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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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She's in her 30's and still copies what I wear!
Q. I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her. I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties...
A. 16 July 2006: Well perhaps she will take some time to think about it and if she valued your freindship she would see your point. She will probably calm down and in time will come to see how she was acting was causing some stressing on your behalf. She will come ... (read in full...)
She's in her 30's and still copies what I wear!
Q. I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her. I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties...
A. 12 July 2006: YOu may have to be ruthless in that case... just tell her to blooody stop it! lol Sorry but you gotta tell her openly and honestly that its scaring you and that you wish she would find her own identity! Being sensitive about it is one thing but if ... (read in full...)
I want to stop thinking about my ex. It's been a month and he's still stuck in my head!
Q. I'm trying to get over my ex so badly but doesn't seem to be working. It's only been over a month but feels like forever. I've try to get my ex back but he's determined to see other people. We were on talking terms but yet again hes began ignori...
A. 26 May 2006: Good luck and stay in good spirits, Life can be so so different with each path or corner we turn.
Take care!
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How do I get her back ?
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we decided to split up for a while due to use arguing all the time so after that things were going well then one day she said shes not happy no more and wants to split for good what do i do i love her ...
A. 25 May 2006: Maybe try and talk to her and ask why shes not happy with you guys anymore. Perhaps after you know this you will be able to move on, sorry to say it soundslike she already has. At least give it a shot and see if you can feel a bit better knowing ... (read in full...)
Can I trust my fiancee not to cheat if we get married?
Q. Hi...I'm due to be married in August to a beautiful kind and hardworking lady. We have dated over the last 4.5 years and over that time the only problems we have ever had centre around me being able to trust her. She cheated on me with an ex and ...
A. 25 May 2006: Marriage is a huge commitment based around trust, love respect and growing together. So far shes not being fair to you in alot of ways, sleeping with ex's, texting men all different times that are "friends" and ex's, kissing a stranger!! Im not ... (read in full...)
Fallen out of love with my hot-tempered husband, but I don't want divorce, either...
Q. Need advice urgently. I’m married for 1 ½ yrs, no kid. I have problems with my husband. He’s very hot-tempered, flared up easily. Always impatient when talk to me. He always put on grouchy face which spoil my mood a great deal. This hurts me a ...
A. 25 May 2006: Well try and talk to him about a few things, tell him whats on your mind and see how you can improve things for the good for the both of you together. The guilt wont subside unfortunately, but is this likely to happen again as you are clearly ... (read in full...)
He's 52, I'm 17...how to get to know him..so we can be better mates?
Q. I'm 17, he's 52. We get on well and we've known each other for over 5 years. He calls me a mate which is great but we don't know much bout each other. We've always speak whenever we see each other and i trust him but i still don't know much bout ...
A. 25 May 2006: Not sure what really gives her, and why you need feel you need to have a friend quite so old!? Perhaps you have something missing in your life and you feel you need somebody older to guide you ? Thats the only possible reason I would think that a ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help my sister get away from the loser she's with?
Q. My younger sister (19) has a new baby with a guy that is a very bad seed.. no job no, high school diploma, no license (cause he lost it due to well - bad things)And has been in jail many many times... oh and then there is the cheating on her and the ...
A. 25 May 2006: The problem is that when someone is in a situation like this, there is nothing that you can say that will make them rethink or leave. They will only do this if and when they are ready to. All you can really do is be there for her, and listen to ... (read in full...)
I want to stop thinking about my ex. It's been a month and he's still stuck in my head!
Q. I'm trying to get over my ex so badly but doesn't seem to be working. It's only been over a month but feels like forever. I've try to get my ex back but he's determined to see other people. We were on talking terms but yet again hes began ignori...
A. 25 May 2006: Yes time is a great healer, and it does take time to get over someone, we dont know how long as each of us is different.
But want I actually think you are doing is trying to find ways to get back with him, and thats why your still hanging ... (read in full...)
How could he say he loved me, then just go and sleep with another woman?
