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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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It was my first time sex, we used a condom, but im worried about the "wet bit" is this a concern ?
Q. The first time I had sex was yesterday. I just got off my period 3 days ago so there is a lower risk of pregnancy. We used a condom and he seemed to know what he was doing. However, between my butt it was extremely wet. Could this have just been ...
A. 24 January 2007: Such a way with words Martini... chuckle..
Yes its most probably the lubriaction from the condom mixed with your secretions and a little of body sweat. Condoms can sometimes have a funny feel to them and can have like a wet feeling left behind. ... (read in full...)
Gf left me for someone she just met! What can I do?
Q. What can i do when my girlfriend of 6years leaves me for someone whom she just met??...
A. 24 January 2007: I dont think there is a lot you can do... Perhaps move on and find someone new yourself. She may regret her decision and come back but do you want wait around until she does ? You could contact her and found out why, but I doubt very much if it ... (read in full...)
My Ex-Girlfriend is lying, I want to confront her but how without letting on that I've been spying!!!?
Q. My Ex Girlfriends Lies yesterday (tue 23rd) my ex girlfriend walks through the door after work to say she got a phone call from a lad from manchester a friend of hers so i thought nothing of it at first until i noticed she was trying to hide h...
A. 24 January 2007: Shes your EX... This is an obssesion and its not healthy. I dont know your circumstances and why the two of you are living together, but as she is your ex, you have no right questioning her about her sex life, who shes sees, who she doesnt.. All ... (read in full...)
My bf says Dear Cupid has messed w/ my head and given me ideas. But I'm just watching out for myself!
Q. My boyfriend thinks that this site messes with my head, gives me ideas, etc. He thinks because I get on here and read these questions and try and give help, that I get ideas from what I read and that's why I'm suspicious about certain things that he ...
A. 22 January 2007: Unless of course the angle to this is that its giving you more fuel for your misconceptions ? Its all very well reading something, gaining knowledge, power, and understanding, but are you on here for your own reasons, or are you on here to try and ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and leading a double life with two different men!
Q. I love two men. One of the most complicated things that ever happened to me. Ive been struggling with this for almost a year. I have been living a double life, because they dont know about each other really. One has been my boyfriend for 6 years he ...
A. 19 January 2007: If you cant be honest with them... at least be honest with yourself! What do you really want ? At this stage I dont feel it is either man...
Perhaps your scared of not having either ? Scared of letting 6 years go but at the same time don... (read in full...)
Bf wants us to move in together but I'm scared he'll turn out to be a cheat like guys in my past. What shall I do?
Q. ive met a great man who loves me and my seven year old child. He wants us to get our own place but im scared. What if he turns out like the many other men in my life a cheat? I have no reason why and trust him. What shall i do? ...
A. 19 January 2007: Good Luck!! I Hope the future is very very rosey for you!
Take care x x x ... (read in full...)
Been with my bf for 5 years but he has no photos of me up in his house. Should I be worried by this?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together 5 years,in his home he doesn't have anything to suggest he's in a relationship, not even a photo of me or me and him together. I believe it's to say he is single and available,am i right in thinking this?...
A. 17 January 2007: I guess it would depend on who he had over at his house ? I mean is he inviting women over all the time ? And giving the impression he is single ? Or is it just this photo thing... Just because a Guy doesnt have any pics up doesnt mean didly ... (read in full...)
Bf wants us to move in together but I'm scared he'll turn out to be a cheat like guys in my past. What shall I do?
Q. ive met a great man who loves me and my seven year old child. He wants us to get our own place but im scared. What if he turns out like the many other men in my life a cheat? I have no reason why and trust him. What shall i do? ...
A. 17 January 2007: You have to go for it!! You cannot let the past cloud today! You have to take the stance that every relationship is new and cannot be compared to anything that had gone before. If you dont start a clean slate you will not have lived! I've been ... (read in full...)
What forms of contraception (other than condoms) are good for a migraine sufferer?
