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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 30 May 2006: Well Martini, If you look I did suggest that Happylife use the forum if he was so adamant on making a debate. Instead of that he proceeded to actually attack me and turned this all into an argument. Of course this didnt help the girl that asked ... (read in full...)
Checking out the checkout manager
Q. Hi... I'm 29 (just as a matter of interest...) and I feel 16! I really fancy this guy who's a manager in a shop attached to a gas station locally. I go in to buy stuff I don't even need! Just to see him. I chat to him... he knows my name and I know ...
A. 28 May 2006: Well as far as does he have a girlfriend, without coming out and directly asking him Im not sure your going to find out. Try and bite the bullet and get chatting, and maybe something will evolve. Maybe leave a slip of paper with your number on, ... (read in full...)
He doesnt include me when he goes to church, what should I do ?
Q. What should i do , when my partner of 7 yrs has been invited to church several times by his boss and family and he does not include or invite me,but he continues to go alone? Then acts as if nothing is wrong? ...
A. 28 May 2006: Maybe ask him why he doesnt include you. Maybe he just presumes that you wouldnt want to go and its not your thing. You will have to maybe drop hints that you would like to go too. Unless you let him know that you are feeling left out and what to ... (read in full...)
Why is my sister so mean to my boyfriend?
Q. ok i am getting so annoyed with my sister. i have been with my bf for nine months now and just starting a week ago my sister(she is my twin) keeps saying "your bf is ugly" "he is fat" "he has big ears" and none of those are true mostly the "fat" one ...
A. 28 May 2006: I think its just a case of jealousy. She cant stand the thought you have a man and are in love, when she isnt. Im sure over time it will fade over time if you ignore her and dont rise to it. Once she finds herself a boyfriend she will change. I ... (read in full...)
Am i going too far for a 13yr old?
Q. im really frustrated.....some ppl think that 13 is too young to have there bf go yup your shirt.......i dont think so!! i need some opinions!!! i dont feel like im 2 young!! i wouldent let some random dude do that!! me and my bf have been going ...
A. 28 May 2006: I think you are a little young to be engaging in this kind of activity. One little fumble can lead to other things. Just because you think its right at the moment, doesnt mean that it is. You are far to young to be thinking about sex, and acting ... (read in full...)
Cant keep it up during sex... whats the problem?
Q. I am having trouble keeping an erection during intercourse but not during oral or masturbation what is my problem?...
A. 28 May 2006: Maybe its a bit of nerves. The fear of having to perform can sometimes cause you to lose your erection. If could be a number of things, but maybe your not relaxing enough when having intercouse, too busy worrying about whether shes enjoying it, ... (read in full...)
Want some ideas for non-sexual turnons!
Q. I'm not old enough to have sex, or to have oral sex (and I'm not planning to any time soon),so what are some things that my bf can to do make me feel turned on? Any place above the belt that he can touch or rub or somthing like that that will turn ...
A. 28 May 2006: I cant understand why you want to feel turned on if your not wanting to engage in sexual activities ?? If your not ready for sex then you dont really need to be getting turned on do you ? Unless you want to see whats nice, what feels good and what ... (read in full...)
Not worried she'll cheat, but I'm concerned about all the male attention my girlfriend gets!
Q. I've been going out with a really great girl for almost a year. Everything's going really well and we love each other very much. But, I just have a couple of niggling doubts... The first thing was that she started to act a little weird around me ...
A. 28 May 2006: If your not worried that she will cheat and you trust her what thats the problem ? she probably likes the attention, who wouldnt. But remember shes with you, not them! If you really really dont like all this let her know and dont let it fester, ... (read in full...)
Why do people want to have threesomes, and how do they work?
Q. Are people ment to like threesomes? os if you and your boyfriend had a threesome with another girl wouldn't his girlfriend get really jealous watching her boyfriend with another girl having sex with her right next to her? Second question is, is t...
