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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 9 June 2006: I see so he didnt tell us the big part in all of this then!! Im not sure the way you want to go, I for one didnt think you were being unfair, its what us woman do ask silly questions and i have tried to help him to stop being so dumb, but that was ... (read in full...)
As a Nice Guy, am I destined to finish last with women?
Q. Thanks to all the ladies who posted to my last question but even though their advice was sound I have another question. Why is it that nice guys finish last? I mean all I've ever done is treat women with nothing but respect and I treat ...
A. 8 June 2006: Sometimes i think its the way the cookie crumbles. Its just that you havent found the right girl yet. All woman would prefer a nice guy over a bad one, but some are just looking for the bad guy for more challenges, they sometimes feel they need ... (read in full...)
My BF of two years just confided that he's actually married!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost two years now and we have plans of getting married. One day he told me he has a secret to tell me. He said he is married back home and is planning to divorce. He also said he is crazy ab...
A. 8 June 2006: Jeez. dont know how he hid that for two years from you ? Hes obvioulsy very good at lying! I would wonder why he hadnt told you sooner and why all of a sudden he has told you now ? he says hes getting a divorce ? is that another lie ? To let you ... (read in full...)
I think I caught something from the boy that I had sex with...what can I do?
Q. hiya, im 15 and iv had sex with 4 boys! i last had sex with a boy about a month ago, in the last 2weeks iv been having realy bad discharge. the boy i had sex with is not my boyfriend and i know that hes had oral sex many times but never had sex i ...
A. 8 June 2006: It could just be thrush and that you havent caught anything and its pretty normal to get. Its unlikely that its the guy you have just slept with as its hard to get an sti if he hasnt slept with someone before and as just had oral sex with, so its ... (read in full...)
How do I get back in touch with my ex?
Q. i was having a casual relationship with a bloke it went on for a few months and then i ended it, a few months later we started texting each other again and then suddenly he stopped he didnt reply to any of my messages and i still dont know why. the ...
A. 8 June 2006: Why are you so worried that he has a bad image of you if your not bothered about getting back with him ? you dont know where he is, your friends dont know him, so why not just put it down to one of those silly things we do when we are drunk, we all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants oral, this is new for me...I need advice!
Q. hi my boyfriend wants me to give him a blow job, i've never done this bfore and i'm really nervous has anyone got any tips???...
A. 7 June 2006: Thanks Dr Pete, but well I guess I always thought a man was happy to be getting one! Cant really see what would make a bad one unless you use your teeth! Ouchie!! ;o)... (read in full...)
Did I orgasm...I can't tell?
Q. ok i think i got an orgasm but....im not sure! i mean when i stood up..down there was all numb and tingly for a while, and it sorta felt wet but i read about it.....and my heartrate didn't go up, and my breath didn't get heavier, but i did fe...
A. 7 June 2006: I think maybe the tingly part was the start of one, but you didnt completely finish, if you did you will defo know, its like a build up of tinglyness that goes and goes and gets stronger and stronger until suddenly it bursts! Thats the best way i ... (read in full...)
he left his family for me...but he insists on paying all their bills! The strain is taking it's toll on me.
Q. After a 2 and a half year affair, my partner has just left his wife to be with me. However, he insists on paying for all of the bills still in his former house as well as the mortgage and future CSA payments once that's been calculated. He's...
A. 7 June 2006: Maybe it was just that he was after the thrill of an affair ? Now that hes got you its not exciting anymore ? and hes just taking for granted that you are there ? Hes clearly trying to do the right thing about his family, and I can understand that ... (read in full...)
He's shy-I'm sorta shy. How do we open up more to each other?
Q. Help me before i totally blow this! Im seeing this guy just now. Its not really serious or anything, we have kissed. I really like him and we have soo much in common but im afraid that he thinks im not into him. Thing is he's cool when its just us ...
A. 7 June 2006: Well just carry on being cool, when its next just the two of you maybe suggest going along somewhere together, you mention that you have things in common so suggest one of those things and see if he wants to tag along with you. He could very well ... (read in full...)
I need a mole removed on my back but I don't know how to go about it...
Q. can i have more answers plz. i have a finger tip size mole on my back and i am so self conscience about it. im 16. what age do you have to be to get it removed? also i dont wanna ask my mum if i can get it removed cos its embaressing, i dont wanna ...
A. 7 June 2006: You may find that your mum is pretty understanding in such matters, you are just being cautious and its not a silly thing to go asking your mum, she is your mum and she cares about you and would probably feel chuffed that you feel you can go to her ... (read in full...)