Q. Hey there, I feel really down. I finished with my boyfriend last week who I loved so so much. I finished with him because I'm mega insecure and I was driving myself crazy worrying that he didn't like me!!! Anyway he told me he loved me and he'd nev...
A. 25 May 2006: Im sorry that you have been let down so badly like that at such a young age. It will get better I promise. The reason you cant stop thinking about him because its still new to you and you dont really want to let go, but you know you have to. You ... (read in full...)
Could my friend's fiance have gone from gay to straight?
Q. Just a question. Is it possible for a gay man to ever truly fall in love with a woman? My friend has been dating a man with a homosexual past--she says he has at times been attracted to women but not strongly. They are talking marriage now. Do ...
A. 24 May 2006: Bit hard to say, Some people are bi-sexual, its not just a fangled word, there are those that can equally have a relationship with the same sex or the opposite sex. My friend allbeit that shes female, had about 3 relations with women before she got ... (read in full...)
He is 22 and feels he is too young for our relationship to work
Q. I am 24 and my partner of 3 1/2 years is 22. We have not long ago moved into our second property and within the last few months grown further apart. Last week, he left to go back to his parents for time to think. He says he feels that he is ...
A. 24 May 2006: Not saying this is the case, but many years ago! I was in a relationship for 6 years with who I thought was the love of my life. We too were in V early twenties, Things were totally fab or so I thought, we never argued, pretty much let each other ... (read in full...)
I am getting married but everyone I know hates the groom
Q. I am tired of everyone telling me my partner is not good enough for me. When I say everyone, I mean everyone... my best freind, all my friends, my family, my cousins, my work colleagues, my exs' even !!! I know he is not the best looking guy on e...
A. 24 May 2006: Honey, you say yourself that your not happy in your relationship, you are doing your best to compromise, but if your not happy its not gonna work. Your friends can probably sense that you are not happy and dont want to see you making a mistake, ... (read in full...)
Advice says I should stop before it gets out of hand...But I think it has already! Help
Q. I posted a question about an ex lover of 26 years ago getting in touch with me , I am happily married have been for 21 years, and get this e-mail from my ex . I have read the replys from crying eyes, cos you are telling me to stop before it gets ...
A. 24 May 2006: You want to tear apart a marriage of 21 years for what could turn out to be a fling ? yes it all seems new and exciting because you have been married to the same man for so long! Your now getting the attention of someone else that you once had ... (read in full...)
My husband was using online dating sites but he got caught
Q. while i was taping an account name into my computor a list of previous names typed in on my computor came up, i had to double take because a porno/horny type name came up with my husbands name in it, i instantly kicked him out but he denyed knowing ...
A. 24 May 2006: Hey, He got caught! Of course he doesnt remember!!! Okay lets see, He has done this regardless of what he says to you, he has joined a site and put himself out there as a single man so to speak advertising for sex. NO matter how much he says he ... (read in full...)
Difficulty sleeping next to my partner!
Q. Is there a problem if a couple can't sleep next to each other (as in both parties remain half-awake or sleep very little)? Will it go away with time?...
A. 24 May 2006: I used to not be able to sleep with my guy, he figits, snores and sleep walks! At first it was really nice, neither of us wanted to go to sleep anyway, it was new and exciting and the butterflies kept us awake. But as time went on, he would fall ... (read in full...)
My lover wanted to be with me for all time, then decided that he's straight!
Q. Dear Agony aunts, I need some advice and thoughts. I was in a gay long distance relationship, where we had plans on getting married. We were together for two years, and through out these two years we were devoted to each other. When we were to...
A. 24 May 2006: Ive not had first hand experience of a gay relationship but I would have said that your guy is actually bi sexual rather than gay. He obviously likes both sexes, but cant make up his mind which he does prefer, when hes with a man he loves the male ... (read in full...)
Can I patch things up with my ex on this holiday away we have planned?
Q. Hi, im really after some advice. About 3 months ago my girlfriend ended our relationship of 2 years because of my drinking habit. I used to drink just about every night after work and had roughly 4/5 cans each night. She told me pleanty of times to ...