Q. Hey everyone Was wondering if anyone has any advice about contraception as my bf and i wanna stop using condoms (we have been together a long time) but i suffer with migrains so it limits what i can use Have looked on the net but due to the...
A. 15 January 2007: Hi there!
I get migraine too! I know how it feels and I sympathise! My doctor didnt like me on the pill as I get visual disturbances with mine and she recommend that I go on the Mini Pill..(progestogen only) Ive taken this for about 4 years no... (read in full...)
How do I draw the hair on my girlfriend's face to her attention, sensitively?
Q. I would like some imput on the best way to go about asking my girlfriend to remove some hair on her face. I know its not a huge deal and its natural, but this is the only flaw she has. The more i think about it, the more im drawn to look at it ...
A. 10 January 2007: As Rhythmandblues said.. there are alot of things that could pertain to this and without all the info its hard to really advise.... I see lots of women with slight facial hair, some dont notice it, some do and are over the top about it.... the ... (read in full...)
He stopped having sex with me and I found out why..he started an affair! Any advice?
Q. This is so typical that it almost hurts to write it, but pain propels my fingers. He starts an affair behind my back, but then believing he should only have sex with one person at a time, still hangs out with me, but stops the sex (with me), b...
A. 9 January 2007: Honey you owe it to yourself to be brave and move on and find a man that will love you for you! The last thing you wrote about him having no interest in marrying her, but maybe you.... What the hell!!!!!!! Hes only saying that to keep you ... (read in full...)
Is he genuine, or does he consider me to be forbidden fruit?
Q. Thank you for your kind advice. I have posted a question earlier with title "I wish never met the other guy. I do not want to have an affair" Since then, I have spoken to husband Peter and tried to work things out, we have talked a lot. Lots of ...
A. 9 January 2007: I think whats happening here is the thrill of it all. The reason things perhaps dont seem to be working or getting better with your husband is because of this John hanging around.
Who can really say what Johns intentions are, but if he were ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's addiction to porn is ruining our relationship
Q. Iv been with my bf for 3 years, im 20 and his 25, the problem is I work all day and when I come home I often find evidence that he has been getting off to porn, it really bothers me because he says that his sex drive is low do to some medications he ...
A. 9 January 2007: I dont think its just the porn issue here hun. "I never get the house to myself, even on my days off"
I can appreciate that him whacking off while your out at work is very frustrating, but well hes got into a habit that he cant break. You ... (read in full...)
Since the birth of our child, he never wants to have sex. I feel ugly and low on confidence.
Q. my boyfriend never wants to have sex with me. i had a baby a year ago and since then he never seems to want sex. it's really upsetting me and i'v tried to talk to him about it but he gets upset and angry with me for mentioning the problem. he says ...
A. 9 January 2007: A shot in the dark... But was he at the birth ? ... (read in full...)
Do I stop snooping and just confront him, demanding an answer?
Q. While paying the phone bill I found that my boyfriend sent 33 text messages in the past month. Not that unusual except that he has only sent 1 or 2 a month in the past and when I asked who he had sent so many messages to, he responded with a smile ...
A. 9 January 2007: I know how your feeling.... STOP! Stop the snooping now! If there wasnt a problem to start there soon will be! Ive fallen pray to this myself before, and no good came of it. Even if there is no other evidence they are cheating or intending to ... (read in full...)
Mobile phone call log help Razr. Any help appreciated.
Q. Hi, I need some people to really help me out with this one. I would really appreciate it. I need to know something about one of the features. I know the verizon razr has an ALL calls option(well my one friend has the razr and she says it doe...
A. 9 January 2007: Dr Pete, Not being funny... But the girl was here for help, not ridicule. ... (read in full...)
Mobile phone call log help Razr. Any help appreciated.
Q. Hi, I need some people to really help me out with this one. I would really appreciate it. I need to know something about one of the features. I know the verizon razr has an ALL calls option(well my one friend has the razr and she says it doe...
