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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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My boyfriend is really confused & says he feels "stupid"...
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me because he said that I am too good for him and that he is not sure if I am the one who he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Last year he was making plans for us to get married but all of a sudden changed his ...
A. 21 April 2005: Its a possibilty that hes found someone else. Ive had this happen to me before. a guy told once told me that he felt I loved him more than he loved me, and that he felt I did too much for him and he couldnt handle it anymore. He also tried saying ... (read in full...)
She tells me nothing happened, but she's still chatting and texting her guy on the Net.
Q. I found out my lady met a man she chatted to on the net. She says nothing went on, but she texts & talks to him on the phone a lot. Although I love her dearly I don't want to be taken for a fool. What should I do? I am in turmoil....
A. 21 April 2005: Well if this all went on behind your back, then you are going to have a hard time trusting her. If she was upfront about it in the begining and told you what she was up to then you wouldnt be doubting her. You need to tell her how you feel about ... (read in full...)
I seem to misunderstand my boyfriend often and keep annoying him...
Q. This morning, I hugged and kissed my boyfriend as usual before I left for work. He said sometimes he thinks he is just my pet. This upset me very much. He told me a while ago that he loved to be stroked. I feel very upset that I have annoyed him...
A. 20 April 2005: Okay time to take a reality check. Why should you sit there worrying all the time if you have upset him ? You either get him to tell you whats up or you walk away. He is being very horrid to you in that one minute he tells you that he likes to... (read in full...)
What does it mean if I'm "too good" to him?
Q. What does your boyfriend, after 2 years relationship, mean when he says that you're too good for him and that you treat him too good?...
A. 20 April 2005: Perhaps hes Guilty of something! Or he could just be simply trying to tell you how grateful he is. There isnt much to go on here, so I'm not sure what context he could mean it in. I would take it in that he loves you and that hes glad hes got you, ... (read in full...)
I like him, but he's 2 years younger than me. Is he too young?
Q. I am 18 and I really like someone who's 16 and male. I don't know what to do. Is he too young for me?...
A. 20 April 2005: When I was 16 I started dating a guy who was 14. It didnt seem odd in the slightest as we got on pretty well and had alot in common. I guess we probably grew together as we lasted 6 years, and they were a more or less happy six years. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never climaxes any more...
Q. After a tough year and a half my boyfriend never climaxes with me anymore. How can we overcome this?...
A. 19 April 2005: There isn't much to go on in your letter, but I'm guessing that he can manage to Climax on his own ? If that is the case it at least rules out a medical problem. Might be worth getting him checked out to be sure. Also, perhaps he's paying t... (read in full...)
My g/f says sex is uncomfortable, but 'no sex' is uncomfortable for me!
Q. My girlfriend has stopped having sex with me. She says it's because she doesn't feel nice. She has put on a little weight and now she feels ugly but it's really getting to me and I want to have sex. What should I do?...
A. 18 April 2005: Sex is a two way thing. And respect goes along way. You need to make her feel special. You seem to be thinking of only you in this in that, its YOU that wants sex, YOU that thinks you got the problem, YOU that needs to maybe be a little flexible. ... (read in full...)
She tells me she doesn't want "pressure", but I need to know if our relationship is going somewhere...
Q. Been going out with a woman (55 years old) who has been separated for 8 years but still sees her husband, who lives nearby, from time to time. She also finished with boyfriend of the last 8 years about 3 months ago - at the time I started seeing ...
A. 16 April 2005: Honey, I think you need to move on and to leave her to cool for a while! Shes obviously still dealing with issues with her ex. Its not fair on you to be some distraction for her, whilst she deals with getting over her ex. Its clear she isnt over ... (read in full...)
Read my girlfriend's diary, now she says she doesn't trust me...
Q. I read my girlfriend's diary. There was something in there that caused me pain about another guy. I became quiet and she realised something was wrong. I told her I read her diary and now she says she does not think she can trust me and will not ...
