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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 4 July 2006: Hmm Mr Anon got his responses to his question... but didnt reply back with any of his views... Wonder why!?... (read in full...)
Where can a new married get information about sex?
Q. I am newly married. I want books or doctors to help me to teach about sex....
A. 27 June 2006: Books or Doctors ? Hmm Maybe try searching online. Maybe purchase the Karma Sutra book, which can be brought from most stores.. try amazon for one and they also do educational videos so it depends what you are after really, as in the main sex is ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend wear things too big!
Q. Not sure how to handle this...I noticed that my boyfriend wears shoes that are about 2" bigger than his actual shoe size. I had an idea, but when we went bowling the bowling shoes were obviously big on him. I thought maybe they didn't have his size ...
A. 26 June 2006: I too do think this sounds like OCD. My dad was a sufferer, well still is really, i think once you have it you have it. We all have certain tendancies to have order in our lifes but some develop this further and have issues with contamination and ... (read in full...)
Could she be pregnant, it was only a light period, is it meant to be like that ?
Q. OK,about 2-3weeks ago m,e and my girl friend were laying in bed together and she jercked me off while i was fingering her. When i had a orgasim i rolled out of bed and finshed it up myself.I came on the floor and a little on my hands, so i lightly ...
A. 26 June 2006: Was this the first time she had sex ? It could just be the after affects of first time sex, light spotting and will clear up after a day and doesnt have to mean shes is pregnant. It isnt unheard of to become pregnant in the way you describe but ... (read in full...)
Refused sex with my online guy now he says he'll post my pictures online!
Q. i really need help, ive met this guy tru the online chatting and we exchange nude photos because we trusted each other, he ask me to have sex with him but i refuse to do it because i dont really just gave sex to any one! i am not a slut,. and then ...
A. 26 June 2006: Excellent posting by Dr Psych as usual. Not alot I can really add, but at least you will now be aware of the dangers. Dont fret too much whats done is done and hes probably just some lonely soul with not alot else to do. If he does circulate them ... (read in full...)
My teacher pays me alot of attention, do you think he fancies me ?
Q. I am really confused about my teacher. He treats me differently to anyone else. He treats me like a lady, he holds doors open for me, tells me that I am a VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY able student, he said I am lovely, he thinks all the boys fancy me. ...
A. 26 June 2006: No. And even if he did its illegal to engage in any activity between pupil and teacher that is beyond his job. He could lose his career, as well as be brought up on charges if anything were to happen. He is your teacher, he may like you but thats ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 26 June 2006: Its not always the case that the male is paying as much attention to his wife, thats when women dont like it. If a man whacks off to porn as you put it but is still paying as much attention to her then i dont see there is a problem. It does become ... (read in full...)
She dumped me by telephone after 5 years together, it hurts and now she has someone else its driving me crazy!
Q. Help !! Basically I got dumped after 5 years. It was done over the phone and it was the worst thing that evey happened to me in my life. Its been 6 months and it was starting to get better, but the other day I found out that she has someone e...
A. 26 June 2006: Well shes sounds so insensitive that I wouldnt now waste my time on her. Cant believe in this day and age someone could act so calously towards someone that they have been with for such a long time! She's probably not that happy, just appears it ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still feel 'dry' even though highly turned on ?
Q. Dear cupid, I am dry 'downstairs'even when v turned on. Is this normal?...
A. 26 June 2006: Im not sure if this link we be of any help to you... I have heard of women suffering in this way at all times of life, and sometimes its just one of those things and sometimes we need the aid of a lubricant. There a few tips on this link, and maybe ... (read in full...)
My Husband as advertised on a sex site, is he bored of me ?
Q. I recently found out that my husband has posted himself on a website for finding adult friends for sex/relationships etc. I have been cheated on before and am going paranoid. He says he's never cheated but has lied to me before about pornographic ...
A. 26 June 2006: Hey I like the answer that Eyeswideopen gave! Yeah go for it.. Advertise, put up a fake pic, chat to him for a bit, make out your local, arrange to meet see if he turns up!
