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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Im 14, still no period and Ive got pregnancy symptoms, do you think I am pregnant ?
Q. As I said before I'm 14 years old and I think that I may be pregnant! I knew that I would be getting my period soon but, not sure exactly what day. I lost my virginity on February 16th without a condom for the first time, that same night I ...
A. 13 April 2007: Nobody on here hun can tell you if you are pregnant or not. Whilst its harder to fall pregnant at that time, its not impossible, so yes you could be pregnant, or no you might not be. The only way you will know for sure is to get a pregancy test. ... (read in full...)
We broke up, and I still love him, neither of us has had sex in a while, he wants to meet for that, could it make him realise he wants me ?
Q. Need desperate help. My ex broke up with me early last year said he was bi, and that he was confused and couldn't be in a relationship if he doesn't know what he wants or who he is. He hasn't been with anyone else, and that I know for a fact....
A. 13 April 2007: You have to move on and occupy your mind with other things!
You are vulnerable because you still care about him. That takes a long time to get over, give yourself that room to move on. No contact with him, the more contact you have the harder t... (read in full...)
He doesnt want anything serious as I'm a single parent, but doesnt mind friends with benefits! but then he said maybe I will like him enough to stay around!? Im confused ?
Q. hi i am a single mom who has been talkin with this guy for a week now and it seems like we are connecting to me. When he found out i had a kid he doesnt want to date me cause of what his ex had done to him. He says he will be my friend with benifits ...
A. 13 April 2007: He is just trying to call the shots here.
He knows you want more than a sexual thing, But he only wants a no strings friendship with sex, so that he can come and go as he pleases.
The fact that he said what he said was to make you think that m... (read in full...)
The age difference is 5 years and Im only 14, does this really matter ?
Q. I am 14 years old and My boy friend is 19 years old. I really like him a lot.I am very mature for my age. People dont believe that i am only 14 years old. Every guy around my age arent mature and i hate that so much so I tend to go to older guys. My ...
A. 11 April 2007: In the eyes of the law, dependant on which state you are in, yes this could be deemed as improper! If you were older 18-21 then 5 years age gap I would say is not that much.
But as you are only 14 and he is 19, your a minor he isnt this cou... (read in full...)
We are from the USA and my bf thinks that we wont be able to mess around below the waist as I will be classed as a minor even though I'm 17, anyone know if this is true ?
Q. I'm 17, he's turning 18 in a month. We both want to stay virgins, but he's telling me we won't be able to mess around under the waist because I'm still a minor, and I would have to ask specifically for it every time with nothing from him. It sounds ...
A. 11 April 2007: Well I did a search for like ever! And it appears that all you can really find is that the age of consent for male/female sexual relationships in North Carolina is 16.
I think the grey area that your bf could be referring to is the one of where... (read in full...)
I have a greater connection with my new GF than I ever did with my Ex, so why cant I get her out of my head ??
Q. Hi, I split up with my ex girlfriend a year ago after 5 years (she was my first serious girlfriend). A few months after we split up she got engaged to another guy and moved in with him. I met an amazing girl who I have a great time with. I feel I ...
A. 11 April 2007: I think this is just a case of did I really miss that boat, maybe sour grapes or something, afterall you say shes engaged, and from I read you two werent.
Its probably more over that the two of you were together a long time, 5 years of anyones ... (read in full...)
My Gf is always at work, never has time for me, she wont have sex everyday so I wont cuddle her, what can I do ?
Q. Im 27 and my girl is 26 I have a problem because she is always at work and never have time for me. she would come home and she would ask me to cuddle with her. I told her she knows i cant do that because i like to have sex everyday and she dont ...
A. 11 April 2007: Have you thought about putting her needs first rather than your own ?
Perhaps she stays at work so thats she not pressured to have sex!?
Perhaps she needs to stay at work for either money reason, or the job demands that she does ?
Perh... (read in full...)
Dating 3 weeks, we want to have a baby!! But whats considered the right time to move in together!?
Q. ok let me start this out by saying i'm 24 nearly 25 in june and my new girl is 20 nearly 21 in september we've been dateing for 3 weeks nearly a month and i've slept with her once. she's stayed at my house twice and we didn't do nofthing the fir...
