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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Im confused, does he like, me or was the touching up just because of the moment ?
Q. last night me and 3 of my friends went to my house to watch the grudge, and well obiously it is a scary movie so me and my really good guy friend were like hugging, and cuddling really closely. i would move one of my legs like over his legs, and he ...
A. 1 October 2006: Hmm yeah he likes you but almost in a pervy way... I dont think you want to start off on that footing... No man I have ever dated has proceeded to act in that manner towards me! Basically its about respect and if a guy had never asked me out but ... (read in full...)
He wants me to get an apartment so his ex can continue to live in our house!
Q. Ok folks...awhile ago I wrote about a problem with an ex-g-friends pawning her child on my boyfriend and interrupting in our relationship and everyone was mad because I didn't want any of it anymore...So, update...As he continued to treat her needs ...
A. 1 October 2006: I take it that you two hadnt yet moved in it together ? Had you moved out as you two split and then he bundled her in ?
If its your house you have rights and you can have them removed. But im not sure who owns what bit of the house ? Do you own ... (read in full...)
Does all this mean that she does actually like me ?
Q. well theres a girl that i like, we have been talking over msn for about 4 weeks now, and we talk for about 3-4 hours a night (maybe more on weekends), we have a real good laff and stuff, and she says and does things which make me think she likes me, ...
A. 29 September 2006: Hey there!
Yeah I would say she definately likes you! She was probably looking forward to hooking up and wanted to show you she liked you by asking if you were going in to town so she could spend some time in your company, and was probably... (read in full...)
Update! I made that fake account on AdultFriendFinder and she fell for it!
Q. Ok, well, I've posted the last couple days about my g/f that is away at school and is on adultfriendfinder.com. I made a fake account, and she fell for it, and talked to the fake guy "me" for about 2 hours, and how she wants to hook up and she's not ...
A. 29 September 2006: Well I guess at least you know she hasnt acted on it yet, but the deciet is still there and what she should have done was instead of telling the supposed other guy, is she should have indeed have been telling you! Dont know how you want to play... (read in full...)
We are having a problem when it comes to sex!
Q. I have just started a new relationship and me and my partner are having a problem when it comes to having sex,we cant seem to get my partners penis inside me to me it seems to be something stopping it or if we do it slips out straightaway.Is there ...
A. 29 September 2006: Relax and dont think about it!! Its all to do with the tension at the time and the will it wont it happen again type thing.
Not sure if your are a virgin or not, but maybe try the doggy position to start yourselves off... Its a bit like once you... (read in full...)
Any idea how to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you?
Q. Any idea how to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you??? If he is there's no way on earth he'll admit it, so I want to find a way to know the truth....
A. 29 September 2006: Sorry must have mis understood, I thought he was already cheating on you and you were trying to catch him out ? Not setting him up as though to cheat?
Dangerous I would say, most men out of curiosity would want to know who it is thats suddenly... (read in full...)
Any idea how to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you?
Q. Any idea how to find out if your boyfriend is cheating on you??? If he is there's no way on earth he'll admit it, so I want to find a way to know the truth....
A. 28 September 2006: Follow him ? There isnt a sure fire way, but if you have a gut instinct about it, then its only a matter of time before he will foul up. There must be some reason you think that he is cheating ? How he behaves, what hes been up to etc.. Far ... (read in full...)
Dont know why shes suddenly gone off sex, Im thinking its me, but she says shes not ready anymore!??
Q. hi, me and my gf have been with each other 9 months, she is 16 (nearly 17) and i am 17, and i am madly in love with her vice versa. we used to have a really good sex life for about 4 months but in the last month or two she has gone off sex and most ...
A. 27 September 2006: I think you need to let her know your concerns about this, and let her know that you feel this way and feel that its you because of what has gone before. Now what it appears on the surface is that she is not ready to spread her wings sexually ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 22 September 2006: I dont understand the rated by question asker anyway...
I mean yeah I get that the one currently at the top of the list means they have been rated by the question askers 8 times with a high rate, presuming excellent, = 10.00 what I dont get is that... (read in full...)
How do I tell if my teacher really fancies me? He seems quite friendly to me!
Q. hi, i fancy my teacher and he seems to be extremely friendly and chatty towards me and my friends all say he does little things like when we were performing a play, one eye was following me around. how do i tell if he fancies me/loves me/just...
A. 22 September 2006: I agree teacher pupil relationships seldom work and there is normally alot more baggage and problems to peel through..
Oh i used to watch it way back then, when it was so much better than it is now... but still cant tear myself away from it, it i... (read in full...)
How do I tell if my teacher really fancies me? He seems quite friendly to me!
