pretty good... yes its the Loversguide, but if you do a search for Masturbation it will give you all the info you need... Theres loads of topics to choose from ranging from relationships, sex, sexual health, masturbation, hints an... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a late period after taking a morning after pill?
Q. Whats going on? I had unprotected sex last month and i took the morning after pill, but i think my period is a few days late... I dont understand, is this normal?...
A. 24 January 2007: Its very normal for that to happen. I took the Morning after pill a few years back, and my periods didnt actually return for 2 months... Dont worry unduly as this could delay your period.
Presuming you took the pill within 72 hours you should b... (read in full...)
Partner has erection problems..is he no longer interested in me?
Q. sometimes my partner does not get an erection does this mean he no longer fancies me and sometimes when he is aroused it becomes soft for no reason...
A. 24 January 2007: As the other answers say.... You cant know for sure why he is having this prob, but I sincerely doubt that its you.
Men as they get older can lose the ability to sustain an erection no matter how hard they try, he could be tired, stressed... (read in full...)
He says he like me more than his girlfriend, is he playing games or should I meet him ?
Q. i like this guy who already has a girlfriend but i was talking to him way before he ever knew her.we met over myspace we've been talking over the phone for over a month and he would always want to meet me but i was always scared to meet him due to ...
A. 24 January 2007: He is more than likely playing a game... He cant be trusted, he would more than likely do the same thing to you that hes doing to his current girlfriend, that is of course if he has one at all, that could also be a rouse to get you more interested ... (read in full...)
I cant ignore the fact shes got another guy as shes the only one I like! What can I do ?
Q. i had a girlfriend and we broke up but i still have feelings for her. right now she is going out with another guy and i would like to ignore it but i cant because she is the only person at school that i like. is there any way to get around this?...
A. 24 January 2007: Sorry hun, but your gonna have to accept that shes not with you but someone else... Its hard to see it everyday but nothing but time can heal this one. If shes doesnt want to be with you there isnt alot you can do. Keep yourself active and out ... (read in full...)
It was my first time sex, we used a condom, but im worried about the "wet bit" is this a concern ?
Q. The first time I had sex was yesterday. I just got off my period 3 days ago so there is a lower risk of pregnancy. We used a condom and he seemed to know what he was doing. However, between my butt it was extremely wet. Could this have just been ...
A. 24 January 2007: Such a way with words Martini... chuckle..
Yes its most probably the lubriaction from the condom mixed with your secretions and a little of body sweat. Condoms can sometimes have a funny feel to them and can have like a wet feeling left behind. ... (read in full...)
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