A. 16 April 2005: Trouble is trust works both ways. You didnt trust her, so you looked in her diary. She now cant trust you as you read her diary! We all do silly things when we are in love and frightened of losing someone, but to act distrusting is so hard to ... (read in full...)
Just can't stand the way my bf's ex is so touchy-feely with him!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years. The only problem is his ex-girlfriend. I cant stand her and she feels the same about me. They were together for five years and I feel like I just can't compete. Whenever I bring it up with my ...
A. 16 April 2005: First off, he has said to you he will not change the way he is with her! Hmm he likes the attention by the sound of it. Is he recripricating ? Are the texts messages that he sends back to her of the same nature she sends him ? This is a bit like ... (read in full...)
My husband tells me the ad that appears on the internet dating site "must be a mistake"...
Q. My husband cheated on me before we married and it took me a long time to trust him every again. But now we have been married for 12 years and I completely trust him again. Until I found him checking out dating services on the internet. We have l...
A. 16 April 2005: These unfortunately are the dangers of the internet! Too much out there to tempt the guys! You say he has cheated before.. that in itself is something hard enough to get over, but to then find an ad on a dating site, whoah! get him in check.. you ... (read in full...)
Girls: Do you prefer sensitive guys or muscly show-offs ?
Q. Dear GIRLS!!! I have a theory about the type of guys you like and need some advice. I think that most girls when they are in their teenage years prefer muscly, jerky show-offs, and then adults prefer sensitive guys. I'm pretty sensitive, and I ...
A. 16 April 2005: Everyone is different, and we all like something different about the type of guy we go with it. Some girls like show offs, others like sensitive types... there is alot more to a person than what most see.. its that, the girls like. Just because a ... (read in full...)
He takes up too much room in bed... or I do. How do we compromise?
Q. My boyfriend and I are having trouble sleeping in the same bed because we both argue I/he takes up too much room. How can we stop this?...
A. 15 April 2005: Buy a superkingsize!! We did and there is so much more space... before that we used to argue aswell... I still think it was him! lol.. Get a bolster to put down the middle... this divides up that bed and would stop either of you rolling in to the ... (read in full...)
I try to move on with my life, but I feel like I should wait for my ex to come back!
Q. Hello, I split up with my boyfriend of five years, a year ago and i am still deeply in love with him. He is with someone else now and has moved in with her and I am with someone else too who I care for very much but I'm not sure I am in love with ...
A. 15 April 2005: Stop! Your ex is your ex for a reason. If you try to live in the past for whatever reason it will all end in tears! You have both moved on. The reason you are not so sure of your feelings for your new man is because you are constantly sitting ... (read in full...)
I'm "not the cause" of our separation, so what can I do to persuade him to come home?
Q. My husband has left me this morning for a trial separation as he says the he does not love me enough anymore. However he says that I have not been the cause. I am heart broken and want him home. What can I do?...
A. 15 April 2005: Hard as it sounds.. When someone stops, or falls out of love with you, you very rarely get it back. I dont know how long your trial seperation is for, or if your in contact. Maybe you should sit it out for a bit, give him his space, and maybe he ... (read in full...)
Should we move in together, just to save us travelling... or should we end it?
Q. We are in love but although we have managed the 3hr journey back and forth for the last 7 mths. It is becoming more and more difficult, tiring and expensive. I have my own home and a good job, he rents but lives around the corner from his kids (10...
A. 14 April 2005: Move or finish a relationship that you might regret. If on the whole your relationship is pretty good and solid, then I would suggest giving it a go with moving in together. I know you say he is nervy about doing this, but it may be the only ... (read in full...)
I fancy a girl with a lot more experience than me. What if she wants to go too far?
Q. There is this girl who I know really likes me and I really like her as well but I know she is very experienced with boys, not in an over the top way but I know she has done a lot more than me. I would like to go out with her but am worried she will ...