A. 28 May 2006: Threesomes should not be taken lightly and they can end in disaster. Some couples that have been together along time, like to expirment and introduce a third party. This needs to be something that all parties agree on in the 1st place. It is a ... (read in full...)
Checking out the checkout manager
Q. Hi... I'm 29 (just as a matter of interest...) and I feel 16! I really fancy this guy who's a manager in a shop attached to a gas station locally. I go in to buy stuff I don't even need! Just to see him. I chat to him... he knows my name and I know ...
A. 28 May 2006: The thing is he could be feeling exactly like you... too scared to ask! If you dont bite the bullet you may never know! See if you cant get into a conversation about stuff, things that you may have recently done and see if you cant find a commmon ... (read in full...)
13 and not sure how far to go!
Q. how far should i go with my bf....(im 13) me and my bf have been going out for a few months and are best friends. We always talk about things we want to do....but im not sure how far we should actiucaly go (not sex!!!!)....becasue were only 13 im ...
A. 28 May 2006: Hi,
At 13 sex shouldnt even be thought of! Gosh when I was that age, kissing was considered in some cases naughty! lol... not that im that old! lol Anyway, kissing and cuddling shoud be about the extent of what happens, you cant really have gro... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 27 May 2006: To be quite honest happylife I aint getting into no debate with you, I havent got a clue whats in the book, all I know is that from what YOU wrote it sounded that woman are there to service man, You dont need to debate here if you really want to do ... (read in full...)
Ladies... Briefs or boxers?
Q. DO girls prefer briefs of boxers???...
A. 27 May 2006: Boxers, but Briefs aint like Y fronts anymore, sometimes a man can look sexy in a brief, depends on his physique! But in the main boxers are better!... (read in full...)
Now that I'm allowed to see her, my old girlfriend isn't insterested any more!
Q. Well guys/girls, I have a problem and I really dont know what to do... this is the story... I was with this girl, Valerie, for about 9 months. At the time, we felt really strong for each other. We ended up doing something really stupid, we had s...
A. 27 May 2006: Sorry things didnt work out. But it now seems that V has moved on and was trying to let you down gently by saying that it wouldnt be a good idea because of her mum. Try not to dwell on this too much and try and put it behind you. Try and involve ... (read in full...)
I slept with my mums boyfriend, Now im Pregnant! What do I do ?
Q. I made a big mistake of having sex with my mums ex boyfriend who is 35. I am only 16 and accepted the fact that i am pregnant with his child. But it is to late to get an abortion. What can i do? My mum will be devastated if she finds out. ...
A. 27 May 2006: This is probably something that could be hard to keep from your mum, especially if you need someone to comfort and turn to however this pans out. Needless to say you dont mention how far gone in the pregnancy that you are, so Im not sure if are you ... (read in full...)
Why is my wife so turned on all of a sudden? Is something going on?
Q. Should I be concerned ? About a month ago I stopped by my wife's office to see her. I could see that one of her female coworkers was in her office so I waited in the hallway until they were finished. While waiting I overheard my wife describi...
A. 27 May 2006: I think you may be reading too much in to the fact that you overheard her mentioning some other guy and how he was nice and so on. We all like the look of or fancy other people other than our partners, but it doesnt mean we are going to at a drop ... (read in full...)
How to tell my boyfriend i think we should see other people!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for more than a year now but I've recently met this other boy who's kind of swept me off my feet. I really really like him. I'm thinking of leaving my boyfriend for him but .. what if I'm just jumping to ...
A. 27 May 2006: Its sounding as though you dont actually want to be in the realtionship that you are in, so you are maybe prolonging the agony. Its not fair to keep him hanging on just in case you think hes the better option in case things dont pan out. If you ... (read in full...)
Everyone at school talking about sex and girls, feeling depressed as i have no experiences.
Q. I'm lonely, what do i do? I'm 16 i've never even kissed a girl or been out on a date. Everyone at school, talks about girls, sex and experiences. I keep feeling depressed because i obviously don't look attractive and i've never met anyone. I go...