A. 3 April 2007: 3 weeks and you want to have children ? Gosh give yourselves a chance first before embarking on something that will change your lives forever! Are you sure your not winding us up!?
Neither of you work like you state so what start is the chil... (read in full...)
Married 9 months, shes seeing someone else! I said I can look past it if she cuts all ties! But shes carrying on! Am I too demanding!?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 9 months. In recent weeks, she has been going out late with her friends/clients to clubs, or for coffee. Few weeks ago, we had a major fight about her coming back at 7am in the morning and that left her angry with ...
A. 3 April 2007: You dont need me to tell you that the news isnt good hun.
She's cheated before and shes cheating now.
As for her so called friends saying your treating her like a prionser and not trusting her and so on... can they blame you!!! Shes ch... (read in full...)
I need a counsellor really, but not sure where to get one, anyone on here able to help me out!?
Q. My life is a real mess at the moment, have some serious relationship problems that I can't really go into at length in just one question. Could really do with some one to one counselling/advice. I know there are some professional counsellors that ...
A. 3 April 2007: Susie I would recommend the link that Pete posted... Otherwise write in to here with your problem and see who offers to help out. We might not be qualified but alot of us are pretty on the money when it comes to giving out advice and helping ... (read in full...)
He emailed her and arranged to meet! When confronted he said it was just to see who she was! Is this cheating?
Q. A woman on myspace was sending my husband emails. She would tell him how she would like to meet him. One day he went to a local computer store to email her and in the email he gave her his work phone number so she could call him. He changed his ...
A. 3 April 2007: He got caught, of course hes not going to admit to cheating is he....
Why would he want to meet up with her in secret, lie to you the whole way along if he wasnt intending to cheat ? Was he just going to be meeting another women, for coffee and ... (read in full...)
I have just found out my boyfriend of 5 years has been looking at pictures of naked girls.
Q. I found out my boyfriend of 5 years is looking at pictures of naked girls does that mean he is cheating. does he still love me....
A. 3 April 2007: What are these naked pics ? Are they porn ? Pics of women on dating sites ? Porn mags, photos hes suddenly got ?
I think we need more info, but for the record most guys at some point or other do look at porn. Just because you havent discover... (read in full...)
Married 9 months, shes seeing someone else! I said I can look past it if she cuts all ties! But shes carrying on! Am I too demanding!?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 9 months. In recent weeks, she has been going out late with her friends/clients to clubs, or for coffee. Few weeks ago, we had a major fight about her coming back at 7am in the morning and that left her angry with ...
A. 3 April 2007: Hey, Your not being too demanding, your the one thats prepared to look past it and accept it happend and move on.. and shes still carrying it on!!
If she wants this marriage to work she has to end all ties with him now!!! Not in the 2 weeks, 2... (read in full...)
I left my husband 5 days ago, if we sleep together is that giving in?
Q. I just seperated from my husband 5 days ago, and it's no secret that he wants me back but I know I'm not ready for that yet. I left him not just because he's an alcoholic, but because he's an alcoholic who has hurt me over and over again mentally ...
A. 31 March 2007: Hi,
My sister is in a little of the same situation, Hes not an alcholic although is does drink and that is part of a problem but there are alot of other issues involved, such as hes so over protective she had no room to be her anymore and hes ... (read in full...)
We met on the internet, one minute hes 16, then 18, but now hes saying hes 20, Im 14 and confused as I love him!!
Q. Hello...I am fourteen years old and I am dating a guy who is nineteen turning twenty a month before I turn fifteen...I met him over the internet and first he said he was sixteen. Then he told me he was eighteen and then he said he was seventeen ...
A. 31 March 2007: Honey you are 14!! This guy is abusing your good nature! Move on now! Before its too late. He told you he was 16 to start so that you would give him a chance. Hes then moved the goal post as you might have smelt a rat. Then he moved it ... (read in full...)
I love him immensely but he told me he loves someone else, what should I do ?