A. 24 May 2006: First off, its a free holiday! Why wouldnt she want to go!? Anyways, maybe she wants to see what your like in a different climate for a change, and to see how she feels, the just friends thing, could well be to protect herself. Dont push her, let ... (read in full...)
I think he may be holding me back... How to proceed?
Q. I`ve been with my boyfriend for three years and we have a beautiful daughter together.The thing is I don`t feel like he`s the one for me anymore.I am a young mother and I have alot of goals for myself and my daughter,and I don`t think that I will ...
A. 24 May 2006: First and foremost you need to talk to him. Find out if he feels the same way. See if you cant find ways to achieve these goals together. You have a daughter together, is it really fair to say, well your not want I want now so im offing with your ... (read in full...)
He wants me on top, but it just doesn't work!
Q. My Boyfriend always likes me to be on top when we have sex, but I honestly can't do it! His penis keeps coming out and I can't keep control and rhythm at all. I've tried it a few times and I just can't do it. I hope this question gets posted o...
A. 24 May 2006: Maybe try facing the other way... this can add to the excitement as well, you may be trying too hard, relax a bit and take it slow. If you face the other way, your not so inclined to be looking at what face he is pulling and believe me he will like ... (read in full...)
Sex was a horrific experience but now he won't try it again!
Q. hi, i hope someone can help i love my boyfriend very much as he does me but we cant have sex when we attempted to have intercourse his foreskin burst in 2places the blod loss was horrific he says it cos he's to big and i'm tight now he wont attempt ...
A. 24 May 2006: Hi there! Its more common than you think, and it could be that hes got a very short Frenulum, the part that joins the foreskin to the head of the penis, or indeed was just tight from first time sex, or something like that. I have had first hand ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't there be more to our relationship..?
Q. All my boyfriend wants to do is make out all the time. what should I do? ...
A. 24 May 2006: Im guessing your pretty young, and well young men are very that way to begin but they do calm down.. well some do! Maybe sit and talk to him, let him know how you are feeling and ask if there are things that they two of you can do together to avoid ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to break up with my girl because her hair is falling out!?
Q. Hi, I'm Tom. I've been going out with my girlfriend Anna for almost two months now. Everything was great until a few weeks ago when Anna decided to dye her hair red. Because she has very dark hair, she needed to bleach it first. She's always had ...
A. 24 May 2006: Maybe you do really really really like her but are scared to admit it now so as to save face. Hair on your head doesnt make you a person, neither does make up or a huge spot anywhere! We are what we are! its obvious that you are having doubts, ... (read in full...)
How do I not get too involved too quickly?
Q. How do I stop myself falling for someone too early - I am prone too being too eager but I do feel its best to keep a slight distance for a couple of months until you get to know someone and its also good to keep some mystery. But how to i stop ...
A. 23 May 2006: Its often pretty difficult when we like someone to act blaze about it. Try to just take each day as it comes, be more relaxed about responding to texts and phone calls and things like that, do things that take your mind of it until you feel you can ... (read in full...)
She's in her 30's and still copies what I wear!
Q. I have a friend who regularly copies things I buy or wear. Or tings I buy for my child or house. She picks up on things I say then a day later she tells people my story as if it happened to her. I wouldn't mind, but we are both in our thirties...
A. 23 May 2006: Well I guess its nice to have someone to admire you but some do go OTT! Maybe do something say something thats going to make her look a little silly when repeating things to others, nothing too drastic, just something thats really silly that she is ... (read in full...)
He has a whole box of memorials of his ex....should I say anything?
Q. I had recently asked a question concerning my boyfriend bringing a box over to my house (he lives with me) from his parents. When I looked in it I found a whole photo album of him and his ex. I was a bit bothered by that because when I asked him ...
A. 23 May 2006: What you seem to be missing is that this box and its contents are actually part of who he is. It may have gone before, but it doesnt mean it didnt happen, lots of people keep things its reminds them that they are alive, its probably not that he is ... (read in full...)
He cheated on me in the past and I just don't trust him any more...