(I dont normally consider this the best option as two wrongs dont make... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still feel 'dry' even though highly turned on ?
Q. Dear cupid, I am dry 'downstairs'even when v turned on. Is this normal?...
A. 26 June 2006: sorry the first line should have read " I WOULDNT say for sure" My typing is mad of late!
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Is it normal to still feel 'dry' even though highly turned on ?
Q. Dear cupid, I am dry 'downstairs'even when v turned on. Is this normal?...
A. 26 June 2006: I would say for sure that its normal, we are all different and our bodies behave differently. It could be to do with a hormonal inbalance, or your not as turned on as you think you are.. Is this the first time this has happend or is it always this ... (read in full...)
I had a light period, does this mean I could be pregnant ?
Q. Hi i came on the other day but it was on for a few hours and very very faint but i am not due on for another 3days properly could this indicate i could be pregnant? ...
A. 26 June 2006: We do seem to get this get this question quite alot. It can mean that you are pregnant, its not entirely inlikely not to have periods whilst pregnant. I do know some woman that have had light periods for the first 6 months of pregnancy, so it ... (read in full...)
Should I give up my high paid job as a doctor (that I hate) to follow the career I love?
Q. Should I leave a job that pays $200,000 a year because I don't like it? Okay I'm a doctor, but I seriously hate my job. I've been taking online classes and have recievied a BA in marketing and a MBA. I've also received a offer as an adveritising ...
A. 26 June 2006: Maybe try and find out why you hate it so much, is it the hours is the stress.. Do you think that this other job you have seen will be as rewarding ? Will you not be bored ? Or are you looking for a completely different challenge ? Have you ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend; I'm just not that "in love" with him. And now there's someone else!
Q. Hi. I need some advice. I live with my boyfriend. I've never really had the passionate 'in love' feeling with him. I've known him for most of my life. He loves me, and he treats my daughter well. I feel secure for the first time in my life as a str...
A. 26 June 2006: The phrase the grass isnt always greener comes to mind. You could split with you current bf and then find out that the new guy is just a flash in the pan! Its probably got more to do with the fact that you are comfortable with your current man and ... (read in full...)
When we have sex, I orgasm, he keeps going and it ends up hurting! What's going on!?
Q. During sex when I cum he keeps going and it hurts really bad! Whats going on?...
A. 26 June 2006: Have you told him this ? Have you asked him to stop. Im not sure to what point you mean it hurts... are you maybe clenching, does he suddenly go harder, do you clamp when you orgasm and when you relax it feels a bit sore ? Are you lubricated ... (read in full...)
Are the nice guys boring and do girls prefer a bastard? Views please!
Q. Be honest, Do most girls love a bastard? Is it sexy or a turn on? I know that doormats aren't sexy but they usually treat their woman right. A guy who is a bastard and keeps to the 'treat em mean keep em keen' regime usually gets on all right in the ...
A. 26 June 2006: Just be yourself. We look for whats underneath and what special qualities the individual has. Dont go trying to be what woman want as that will never happen, We are so varied and changeable that you could never say what attracts us to one ... (read in full...)
He thought I was ready for something serious, and knew he wasn't -- so he disappeared!
Q. I was seeing a guy for 2 months (me 27, him 21) and wasn't sure where we stood. We didn't go out much and he wouldn't stay over after sex, so I suspected he was using me. I asked him where I stood and he said he saw me as the perfect girl, th...
A. 26 June 2006: Is he really worth the hassle ? Unless he wants to commit then there isnt anything that you can do about it, what is it that you want to achieve ? Do you want to try and make him have a relationship with you ? Just if you do contact him what are ... (read in full...)
Is it normal he gets an erection everytime he holds or kisses me?!
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend gets an erection everytime he kisses me or holds me!!!!! and hes not a virgin?...
A. 26 June 2006: Any new relationship is exciting, hes over run with excitement about you so its pretty normal. Im guessing your pretty young, hes in to you and you turn him on. Sometimes young guys only have to look at you to get one! ... (read in full...)