Q. hi, i fancy my teacher and he seems to be extremely friendly and chatty towards me and my friends all say he does little things like when we were performing a play, one eye was following me around. how do i tell if he fancies me/loves me/just...
A. 22 September 2006: Thank god for that Bonym! Im not the only one who wathces it!! lol.. ... (read in full...)
I'm leery of marriage? Is there people out there who have been married a long time and still happy?
Q. Hi all, I come from the land of Divorces. I think only one or two marriages in my family, thus far, have survived. So I was thinking today what my future marriage(s) will probably follow the same path. And now that divorce rates are so high...I ...
A. 22 September 2006: Aww just read the post by nobody and have to say that is oh so lovely! Made me all emotional lol... Nice to hear that some folks still are mad about each other after all that time. Bless x... (read in full...)
How do I tell if my teacher really fancies me? He seems quite friendly to me!
Q. hi, i fancy my teacher and he seems to be extremely friendly and chatty towards me and my friends all say he does little things like when we were performing a play, one eye was following me around. how do i tell if he fancies me/loves me/just...
A. 22 September 2006: Dont even go there. Its wrong, you know it. Just because you have a crush on your teacher does not mean that he fancies you. Thats what you want to happen. Your fruiends all like a bit of gossip and its all very nice fun banter at school, but in ... (read in full...)
Taking birth control pills and antibiotics...should I abstain from sex to prevent a pregnancy?
Q. Hello, this is a health-type question maybe someone can help me with. I am currently three months into taking birth control pills, but I have to take antibiotics for the next 10 days. I know they can decrease the effectiveness of the pills. My ...
A. 22 September 2006: Yes its always a good idea to use condoms when taking any antibiotics,those considered safe or not, even those that are supposed to not intefere is not a guarantee for everyone since we are all different! If ever in doubt use a condom as well, its ... (read in full...)
My gf and her best galpal message things to each other that I think is way over the top! What do you think?
Q. I recently read a a few comments on my girlfriends myspace toward her best mate, who is a girl... Im not sure if its the way they act together as whenever i've seen them together they're not as hyper, but they message each other random things li...
A. 22 September 2006: Best friends for girls are the best thing on earth lol... We tend to tell them everything, confide in them, cry with them,laugh with them, share with them and generally have fun. There is a big bond with us girls you know!
The expressi... (read in full...)
He has a great personality but I don't like his looks! Physical attractions means a lot....right??
Q. hi, i met this guy on myspace and we have been on a date! i love everything about his personality and we get on well! its just his appearance, i'm not attracted to him! i'v kinda turned him down because i dont find him attractive, it may seem ...
A. 22 September 2006: I would agree that attraction needs to be there. But speaking from personal experience, one date is not enough to pass that judgement!
I have myself before dated a guy and thought yeah your a great guy, but you dont look great... we got on great... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my period is late?
Q. is it normal that my period is late...its been 34 days since my last one. i am just looking for some reassurance that this is normal seeing as how i am typically regular and usually have a 27-29 day cycle. so i realize that i am not that far off ...
A. 22 September 2006: Its not unusual for a cycle to change to 32 days and 34 is just outside of that, it could be the added stress(sometimes college and things can be overwhelming and we just dont realise it) that you have and your body is as you say just adjusting. It ... (read in full...)
I play games on a website, but my family don't like it. Should I stop playing?
Q. Im Playing on this website.they start to say bad words.my famliy watch's me play the game on the coumpter and walk past me and look.if they saw them say a bad word.ill be in big trouble.should i still play it.or stop playing it so i dont get in ...
A. 22 September 2006: Depends if you want to get in trouble ? Not sure what your actually asking, you already have said that if they see it says bad words they will not like it and get you in trouble. So i think maybe stop playing it, if you know it will offend. Not ... (read in full...)
I put restrictions on our computers, so my son doesn't see porn sites and my partner is royally pissed off with me! What's up with that?
Q. I'm a female, late 40's. I have a young teen son, who is a sensible, good kid. However, he loves surfing on the net a lot, so I recently set up a new system in my home, where sexually explicit websites can't get into my home. It was a free service ...
A. 21 September 2006: I would agree, its not a trust thing, hes annoyed you have taken his option to look at a porn away. Now you say you have more than one pc, so im guessing that if he looked at porn you would not know anyway and its likely this has been going on all ... (read in full...)
Its all about her and what she wants, but I cant end it or I will look silly to others!
Q. I am trapped in the marriage that I never ever thought will turn out to be like this (just married 6 months). Basically the core of the problem are many, among them is that she is so obsessive about money, she sees everything as money, lives and...
A. 20 September 2006: I think you tell here what you have put here.
You say you dont want to look silly to others by admitting that this isnt working... Why is that ? If something is that bad why stay in it to save face ?? Thats not what living or a marriage is about... (read in full...)