A. 14 April 2005: Take it easy... The first step is to date her. You might find that after the date, she's not what you thought and you remain friends. Its the same for girls as it is for boys... if you get on really well and have dated a few times, and things go ... (read in full...)
My guy named his fantasy porn photo after my sister! Should I worry?
Q. My question is about sexual fantasies... My boyfriend and I have been dating for six years and a long time ago, I found some porn on his computer. I wasn't surprised at this, what I was surprised about was the fact that he had renamed the porn...
A. 14 April 2005: Hey! I think you have nothing to really worry about. This just seems like his way of filing things away so that he can find them again!! He probably didnt want you to see that hes been looking at porn etc, so the obvious thing to do is to hide ... (read in full...)
No eye contact... He won't come to bed unless I'm asleep... What's going on?
Q. I have been married for 12 years and have 3 kids aged 4, 8 and 11. My husband has been acting so strange lately. He has been ignoring/avoiding me especially and ties not to have face to face with or eye contact with me. This 3 months is so obvious ...
A. 14 April 2005: You really do not deserve to be treated like this. You have to think about number one and thats YOU! You need to be strong and tell him that you are not putting up with it. And unless he tells you what is wrong then tell him to pack his bags and... (read in full...)
He's been sneaking around with others and so have I, and it's bothering me...
Q. Hello, I've been in a relationship for three years, one that sort of just happened. This is my first relationship. Although my partner and I continue to express our deep love for one another constantly, the relationship has many flaws which have ...
A. 14 April 2005: From what I can see, You really only have one option. You have to tell him. In order for this relationship to work you are both going to have to be honest. You need to sit down and talk this through, and see if you can both see a future. So far ... (read in full...)
I have a lunch date with my ex, but I can't help wondering if she wants to get back together...
Q. Hello, About 4 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of two years. Recently she called me to talk as she was stressed about something. While we were talking she told me about a guy she is dating and she said it was not serious and they don't t...
A. 13 April 2005: Hey! Dont go jumping the gun! Shes called you meet up for lunch, Perhaps she values your friendship and would like to talk a few things over with you. Like you say you used to talk, perhaps she finds it easy to talk to you. She has afterall ... (read in full...)
Girls just don't thrill me the way they used to, not since I got dumped!
Q. HI, I got dumped by someone I really liked over a year ago and I'm over it now but I don't care about any of the girls I see anymore! I've had flings with lots of girls, all of them I was attracted to but when it comes down to it I just can't com...
A. 12 April 2005: Whats happening here is that you are determined not to get hurt anymore, by anyone, or anything. You say you are over the girl that dumped you, but it seems she has left a lasting impression in your mind of what all girls could be like!.. The thing ... (read in full...)
We've been having casual sex for 2 years, but I'm starting to feel used...
Q. I have been having casual sex with a guy on/off for 2yrs. After 3 months of no contact, he contacted and we meet up and had sex. He has said he doesn't want a girlfriend and I now feel like I am being used. what should I do?...
A. 11 April 2005: You need to simply be strong and end it. If its not something that the both want then you will resent this person. If you want more then he does then you are get incredibly hurt. Sounds as if you have got more feelings for this guy that you would ... (read in full...)
Next year we were due to be married, but now she's split, claiming she has "issues" to sort out...
Q. My girlfriend has just dropped a bombshell, that she thinks we should split up. We were due to be married next year, I don't understand she has been pushing to get married talking about kids now she says she loves me but has 'issues' she needs to ...
A. 11 April 2005: Hi there. Breaking up with someone you love is the hardest thing in the world to do. Maybe you she trying to protect you from something. Until you know what these "issues" are you cannot move on. Try sitting talking to her and asking her why s... (read in full...)
The girl I like won't go out with me, because her friend fancies me!
Q. Hello, There is this girl at my school who I fancy and she likes me, but her best mate likes me as well and she won't go out with me because her best mate fancies me. So can you please help me?...