A. 9 January 2007: Hey Chill out a little!! I dont have the Rzr But I have got the motorola V3! They are pretty similar, just get more functions and stuff with the rzr but the principle is the same. Now with the V3 it only holds 10 in the previously dialed memory. ... (read in full...)
To parents out there--would you put your 16 year old daughter on the pill?
Q. would you put your 16yr old daughter on the pil...
A. 8 December 2006: Its not something I would enforce on her if shes not happy with it. I mean she could be offended that you automatically presume she will be having sex, and could show that you doubt her. But i would point out all the pit falls to her. Unprotected ... (read in full...)
I'm a bi male, age 23-would a committed relationship with a woman, work out for me?
Q. Is it possible for a 23 year old guy who has professed to be bi (has been with 7 women and 9 guys) survive in a committed monogamous relationship with a woman (which he started)? Should I be worried? Please post your comments!...
A. 8 December 2006: The term Bi is exactly that likes more than one sex! It doesnt matter on the sex, but the person. It would be the same if you were male he female vice versa or both female, if someone loves someone it doesnt matter the sex. If they are happy and ... (read in full...)
He never initiates sex... is he getting all the satisfaction he needs from porn?
Q. Is it possible your boyfriend could be fully satisfied with just looking at nude pics or porn? and not have the need to be very intimate with you? Thats the way i feel about my boyfriend right now. He thinks that, that is all i want in the ...
A. 7 December 2006: He may have a problem, Have you asked him ? Men are not all the same and not all of them are raging hard ons 24/7.. He might want to feel loved rather than viewed has a stiffy ? Just a different slant... maybe talk to him, ask him, tell him how ... (read in full...)
He downloads porn and I feel disgusted when I look at him! What should I do?
Q. He looks or looked at porn, has downloaded porn from the net. we talked about it and i how i feel about it and well it doesnt look like he is going to stop because he doesnt think its a problem. i see him as a pig and pervert and im disgusted by ...
A. 7 December 2006: Has there been a time when he hasnt looked at porn and then still doenst come to you ?
The two might not be linked... When i say that... He could just be getting off to porn as an outlet,rightly or wrongly, but it doesnt always mean that bec... (read in full...)
After my Pap Smear, I still have this odd Discharge, Can anyone tell me what it is ??
Q. Hi! I hope someone can help me out with this: I had got my period on the 19th of Nov and got done with it in about 5 days, 24th Nov. On the 28th I had my annual health check-up, in which I also got a pap smear test done. The doctor saw that ...
A. 7 December 2006: Opps looks like my answer was reapeated!!
Okay in response to your follow up... Im not entirely sure hun, up to that point I would have said yes pretty normal, and I just worked it out its 2-3 weeks since your period, so i guess your not due yet ... (read in full...)
My man is very into "Watersports" How common is this ???
Q. My boyfriend an i have a good relatioship and like to experiment, he recently confessed that he really wanted to give me a golden shower so i let him in the shower, i didnt mind it too much but wasnt great. He now bought porn with girls getti...
A. 6 December 2006: I dont think its that common, and some would say its a taboo subject, bit like how anal sex was considered once upon a time...
But times do change and different things float different peoples boats so to speak! But if your not comfortable with... (read in full...)
I like using the vibrator he got me better than having sex with him!
Q. My boyfriend and I have a very healthy sex life. However my problem is that I don't get the same "satisfaction" from intercourse as he does. He doesn't know this. Last year he bought me a vibrator as a present, and I'm worried I'm a bit addicted to ...
A. 6 December 2006: I dont think its abnormal to be using it that amount in between... What harm are you doing ? So long as its not impacting your sex life and your still enjoying a healthy sex life with him then theres no problem... im sure he has the odd shuffle in ... (read in full...)
HAd unprotected sex and took the morning after pill but..I missed my period. Am I pregnant?