My best mate is dating my ex but I still like him
Q. my best friend is going out with my ex but i still have a connection with him, what should i do?...
A. 7 June 2006: Well he is your ex, so when you broke up he was then on the market again. its probably a bit insensitive of your friend to go dating your ex but it does happen. Are you just feeling there is a connection because he is with your friend and maybe ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps ignoring me, what is wrong?
Q. my boyfriend keeps ignoring me, what is wrong with me?? ...
A. 7 June 2006: Not really alot to go on here is there ? How long have you been together ? Have you recently had a falling out ? are you doing anything to annoy him ? Maybe chat to him and ask him, if he's yours boyfriend you should be able to ask what it is ... (read in full...)
How do I get back in touch with my ex?
Q. i was having a casual relationship with a bloke it went on for a few months and then i ended it, a few months later we started texting each other again and then suddenly he stopped he didnt reply to any of my messages and i still dont know why. the ...
A. 7 June 2006: Well if you have his full name then maybe the phonebook ? Or maybe he has an email address ? or do you know the places he used to go to ? But to be honest its gonna be hard if you dont know where he lives as there could be loads in the phonebook ... (read in full...)
She doesn't feel the same as I do about her....what can I do?
Q. i'm a 23 years old male i fell in love with my best friend,i told her about it and she didnt feel the same way with me,i love her so much,what should i do?...
A. 7 June 2006: If someone doesnt feel the same way theres not alot you can do about it unfortunately. I know its hurtful, but your gonna have to let these feelings try and fade, as you cant make someone feel the same way about you. Distract yourself and try and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants oral, this is new for me...I need advice!
Q. hi my boyfriend wants me to give him a blow job, i've never done this bfore and i'm really nervous has anyone got any tips???...
A. 7 June 2006: well you dont need to worry too much as there is no such thing as a bad blowjob! hooray! Generally the fact that you are doing it is enough! guys like it quite 'wet' so be prepared to use lots of saliva or if you dont like that idea use some ... (read in full...)
Wait for boyfriend in prison or move onto a younger man...
Q. ok so here goes... I have been with my current boyfriend for 18 months.. he is 20 and i am 17 we live together and get on pretty well most of the time..he has been violent towards me in the past which made me quite insecure. Hes recently been rem...
A. 7 June 2006: Hes already been violent towards you, do you really want to hang around and wait for this to continue when he gets out ? Hes in prison now, and hes breaking the law, how many more times is he likely to end up there ? your only 17 why be tied to ... (read in full...)
She continously cheats on me, but I love her, I want to be with her, what can I do ?
Q. In a relationship for one a half years and i have been cheated upon 8 times what do i do? I am in a realtionship with a girl of the same age. We have been together for 1 and a half years and i have got cheated almost 8 times with different girls ...
A. 7 June 2006: I think maybe she is too young to be wanting to be tied to one person. She obviously wants to see what else is out there and your just hanging around letting her do it. Yes you love her, but does she love you ? Its a two way street when your in a ... (read in full...)
I really like him, but how do i get him to notice me!!!
Q. Hi I have a quick problem I hope you can help me with I really like this guy but I just can't get him to notice me, I talk to him and stuff and we've been out in the same places but I just can't get him to notice me in that way, I know hes not gay ...
A. 7 June 2006: Ever considered that hes a bit shy ? Not sure if you like him ? I think you are going to have to simply bite the bullet and ask if he wants to hang out with you. If he doesnt know that you like him then hes not going to be looking for it, so the ... (read in full...)
How can I let her know that I Love her!?
Q. hi all just need to now wat a guy has to do to make a girl relize that i love her...
A. 7 June 2006: Far short from the obvious of telling her, maybe send her a card with a message in ? If we want someone to know how we feel we have to tell them, body language isnt enough we cant all read what someone feels. Just come out and tell her or indeed ... (read in full...)
She went back to the nasty ex-boyfriend, instead of going out with me! Why?
Q. I need help getting this girl to go out with me. She has a kid and I've already started to fall for her and her kid and well. The problem is that she just got back with this guy who treats her really bad and she deserves better, like me, obviousl...
A. 7 June 2006: Shes gone back to what she knows, and is obviously comfortable with that or she wouldnt have done it. Let her be shes made her choice, if shes wants to be with someone thats not such a nice guy then let her.
Get out and find someone that want... (read in full...)
She won't go out until she trusts someone, but how long will that take?
Q. How do I build up trust with a girl I like because we hardly even know each other, but I still care for her. I'm 16 and she is 14, and trust is a big thing to her - as well as me. She said she has to have known someone for a long time to trust th...