I have cheated before, we are engaged together 3 years, but think im falling for someone at work!!
Q. I have been going out with my current boyfriend for nearly three years and we are now engaged, I am only 18 and I have cheated before but totally regretted it. I have been working in my current job for just over and now I think I am starting to fall ...
A. 20 September 2006: I dont think you actually love your boyfriend or the guy at work would not turn your head, and you certainly wouldnt leave someone you love to be with someone that just shows an interest in you. Or is there more you havent said here ?
Yes w... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to say I love you to someone you lose your virginity to ?
Q. Well my mate lost her virginity before me, but she wasnt in a long relationship like me and my bf. She used to always make me feel stupid, and give me the impression that i would lose my bf if i didnt have sex with him. She lost her virginity to ...
A. 20 September 2006: Hey Bonym I like the way you wrote that! Straight to the point, but must at admit that "V plates" made me smile! Never heard that term before.
Of course you should wait for someone special and someone you love, but as Bonym said, this day and ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: Hi,
Oh wasnt so much I was seeking for recognition it was more over to see who else was online at the same time and if they too are a moderator.
Anyway You know I like to rant on! ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: New features? What other sites do you use? .. and please tell a friend!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here! I ask this periodically... 1. What new features would you like to see? 2. What other websites do you use regularly? 3. Where are you from? Thanks to all the agony aunts, moderators and of course...
A. 20 September 2006: Well what can I add lol... I tell anyone and everyone that will listen about Dear cupid, Even my boyfriend refers people now! lol.. Dear cupid has in the last 2 years taken over my life, but in a good way! Have loved the changes to date and I ... (read in full...)
He treats me like his property
Q. I dont feel that am satisfied with my relationship. My boy friend treats me like his property while with other girls he is so nice. I dont know wat to say or do with him?...
A. 20 September 2006: How exactly is he treating you, what is it that he is doing that makes you feel unhappy ? How long have you been together and has this always been the case ? Im not sure what you mean when you say " treats me like his property, while with other ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want an open relationship
Q. i am not sure weather i think this way or anyone in my situation would think the same. we have been dating for the past 1 and half years and we love each other. our relationship started with online dating(we used to live very far) and it led to ...
A. 20 September 2006: He doesnt want an open relationship but sleeps with others when your not around!? Hmm interesting! What it seems to me is hes happy to be with you, see other people in the week, so long as you dont! So when he says hes doesnt want an open ... (read in full...)
Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 20 September 2006: Dazzer the point I was making is that cheating is not condonable and that when a cheater starts out cheating, its not generally because they NEED to, its more of a they WANT to, in effect they choose to rather than needing to! ... (read in full...)
How can I get my man to the docs to get these "Stress Spots" removed ?
Q. Hello there I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and I have noticed that on his penis he has some weird looking white spots. I have said something to him but he said that he has had them before and that they are due to stress. The thin...
A. 19 September 2006: You will need to check yourself for a while to be sure that they are not present, the HPV virus can live in your body for over 2 years without presenting itself. Once you have the virus thats it and it never completely clears up, but the break outs ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know of a sex shop nr Mill Hill ?
Q. Is there a sex toy shop, suitable for a 75 years old widow, near mill hill, london?...
A. 19 September 2006: Not sure if there is one near Mill Hill or not... But why not try this one... Its online, competitive prices and very discreet! http://www.sexshop365.co.uk/catalog/index.php... (read in full...)
We had sex in the middle of the night but my BF couldn't come! Is it me?
Q. My bf woke up in the middle of the night and wanted to have sex with me. After a long long time, he never came, so he stopped trying. I asked what's wrong, and he said it's because he woke up in the middle of the night, and some response of his ...
A. 19 September 2006: I think this is more common than people realise. Lots of men as Yos said do on the odd occasion just not orgasm, for no reason it just doesnt happen! Happend with me and my man before and well I thought it was me also! But it was just at that ... (read in full...)
Whenever im intimate with my boyfriend I feel he is very distant,I sometimes feel like a bit on the side!!!
Q. Well ive realised that everytime me and my bf do something intimite he seems to be very distant after. I spoke to him about it before and he said he didnt realise but its happened again and its making me feel i am being used. I know im not because ...
A. 19 September 2006: Well tell him exactly how you are feeling, that you feel you are a mate rather than a girlfriend and that you want to make a change. Ask him what he would like to do something fun and interesting, do something you havent done in a while, try and ... (read in full...)
She is in Paris being smug while I decided to finish up at school
Q. Hi everyone, So my girlfriend and I have been together for four and a half years now. We met at the end of high school and maintained the relationship throughout college (we did the long distance thing for a year as we went to different colleg...