Q. my relationship is going no where ??? please help I'm 24yrs old and in love with a guy who is 23 for the last 3yrs. Now the relationship is going a bit wayward as he gets angry with me all the time,curses me. He tells me that he has relationship...
A. 30 March 2007: You need to get out now! This relationship is not healthy. You are allowing him to get away with this because you love him. You need to move on. its never easy when you love someone, but honey he loves someone else hes told you that. You ... (read in full...)
He said he only slept with her because he was high! Is that really a valid reason ??
Q. My boyfriend slept with someone else! And now our relationship is over. I asked him why he did it and he said because he was high - Look, i know that alcohol and drugs can make you lose your inhibitions and judgement, but is this really a valid ...
A. 30 March 2007: No its not a valid excuse. He was with you. He should not have lost control enough to put him in that position.
If someone loves someone, or cares for them or wants to be with them they do not act in that way.
Alcohol and drugs are just a... (read in full...)
Met a guy off the internet, was it just all about the sex for him ?
Q. I met up with a guy of the net about 3 weeks ago. The chemistry between us was crazy and we ended up kissing on the first meeting. Second meeting we ended up having a one night stand, except I left in the middle of the nite because he didnt want to ...
A. 30 March 2007: Honey, you have answered your own question! He was infact just after the sex, but didnt have the decency to tell you.
He is being evasive and all the rest, and if he really wanted to see you again, I think he would have. hes just playing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates me wearing make up!
Q. My boyfriend is having problems with me putting on make up. He said he doesn’t want me to get my make up on him and he thinks real beauty should not be created with make up. He doesn’t even like lip balm when I kiss him. It actually stops us from ...
A. 30 March 2007: Well my guy prefers me without make up, he does prefer the natural look and he says I actually look better without it! Hmm must be looking at me in the dark! rofl.. bless...
Anyway even though he says im better without it, he wouldnt stop me ... (read in full...)
How do I accept the difference between men and women ?
Q. I have fallen in to this vicious circle that prevents me from relating with women. I generally judge them first and most of the times, i realize that i could not trust them. As i cannot trust them, i keep judging them to the extent of demeaning them ...
A. 30 March 2007: I think you have a deep rooted issue, and not one that can be fixed on here. There was most probably an incident that happend in your younger years to trigger this. We are all led by example, and in alot of cases its all down to conditioning.
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I have 3 guys in my life... how do I handle this dilemma?
Q. Right, im 15 and i THINK im in love with my friend and he tells me he loves me back (seems fine, whats the problem you may think) well there is a trio of us best friends, me the guy im in love with which i will refere to as guy 1 and our other ...
A. 30 March 2007: In true reality, you dont really love either of them, or the choice wouldnt be this hard. If you sincerely Loved guy 1, guy 3 wouldnt enter your head. Guy 2 is a complication as you see him as a friend and dont want to hurt him.
Maybe... (read in full...)
Getting married on 12th April and need ideas for a romantic tune to walk into the registry office to!!
Q. Hi guys, Shandy Pop here. Sorry this may sound a bit trivial, well it's not the sort of question that is asked on this site, BUT I am getting married on 12th April and i need your help. I need a song (tune), romantic, to walk into the Registry Off...
A. 30 March 2007: Hey, Congrats Shandy. Had some thoughts...
What about The bee Gees .. How deep is your love ? or
Barry White Your the first,the last, My everything ?
Charles and Eddie - I swear ... Thats a good one...
Or even Dianna ross and Lionel Rich... (read in full...)
The pregnancy test showed two lines really faintly! Im 9 days late, could I be pregnant!?
Q. I had unprotected sex two weeks ago, I am nauseous, I smell everything, by breast are a little bigger but not sore. My period is 9 days late. I took pregnancy test a very very faint line makes me question if it is really there, but when I held it ...
A. 30 March 2007: You could be feeling all these things because you think the pregnancy test may have read positive. The mind plays serious tricks on us. Im not saying you dont feel these things, but the delay of the period is often the worry or stress or indeed ... (read in full...)
Im paranoid when Im not with my bf, I miss him all the time and worry so much when were not together!!