A. 7 June 2006: Nobody can really put a timescale on trust, its something that you build within a realtionship. It could just be thats shes scared to take the plunge for fear of getting hurt. Maybe just bide your time a bit and let her get to know you. If things ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend flirts with other girls when I'm right there!
Q. Hi my boyfriend keeps flirting with other girls around me what do i do?...
A. 7 June 2006: If he is trying to draw the attention of other girls in a bid to date them manner, then you need to tell him that its making you feel uncomfortbale and less valued in the relationship. If hes with you he shouldnt really be trying to get the eye ... (read in full...)
9 years together but not serious, is he seeing somone else?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 9 years. I keep asking when are we going to make it serious. He gives me excuses. It has made me constantly accuse him of being with someone else, to the point of him telling me to leave him alone. Please ...
A. 7 June 2006: 9 years are you not a proper couple ?? Not sure exactly what the deal is here, but if its not a serious relatioship then i dont know how you two got this far ? You have really got to talk to him and tell him that you want to know where your ... (read in full...)
Pressure to have sex, but I'm not comfortable with it!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I've done it before but I don't feel comfortable with him. What should I do?...
A. 6 June 2006: If you dont want to and you dont feel its right then simply dont! We should never do anything that we dont want to and no one should tell us we have to. You are your own person, so do whats right for you not somebody else! When your ready your ... (read in full...)
What is a normal sex life?
Q. This may sound stupid...Im just wanting know everybodys opinion on this, how many times or how much sex should a couple have a week, every month in order to be considered a normal, healthy, loving, relationship or sex life? I know that a ...
A. 6 June 2006: Well I think it varies, depends on how your feeling, what you have planned and where you are! As a general rule me and my man have sex once maybe twice a week. He does work shifts so sometimes its not even that. Other times it could be everyday ... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me or is it just sex?
Q. Hi im a 19 year old girl whos had a bit of a "thing" with a guy for the last 8 months. We've recently started sleeping together, but always only when we're both drunk. Last night my friend heard him slagging me off and saying he has me wrapped ...
A. 6 June 2006: If your okay with just having the sex on and off with him then you should be able to tell him exactly that, and that he has now power over you. You seem happy that you are used as a sex buddy, and thats exactly how hes treating you, and thinks hes ... (read in full...)
Me and my ex may get back together, but he has some girl sitting on his lap...
Q. My ex and I are sex buddies, but we agreed to renew the situation in a month when we've both sorted our lives out and maybe get back together. In the meantime we're not exclusive, but we haven't spoken in over weeks. For two days in a row i've seen ...
A. 6 June 2006: Well you have both said that your NOT exclusive, so the deal is you can date other people. If your not happy with this then I suggest you talk to him about being back as a couple sooner. Sounds as though he wants to sow his seeds then get back to ... (read in full...)
Is it true that you can get over a heartbreak?
Q. Is it possible to never get over someone? They say time heals and all that, but is it a definite thing that heartbreak will end?...
A. 6 June 2006: We are all different when it comes to heartbreak, and we all deal with it in unique ways. It is possible to overcome heartbreak yes, but at the time you really dont think that you will. Everything feels like a struggle and everything you do feels ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 5 June 2006: Dear oh dear.... Did you not learn a single thing from the first error!? You should have thought through what you were going to tell her! Then apologised... When a woman asks you what is it you like about these other woman, you do not under no ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 2 June 2006: Speaking from a womans point of view, whilst I agree with Eyeswideopen, sometimes to be lenient with the truth is best. But we should in this day and age be able to speak openly and honestly about anything and everything to our partners. We ... (read in full...)
Does this man like me or not?
Q. The same old question which is I’m not sure if he likes me or just being nicer to me more than others. I don’t want to make myself embarrassed if I got the wrong answer from him because we are colleagues. Both of us love to do exercise, like j...
A. 2 June 2006: Sorry but I cant make out what it is that he said to you ? It does sound as though hes keen to show you bits about him, so maybe he does like you, but is being coy about it just incase you dont feel the same way. I think in circumstances like this ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my dream man overseas?
Q. Hey, i have already posted a few times about my boyfriend going on a working holiday overseas and not being sure if he wants me to joining yet. Well, the time finally came and I said goodbye to him at the airport the other day- it was so sad, and i ...
A. 2 June 2006: We all need to take a chance in life, we never know whats going to happen. We have to take risks is all part of life. "Its better to have done and regret than to regret not having done!" If you guys love each other that much, then take the chance ... (read in full...)