A. 7 April 2005: Lucky guy!! Two woman that fancy you! What a predicament! The thing is, girls can be pretty bitchy when it comes down to it, but at the same time they stick together... The girl you like is probably trying to spare the feelings of her friend, it ... (read in full...)
For 2 months we've been trying sex in all sorts of postions, but I can't have an orgasm...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two months now and I cannot seem to have an orgasm?! We've tried different positions but nothing seems to work? help...
A. 6 April 2005: Better still, Invest in a love egg, ride on top and place the vibrating love egg against your clitorous. This is sexy for him as he gets to see you playing with yourself whilst you have your legs drapped around him and a double wammy for you as you ... (read in full...)
What signs will tell me if my girlfriend is cheating?
Q. Please help..I feel my g/friend maybe cheating..What are the signs to look for? - serious answers from ladies and girls most appreciated..Thank you.....
A. 6 April 2005: Yeah I would say secrecy was the main thing... but generally if a girl is cheating she will be very evasive with you about where she is going, or intends to go... Some even invent new "friends".. I would say though that gut instincts are not always ... (read in full...)
Need tips for new and exciting sex!
Q. Dear Cupid, Me and my partner have been having sex for about 6 months now and it's no long exciting or fun...what could I do to make it more interesting and fun for him..? He likes freaky things, so what could I do that is freaky yet comfortabl...
A. 6 April 2005: Maybe even go "dogging" it works for alot of others... to watch other people have sex and then have sex yourselves.. or maybe just let others watch you have sex! It does depend how freaky you guys really want to be!!.. ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon after breaking up for me to have met a wonderful new guy?
Q. I have recently split up with my boyfriend of 4 years. I don't feel any remorse and I don't miss him in the slightest. The thing is, though, that I have met this really great guy who is absolutely amazing. We have so much in common and are on the ...
A. 6 April 2005: Only you will know this hun... We are all different... It wouldnt hurt to give yourself some more time alone.. get back to learning who you are, and what you want from life.. a relationship break up is a good time for a spring clean so to speak... ... (read in full...)
Bad dating choices in the past have left me full of doubt...
Q. Hi, I have always seemed to go for non-suitable boyfriends and the last one I had I was with for 5 years and he was physically and mentally abusive. It took me a lot to leave him. I had a break from the whole dating scene for about 6 months. Then I...
A. 6 April 2005: Sorry that your past relationships have been so torrid hun, but you have to get over that if you are to make a fresh start! You have to start by accepting that everyone is different, and so is every relationship. It sounds as though you love ... (read in full...)
He cheats and keeps chatting with women online. I can't help but be jealous!
Q. I am married for more than 4 yrs now. I have 1 kid and I am pregnant right now. My husband has been addicted to chatting and texting women. I can't help but get jealous because he is always doing the same thing after having so many fights and ...
A. 4 April 2005: The main point I would like to make, is that he has already betrayed your trust, by sleeping with someone else. He is now carrying on in exactly the same way as if nothing has happened... Your first port of call is to stress to him how importan... (read in full...)
I'm so insecure and afraid that I'm going to ruin this great relationship!
Q. I'm 19 years old and me and my partner have been together 18 months. At first we were all over each other and spent all our time together. On the occasions when we did go out separately we both received attention from the opposite sex but I didn't ...
A. 1 April 2005: The main thing here honey, is he made it clear to his ex he wasn't interested. That in itself should tell you he wants to be with you. It wasn't him that went to her; it was the other way around!.. It's only natural to feel the way you do, you ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm chasing him for sex all the time...
Q. My partner and I haven't been together very long, only a matter of months. I love him very much but feel confused. When we do make love, it is fabulous but he doesn't seem to have the enthusiasm for it that I have. I guess I am an old romantic...
A. 1 April 2005: I feel a little the same as you... The main thing is that he loves you!... You need to take the focus off the sex issue for a while, as hard as it may be... of course he wants to be with you and finds you attractive and sexy or he wouldnt be with ... (read in full...)