A. 27 May 2006: There really isnt any rush. We all meet someone when the time is right. You dont need to go worrying about not meeting someone or having sex at this young age. Alot of your friends are just bragging, half probably havent come remotely close to ... (read in full...)
Living on my own whilst he's away, good idea for an 18 year old?
Q. hey guys would love your advice please! im 18 and have been with my bf for 3 years. he is joining the army on monday. last week he asked me that once ive finished my a-levels and have got a job would i like to get a place with him. i totaly love ...
A. 26 May 2006: Maybe dont move in with him just yet. If hes going to be away so much there isnt that much point in living together. Maybe hang tough a while, if he wants to get a place and you stay over when hes around then good, and maybe stay living at home ... (read in full...)
Whats next in the game of sex?
Q. I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and all we have done is kissed n he has fingered me.problem is i want to go further with him but i dont no how to! i really want to though. he is really experienced and i aint..can you ...
A. 26 May 2006: Maybe he doesnt want to push you further as hes not sure thats what you want. Try talking to him and let him know that you are ready for the next step. He is being very considerate if hes not taking it further and hes probably trying to make sure ... (read in full...)
We had a weekend plan, but then she decided to go see her friends....am I feeling right about this?
Q. Hiya, I've been with my girlfriend for about 14 months now and we're both sixteen years old. This is gonna sound like a really petty problem and like I'm being stupid but I was wondering if its normal. Basically, me and my girlfriend spend a lot of...
A. 26 May 2006: Hey there is nothing wrong with feeling left out, but sometimes its nice to break routine, it might be nice and add a bit more to your relationship to let her go and do her own thing, it doesnt mean she loves you any less she just needs to still ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my boyfriends mates
Q. why do i always get jealous when my boyfriend friends which are boys come around him? i dont know how to stop it can yall give advice?...
A. 26 May 2006: Dr Pete is spot on with this... The only reason you dont like it is because your not centre of attention in your mans world when his friends are around. We all need friends, try and be a little less selfish and let him have his friends. Im not ... (read in full...)
An affair which makes her happy - but what about the fallout?
Q. A question for you all, I think I am far to close to the situation to see straight to be honest. A relation (genuinely! - that is why I have not posted this anon)has been married for 20 years. Their marriage hasd been going stale, but they have fou...
A. 26 May 2006: I will be brief, The same as what I tell most people in this kind of situation. The grass isnt always greener on the other side, Yes I know its an old Cliche! But I have had a few friends come a cropper in this way. Its very hard to know whats ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 26 May 2006: Sorry, but I got to number 1 on this his needs her needs thing on the men section and really wanted to punch the screen... Happy life.... Life is not what we read in books, we are all different and we all feel different about so many things... that ... (read in full...)
Shes really cool, I dont think I am, should I date her ?
Q. I fancy this girl at school. she is seen as one of the cool people and I am not, so what should i do ? Should i try and get her on her own and ask her or should i just leave it and go for someone else. plz pz plz help...
A. 26 May 2006: Well in life you have to take chances. For all you know she likes you too! Go for it, ask her, the very worst that could happen is she will say no. At least then you will know, its often the not knowing or the not doing that can make us question ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me ?
Q. hey,im in a bit of a pickle at the moment, a guy from school who i really like asked me out exactly a week ago...we held hands hugged kissed etc but that very same night he apologized and told me that he wasnt ready for commitment...that he was ...
A. 26 May 2006: Maybe ask him to be fair with you... Ask him if he does like you and would like to date you... Or does he just want someone when he feels like it ? hes not being fair by saying one thing to you and doing another. Perhaps he is shy I dont know... ... (read in full...)
Have I taken the Pill correctly, could I be pregnant ?
Q. hi there, I need some advice please!! I have recently started Cerezette pill (mini pill) and am 2 1/2 weeks into taking it. I am discovering very very sore breasts and bloatedness, very tired and moody. Im assuming these are all related to the pill...