A. 18 September 2006: Hey, I know how difficult this must feel for you and breaking up is never easy whatever the circumstances. But I dont think you will be doing yourself any favours hanging around until she decides enough is enough, that just isnt fair. Its almost ... (read in full...)
Whenever im intimate with my boyfriend I feel he is very distant,I sometimes feel like a bit on the side!!!
Q. Well ive realised that everytime me and my bf do something intimite he seems to be very distant after. I spoke to him about it before and he said he didnt realise but its happened again and its making me feel i am being used. I know im not because ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi,
Maybe you are reading too much into it hun, could it be that hes just relaxed in your company and after being intimate hes happy to just chill ? Id mention to him again and ask if there is anything up, if hes fine and simply doesnt realise ... (read in full...)
Does hugging your GF for longer mean you care for her more?
Q. Please read this question because some of you might finding it interesting as well!... now me and some of my friends were talking about hugging people and one of my friends said 'i think the longer you hold the girl for shows how much you care for ...
A. 18 September 2006: Dont think so no. I mean I cant remember how long my man hugs me for he just does! Somedays it will be lots other days slightly less... It doesnt mean that on the days he doesnt hug me as much that he love me less. So no you cannot judge love on ... (read in full...)
Is using food to enhance our sex life safe?
Q. My fiancee is wanting to use food, all different kinds, when we play, the thing is he wants to put it in my vagina then perform oral sex...is this ok? ...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi there,
Well food can give an erotic turn to any sexual encounter and can be a lot of fun. So longs you are careful and hes not putting something inside that could get lost! Then there shouldnt be a problem. The last thing you want is a for... (read in full...)
My BF looks at other women when we have sex!
Q. Why does my boyfriend have to look at other women while we are having sex? He also does not like me to make eye contact while we are having sex. We have been together for 4 years and I have not yet experienced the intimacy that I need. He i...
A. 18 September 2006: Curious as to what other women ? Where are these other women then ? Are you watching videos when you have sex, are they on posters, tv ? As far as the intimacy goes, tell him straight that you dont want him looking at other women, its you that hes ... (read in full...)
Depo Provera contraceptive question!
Q. hey guys, i need to know if anyone has been on the contraceptive Depo-Provera injection? If anyone has, can you tell me if you had any sudden - or arising side-effects. You see, ive been on it a year now, and over the past few months ive been hav...
A. 18 September 2006: Hi there,
It may be that the injection isnt suiting you, I would pop along to your doctor and get it checked out. I was on the injection for 6 months and experienced, no periods, and dizzyness and headaches, but these were all from the onset of... (read in full...)
I keep getting thrush when I have sex with my bf.
Q. I keep getting thrush when i have sex with my bf, but he doesn't have it. Is it possible that he is just 'carrying' it? Or that something else is causing it that is brought on by sex, because that's when i get the thrush back again. ...
A. 17 September 2006: Hi there,
It could be that he has got Thrush and you just can see it! Alot of men show no symptoms, and it can hide under the head of the penis. Some of the symptoms that do appear are redish spots on the head of the penis and sometimes flaking ... (read in full...)
Sorry to bother but:- Does the same apply to women as men, once a cheat always a cheat ?
Q. Good answers on the male-female cheating question. But I've got one more question sorry to bother. When males cheat its most likely than not they are going to do it again, evean if they luv their spouses. Is it safe to say the same for women. Or ...
A. 15 September 2006: I dont think anybody knows that until it happens!
I dont think people set out to cheat they are just maybe to some ends weaker, male or female. You cannot say if someone cheated male or female if they will cheat again. it doesnt work like that... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 15 September 2006: Well if hes not going to tell you what the problem is and continues to act in this way then you really do not have a choice. He is totally selfish. Does he truly realsie what he will lose ? There is clearly something that he is not telling you. ... (read in full...)
Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 15 September 2006: Yep I totally concur with you Yos, But we do forget is that sex is a WANT not a NEED.
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Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 15 September 2006: Yos, Thats a deep way to look at it! Agree cheating is not acceptable in the slightest from in my book. But I dont think that everyone that cheats or has been cheated on(i have been cheated in) thinks in that way, its the physical side and the ... (read in full...)
Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 15 September 2006: I asked my partner this question the other week. Being an aunt on here you do see lots of questions regarding cheating. But the ones that tend to have a problem moving on and letting go are the males. It all boils down to women are actually more ... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 14 September 2006: Honey whatever you do, dont hand over your money to him until you know where this relationship is going. Its no way to behave in a relationship. have you tried voiceing out how you feel, told him that you dont want to live like this ? This is not ... (read in full...)
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