We want to try the "back door" but I'm worried it might hurt...
Q. Does anal sex hurt? Me and my bf have always joked about it and said we never would, but we were drunk and tried it but it wouldn't go in properly. Now I'm kind of turned on by the idea and want to try it again. Will it hurt if he goes in deeper?...
A. 26 June 2006: The important thing is that you have a considerate caring partner. It does hurt, but done correctly is more uncomfortable than painful. Maybe a little smarting and tenderness, but gradually allowing him to enter ensures you dont get a hit straight ... (read in full...)
She already has a boyfriend...
Q. I like this girl but she has a boyfriend. Do I let that stop me?...
A. 26 June 2006: She has a boyfriend leave well alone. How would you feel if she were your girlfriend and some bloke thought sod im gonna get her anyway ? Dating or seeking people that are unattached only leads to heartache one way or another, so its best to start ... (read in full...)
Not interested in my husband any longer and I've had a series of affairs. Why am I doing this?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost seven years now. In the beginning I was blissfully happy, and the turning point was the day I lost my father, very suddenly. Ever since then, I've repeatedly cheated on my husband, not for sex, but I've...
A. 26 June 2006: Grief affects people in many ways, sorry to hear of the loss of your dad, its very hard when we are that close to someone. I think that since that you happend you have been looking for something that you havent yet found, you probably feel a little ... (read in full...)
Help! Uneven sunburn..any tips on how to even it up by Tuesday?
Q. last sunday while i was at the beach i got a terrible sun burn above my belly button. i went to the doctor since it still hurt a lot and didnt really get better. plus it was only this one spot. turns out it was a second degree burn! my doctor told ...
A. 25 June 2006: Aloe vera cream worked for me, i was sunburnt a couple of weeks back and that took the burn out of it and helped to turn it to a nice bronze colour, but it didnt do this without peeling! We all have different skin we should look after it, i got ... (read in full...)
Don't think I'm pregnant, but where's my period?
Q. Hey guys! The deal is I'm only 14 years old. I have known my boyfriend for a while and about three months ago we decided to date. I lost my virginty to him, and he lost his to me. I feel like I'm madly in actual love. Like I have never felt like thi...
A. 25 June 2006: Firstly you know that its against the law to be having sex at that age, there is a reason for it as you probably well know, so perhaps you should knock it on the head for a while to relieve some anguish. Secondly you are still only really a child, ... (read in full...)
He was with me, and Im sure he was cheating, we had unprotected sex, now im really worried about my health!!
Q. This question is related to a previous question I have posted on the site for I definitely need some more help! I was with someone as friends for a year and after the year we began a relationship for 10 months.During all this time I was loyal an...
A. 25 June 2006: I think you know in your heart that he was a cheat and thats something he sounds as though he will always be. As for getting over him, just think you had a lucky escape! Hes not been fair with you, almost treating you like someone to come to for ... (read in full...)
I like my bros mate - how do I ask my bro if he is okay with it?
Q. I really like my brothers mate and he likes me. We can't be together because we don't know if my brother would like it. I really want a chance with this fella so how do i ask my brother he would feel if i fancie his mate?...
A. 24 June 2006: You just mention this friend, say that you really like him and take it from there, if by saying i really like him hes cool etc, you will probably see by the reaction on your brothers face if hes going to be ok with it or not, if you say oh hes a ... (read in full...)
How do I make my ex regret what he did to me
Q. I am 15. How can I make my ex boyfriend regret dumping me? He is a coward and dumped me by text. I want to make him regret it... but how? ...
A. 24 June 2006: You cant make anyone regret anything if they dont want to. Hes done it now, you have to accept it and move on. His lose. yes hes a coward for doing it over text, but if hes like that then you are better off without him!... (read in full...)
He says our relationship is now a "trial"... Is this worse than just breaking up?!