His wife rang mu husband to abuse me...advice please
Q. i'm the person who wrote "My lovers wife found our sex tape, hes turned to religion and doesnt want to know me, but I cant be without him!" on 27th May. now i'm having another problem. the wife rang up my husband and in an abusive way said...
A. 2 June 2006: You go Dr pete! Couldnt have put it better myself!
I think you all need to move on, shes upset and hurt and needed to lash out. Hopefully you can all get back to your lives seperately. Maybe in time you will come to learn that what you did was ... (read in full...)
I want to make him feel special... What could I buy him?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months,i want to make him feel appreciated by buying him something special and meaningful but i don't know what, any ideas?...
A. 2 June 2006: I like the sound of the book what the last poster mentioned. I once brought my man a map, yeah its sounds sad, but he loves all things like that, atlas's how to get from a - b, online maps and all that, satelite pics of the earth etc etc anyway, he ... (read in full...)
How can I profess my love to my ex... without sounding desperate?
Q. how do you go about telling your ex that you love her? without her thinking that you are desperate....
A. 2 June 2006: Well it depends if you told her you loved her before you broke up and why you broke up ? If shes moved on then there is probably no point. How long did you go out for ? What made you break up ? You might sound desperate but on the otherhand it ... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose him in case I don't find someone else, but he's so mean!
Q. My boyfriend has been acting very angry and unfair with me lately, like saying he isn't sure he loves me anymore after he misunderstands something I say that should be a simple talk and not make him feel bad at all. This is the second time he has ...
A. 2 June 2006: YOu need to realise that relationships are about both putting in the effort to make the other happy. It shouldnt be a case of putting up with something. If you feel this upset by it now, it will only get worse. If people love each other they dont ... (read in full...)
It makes me feel like crap everytime he talks about her
Q. hi, well when boyfreind and i were talking on teh phone and he told me that he was wipped by his ex and not me. he also once told me that she gave him everything i could not. this made me feel like crap i mean does that mean he would get bak with ...
A. 2 June 2006: If all he does is talk about the ex, and go on about how great she is then hes clearly not into you! He's not over her and is comparing you to her every step of the way. Get out and find someone that will be with you for you and wont have any ... (read in full...)
Having sex with my best friend's husband..but his 16 year old daughter caught us in bed! Help
Q. Please help I've been sleeping with my best friends husband with her consent. It was a sex arrangement that suited us all and no1 knew, til now. Her 16yr old daughter caught us and don't know what to say. We all want to stay friends but have agreed ...
A. 2 June 2006: The truth is the only way to go in a situation like this. At 16 the daughter is old enough I would say to be told the truth. Whichever way it is put to her its going to make somebody look bad, whether her mum knew or not. The truth will evidently ... (read in full...)
We flirted, he bought me drinks, we danced, we texted, but does he like me?
Q. Hi there.... ive met a guy who is in the army... wen i met him i think we flirted, nothin really happened, he paid for me to get in the club, he bought me drinks, he danced distantly with me and we've shared the odd txt msg since! How do i know he ...
A. 2 June 2006: Well if hes text you and you have been in contact since, I would take it that he does indeed like you! Let him know that you had fun the other night and that you would love to be able to do something like that sometime again soon as it was so much ... (read in full...)
my brother's 19yr old friend wants sex and I am only 13, what do I do?
Q. hi i am 13 and i am confused my 19 year old step brothers friend keeps on nagging me and asking me if want to do things with him. he has kissed me plenty of times which i dont mind we hug every time we see each other and we have snogged but that ...
A. 2 June 2006: What this guy is asking you to do is illegal. You are two young to be thinking about his kind of encounter, let alone be involved with someone quite so much older. Clearly tell him no, and you should really stop the kissing etc with this guy, hes ... (read in full...)
Scared of dating - what should I do?
Q. After breaking up with my partner of several years about a year ago I am now dating different people which is what I would tell a friend to do in the same situation. I am just hoping to get out and have some fun at this point in time and I am happy...
A. 2 June 2006: When I had a breakup several years ago, after I had been cheated on, I was in the relationship for 6 years, so it tore my world apart. I didnt go out and date for 2 years! Now this made me a bit withdrawn and well a bit depressed to be honest! So I ... (read in full...)
Why is the sex bad?
Q. I just can't have good sex. I have had two partners in my lifetime and with both, the penis can't stay inside of me. I don't know if this is normal. If someone can tell me what's going on, it would be great....
A. 2 June 2006: You need to relax and take your time. None of us are automatically good at sex, and none us now straight away what works for us. it takes time and experimentation and a caring partner. You probably without knowing it tense it when the time occurs ... (read in full...)
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