Q. Hi everyone Im with a great guy and have been for 9 months Recently he moved closer to me which is great. At frist i guess i had trouble with us getting more complacent as we wernt being so into one another when we met up as we were seeing more...
A. 30 March 2007: Hey!
Its all pretty normal hun to be feeling like this. Men are always more laid back about things than us.. Well in my experience anyway!
Doesnt mean he feels any less for you hes just taking it more in his stride. hes moved closer to ... (read in full...)
Why are 11-13 year old kids talking of dating and sexual contact???
Q. hello It might be I am wrong or I came from mars but it is so tragic to see 11 to 13 years old kids are dating and talking about sexual contact? Where are the families? Why don't they look after their kids? thank you...
A. 30 March 2007: Excellent post by Julliette Elise.
Unfortunately it does seem that more and more 13-15 years olds seem to think that sex and dating is common place and they havent even begun a life experience yet!
I wouldnt say it all begins at home, ... (read in full...)
What are some good songs about unrequited love ?
Q. what are some good songs about loving someone who doesn't love you back? ... ... ... all genres, sung by both female and male .... thanks ...
A. 29 March 2007: I just remembered another one..... Dont speak... by no doubt... that one still gets me after many years!
Or never ever, by all saints..
x ... (read in full...)
Does he want to date her, is he bored of me now ? What does this mean!?
Q. OMG! right another stupid question with most probably a simple answer i cant think of. I have a site like myspace but its not and so does my bf. so i can read all his comments and he can read mine etc. anyway, i wo jus looking through people in ...
A. 29 March 2007: It could be harmless flirting, it could be something more, you will have to ask him and find out. Its hard to interpret in what context he would have meant it, could have been jovial or because he did fancy her, and often how we read something and ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps running away all the time, could it be that shes jealous ?
Q. My ex girlfriend lived with her friend for 5 years but when her friend was going to get married my ex got upset and ran to her other best friend, but now she is married she is running away again. What does this mean?she went to spain to escape came ...
A. 29 March 2007: I agree with Reebe, Stop obsessing over your ex. Its over hun. You need closure. You will not get this by going over and over whats hes up to. Let her be. Move on. Close the door.
You have a life that needs to be lived. Look to the futu... (read in full...)
Im hating the summer before its here! I cant stand my bf looking at all those pretty girls!
Q. I feel angry and jealous when the warmer weather comes b/c i feel like my b/f probably sees so many attractive girls(he works outside and near alot of stores). I also feel jealous b/c it seems he has less time for me in the summer b/c he is busy ...
A. 29 March 2007: Thats the best way to lose a man ... Obsessing!
The summer is not here yet, but its slowly getting there. We all like to get out and about when the summer is here, do the things we cant do in the winter... Just because hes out and about do... (read in full...)
Having sex with the ex and spending time with him... Do you think he has any intentions of getting back with me?
Q. hey! I broke up with my BF of over 18 months over a year ago, he got with someone else soon after but they broke up around xmas time! For the last 2 months I've seen him at least once a week, we get along so well and are always laughing, and we have ...
A. 29 March 2007: Your welcome... Good luck and Let me know how it goes!
x x ... (read in full...)
Worried that his loss of erection is due to not fancying me!!!
Q. Hi, I am 38 yrs old and my husband is 42. We have been happily married for 15yrs and have always had an excellent sexual relationship. Recently, he has been too tired for sex, and he makes sex seem like a chore. A few times, he lost his erectio...
A. 29 March 2007: Could it be that hes suffering from genuine erection problems and the problem isnt you ? Isnt it funny how we all jump to the same conclusion when something like this happens, hes cheating, he doesnt fancy me... have faith in your man you say... (read in full...)
What are some good songs about unrequited love ?
Q. what are some good songs about loving someone who doesn't love you back? ... ... ... all genres, sung by both female and male .... thanks ...
A. 29 March 2007: 10cc I'm not in Love... (read in full...)
When a guy meets a girl off the internet for the first time, where should he take her?