Q. hi my boyfriend cheated on me at the start of our relationship but we got over it and moved on he has lived with me for a year and 8 months but i have trouble trusting him when he makes friends with girls , i get really jealous and insecure even ...
A. 23 May 2006: I agree with Dr Pete, The more you show you dont trust, the more hes going to feel inclined to do it, as you have more or less hung him anyway so hes gonna feel what the heck. Now he did wrong in the first instance, and you forgave him, you had a ... (read in full...)
What turns on teenage boys to girls?
Q. just wondering. can i have some boys opinions. what turns a 16 year old teenage boy on about a girl?...
A. 23 May 2006: Lol DrPsych! Although I dont think half would stop to find out if she had a pulse! :O)... (read in full...)
Engaged to someone, but still in love with my ex!
Q. I broke up with my ex 3 and a half years ago, and I'm now engaged to another man who I have been with for nearly 3 years, but I cant stop thinking about my ex. He broke it off with me and now he keeps telling me he misses me and still loves me, and ...
A. 23 May 2006: Have you maybe thought that he is only telling you this because you have moved on and he cant bare the thought that you have somebody else ? The fact that hes not ready to be with you, but hes damned if he will let you be happy with someone else ? ... (read in full...)
Pregant with my exs child and now hes nasty!!
Q. I am pregnant by an ex.i told him and he has turned very nasty and doesnt want to be friends with me anymore,he already has a child of 9 by an ex and they dont get on but he puts up with her to see his child why is he dismissing his unborn child ...
A. 23 May 2006: Maybe given time he will come around. He may think that given he is an ex that the baby is a way of trapping him and its come as a bit of a shock to him. Let him calm down a bit and approach him, tell him that you think hes a great dad already and ... (read in full...)
Am I still protected??
Q. I missed one pill and had unprotected sex the next morning - I was virtually at the end of the pack (3 pills left) - would i still be protected?...
A. 23 May 2006: NO. You should always use further protection when using the contrapceptive pill if you miss a Pill. You should use extra contraception for 7 days after the missed pill. The combined pill you can take upto 7 hours late,(although not recommended) the ... (read in full...)
Do boys want to have sex with someone they love??
Q. do teenage boys want to have sex wiv someone they love or dont they care? do they just want it wiv anyone on their first time?...
A. 23 May 2006: Sorry but I could be wrong, but this question seems to be similar to one thats already been posted.. are you the same poster ? Is sex all boys think about.. In the answer I gave there, Its hard to say, alot of young boys want to get out there and ... (read in full...)
Is sex all that boys want and care about?
Q. i am 15 and my boyfriend is 16. me and my boyfriend had r first date a few days ago. we have been together for a week. on r date he asked me if i wanted to go somewhere to have sex wiv him. i didnt really answer and just sort of laughed it off. he ...
A. 23 May 2006: Bit hard to say, alot of teenagers want to experiment and see what its all about, some genuinely care, others do indeed just think about sex so they can go and brag to others! We are all different so you cannot put us all under the same umbrella, ... (read in full...)
My bf is going away on holiday... is he going to cheat?
Q. im not sure how to feel, my bf is going on hols with a group of guys in a few months, they are all 28-32 and he is the only one not single. i had no problem with it as i was chaging jobs an cant offer to go on a hol with him as i dont know what ill...
A. 23 May 2006: You cant really put all men into a basket and say they are cheaters... We are all very different, some cheat some dont, some women are just as bad as the men, he could be feeling the same, whilst hes away he doesnt know what you will be getting up ... (read in full...)
Climax Dilemma
Q. I don’t think I have ever felt an orgasm even with all the foreplay (finger me , clitoris) my ex used to do, he was the only one reaching one, now I am alone and horny , and I don’t want to have one night stands or frees because of this, can you ...
A. 23 May 2006: Explore and experiment. Play with your clitoris, invest in a love egg, they are small vibrating bullets that can be placed around the area, either alone or with a partner, the vibrations gradually bring you to orgasm, but you need to be free to ... (read in full...)
He is smoking cannabis and its breaking us apart!