Q. i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend at least 7 times in the same night 5 weeks ago and i took the morning after pill 4 days later. the lady at the clinic said it is only 65% effective because i took it late. Now i have missed my period and i ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hi,
As Stina as already said you will need to take a pregnancy test to be sure and consult a doctor with the outcome either way.
The thing that could be happening now is mind over matter making things feel a whole lot worse... I had a pregna... (read in full...)
After my Pap Smear, I still have this odd Discharge, Can anyone tell me what it is ??
Q. Hi! I hope someone can help me out with this: I had got my period on the 19th of Nov and got done with it in about 5 days, 24th Nov. On the 28th I had my annual health check-up, in which I also got a pap smear test done. The doctor saw that ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hello there!
This is relatively common and has happend go me before.
It just seems that the Period hung around for a while longer than normal and the lining to the cervix has been agitated by the smear test. Causing this, the period to hang a... (read in full...)
After my Pap Smear, I still have this odd Discharge, Can anyone tell me what it is ??
Q. Hi! I hope someone can help me out with this: I had got my period on the 19th of Nov and got done with it in about 5 days, 24th Nov. On the 28th I had my annual health check-up, in which I also got a pap smear test done. The doctor saw that ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hello there!
This is relatively common and has happend go me before.
It just seems that the Period hung around for a while longer than normal and the lining to the cervix has been agitated by the smear test. Causing this, the period to hang a... (read in full...)
After my Pap Smear, I still have this odd Discharge, Can anyone tell me what it is ??
Q. Hi! I hope someone can help me out with this: I had got my period on the 19th of Nov and got done with it in about 5 days, 24th Nov. On the 28th I had my annual health check-up, in which I also got a pap smear test done. The doctor saw that ...
A. 6 December 2006: Hello there!
This is relatively common and has happend go me before.
It just seems that the Period hung around for a while longer than normal and the lining to the cervix has been agitated by the smear test. Causing this, the period to hang a... (read in full...)
The masturbation equation
Q. Ladies. do all women masturbate and do you like it when men masturbate?...
A. 11 October 2006: Loaded question... ... (read in full...)
How do men get free sex without having to pay for it?
Q. Hi!, i need to ask a question that eveyone escapes from or ignores, without being offensive. How do men get free sex without having to pay for it. More and more men are struggling to get free sex. Its a growing problem that needs to be solved, its ...
A. 11 October 2006: Hmmm... Bears crocodiles and so on... your on a different planet I think, and are having a laugh with this.... Go away and grow up, your clearly not mature enough to be on this site!! ... (read in full...)
Technical question
Q. This is a technical question. Is it possible to remove a question you asked a few weeks ago from the website? I don't want the person involved to see it since our situation has changed....
A. 9 October 2006: What was the question ? If you let Andrew.. Dear cupid know he will be able to advise hun. If you havent got an email address on here try andrew@dearcupid.org from your normal email and he will be able to advise.. He will need the question title ... (read in full...)
My 2 year old will wee in the loo, but I cant get him to Poo!
Q. I have a 2yr old little boy. He will wee in the toilet without any problems at all he will ask to go and he is never wet. I am having a real problem in trying to get hi to poo in the loo or the potty. Everytime we try he starts screaming, we have ...
A. 9 October 2006: My 2 year old niece was the same.. She would happily go off do a number 1 wipe flush and wash hands. When it was time for number 2 there was screaming abdabs!! We found out that she was getting a tummyache, and sometimes was maybe a little ... (read in full...)
He went to my doctors to tell them I was depressed, but hes the one with the problem! He said maybe councilling is the way to go is this a waste of time ?
Q. for a few months now things haven't been going to good my husband has turned very secretive when he is at home his mind is else where. he works but soon as he comes in he turns his phone off, i checked it and its been same numbers comeing up all ...
A. 8 October 2006: I think councilling may help towards this, but im not entirely sure whats going on here! So hes gone behind your back to tell your doctor your depressed ? And your not happy about it ? your not feeling depressed and feel as though he is taking ... (read in full...)