A. 26 May 2006: Hello! I take the mini pill too, and I must say I havent any problems with it. But I do know that the bloatedness and the sore breasts are a side affect, and will calm down after a little while, once your body has got used to you taking it. Now ... (read in full...)
How much time apart will damage our new relationship?
Q. I have had a thing going with a girl for a while now. Last night she was talking about how she has finally moved on from last bf, and talking about what would happen if we went out. Good news, I think. Now I don't know how/when to ask her out. I'm...
A. 26 May 2006: Hey well, if things go well on the Sunday Maybe arrange to see her again before you both go away, maybe midweek, but dont rush if you feel its too heavy, would be nice for to just to hook up.. that way you will both totally cool with being apart for ... (read in full...)
What should i expect for my first sexual experience?
Q. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 19... we have been together for nearly two years and i really think he is "the one!" He's always there when i need him, no matter what time of day/night. When i met him i was 14, and totally not ready for sex. He unde...
A. 26 May 2006: The key thing is not to have any expectations.
If you love each other, which it sounds as though you do, it will all come naturally. The first time isnt really all that anyway, but you can grow and learn from it.
Make sure you are both comfort... (read in full...)
Great boyfriend that I love, but I also want to throw myself at a hunky guy at work!
Q. I have a boyfriend that I love very much. We have a great relationship but I crave passion and spontanity. I have a huge problem!!! I have a major crush on a real hunky, mechanic co-worker. I am the receptionist at an auto shop and whenever I s...
A. 26 May 2006: If you love your boyfriend that much then talk to him before rushing off to bed someone else! Try and find ways you can make the relationship more stimulating, you have probably just hit a stale patch. Talk to your man, and tell him how you feel, ... (read in full...)
My ex messed me up by cheating. Now I can't trust my girlfriend...
Q. Dear Cupid I'm having a problem with myself. I've been with this girl for a while now and having a baby now. But she keeps saying that I'm judging her on my ex-girlfriend. My ex she cheated on me with a few people and I can't trust anyone any...
A. 26 May 2006: Dont let the ex ruin anything you ever take part in from this moment on. A relationship is based on trust, no matter what type of relationship it is, it needs to have trust. You were hurt deeply, but you cannot let the ex ruin the rest of your ... (read in full...)
I can't control this feeling that I have, any advice will be much appreciated!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for six months now and overall it has been going great, of course we have our ups and downs but the relationship is very good, i love him deeply and he loves me too. the problem is, is that ive never been ina proper ...
A. 26 May 2006: Hey there, I know exactly how you feel, This also happend to me. I had been badly heartbroken after dating a guy for 6 years he had run off and cheated! So of course I was devasted, so much so I didnt really go out for two years sunk into to ... (read in full...)
I want to stop thinking about my ex. It's been a month and he's still stuck in my head!
Q. I'm trying to get over my ex so badly but doesn't seem to be working. It's only been over a month but feels like forever. I've try to get my ex back but he's determined to see other people. We were on talking terms but yet again hes began ignori...
A. 26 May 2006: Good luck and stay in good spirits, Life can be so so different with each path or corner we turn.
Take care!
x ... (read in full...)
I think there was a LOT more cheating going on than my wife admits!
Q. I have just found out my wife has cheated on me, but I am not sure as to what extent. She arrived home at 4.30am Monday morning after being out with work colleagues. The next day she was acting strangely and I could tell she was lying about where ...
A. 25 May 2006: Without sounding to crass or graphic, thrush is very common, and can leave a nasty discharge,white staining in your panties! its a yeast infection that causes some discomfort down below and really isnt very nice at all! But I hope that she ... (read in full...)
A girl is saying she did stuff with my boyfriend, what should I do?
Q. please help me i dont no if my boy freind has cheated on me the girl is going round saying she has done somthink with him and i realy dont wana lose him ????...