Q. my boy friend and i have been togther for over a year now and although when we met i knew he smoked cannabis that didn't matter because ive known him for many years and what kind of person he is, when we first got together he really cleaned up his ...
A. 23 May 2006: I wouldnt neccesarily say that Cannabis is not a big deal.. any drug can be addictive and change the personality of a person, and change them from what they really are, so surely something that changes you in that way, that you dont really have a ... (read in full...)
internet guy still has a dating profile online,is this abnormal?
Q. I met a man on internet dating site, it has been about 4 months. I cancelled my profile after about 2 weeks and to my surprise he is still on there. I confronted him...and he says that we are compatible and the age difference is what he is concerned ...
A. 23 May 2006: Well after a couple of months... 9 or so weeks you get to where you feel comfortable with someone and things start to turn the way they naturally should ie, start to get more intense or drift... you start to know if you want to be together and ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he liked the bj I gave him... and does he shave his "shaft" ?
Q. hi, i gave my boyfriend a blow job recently and im not sure how he felt about it. It was my first time so id like ta know how it was for him but we havent really talked about it. We've been together awhile and can talk about almost anything but i ...
A. 22 May 2006: Hey girl, Most men love the fact that you are giving them a blow job, its the fact that your doing that turns them on! If he came it would suggest yes he liked it! shame you coudlnt talk more at the time, but perhaps as time goes on you can feel ... (read in full...)
Do others feel the same pain on the anniversaries of painful events?
Q. It was year ago today that I broke up with my longtime partner and things are getting better and better. For some reason, though the week leading up to the breakup day and the day itself have been hellish. I feel as raw and upset as I did on the day ...
A. 22 May 2006: Its because in your mind you didnt want to let go and probably still dont, it does become easier over time but only if you let it. Its a date in your head so your bound to know when its coming up, try and focus on the good things in life, nuture ... (read in full...)
My fella has a big fella! Can it damage me?
Q. My boyfriend's penis is massive but we're planning on having sex soon. It'd be my first time and i'm so scared. It's painful enough being fingered, i'm worried he'll do actual damage to me. What can we do?...
A. 22 May 2006: Perhaps you should go ontop... use plently of lube, make sure your really in the mood. If your on top your in control and can take as little or as much as a time that you are ready for, your bound to be apprenshive at first, but gradually and ... (read in full...)
My relationship is fading... what can I do?
Q. i'm 13 and me and my boyfriend have started to become more distant, i haven't seen him for a long time, what could i do to help the relationship. (by the way i'm a bisexual guy)...
A. 22 May 2006: Perhaps talk to him, you dont go into much detail here. Your young maybe you need to both go off and explore different things. But unless you ask him whats up then you will never know, try to get on with other things, make new friends and see what ... (read in full...)
She made his life but still the jealously and fear wont go away!!!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 months, he broke up with his ex at the beginning of the year and they have a daughter together. She moved up north with the little girl and he goes up and sees her about twice a week. When we first starting dating ...
A. 22 May 2006: Hey there, I can understand where you are coming from on this, but no matter what you do you cannot take away the fact that the ex is the mother of his child. She will always figure at some point as she is part of his life as is his daughter. The ... (read in full...)
He looks 10 years older than he really is and we get odd looks from people.Should I still date him?
Q. Hi everybody...ok to get to the point. There is this one guy I know who is very sweet and caring. I am 19 and he is 25, which isnt a problem at all except for one thing. He looks like hes 35(he dresses older, he is losing his hair already, etc..)but ...
A. 7 April 2006: Who cares what other people think ? If you are happy then let no one else pass judgement. You make your own happiness in life and if you want this to happen let it, no one else can make your happiness, and if small minded people want to look and ... (read in full...)
We have sex and I'm in pain for days after. I think his penis is too big! What can I do?
Q. i have a problem everytime me and my boyfriend have sex i`m in agony for days i think maybe his penis is to fat please help me ...
A. 7 April 2006: Without a doubt get to the docs!!! At least if they get you checked out your mind will be out at rest. Sex should not be painful, if it is then you need to do something to resolve this. It could be something very simple, but at least get it ... (read in full...)
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