When a woman has a multiple orgasm, what is the average number?
Q. What is the average number for a woman to have a multiple orgasm?...
A. 8 October 2006: There is no average! Sometimes it happens sometimes it doesnt, for some it never happens... its to broad to say and each time we have sex its different, different mood, different atmosphere... there is no such thing as an average... if your lucky ... (read in full...)
I suggested we have sex in the office, she turned me down, but has done similar with others ? Am I just being selfish ?
Q. Me and my Girlfriend have been living together now for almost 3 months and one day she came down to my work with my and the place was completely empty and no one was expected to arrive either, so i wanted to have sex (you kno something exciting keep ...
A. 5 October 2006: Well you shouldnt look at the relationship on what went before. There could have been lots of different reasons at that time why she said no. Theres no point in feeling hard done by as this will just make the situation worse.
Just because ... (read in full...)
Ive been having unprotected sex with my Bf since we have been together, do you think I could be pregnant!!!
Q. Since my boyfriend and i have been going out, we've had unprotected sex. Now the thing thats concerning me now is that my monthlys were due on saturday saw my bf and did it sunday, and its thursday, and still hav'nt got them yet. Im 6 days late, and ...
A. 5 October 2006: Im not sure the reason you are having unprotected sex, but it leaves you open to not only pregnancy but sexually transmitted diseases. Not knowing how long you have been with your partner,(having unprotected sex) But from what you say, the chances ... (read in full...)
Will vomiting cause the "pill" to be ineffective?
Q. I'm on the pill and i just want to know, If I vomit will my pill be ineffective? I was pretty sure it will be, but my bf thinks otherwise to now I'm not sure....
A. 3 October 2006: If you have any sickness whatsoever or any diarhoea(not sure on spelling) Then the pill will be ineffective, this should be in your leaflet enclosed with the pill. You should use another form of contraception for 7 days as well as continue to take ... (read in full...)
I think she only wants to be with me to appear cool!
Q. I have a girlfriend, but i think the only reason she is going out with me is because she just wants a bf to be cool, what should I do???? ...
A. 1 October 2006: Id say ask her! Just come plain out and ask why she wants to be with you! If shes only with you for that reason then get rid of her and find someone that wants you for you! It will only end in tears if you stay with her for the sake of ... (read in full...)
He says sex isn't everything in our relationship..so how come I pressure myself to have sex everytime I see him?
Q. I've been going out with my new boyfriend now for about 3 weeks, but the thing is, we've had sex from day 1 til now,except for twice,which i wouldn't normally do. He said that sex isn't everything and that he cares about me,so how come i feel like ...
A. 1 October 2006: How is he pressuring you hun ? Is he putting you in a situation that makes you feel you have to have sex with him ?
If he said it wasnt the be all and end all and meant it then the next time he iniates something and your not sure hold back. D... (read in full...)
He won't wear condoms because he says he gets a rash! Is this just an excuse?
Q. My new boyfriend knows that i have a rule and that is - no condom, no sex. But he said to me that condoms irrate and causes a rash on the end of his penis,and he wont wear 1 for that reason. Is this just an excuse? Plus im quite concerned that ...
A. 1 October 2006: He might be telling the truth and they may cause a rash, some people are allergic to the latex... Buy some latex free ones and he will have no excuse then. But do stick to your guns on this, if he has enough respect for you he will use the latex ... (read in full...)
Im confused, does he like, me or was the touching up just because of the moment ?
Q. last night me and 3 of my friends went to my house to watch the grudge, and well obiously it is a scary movie so me and my really good guy friend were like hugging, and cuddling really closely. i would move one of my legs like over his legs, and he ...
A. 1 October 2006: Hmm yeah he likes you but almost in a pervy way... I dont think you want to start off on that footing... No man I have ever dated has proceeded to act in that manner towards me! Basically its about respect and if a guy had never asked me out but ... (read in full...)
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