He's so insecure because he can't make me climax every single time...
Q. I don't orgasm every single time I have sex. This has never been a problem with other lovers, but has become a major problem with my current boyfriend. He is very insecure and when it comes to not pleasuring me he gets really upset. What I c...
A. 29 March 2005: We are all so very very different. I think the problem with your partner is that is obsessed with making you orgasm for some strange reason. Sounds like an insecurity, sounds as though at some point he has been told that he has let a woman down... ... (read in full...)
We hang out, but he says he's not looking for anything "serious"...
Q. I recently got the guts to call a guy from my past. About 3 years ago, he and I had a little fling. It was nothing serious and it ended pretty quickly since I was about to move a couple hundred miles away. I had not seen him since, til this St. ...
A. 29 March 2005: Its clear that he is still with his Ex and you are just handy for a fling. Ask him outright where this is going and what the story is with the so called ex. Think you will find she isn't that much of an ex! If you want something serious and he d... (read in full...)
It feels like we're only together so that he doesn't upset me, and it's weird...
Q. I've been seeing this boy for over a month and lately he has been different, like distant. I worry too much and it gets on his nerves, as he has a lot on his mind and I totally understand and I want to be there for him. Then today, out of nowhere,...
A. 29 March 2005: It does depend on what these other problems he has are. Maybe he needs some space. Perhaps there is too much going on right now for a relationship. You need to talk about what's happening and face up to it. Unless these other problems are ... (read in full...)
Why would she tell me she was ill, then go out with her friends?
Q. I've been with my new girlfriend for 3 months and it's been going great. I was really looking forward to seeing her on her night off but she texted me and said she was ill and had been sick. Later, when I went out for a drive I saw her in a pub ca...
A. 29 March 2005: It could simply be that she was feeling ill and started to feel better. She could have made plans with the girls and thought you would be upset if she went out with them instead of you, so the easier option for her was to tell a little white lie! ... (read in full...)
The girl who's interested in me is younger than me. What do I do?
Q. Dear Cupid Hi, I am a 16 year old boy who lives in the UK and this girl I know who is 14 wants to go out with me. I don't know what to do, as I think people may think this is strange. Plz can you help me? cheers ...
A. 29 March 2005: Why would people think this was strange? We all start to date at some point and many of us around that sort of age group. If you are just dating then there is no harm in it at all, but remember she is not 16 so therefore lower then the legal li... (read in full...)
I can't talk to my mum about what to expect when I have sex.
Q. I can't talk to my mum about sex. I'm pretty sure I am going to bleed first time as I have from being fingered. If I did bleed, would it be a lot? What would I do if my mum found the blood in my bed? Please reply as soon as possible. many thanks x...
A. 29 March 2005: Hi there! first off, I hope you are 16 or over and are going to be using some form of contraceptive! Everyone is different, some of us bleed some of us don't. The reason that we bleed is due to the Hymen being broken which normally occurs when a ... (read in full...)
He claims he only comes around because I "pester" him. What's wrong with me?
Q. Please help. I've been seeing someone casually for a while now. He won't commit to me, that's why it's casual. He says he doesn't want to be with me. I'm overweight (size 16) and he said, given a choice between me and someone whom he cybered ...
A. 29 March 2005: Oh honey... Ditch him... get rid!!!... You are far far more special that he will ever be!! Don't ever forget that! To say those things to you is sinful... But hey, where does he always come running back to? You! That's how many other woman th... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is splitting hairs about his cheating. Do I give him a second chance?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend thought that I was going to finish wih him so he cheated on me. I did finish wih him but I told him how I felt. Ever since, he has been trying to get back with me. I decided to give him one last chance, when I found out that he ...
A. 29 March 2005: The question you need to ask here is why did you split up in the first place? Was it because you thought he was capable of cheating, is there already a problem between the two of you ? If it is true that he cheated when you were not together... (read in full...)
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