A. 25 May 2006: Perhaps you should ask him. This girl is probably just jealous and trying to cause trouble. Let him tell you his side of the story before jumping to conclusions. Its more likely the he told her he wasnt interested in her as he was with you and ... (read in full...)
Do boys prefer the natural look or makeup on girls
Q. ello i am 15 years of age and just wondering, do boys prefer the natural look or girls that wear make up?...
A. 25 May 2006: Well, I have to say that I do like to wear makeup. But not alot, just enough to kinda make me look awake! By no means full makeup that makes you look orange, I do where possible go for the natural glow! Anyway my man hates me wearing any kind of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to sleep with his friend
Q. I'm 18 and have been dating my 21 year old boyfriend for 6 months. He's a virgin, and surprisingly, doesn't want sex at all but suggested to me that I should sleep with his friend instead. I'm not a virgin; I've had sex once with my only other bo...
A. 25 May 2006: Maybe he is testing how far he can push you. Maybe whilst hes okay with not having a sexual relationship, he wants to see if you are too. And hes testing to see if you will actually sleep with his friend. Ask him why he feels this way, it is a ... (read in full...)
I think there was a LOT more cheating going on than my wife admits!
Q. I have just found out my wife has cheated on me, but I am not sure as to what extent. She arrived home at 4.30am Monday morning after being out with work colleagues. The next day she was acting strangely and I could tell she was lying about where ...
A. 25 May 2006: Well maybe confront her with the evidence and see if she will admit it. See if she has an explanation for this evidence that you think you have, by this im guessing you think you have found some semen, now although it all points towards this and ... (read in full...)
In an on-off relationship with a man who doesnt love me, help
Q. hi there, iv been in an on off relationship for the past 12 years , i think i still love him (not sure im a bit confused) although we get on well most of the time hes not very interested in me , if i am enthusiastic or happy about anything he just ...
A. 25 May 2006: Time to move on... If things are really this bad hun, I dont see some miracle making all the probs disappear and him turning into Mr prince charming. Get out and explore the world a bit. Tell him you dont want him anymore and go out find someone ... (read in full...)
Really want the girl to know how I feel before uni breaks up. Should I tell her?
Q. I have only a few days left until I leave uni for the summer, and I have had major feelings for someone throughout the year. We are good friends and she knows how I felt about her but considering this, we are still close and flirty. I don't kn...
A. 25 May 2006: By all means tell her, but if your not going to see her for a while, if you do both feel the same, will a long distance relationship work ? What is it that you are actually wanting from this ? and is this the right time ? If you love her, then yes ... (read in full...)
Should I call my Spanish Guy ?
Q. i just back from ibiza,while i was out there on the last night i met this spanish guy,he was 25 i', 43 we got on well but he couldnt talk much english.he gave me his number,now back in the uk i'm thinking should i give him a ring or not and what ...
A. 25 May 2006: Well given that you only knew him the last day before you come home, chances are, harsh as it sounds, that he has probably already forgotten about you. Sorry to sound quite so harsh, but these guys meet lots of different woman day in day out, some ... (read in full...)
How do I get her back ?
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we decided to split up for a while due to use arguing all the time so after that things were going well then one day she said shes not happy no more and wants to split for good what do i do i love her ...
A. 25 May 2006: Maybe try and talk to her and ask why shes not happy with you guys anymore. Perhaps after you know this you will be able to move on, sorry to say it soundslike she already has. At least give it a shot and see if you can feel a bit better knowing ... (read in full...)
I want to stop thinking about my ex. It's been a month and he's still stuck in my head!
Q. I'm trying to get over my ex so badly but doesn't seem to be working. It's only been over a month but feels like forever. I've try to get my ex back but he's determined to see other people. We were on talking terms but yet again hes began ignori...
A. 25 May 2006: Yes time is a great healer, and it does take time to get over someone, we dont know how long as each of us is different.
But want I actually think you are doing is trying to find ways to get back with him, and thats why your still hanging ... (read in full...)
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