Q. Me and my boyfriend of over a year have recently had a big argument and now he is saying that he will stay with me but we are on trial to see if i can make him happy. Is this acctually worse than breakin up and is it making me look needy by waiting ...
A. 23 June 2006: A relationship is a two way street, he should make you just as happy as you make him. Cant believe he said your on a trail, what in the hell is that!! Is that like when you get one of those hoovers that wash the carpet, you try for a week and if ... (read in full...)
She was the perfect girl but we weren't compatible in bed... What now?
Q. Hi. I met a wonderful girl. She is perfect! We both dated a few times and when we are not together we miss each other. We both told each other how much we both love being with each other and that we are perfect together! Sorry - but it's true!! ...
A. 23 June 2006: Are you sure it was that oh so perfect, when all it failed on was the sex, you tried it didnt like and thought nah lets be friends... whats all that about ?? Sex is a two way street and it doesnt just happen, it can take time and effort to find out ... (read in full...)
Can I trust my friend who has added my BF's ex on her MySpace account?
Q. I am a 29 year old female who has been with the same great guy for 7yrs. A few months ago his ex from 8yrs ago (who cheated on him) tried to contact us Via My Space, just to say hi! I erased her and blocked her account. I did not tell him about it...
A. 23 June 2006: I suggest that you confront the girl about it, ask why all of a sudden shes mentioning this ex... Does she know something you dont ? Or is she just merely jealous of your relationship with your man.. you would be surprised what some people are ... (read in full...)
We had a baby and our sex life has disappeared
Q. i love my wife like crazy, but we have had our first child and because we have been dedicated to raising our child and focusing on her all this time we hardly get intimate anymore . Now she is a year old , the problem is that we have hardly made ...
A. 23 June 2006: Talk to her!! Tell her how you are feeling!! But have a bit of heart about all this. Since its been so long she a, could be worried thats its going to hurt, and b, might not feel as attractive as she once did after the birth of the baby. Her ... (read in full...)
Should I let him go... ?
Q. My Boyfriend is trying to talk me into letting him go into the milatary. I am a person who always needs physical effection and the compfort of always having that special someone here for me. I know I really should let him go becasue this could be ...
A. 23 June 2006: Hard as it seems, you gotta let him do this. He will resent you for ever more if you stop him. If this is something that he really wants to do and all thats standing in his way is you, and he stays so as not to upset you then the long term affect ... (read in full...)
Amend things with my ex from 4 years ago or just let it go?
Q. I was in a relationship 4 yrs ago which ended very badly and with neither of us talking or having any contact with each other since. I had put it all behind me and moved on and am in a new relationship which i am very happy with. I recently...
A. 23 June 2006: Seems that you never really did get over her hun, and finding this sort of closure as you call it, could do more harm to you than good. I think you are just looking for a way to get back in and see if you cant rekindle things, you probably know you ... (read in full...)
I like my bros mate - how do I ask my bro if he is okay with it?
Q. I really like my brothers mate and he likes me. We can't be together because we don't know if my brother would like it. I really want a chance with this fella so how do i ask my brother he would feel if i fancie his mate?...
A. 23 June 2006: He's your brother, just ask him if he has any hang ups about you dating any of his friends. He will probably feel chuffed that you bothered to check with him first!
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Can I trust my friend who has added my BF's ex on her MySpace account?
Q. I am a 29 year old female who has been with the same great guy for 7yrs. A few months ago his ex from 8yrs ago (who cheated on him) tried to contact us Via My Space, just to say hi! I erased her and blocked her account. I did not tell him about it...
A. 23 June 2006: Nothing wrong in a blast from the past, she is probably just making waves and putting out feelers to people she knows. If you have trust issues you should speak to your boyfriend about this. You have been together 7 years, doesnt that count for ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 23 June 2006: Actually Pete, I think us woman do the shaving for ourselves and for our benefit and to make ourselves feel good and be presented in the right way... its not for the guys!! Guys that insist girls shave are very shallow indeed, its up to the ... (read in full...)
Is ten times a day too much sex?