Q. When a guy meets a girl off the internet for the first time, where should he take her?...
A. 29 March 2007: Distance can be a bit hard Tommy Have you Thought about meeting half way ? And at a place like a coffee house or something like that... I cant see she would be annoyed at having to meet half way as its both of you making the effort then to see one ... (read in full...)
Why do men tell their gf's-- they are the most beautiful woman and then turn around and gawk at other women?
Q. Why is it no matter how smart and beautiful we may be as a mate, men still gawk at other women? They will tell you how beautiful you are and how much they love you and then in the same breath they will turn around and drool over some other woman? ...
A. 29 March 2007: Its funny, but I had a conversation with my BF last night, was about my sister actually going through marriage issues, and had several tangents But anyway. He said that when you first go out with your GF shes the most stunning most beautiful ... (read in full...)
Having sex with the ex and spending time with him... Do you think he has any intentions of getting back with me?
Q. hey! I broke up with my BF of over 18 months over a year ago, he got with someone else soon after but they broke up around xmas time! For the last 2 months I've seen him at least once a week, we get along so well and are always laughing, and we have ...
A. 29 March 2007: I really think you need to ask him hun. There could be a couple of ways this could go...
He's happy to hang out with you and have a laugh and have sex, so why does he need to make any changes ? He could just be doing what come naturall... (read in full...)
I really like him and I dont want to seem like I am stalking him by saying hi on msn all the time. What should I do?
Q. hi. i am quite young. i have a crush on this boy. i am in a top school, private and he is in a mixed jewish school. i have all his contacts apart from mobile number. but i dont want to seem like i am stalking him by saying hi on msn all the time...
A. 29 March 2007: Well maybe wait to see if he says hi to you first before pouncing ? If he doesnt iniate contact with you I would presume he wasnt interested and is only saying hi to you when you speak to him.
If he does make the first move all well and good. ... (read in full...)
He acts as though hes not getting his moneys worth out of me!! Every night there is something to complain about! Should I record him to make him see!?
Q. Today I woke up at 8;00, drove to another city (20 min.) for a chiro appointment (1/2 hour) returned home (20.min.), picked up documents and drove to another city (20 min.), saw my banker for a wire transfer (20 min.), drove back to pick up my dog ...
A. 29 March 2007: I really do think that you need to sit him down and tell him that hes being unreasonable and that he cant tell you how to live your life. Tell him exactly how you are feeling. He obviously is wrapped up in his little world to appreciate that ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait until marriage to have sex, anyway I can change his mind ?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 20 year old virgins. He told me he is waiting for marrige, but I want to have sex now, bc I love him. Is there anything I can do to change his mind???...
A. 29 March 2007: Hey, I think that if someone as decided on something, there is seldom anything you can do to change thier mind.
You say you love him, there are plenty other ways to show this than to rush into sex with him. Sex does not by any way equate t... (read in full...)
My vagina is itching really bad..what could the problem be?
Q. my vagina is itching really bad and it's red? what could this be...
A. 29 March 2007: From the info you gave, it could be that you are allergic to a soap detergent that you underwear is washed in. Or a new soap or shower gel that you are using. That can often cause a redness and itching in a more sensitive part. As your mum ... (read in full...)
Married and I was his 'first' everything! Now porn has made problems in our marriage! What should I do?
Q. I am glad i found this site and hope for some helpful advice. I cant talk to friends or family because I FEEL like an idiot! I have been married for 11 years to a man i thought and everyone else thought was terrific, till Jan of this year, when i f...
A. 28 March 2007: Hi,
I just read your last posting hun. Dont just chuck it all away. The man has an illness.. Ok maybe not that... its addiction and as long as he agrees to get help the two of you can be saved! It all starts off okay, and then it turns to... (read in full...)
How do I convince her to trust me again?
Q. Adult Help And Advice Required Please I need some Help and Advice with my relationship. I have been seeing my Gf for about 2 years now and got engadged at christmas, we were meant to be getting married sometime this year. our relationship has ...
A. 28 March 2007: Hey!
I can see where you are both coming from, and I really would be asking the question, why is she harbouring this so much ?
It was obviously way over 2 years ago that you met this other person and it really should not have a consequen... (read in full...)
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