Q. I have sex 8-10 times a day with my husband and it's starting to hurt but I still enjoy it should I take it down a notch or what? ...
A. 22 June 2006: Must say I dont know when you fit it all in .... are you very rich and dont like TV ? tee hee... Well 3 times a day for me seems to be the limit unless we are away! and thats when we maybe do it about 8 or so times... and after that I give it a ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 22 June 2006: All calm again... But you sure you aint a redhead Willywombat!! tee hee... very fiery! But then well I to do bite on things... Perhaps it is a blonde thing lol!
:o)... (read in full...)
He may be going back to his ex, but stills wants me if things don't work out!
Q. I met this guy about 3 months ago and we immediatly hit it off, we went out at least 3 times a week and he told me how strongly he felt about me and about our relationship..a few weeks later I got a call from a girl sayin that she is his ex of 3 ...
A. 22 June 2006: Good luck little one, it will hurt to begin, but you will learn to deal with that and become stronger. Someone else will be waiting out there for you, but have some time to yourself and go out and have some fun.
Take care x... (read in full...)
I got caught having an affair... non-judgemental advice needed!
Q. I am in deep trouble. My wife has come to know about my affair with a married woman. Initially it was for sex but I fell in love with this woman and now I am committed to her too. I cant leave my wife because I love her as well. Both these women are ...
A. 22 June 2006: I wish the best of luck, but be careful that it doesnt come back and bite you. If you dont tell her now and she some how finds out later on, you will lose everything. Make sure you feel you are doing the right thing, its one thing repairing the ... (read in full...)
I hurt my GF - what is something special I can do for her?
Q. I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help....
A. 22 June 2006: Well give what I said a go, i just think she is feeling very insecure for some reason, You may need to find out why. Make sure you tell her that you love her often, as it seems shes feeling like you dont. Let her know how upset you are too and ... (read in full...)
I hurt my GF - what is something special I can do for her?
Q. I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help....
A. 22 June 2006: Wow! Shes a tad ungrateful isnt she!! Talk about give you a hard time. Jeeeezzz your going through the mill and I dont know why, she really isnt making this easy... What does she mean by meaningful presents ? I think the problem is shes got some ... (read in full...)
He may be going back to his ex, but stills wants me if things don't work out!
Q. I met this guy about 3 months ago and we immediatly hit it off, we went out at least 3 times a week and he told me how strongly he felt about me and about our relationship..a few weeks later I got a call from a girl sayin that she is his ex of 3 ...
A. 22 June 2006: I wouldnt hang around for him to make up his mind. If he truly loved you then he wouldnt have gone back to her. he knows whats shes like... Has she got some sort of hold over him ? If he doesnt want the relationship then he has to tell her. For ... (read in full...)
I hurt my GF - what is something special I can do for her?
Q. I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help....
A. 22 June 2006: I think it does depend on what you did to upset her and why shes still unhappy, rome wasnt built in a day and it seems you did something really bad for her to still be really upset. Not sure but flowers may bridge a path with a little love note or ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 22 June 2006: Calm down willywombat... I hear ya! We all a have different view on it.. I spoke to my man about the subject, me being the blonde one can be a bit dim at times lol and hes pretty clever!! So he tells me that the reason they look darker is because ... (read in full...)
I got caught having an affair... non-judgemental advice needed!
Q. I am in deep trouble. My wife has come to know about my affair with a married woman. Initially it was for sex but I fell in love with this woman and now I am committed to her too. I cant leave my wife because I love her as well. Both these women are ...
A. 21 June 2006: Er big of a pickle this one then! SO your fingers got burnt! Hmm and you want advice on what to do... well under normal circumstances it would be to stay with your wife if she wants you to.. but you say you have another child with this other ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 21 June 2006: Actually im blonde and the hairs on my legs have indeed got darker... It doesnt happen over night, and they havent gone black, but more of a light brown colour which actually now makes the hair on my legs more noticable! I dont think it matter when ... (read in full...)
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